Husband changing

My Gemini husband I have been going through a rough patch lately and I don't know what to do. Things started turning bad months ago after we received bad news about our finances. He slowly started losing interest in many things, he changed mentally. Like turning to a darker person. Depressed.

He became distant with me. He started being rude. The sex stopped. We used to have a lot of fun, talk all the time. Now when I open my mouth to say something, no matter what it is, I get sighed at or, minutes after I talk about serious stuff he tells me he's getting angry.
If I talk about something fun, he's more opened to it.

Last week he told me he stopped loving me for a while. That he's been pretending only to make me happy.

The strange thing and why I'm so confused is that I asked him if he wanted a divorce and he said no.

He tells his friends that he doesn't know if loves me or not. He hasn't stopped talking to me completely. Sometimes he will do small things for me to show me he still cares but when I do something for him, he pushes me away.
Last night I showed him something in a magazine I was reading. I've done that countless of times before and would get a good reaction out of him. He likes to learn about random things.
Last night he said he truly doesn't care about what I show him.
Today, before heading to work, he left something in the kitchen counter for me to see about something he read online that we both like.

He's distant, there's a lot of up and down, he doesn't know if he still loves me. He's confused.
Tells his entourage we're not done but acts like it.

He's a typical Gemini. Likes to be mentally stimulated, open minded sexually. But he's not the most social. He doesn't like going out. He locks himself in the basement to work on his hobbies or play games online with his friends. Doesn't have many friends.

Communicating doesn't work, giving him his space ends up in him talking to me, only for him to push me away when I respond.

What do I need to do to save my marriage?

Sounds like depression or a mid-life crisis, or both. I'm going thru similar thing minus the depression. It's a tough place to be.

Maybe I'm being naive but I would say give him a taste if his own medicine and start treating him the same. Also make it a point to look your best everyday.

He sounds very much like me. I was going through the same with my partner.
When I get distant it can be due few reasons:
1. I have a lot in my mind and need to work it out... That process can take long, depending on the problem I need to fix.
2. I fell out, my pride won't let me leave cause i would hate to hurt you or that you hate me, so I stay trying hard to fall back in or waiting for you to leave so I don't feel guilty.

With my partner I ended up leaving, I still cared for him so we spend the last few months just ok as I didn't wanted to hurt him... I still shared stuff with him but had no interest in what he wanted to share with me.

Ask him is he wants space and a break to decide what he want for you two. But bare in mind that he might never come back 😢

Good luck!

Posted by MoonShadowBunny
My Gemini husband I have been going through a rough patch lately and I don't know what to do. Things started turning bad months ago after we received bad news about our finances. He slowly started losing interest in many things, he changed mentally. Like turning to a darker person. Depressed.

He became distant with me. He started being rude. The sex stopped. We used to have a lot of fun, talk all the time. Now when I open my mouth to say something, no matter what it is, I get sighed at or, minutes after I talk about serious stuff he tells me he's getting angry.
If I talk about something fun, he's more opened to it.

Last week he told me he stopped loving me for a while. That he's been pretending only to make me happy.

The strange thing and why I'm so confused is that I asked him if he wanted a divorce and he said no.

He tells his friends that he doesn't know if loves me or not. He hasn't stopped talking to me completely. Sometimes he will do small things for me to show me he still cares but when I do something for him, he pushes me away.
Last night I showed him something in a magazine I was reading. I've done that countless of times before and would get a good reaction out of him. He likes to learn about random things.
Last night he said he truly doesn't care about what I show him.
Today, before heading to work, he left something in the kitchen counter for me to see about something he read online that we both like.

He's distant, there's a lot of up and down, he doesn't know if he still loves me. He's confused.
Tells his entourage we're not done but acts like it.

He's a typical Gemini. Likes to be mentally stimulated, open minded sexually. But he's not the most social. He doesn't like going out. He locks himself in the basement to work on his hobbies or play games online with his friends. Doesn't have many friends.

Communicating doesn't work, giving him his space ends up in him talking to me, only for him to push me away when I respond.

What do I need to do to save my marriage?

Counseling... He has to want to open up and be vulnerable with you, same with you. None of us know the real deep stemming issues between the two of you that got you two to this place. All I can say is that him complaining isn't a solution, seek a solutions to make each others lives with each other happier. Marriage is a ne