I dont want to hurt you..

Wtffff does this mean coming from

A gem —

Im about to pour my heart out lol



I love you guys but i cant do the flakiness. In another post i had written about a guy i started seeing a few months ago.. Clicked right away , seeing eachother almost every day then the communication slows down . I was upset at first and brought it up but he acted like it was nothing so i just brushed it off and accepted it . It wasnt like he wasnt communicating just a big change from seeing eachother almost everyday to one or twice a week . Then slowly everything went back to normal . Hot cold hot . Now he took last fri off work and surprised me and we spent the day together then went back to my place . I had to go pick up my kids and when we said goodbye he said he wants to see me again soon . Well that night he called and asked to spend the night i told him i was out of town but he could tomorrow . He was upset and acted like we had plans. We talked on the phone for a couple hours and he said something that was really strange " im gonna be really sad when we have to stop talking " im like what do you mean why would we stop talking ? He said well you either get married or stop talking to eachother and i know i am going to say something stupid to get you mad ...... At this point im confused and annoyed . I said you know im very open and understanding it takes a lot to get me mad so .. Nothing more came of that topic sometimes he just closes of and switches topics so we said good night . The next day i texted him to come over no answer and didnt text or call all day . Then fast forward to sun night he texts me i ignore him then he texts me again " i dont want to hurt you " i said what do you mean ? 15 min go by no answer, i said helloooo? Then more time goes by i said if you cant talk to me then maybe we shouldnt talk at all . He replies within minutes " okay , maybe we shouldnt " i reply " i dont understsnd why you cant be up front and just talk to me " no reply , a couple hours later i call him no answer then i text him " youre so fucking fake " . Im guessing he has someone else ? Even though there are no signs of it besides him saying these strange things . A few weeks ago he asks if were official i said do you want to be ? He said yes but he doesnt want to rush .... Wtf gem ?! .Seems like he is playing games or just sabatoging this on purpose . Im hurt i dont get attached easily but with him it was like instant. I feel crazy and i would never fight for someone who doesnt even have the respect to be up front with me or someone who is inconsistent. My venus in scorpio is hurt . What do you think is going in with this gem ?? Anyone with similar experience ?

Him

Cancer rising , gem sun , aries moon, taurus merc , aries venus, pisces mars

Me

Cap rising , cap sun , virg moon, sag merc, scorp venus , sag mars

This isn’t a Gemini thing. This is a he's-just-not-that-interested-in-you thing.

Yeah i know i need to let it go and let it be . Just hurts because i dont get attached easily . Im lost because when were together its like he cant be away from me and he will call me randomly and talk forever like we didnt just spend all this time together then the next day say some sketchy shit and be aloof . I can accept the hot and cold but when i feel like im not getting the respect i deserve is when it hurts . Just be forward . Like in the begining i even said what are you looking for? Do you just want to fuck me ? And hes like no i cant beleive you would even think that ...

I adore geminis my best friend and sister are gems . They both have always played games in relationships until they actually settled down . It was always entertaining watching guys chase after them while they just did their own thing one min theyre lovey dovey then bitchy haha.

I've learned that when a guy says he doesn't want to hurt you.. it absolutely means he is going to.

It also sounds like he may have someone else. Erratic messages, not following through with plans. You're on a backburner, hun.

I would totally leave him alone. You have enough red flags from this dude...

Yeah, it was the last straw for me . Weve spent every weekend together since we started talking but i def feel like theres someone else after this weekend . Ughh i needed closure. Thanks everyoneeee

Posted by Vedcosago
Just hurts because i dont get attached easily . Im lost because when were together its like he cant be away from me and he will call me randomly and talk forever like we didnt just spend all this time together then the next day say some sketchy shit and be aloof . I can accept the hot and cold but when i feel like im not getting the respect i deserve is when it hurts . Just be forward .

When you don’t get the respect you deserve you demand it or walk away. Next time don’t lower your bs tolerance just to get a bf.

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by Vedcosago
Just hurts because i dont get attached easily . Im lost because when were together its like he cant be away from me and he will call me randomly and talk forever like we didnt just spend all this time together then the next day say some sketchy shit and be aloof . I can accept the hot and cold but when i feel like im not getting the respect i deserve is when it hurts . Just be forward .

When you don’t get the respect you deserve you demand it or walk away. Next time don’t lower your bs tolerance just to get a bf.

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But i wasnt doing it " just to get a boyfriend" . I dont need to do anything to get a boyfriend. I liked him a lot and besides him being a dick related to him in many ways. I was being tolerant knowing people have different ways of thinking / processing / communicating .

Hes texting me now and im over it . Theres a million boys i can play games with .