is he running or is he distracted??

hey me again 😉 I've read all your replies to my previous post and they were really helpful.

my gemini friend (with benefits) has now suddenly stopped messaging me every day. for 4 months every single day we would talk on face book, and now for the last week he hasn't gone out of his way to message me how my day was. its been me messaging him.

He was working on his car and garage for the last week until very late at night to prepare for his two week holiday (which he's now on) is this gemini man just distracted or am i sensing some distance building up here?

I know he's on holidays but i just can't push myself to message him first AGAIN and ask how it is. Its now been 3 days and we haven't talked at all.

do gemini's get distracted and actually forget about friends lol?

"to prepare for his two week holiday (which he's now on)"

They're cynical and hate humanity. So, idk....yeah.

He's on holidays... he's just distracted. Sometimes for me absence makes the heart grow fonder. Sometimes it works in reverse and I get over it.

You will have to wait and see. My advice would be to not contact him and if you do, make it super brief. Like "hey, hope your vacay is going well. Wish I was on vacay!". If he replies just leave it.

We prefer to chase than be chased. At least thats how it is for me.

Wait till he's back and see if he contacts you. If he doesn't then you know he's lost interest.

Do u have feelings for him OP?

I think u have to be honest with your self and this situation. You are not "friends" you are "fuck buddies" that's the perspective you should be basing this off of.

He has found another one who is more interesting than you.

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Do u have feelings for him OP?

More like women settle into fwbs , lowkey hoping for more.

I know I know.

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I know they do and it's frustrating to watch ??‍♀️ Not only that, but society as a whole suffers because you effect the dynamics of a relationship going forward.

Posted by Blue_Froggie
Take this as a chance to understand the dynamics of what you have with this Gemini and distance yourself. It isn't in your bestt interest to continue a sexual relationship if the other person isn't as emotionally invested.

He is just out there enjoying his vacation...

Absolutely... if he's not texting you "how are you" or sending pics of his vacay .... he's just not that into you. Or think of it as you are him, would you text the person you had feelings for even just to say hi while away?

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Posted by Blue_Froggie
Take this as a chance to understand the dynamics of what you have with this Gemini and distance yourself. It isn't in your bestt interest to continue a sexual relationship if the other person isn't as emotionally invested.

He is just out there enjoying his vacation...

Absolutely... if he's not texting you "how are you" or sending pics of his vacay .... he's just not that into you. Or think of it as you are him, would you text the person you had feelings for even just to say hi while away?

Very true... And we really can't blame the guy for not reaching out to her if they are in an FwB situation.

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No... It's up to girls to set the tone of the relationship, what they want and not to settle for what they don't. Guys will do whatever to get away with things.

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Posted by Moonbutter

Posted by Blue_Froggie
Take this as a chance to understand the dynamics of what you have with this Gemini and distance yourself. It isn't in your bestt interest to continue a sexual relationship if the other person isn't as emotionally invested.

He is just out there enjoying his vacation...

Absolutely... if he's not texting you "how are you" or sending pics of his vacay .... he's just not that into you. Or think of it as you are him, would you text the person you had feelings for even just to say hi while away?

Very true... And we really can't blame the guy for not reaching out to her if they are in an FwB situation.

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No... It's up to girls to set the tone of the relationship, what they want and not to settle for what they don't. Guys will do whatever to get away with things.

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Posted by Moonbutter

Posted by Blue_Froggie
Take this as a chance to understand the dynamics of what you have with this Gemini and distance yourself. It isn't in your bestt interest to continue a sexual relationship if the other person isn't as emotionally invested.

He is just out there enjoying his vacation...

Absolutely... if he's not texting you "how are you" or sending pics of his vacay .... he's just not that into you. Or think of it as you are him, would you text the person you had feelings for even just to say hi while away?

Very true... And we really can't blame the guy for not reaching out to her if they are in an FwB situation.

No... It's up to girls to set the tone of the relationship, what they want and not to settle for what they don't. Guys will do whatever to get away with things.

Maybe if the guy is looking to be mothered, otherwise you can both rely on one another as adults imo.

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Right. But I mean in the initial intentions of the relationship.

Posted by surferpisces
hey me again 😉 I've read all your replies to my previous post and they were really helpful.

my gemini friend (with benefits) has now suddenly stopped messaging me every day. for 4 months every single day we would talk on face book, and now for the last week he hasn't gone out of his way to message me how my day was. its been me messaging him.

He was working on his car and garage for the last week until very late at night to prepare for his two week holiday (which he's now on) is this gemini man just distracted or am i sensing some distance building up here?

I know he's on holidays but i just can't push myself to message him first AGAIN and ask how it is. Its now been 3 days and we haven't talked at all.

do gemini's get distracted and actually forget about friends lol?

Sounds like someone new is in the picture

Yeah OP what is the outcome? Have u heard from the Gem yet?

Sounds like there's someone else , sorry .. now u can go party with your girls & flirt with someone new lol

hey everyone, the gem friend is still on holidays. We had an argument last wednesday and only started talking again on saturday night. Not entirely sure what the outcome is yet because he is still on holidays, but so far things have made a turn to being very positive. We're still not messaging every day, but i'm trying to let him go a little bit right now, give him this space, and then see what his reactions will be.

I've read all your replies, and i dont think there is anyone else in the picture. A lot of you have said he is just drifting away, and I guess time will tell whats meant to happen.