MelissaTheScorpio
@MelissaTheScorpio
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What it looks like when Gemini takes you for granted...
Hmmm.. not looking good, sorry to say. Do you see each other any other time other than the weekend?
Now, this thread is a storm in a teacup.
Posted by Se7enIt's not quality communication..
Texting 3-4 times a day is not enough?
It's almost like he's just checking in.. He asks me how I'm doing I respond and ask him what's up and then he cuts it short by saying he's busy doing (insert some random thing here)..
When he calls its the same thing.. I miss the days when we used to talk about random topics and all our weird theories about how life works or genuinely have a discussion about something.. Plus he said many times in the past that he HATES small talk and likes talking with substance so of course I'm gonna feel a way when he small talks me almost** every time we talk (there are exceptions but rare)..
Posted by TheLibraMudraEek!! Sounds like my ex boyfriend !!! (Also a Gemini)
He very well could be busy but if he wanted to be around, he would be.
It was many moons ago but I had a 6 year relationship with one. He lied so much he couldn't even keep up with his lies and constantly tripped over his stories. It was actually funny in a shaking my fucking head way. Lots of emotional cheating. When he got "busy" it didn't feel right and for good reason. He was busy. Busy with lots of chicks online, at work... We lived together and I was just always finding shit to prove what I was feeling was legit without even trying lol. We were sickeningly addicted to our relationship. Not the love but we were each other's first everything and we just thought we had to be together.
This guy has always felt nicer and more together than my ex but there's this weird dishonest vibe I get from him..
I just want to know what it feels like when a Gemini starts taking the relationship for granted.. Like I can't tell 😢
As for the busy part, well he started full time work and before when we talked a lot he only worked 2 days a week so I thought maybe that's why but he does the same thing at night when he's not working so I'm like what gives..
Posted by Pisces1803No we don't see each other any other time but during the week I usually can't cuz I work really late hours in a call centre Monday to Friday so wknds have always been our thing and now he takes a full wknd to himself won't even see me on a Sunday afternoon.. so I see him once every two weeks
Hmmm.. not looking good, sorry to say. Do you see each other any other time other than the weekend?
Posted by MelissaTheScorpioHow are y'all in a relationship seeing each other twice out the month and barely talking on the phone. That's not a relationship.Posted by Pisces1803No we don't see each other any other time but during the week I usually can't cuz I work really late hours in a call centre Monday to Friday so wknds have always been our thing and now he takes a full wknd to himself won't even see me on a Sunday afternoon.. so I see him once every two weeks
Hmmm.. not looking good, sorry to say. Do you see each other any other time other than the weekend?click to expand
Posted by Se7enAt first I was complaining A LOT because it was a huge and sudden change and I didn't know how to deal..Posted by MelissaTheScorpioMaybe your conversations got too repetitive. Do you make him feel bad or guilty for not spending time and not contacting you as much?Posted by Se7enIt's not quality communication..
Texting 3-4 times a day is not enough?
It's almost like he's just checking in.. He asks me how I'm doing I respond and ask him what's up and then he cuts it short by saying he's busy doing (insert some random thing here)..
When he calls its the same thing.. I miss the days when we used to talk about random topics and all our weird theories about how life works or genuinely have a discussion about something.. Plus he said many times in the past that he HATES small talk and likes talking with substance so of course I'm gonna feel a way when he small talks me almost** every time we talk (there are exceptions but rare)..
Scorpios can get a bit emotional for a Geminis liking. Nothing wrong with that, it just can't be something you wear EVERYDAY or time you make contact. You gotta switch outfits if you know what I mean.click to expand
Now I've been trying this new thing for 2 weeks where I relax and give him space and guess what.. Nothing has changed. The only thing that's improved is the vine between us.. But he still does his thing a lot and the calling texting thing hasn't changed either .. And I'm like a volcano ready to explode any minute cuz I'm tired of this butter
Posted by bkbella86Well I mentioned this has been going on for two months not the entire relationship.. We used to talk A LOTPosted by MelissaTheScorpioHow are y'all in a relationship seeing each other twice out the month and barely talking on the phone. That's not a relationship.Posted by Pisces1803No we don't see each other any other time but during the week I usually can't cuz I work really late hours in a call centre Monday to Friday so wknds have always been our thing and now he takes a full wknd to himself won't even see me on a Sunday afternoon.. so I see him once every two weeks
Hmmm.. not looking good, sorry to say. Do you see each other any other time other than the weekend?click to expand
Scorpions hang on to stuff sometimes longer than we should I'm just wondering if this will improve or time to let go..
@Se7en
I mean this in the most loving way possible but... why should I be the only one compromising and changing around his whims and preferences? I've read that Geminis always make a ton of time for you if they truly care and I've always felt that with him.. Then suddenly he starts ignoring calls for hours or brushing me off the phone and I tried to be understanding.. I was understanding for about 4 days during which time it was non stop.. Then on day 5 I blew up.. I've since complained in different ways.. At first they were adult conversations with a bit of arguing but I was communicating how I felt and tried to stay away from yelling .. Then it turned into larger arguments... And now I'm just passively accepting the behaviour WHILE being LIED to.. He always lies about what he's doing (I've caught him many times when his stories made zero sense or he forgot what excuse he gave and then changed it... Not to mention the constant feeling I get that I'm being lied to..
I know scorpios can be paranoid I'm just here tryna figure out why he would be acting like this.. I didn't start complaining until after the behaviour started
I mean this in the most loving way possible but... why should I be the only one compromising and changing around his whims and preferences? I've read that Geminis always make a ton of time for you if they truly care and I've always felt that with him.. Then suddenly he starts ignoring calls for hours or brushing me off the phone and I tried to be understanding.. I was understanding for about 4 days during which time it was non stop.. Then on day 5 I blew up.. I've since complained in different ways.. At first they were adult conversations with a bit of arguing but I was communicating how I felt and tried to stay away from yelling .. Then it turned into larger arguments... And now I'm just passively accepting the behaviour WHILE being LIED to.. He always lies about what he's doing (I've caught him many times when his stories made zero sense or he forgot what excuse he gave and then changed it... Not to mention the constant feeling I get that I'm being lied to..
I know scorpios can be paranoid I'm just here tryna figure out why he would be acting like this.. I didn't start complaining until after the behaviour started
Posted by Solitude
We do tend to push to take others for granted by living busy lives. But we weed out the really close people and stay in good contact with them. I don't know about him though, it's hard to judge.
Can you please elaborate more.. Who would you normally push out? Any reason for pushing out a lover cuz ur too "busy" yet still hanging on to the relationship?
Posted by MelissaTheScorpioSo tell him that! Gemini's are all about communication. Express to him that you wish you had more in depth conversations like you did at the beginning.Posted by Se7enIt's not quality communication..
Texting 3-4 times a day is not enough?
It's almost like he's just checking in.. He asks me how I'm doing I respond and ask him what's up and then he cuts it short by saying he's busy doing (insert some random thing here)..
When he calls its the same thing.. I miss the days when we used to talk about random topics and all our weird theories about how life works or genuinely have a discussion about something.. Plus he said many times in the past that he HATES small talk and likes talking with substance so of course I'm gonna feel a way when he small talks me almost** every time we talk (there are exceptions but rare)..click to expand
If you don't let your needs and wants be know he has no chance of meeting them.
Posted by TheLibraMudraMay I know his venus n mars signs? Im sorry that happened ..ive been cheated on before from a libra though..it sucks was my first relationship
He very well could be busy but if he wanted to be around, he would be.
It was many moons ago but I had a 6 year relationship with one. He lied so much he couldn't even keep up with his lies and constantly tripped over his stories. It was actually funny in a shaking my fucking head way. Lots of emotional cheating. When he got "busy" it didn't feel right and for good reason. He was busy. Busy with lots of chicks online, at work... We lived together and I was just always finding shit to prove what I was feeling was legit without even trying lol. We were sickeningly addicted to our relationship. Not the love but we were each other's first everything and we just thought we had to be together.
Ok, Gem guy here...
I haven't read ALL these posts, so forgive me if I'm repeating stuff.
First, regardless of what he's up to lately, we all use the "busy" excuse, so I don't think we should bother with that one too much. It's quite possible he's a little bored with the relationship. Now, please do not think for a moment that this is your fault; trust me, its not! Gemini's get bored very, very easily, no matter who they are with. I think you need to try to reconnect with him on a mental level; even if he is truly "busy", find out what has been interesting him lately. Gem's are always discovering some new topic (usually something totally unrelated to the daily, more practical side of life) that they get totally obsessed with for a while. This would be your best bet for regaining some of that attention you feel is lacking.
I haven't read ALL these posts, so forgive me if I'm repeating stuff.
First, regardless of what he's up to lately, we all use the "busy" excuse, so I don't think we should bother with that one too much. It's quite possible he's a little bored with the relationship. Now, please do not think for a moment that this is your fault; trust me, its not! Gemini's get bored very, very easily, no matter who they are with. I think you need to try to reconnect with him on a mental level; even if he is truly "busy", find out what has been interesting him lately. Gem's are always discovering some new topic (usually something totally unrelated to the daily, more practical side of life) that they get totally obsessed with for a while. This would be your best bet for regaining some of that attention you feel is lacking.
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Is he truly just "busy"? He been "busy" for almost 2 months straight now.. And while this been going on he tells me it's just life .. That he's super busy but he still loves me and I just gotta understand..
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