@livictori
12 Years500+ Posts
This asshole
What is the rest of your relationship like? Based on that alone it sounds like he isnt motivated enough by the relationship.
Posted by malloryor
What is the rest of your relationship like? Based on that alone it sounds like he isnt motivated enough by the relationship.
Not perfect. Our personalities are very different. I'm emotional and he's analytical. But he calls and texts everyday. We're in a ldr.
Posted by malloryor
What is the rest of your relationship like? Based on that alone it sounds like he isnt motivated enough by the relationship.Not perfect. Our personalities are very different. I'm emotional and he's analytical. But he calls and texts everyday. We're in a ldr.
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Okay before jumping to conclusions, why dont you see if he would just like to go catch a game, or maybe go kayaking or to the beach, something a little more out of the ordinary that does not require you to be at his home. Perhaps it really is just what he said and he is a lazy slob but I think suggesting something outdoors will help pinpoint if he is lazy or simply losing interest in being with you.
Geminis are users and players. They are also lazy. When they feel they got you this is how they act. And they always have many women on a string. I would dump him. He can't plan a date or clean up for his girl he is in a ldr with? So that reduces you to just text and calls. Players love that.
What is this?
just the other day you were telling us how you are going to only look forward, to push for what you know is best for you, that you weren't going to fall backwards.
So, what are you doing here on the ground, wading through someone elses bullshit?
Keep looking forward, and that includes finding a partner who cares.
Clean up what? Himself?
He didn't want to clean his house. I broke up with him. He pretended to not know why and I explained not feeling like a priority.
Posted by livictori
He didn't want to clean his house. I broke up with him. He pretended to not know why and I explained not feeling like a priority.
Are you serious?! He didn't wanna clean his house? That's horrible....yea not a priority...screw him.
Posted by bkbella86
Geminis are users and players. They are also lazy. When they feel they got you this is how they act. And they always have many women on a string. I would dump him. He can't plan a date or clean up for his girl he is in a ldr with? So that reduces you to just text and calls. Players love that.
I hate Gem men. They are simply are so into themselves and don't care about others.
But calling you every day what is he saying?
Asking about my life, sharing about his. Honestly I couldn't tell if he was emotionally stunted or disinterest. When he shared problems with his daughter it was always so emotionally removed and guarded. He actually deleted a post on his fb from her for Father's Day. I didn't see anything wrong with it and it was just an itemized list of roles a father plays in a daughters life. She didn't write anything sideways and when I saw it, I didn't understand what he was offended by. When I met his friends they were sincerely shocked and said he has such negative views on relationships, I must have been special. They never thought he would have a girl friend. One of his male married friends said I've calmed him over the last few months and when I'm there they can tell by how different he is. At first I thought he didn't know how to be in a relationship, then our personalities and need we're maybe the reason but I realized I was focusing too much on it a couple weeks ago. At this point, I careless about his contribution or lack of participation but more that I need to remain focus on my goals and not worry about him. It hurts to fail at a relationship especially with someone who has many characteristics that I look for but my needs are my needs and they aren't innate or natural to him. Who wants to burden others with brow beating them to be something they aren't as I told him during our last conversation a relationship deserves time and attention. I'm not willing to fight a person for the basics
Posted by livictori
So my Gemini bf gave the most fucked up reason why we aren't spending the weekend together.I text him yesterday I wanted to see him this weekend. He ignored the text but kept talking about other things. He calls me today so I ask what are you doing this weekend? He says probably lounging around. I asked if he saw my text he said and I quote "I didn't want to clean up"
Wtf—?
what decan are you @livictori?
Posted by questionoflustquestionoftrust
Posted by livictori
So my Gemini bf gave the most fucked up reason why we aren't spending the weekend together.I text him yesterday I wanted to see him this weekend. He ignored the text but kept talking about other things. He calls me today so I ask what are you doing this weekend? He says probably lounging around. I asked if he saw my text he said and I quote "I didn't want to clean up"
Wtf—?
what decan are you @livictori?
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2nd. March 3
OK what decan is he?
Posted by questionoflustquestionoftrust
OK what decan is he?
3rd June 16
Posted by bkbella86
Geminis are users and players. They are also lazy. When they feel they got you this is how they act. And they always have many women on a string. I would dump him. He can't plan a date or clean up for his girl he is in a ldr with? So that reduces you to just text and calls. Players love that.I hate Gem men. They are simply are so into themselves and don't care about others.
But calling you every day what is he saying?
For Gem MEN this is almost Accurate. there are SOME Good Gem Men.. Only SOME!! I don't recommend dating Geminis sadly.. and I am talking about the Males.. as stated time and time again..Gemini MEN do not crave the stability and love as much as us Gemini females do.. Unless he is a much older (been there done that) or is a watered down Gem.. If he is under 40.. DON'T BOTHER HIM!!! Go for a Earth or Fire sign if you want more Stability with a man. Libra's are good 🙂 I like them.. just argumentative... 😛
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He's 42 and spent a couple years alone. I thought he was ready. I was wrong
Posted by Arielle83
Clean up his house and prove you're a wifey.
If we're both contributing that's fair but no one should be trying to prove their worth.
Like I said before your more passionate than him. Cool off a bit.
Posted by Arielle83
Clean up his house and prove you're a wifey.If we're both contributing that's fair but no one should be trying to prove their worth.
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She doesn't have to clean if they're not married or living together. You don't have to prove anything ever. Just be honest and have sincere intents.
But.... it be nice if you helped him one day. Nothing like a woman's touch when it comes to organizing! 🙂
Posted by Arielle83
Clean up his house and prove you're a wifey.If we're both contributing that's fair but no one should be trying to prove their worth.
Why is it about contributing?
You wanna see him. He's got a house to clean that he cbf cleaning. So you get pouty "he don't like me enough, he doesn't have priorities."
So now, cuz he doesn't DO WHAT YOU want, you punish him.
You're intentional, he's not. He just cbf.
You say you care/like/love the guy but you aren't putting anything out to him but "demands and priorities". Are you acting like a gf or a mom?
If you really wanted to see him, you'd find a way to see him. Unclean house or not.
However, he's an asshole cuz he won't clean his room for "mommy".
If you can't clean a house together/cook together/live together/have fun together without demands and rules and all that crap that destroys romance then don't bother.
Some ppl cbf cleaning. Maybe he needs to hire a maid, or you can help each other out in life without caring about who is contributing.
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I honestly would have been more open to helping if he actually told me his house was dirty as opposed to saying that's why he didn't respond to my text.
The excuse was given after a day of ignoring th question. It's all about communication not demands. He didn't want to see me whether the house was clean or not
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So my Gemini bf gave the most fucked up reason why we aren't spending the weekend together.
I text him yesterday I wanted to see him this weekend. He ignored the text but kept talking about other things. He calls me today so I ask what are you doing this weekend? He says probably lounging around. I asked if he saw my text he said and I quote "I didn't want to clean up"
Wtf—?