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Gemstoned. She said specifically that .......
I was addressing and pointing out to her that someone shouldn't have to stay there and listen to that rant.
I'm not misconstruing the situation, though ... and I know exactly what was said.
I think you are misconstruing what she said ... in your mind, you believe that she said, "
...... and pointing out to her that someone shouldn't have to stay there and listen to that rant.
But, it doesn't matter ..... you are bent on believing everything a Gemini does has nefarious intent ... and have proven in dxp time and again, that you refuse to grow past it. You obviously have a desire to fiercely own your misery.
so, then I'll digress and let you fully embrace this possession of yours, so you can relish in it
Nah, I can see the positive side of geminis now. There's some out there as good as gold! And I've even given credit on this site to some of those on DXP (GeeGee, Littlemegabyte and several others) who helped me turn attitude that around. And I know, all geminis don't have nefarious intentions. That would be ridiculous to think that way.
Just because I can be realistic about the negative qualities, that doesn't mean that is all I see.
Every sign has good and bad traits.
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Ok, you win.
Posted by boxcarmirnta
I knew he was in a bad mood, I tried to get him to talk about it...i was really happy, tried to joke and have fun....instead he just turned everything I said around and made everything my fault...then he insulted me and my cat which to me is unforgivable. It made no sense, it was just mean.....is this typical, should I kick him to the curb? I actually thought he cared about me...:/He probably was really upset.. Baby him.. tell him that you are willing to work out whatever situation it is or whatever he is upset about.. and that you know he is upset and taking his issues out on irrelevant things but you will be there for him when he is willing to talk. Gemini can act almost like children / child like when upset.. I do with my Taurus boyfriend and he gives me a break for a few minutes and then comes back and works it out with me.. and Yes I sort of do Blame everything on him and then once I am calm.. I speak the Truth and work it out, like a grown ass woman should. Haha! You taking it personally, he won't care once he sees you don't care and that is one way to get rid of us for GOOD. Choose your actions Wisely.
Ain't nobody got time to deal with an adult who acts like a child.
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You beat me to it... i was just going to say this...
I dont expect I'll be hearing from.him., and I'm not calling him.
I hope like hell he has enough sense to never contact you again. You've treated him horribly in this instance. And since you appear to not have any self awareness, it's highly likely that you've been treating him this bad all along.
So, the best thing for him to do for himself is to forget you exist, so he can move along to someone who cares about him.
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You are an idiot.... Always siding with negativity....He insulted her, now she is the bad guy...Really? I know that you like playing the devil's advocate, but get real...It is not her fault that this man -child was in a bad mood, and proceeded to take his anger out on her, and she did something about it.. She left.. Now here you come flipping the script on her, because she stood up for herself... I bet you are a person who lets people use and abuse you...
I love Capricorns.... They just get it!!!
..i just got up and left.
No you didn't. Now you're lying.
I tried to get him to talk about it...i was really happy, tried to joke and have fun...
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How do you know that she is lying? Were you there?
Gemstoned. She said specifically that .......
I was addressing and pointing out to her that someone shouldn't have to stay there and listen to that rant.
I'm not misconstruing the situation, though ... and I know exactly what was said.
I think you are misconstruing what she said ... in your mind, you believe that she said, "
...... and pointing out to her that someone shouldn't have to stay there and listen to that rant.
But, it doesn't matter ..... you are bent on believing everything a Gemini does has nefarious intent ... and have proven in dxp time and again, that you refuse to grow past it. You obviously have a desire to fiercely own your misery.
so, then I'll digress and let you fully embrace this possession of yours, so you can relish in it
Nah, I can see the positive side of geminis now. There's some out there as good as gold! And I've even given credit on this site to some of those on DXP (GeeGee, Littlemegabyte and several others) who helped me turn attitude that around. And I know, all geminis don't have nefarious intentions. That would be ridiculous to think that way.
Just because I can be realistic about the negative qualities, that doesn't mean that is all I see.
Every sign has good and bad traits.
Ok, you win.
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LOL!!! Good for you... She gave you a verbal beat down... I bet that will set your negative behind straight!!
Posted by boxcarmirnta
I knew he was in a bad mood, I tried to get him to talk about it...i was really happy, tried to joke and have fun....instead he just turned everything I said around and made everything my fault...then he insulted me and my cat which to me is unforgivable. It made no sense, it was just mean.....is this typical, should I kick him to the curb? I actually thought he cared about me...:/Sounds like my marriage.... 😢
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Just brought back some memories of my marriage is all.... doesn't mean I still feel like I'm married to him.
proof of projecting, rather than remaining impartial, like you are trying to pretend you're doing
I still can't figure out what the Cancer boy was trying to convey with the clip of Kennedy getting shot.
I've run through all the relevant connections .... but, none of them make sense.
So, I guess he's talking about Vietnam
proof of projecting, rather than remaining impartial, like you are trying to pretend you're doing
Oh, okay. A memory is projecting. Empathy is projecting.
Think what you will.
I would break up because it's clear you don't understand him at all.
You expect someone to treat you kindly regardless of their mood. He wants someone who can offer him quiet company when he's having a rough day. You couldn't offer that to him, and instead, felt slighted by his words (which were likely spoken out of frustration from you pushing him to speak) to the point where you want to break up with him. Clearly, neither of your needs are being met, so it's probably a good idea to start looking elsewhere.
Posted by P-Angel
What actually makes no sense and is just mean is the fact that you knew he was in a foul mood .. but, you pushed him into talking about it anyway.
One of my biggest pet peeves, honestly.
..i just got up and left.
No you didn't. Now you're lying.
I tried to get him to talk about it...i was really happy, tried to joke and have fun...
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I sure did get up and leave. I did not try to make him.speak of anything and you aren't worthy of responding to since you clearly are just here to judge and assume....buh bye!
Posted by Oneirataxia
I don't know the situation, and I didn't read all of the posts.
But when someone feels bad, it can be really insulting when the other person disrespects your emotions by joking.
I know you had a good intention, so it's not about fault. But it could explain his reaction.
I did not make light of his bad mood....he refused to admit he was in one. But he was, I was just trying to enjoy our time together but he made it impossible with his hostility.
Posted by boxcarmirnta
I knew he was in a bad mood, I tried to get him to talk about it...i was really happy, tried to joke and have fun....instead he just turned everything I said around and made everything my fault...then he insulted me and my cat which to me is unforgivable. It made no sense, it was just mean.....is this typical, should I kick him to the curb? I actually thought he cared about me...:/what the hell is the matter with people, is my usual question ....
Every person gets in bad moods. Every time someone comes into dxp (and rl) and starts complaining about how the other person is acting like a person (having moods) .. you basically render yourself looking very stupid, because it implies that you don't have moods, which implies you're not even human.
so, the fuck what ... there's no doubt in anybody's mind that when you get in a bad mood ... that you act like it, and then he is the one who has to put up with your bullshit.
and it's not forgivable to you? What are you? .. some kind of raging asshole? what kind of crazy bitch are you, in that you can't forgive one of your own people for being human, and having a mood?
And further, you attempt to make him guilty in not caring about you ... yet, we all know that you're an asshole to him, everytime you're feeling like an ass.
it's so difficult having to deal with ridiculous humans, I'm telling you.
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where do you even come up with this shit? Haha I'm a crazy bitch raging asshole? For not letting abuse me anymore....ha...my god you need think before you speak.
Posted by Fleshpot
I would break up because it's clear you don't understand him at all.You expect someone to treat you kindly regardless of their mood. He wants someone who can offer him quiet company when he's having a rough day. You couldn't offer that to him, and instead, felt slighted by his words (which were likely spoken out of frustration from you pushing him to speak) to the point where you want to break up with him. Clearly, neither of your needs are being met, so it's probably a good idea to start looking elsewhere.
Posted by P-Angel
What actually makes no sense and is just mean is the fact that you knew he was in a foul mood .. but, you pushed him into talking about it anyway.One of my biggest pet peeves, honestly.
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no I expect to not be verbally abused when someone is feeling bad. I did not make light of his mood, if he has tried to talk to me about it I would've gladly listened with empathy but HE TOOK IT OUT ON ME. It was hurtful and mean. He has not apologized which he should for taking his anger out on me, I did not put him in a bad mood.
I dont expect I'll be hearing from.him., and I'm not calling him.
I hope like hell he has enough sense to never contact you again. You've treated him horribly in this instance. And since you appear to not have any self awareness, it's highly likely that you've been treating him this bad all along.
So, the best thing for him to do for himself is to forget you exist, so he can move along to someone who cares about him.
You are an idiot.... Always siding with negativity....He insulted her, now she is the bad guy...Really? I know that you like playing the devil's advocate, but get real...It is not her fault that this man -child was in a bad mood, and proceeded to take his anger out on her, and she did something about it.. She left.. Now here you come flipping the script on her, because she stood up for herself... I bet you are a person who lets people use and abuse you...
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thank you.
I did not make light of his bad mood....he refused to admit he was in one.
so now the truth starts to come out ..... for a person to refuse (something), or to admit (something) is a clear indicator that he is being put on the spot by you
this means that you sat there and accused him of being in a bad mood ... in order for him to refuse it
so, it's not you standing up for yourself., nor taking any high roads like you are attempting to convince ..... on the Contrary ... you were engaging him, trying to get him to say he was wrong
I did not make light of his bad mood....he refused to admit he was in one.
so now the truth starts to come out ..... for a person to refuse (something), or to admit (something) is a clear indicator that he is being put on the spot by you
this means that you sat there and accused him of being in a bad mood ... in order for him to refuse it
so, it's not you standing up for yourself., nor taking any high roads like you are attempting to convince ..... on the Contrary ... you were engaging him, trying to get him to say he was wrong
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you're a moron. Seriously.
Just to clarify cuz this is dumb.he wanted to hang out with me. It was obvious he was in a bad mood, he did not wanna talk about it. I did not press the issue AT ALL. I just tried to enjoy our time together but he was hell bent on making that NOT happen. He was cruel and mean, so I left BC I refuse to accept that treatment especially when I made it clear I was open to talk about what was wrong, if he was. I'm not an emotional punching bag.
What are you talking about?
My gem seems to cycle through emotions much faster than me.
One minute he'll be annoyed/frustrated and upset with me. The next minute he's back to being upbeat. His dual twins are giving me whiplash. And as a Pisces I absorb his mood. He's upset with me? I become upset in turn. And while he can quickly get over these negative emotions they tend to effect me deeply.
Our biggest problem though is how we communicate these differences. I'm learning to let him know if I'm feeling a certain way as opposed to holding it all inside and stewing in my misery.
In general I think us Pisces and Gemini's struggle in this area, communication.
@boxcarmirnta Would you consider reaching out to him? I know he's hurt your pride, but everyone has an off day. He may not be fully aware of how this has effected you.
Let him know that you care about him and are sorry if you came off as dismissive of how he was feeling. Let him know that the way he lashed out at you upset you enough to make you leave.
Explain where you are coming from and see if he will meet you half way. If not, then you have your answer.
Posted by LadyNeptune
My gem seems to cycle through emotions much faster than me.One minute he'll be annoyed/frustrated and upset with me. The next minute he's back to being upbeat. His dual twins are giving me whiplash. And as a Pisces I absorb his mood. He's upset with me? I become upset in turn. And while he can quickly get over these negative emotions they tend to effect me deeply.
Our biggest problem though is how we communicate these differences. I'm learning to let him know if I'm feeling a certain way as opposed to holding it all inside and stewing in my misery.
In general I think us Pisces and Gemini's struggle in this area, communication.
@boxcarmirnta Would you consider reaching out to him? I know he's hurt your pride, but everyone has an off day. He may not be fully aware of how this has effected you.
Let him know that you care about him and are sorry if you came off as dismissive of how he was feeling. Let him know that the way he lashed out at you upset you enough to make you leave.
Explain where you are coming from and see if he will meet you half way. If not, then you have your answer.
I appreciate your words of wisdom, as always..yes communication is a huge problem. Wish I could pick your brain to figure out how you do it. I might, I dunno....he's already acting like nothing happened.
And yea I absorb his feelings too much..i am very affected by them, and I think cuz I have an aqua moon I keep my feelings bottled up inside til its too late.
Please an example of cat insult. Please.
Posted by Gemitati
Please an example of cat insult. Please.
I second that.
What could someone say to a cat that a cat would find insulting?
Posted by Gemitati
Please an example of cat insult. Please.I second that.
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hahaaa..it was me who found it insulting, not my sweet cat.
So. What did he say that was so horrible, insulting and abusive??
This has reached page 7 and you have not told us what he said. I for one, and some others, are curious...
I dont really feel its necessary to divulge intimate or personal details, I'm not interested in being judged, or not believed. I'm only here to get some advice.
Then, there is MORE to the story, which you will not divulge, and you are not going to get the right advice... if we don't know the whole story, how can we advise?? Or even understand.....—
And, just so you know... this sounds made up. Also, you just discredited yourself in anything you say. Total inconsistencies.
Makes me think you are crying over spilt milk...
Smh.
Posted by misslissa
Makes me think you are crying over spilt milk...Smh.
I've already explained exactly what happened you just haven't read any of it. I don't want to give away personal details cuz it isn't anyone's business....strangers dont need to know the stuff he said to me......anyway your advice is ridiculous and ineffectual. If yr not gonna help, go somewhere else.
Posted by LadyNeptune
My gem seems to cycle through emotions much faster than me.One minute he'll be annoyed/frustrated and upset with me. The next minute he's back to being upbeat. His dual twins are giving me whiplash. And as a Pisces I absorb his mood. He's upset with me? I become upset in turn. And while he can quickly get over these negative emotions they tend to effect me deeply.
Our biggest problem though is how we communicate these differences. I'm learning to let him know if I'm feeling a certain way as opposed to holding it all inside and stewing in my misery.
In general I think us Pisces and Gemini's struggle in this area, communication.
@boxcarmirnta Would you consider reaching out to him? I know he's hurt your pride, but everyone has an off day. He may not be fully aware of how this has effected you.
Let him know that you care about him and are sorry if you came off as dismissive of how he was feeling. Let him know that the way he lashed out at you upset you enough to make you leave.
Explain where you are coming from and see if he will meet you half way. If not, then you have your answer.
also, question: Doesn't it hurt you deeply that he gets upset with you a lot? Do you feel its warranted? Does he feel bad if you tell him it hurts you? Mine doesn't seem to feel bad ...
Posted by Lust
Then why are you here asking opinion to strangers for your personal issue only to turn around saying "it isn't anyone's business...strangers dont need to.." Blah blah blah..
You are full of bull!! wasting everybody's time who genuinely want to help you. Don't be controlling on how people going to give u advice.
its funny how when one person decides to attack someone, EVERYONE wants to jump on the bandwagon! Hahaa..I've already received advice from ppl who actually do want to help. I can leave out WHATEVER personal details I choose. My story is still coherent, and I can still seek advice from strangers. Advice is supposed to help not hurt. So how bout you stop wasting your time then?
Posted by LadyNeptune
My gem seems to cycle through emotions much faster than me.One minute he'll be annoyed/frustrated and upset with me. The next minute he's back to being upbeat. His dual twins are giving me whiplash. And as a Pisces I absorb his mood. He's upset with me? I become upset in turn. And while he can quickly get over these negative emotions they tend to effect me deeply.
Our biggest problem though is how we communicate these differences. I'm learning to let him know if I'm feeling a certain way as opposed to holding it all inside and stewing in my misery.
In general I think us Pisces and Gemini's struggle in this area, communication.
@boxcarmirnta Would you consider reaching out to him? I know he's hurt your pride, but everyone has an off day. He may not be fully aware of how this has effected you.
Let him know that you care about him and are sorry if you came off as dismissive of how he was feeling. Let him know that the way he lashed out at you upset you enough to make you leave.
Explain where you are coming from and see if he will meet you half way. If not, then you have your answer.
I appreciate your words of wisdom, as always..yes communication is a huge problem. Wish I could pick your brain to figure out how you do it. I might, I dunno....he's already acting like nothing happened.
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"he's already acting like nothing happened".
Isn't it maddening! They bounce back like it's nothing... while we are still licking our wounds and feeling all butt hurt.
Posted by LadyNeptune
My gem seems to cycle through emotions much faster than me.One minute he'll be annoyed/frustrated and upset with me. The next minute he's back to being upbeat. His dual twins are giving me whiplash. And as a Pisces I absorb his mood. He's upset with me? I become upset in turn. And while he can quickly get over these negative emotions they tend to effect me deeply.
Our biggest problem though is how we communicate these differences. I'm learning to let him know if I'm feeling a certain way as opposed to holding it all inside and stewing in my misery.
In general I think us Pisces and Gemini's struggle in this area, communication.
@boxcarmirnta Would you consider reaching out to him? I know he's hurt your pride, but everyone has an off day. He may not be fully aware of how this has effected you.
Let him know that you care about him and are sorry if you came off as dismissive of how he was feeling. Let him know that the way he lashed out at you upset you enough to make you leave.
Explain where you are coming from and see if he will meet you half way. If not, then you have your answer.
I appreciate your words of wisdom, as always..yes communication is a huge problem. Wish I could pick your brain to figure out how you do it. I might, I dunno....he's already acting like nothing happened.
"he's already acting like nothing happened".
Isn't it maddening! They bounce back like it's nothing... while we are still licking our wounds and feeling all butt hurt.
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yes yes yes!!! This this this...I don't know how to get past it like they do...or if I even should? I guess I could learn something? I dunno...
Posted by LadyNeptune
My gem seems to cycle through emotions much faster than me.One minute he'll be annoyed/frustrated and upset with me. The next minute he's back to being upbeat. His dual twins are giving me whiplash. And as a Pisces I absorb his mood. He's upset with me? I become upset in turn. And while he can quickly get over these negative emotions they tend to effect me deeply.
Our biggest problem though is how we communicate these differences. I'm learning to let him know if I'm feeling a certain way as opposed to holding it all inside and stewing in my misery.
In general I think us Pisces and Gemini's struggle in this area, communication.
@boxcarmirnta Would you consider reaching out to him? I know he's hurt your pride, but everyone has an off day. He may not be fully aware of how this has effected you.
Let him know that you care about him and are sorry if you came off as dismissive of how he was feeling. Let him know that the way he lashed out at you upset you enough to make you leave.
Explain where you are coming from and see if he will meet you half way. If not, then you have your answer.
also, question: Doesn't it hurt you deeply that he gets upset with you a lot? Do you feel its warranted? Does he feel bad if you tell him it hurts you? Mine doesn't seem to feel bad ...
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Of course it hurts me!
Thing is... he breezes through emotions so quickly. One minute he'll be annoyed and telling me that I'm too needy, next minute he's all lovey dovey again. Sometimes he'll be joking and I'll take it seriously and get defensive. What he sees as teasing I see as an attack.
We had a first 'real' fight this past weekend. Both of us were in tears towards the end of it. I really was thinking it was the end. But we worked it out and decided that we have to address annoyances, hurt feelers, etc. right away. We can't let them linger and build and grow into something truly deadly.
No relationship is all unicorns and rainbows. There's going to be conflict at some point. And, I feel, going through conflict with your SO is good to some degree because it teaches you how to communicate the problems your having and solve them. That way you'll be equipped to take on something truly colossal.
Just because your gem doesn't seem to feel bad, doesn't mean he doesn't.
Talk to him. Share with him how it makes you feel.
He's your man, he wants you to be happy. If he knows that some actions of his, some words, are making you unhappy he will work on changing that.
Posted by LadyNeptune
My gem seems to cycle through emotions much faster than me.One minute he'll be annoyed/frustrated and upset with me. The next minute he's back to being upbeat. His dual twins are giving me whiplash. And as a Pisces I absorb his mood. He's upset with me? I become upset in turn. And while he can quickly get over these negative emotions they tend to effect me deeply.
Our biggest problem though is how we communicate these differences. I'm learning to let him know if I'm feeling a certain way as opposed to holding it all inside and stewing in my misery.
In general I think us Pisces and Gemini's struggle in this area, communication.
@boxcarmirnta Would you consider reaching out to him? I know he's hurt your pride, but everyone has an off day. He may not be fully aware of how this has effected you.
Let him know that you care about him and are sorry if you came off as dismissive of how he was feeling. Let him know that the way he lashed out at you upset you enough to make you leave.
Explain where you are coming from and see if he will meet you half way. If not, then you have your answer.
also, question: Doesn't it hurt you deeply that he gets upset with you a lot? Do you feel its warranted? Does he feel bad if you tell him it hurts you? Mine doesn't seem to feel bad ...
Of course it hurts me!
Thing is... he breezes through emotions so quickly. One minute he'll be annoyed and telling me that I'm too needy, next minute he's all lovey dovey again. Sometimes he'll be joking and I'll take it seriously and get defensive. What he sees as teasing I see as an attack.
We had a first 'real' fight this past weekend. Both of us were in tears towards the end of it. I really was thinking it was the end. But we worked it out and decided that we have to address annoyances, hurt feelers, etc. right away. We can't let them linger and build and grow into something truly deadly.
No relationship is all unicorns and rainbows. There's going to be conflict at some point. And, I feel, going through conflict with your SO is good to some degree because it teaches you how to communicate the problems your having and solve them. That way you'll be equipped to take on something truly colossal.
Just because your gem doesn't seem to feel bad, doesn't mean he doesn't.
Talk to him. Share with him how it makes you feel.
He's your man, he wants you to be happy. If he knows that some actions of his, some words, are making you unhappy he will work on changing that.
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Oh that sucks! It cut me off!! I said, I agree with mostly everything you say...we have fought before and I try to talk about my feelings but he just gets super defensive..he doesn't seem to learn from his mistakes or my words.....I'm thinking maybe he really doesn't care about my feelings and mostly just cares about his, sadly....
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I don't get it.
So, the President was a Gemini and the assassin was a Libra ..... yet, your point was that Geminis get away with murder.
What are you implying that Kennedy did that was bad treatment, and so therefore needed to be murdered by Oswald.
What? Nam? Bay of Pigs? Monroe cooter?
What?
*note: Kennedy was shot twice, once from behind, the other from ahead, which means it was impossible for Oswald to be the sole assassin, which is beside the point, but, just pointing out to clarify