Advice on girlfriends sexual past.

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Yeah I'm nosy I always wanna know. But I wanna know at the start of a relationship.

If she casually mentions something months in it feels like taking a bullet.

How do you feel about this kinda thing leos? Do you rather not mention your past. Does it bother you if your partner just brings something up?

I've dated two leos and neither of them wanted to know about my past. It didn't bother them at all. And call me
Judgmental if you like but that makes me worry. Like what the hell did they do? If they aren't checking their previous partners history's they could be doing anyone with anything.

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Also I would just like to add. I think my problem is I hold her in such high regard. I think the world of her. I know we all have a past. Some things happened in hers when she wasn't very confident and I understand that. It's not so much I'm judging her. It's just I see her as such a wonderful person and it makes me mad she would let some truly worthless people do things to her in the past. Eh. Call me crazy but I wouldn't care if it was someone she was in a loving relationship with. It just frustrates me. And I frustrate myself because I have no right to judge her.
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That's why you ask these questions before being in a relationship with them. I'm all about honesty just tell me when I casually ask you somethings that are important not to you but for myself. And hell if you find someone mutually to open up to with out judgment cool that means be prepared for honest answers all the time and it must be given back. Some people don't care at all I know. I've met some like that too.
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Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
That's why you ask these questions before being in a relationship with them. I'm all about honesty just tell me when I casually ask you somethings that are important not to you but for myself. And hell if you find someone mutually to open up to with out judgment cool that means be prepared for honest answers all the time and it must be given back. Some people don't care at all I know. I've met some like that too.
I completely agree with you! She just has always said its in the past so they don't matter. I didn't wanna pressure her into telling me. Even though I wanted to know. Mostly because I knew it would be hard to handle if I came out later. It's a pretty tough situation. I didn't want her to think I was weird by asking her either.
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Posted by lovinglioness1115
I really don't want to hear about s/o's past relationships, but that's just because I get jealous super easily. For example, if my s/o were to mention that he's working on something with a female coworker for his job, I'd probably feel annoyed and jealous, but only for a bit.

I also don't like talking about my past because I'm afraid of my s/o getting jealous as well.
Yeah I think this is the same case with her. Can I ask what your placements are? Especially your Venus.
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LOL my leo boyfriend is like this. I'm a scorpio so I wanted to know EVERYTHING, just out of curiosity and maybe to learn something interesting about him. He shared things with me, on his own and when I asked, and it didn't bother me it was interesting. But he NEVER asked me anything. And I noticed every time I mentioned things about my sexual past and he got full-on butt hurt. He took it as if it were a personal blow to his ego, as if I had done it while I was with him. He actually asked me if I had ever performed…*ahem* a certain sexual act and I said yes and he got upset and judged me! Even tho he asked me! But yea…must be a leo thing. They have too much pride to think that they're significant others have ever been intimate with anyone besides them. Lol smh leos
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LOL my leo boyfriend is like this. I'm a scorpio so I wanted to know EVERYTHING, just out of curiosity and maybe to learn something interesting about him. He shared things with me, on his own and when I asked, and it didn't bother me it was interesting. But he NEVER asked me anything. And I noticed every time I mentioned things about my sexual past and he got full-on butt hurt. He took it as if it were a personal blow to his ego, as if I had done it while I was with him. He actually asked me if I had ever performed…*ahem* a certain sexual act and I said yes and he got upset and judged me! Even tho he asked me! But yea…must be a leo thing. They have too much pride to think that they're significant others have ever been intimate with anyone besides them. Lol smh leos
Lol! This is pretty much spot on. I'm glad it's not just me. My moon is in Scorpio so I agree with you lol.
But same! It's more I wanna to figure some
Things out. Like what kinda person they are. How
Genuine they are with you.
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Posted by SensitiveBlues
You're a scorpio moon. Scorpio moons are extremely judgmental. i wouldn't tell you if i was her. You guys use any data to attack your mates. Also you're mistrustful of people. Nobody wants that.

i learned that the hard way....
Some are but I'm not. I love her unconditionally and I wouldn't ever judge her. I wouldn't do anything to make her feel
Bad about herself. I constantly wanna build her up not tear her down.
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LOL my leo boyfriend is like this. I'm a scorpio so I wanted to know EVERYTHING, just out of curiosity and maybe to learn something interesting about him. He shared things with me, on his own and when I asked, and it didn't bother me it was interesting. But he NEVER asked me anything. And I noticed every time I mentioned things about my sexual past and he got full-on butt hurt. He took it as if it were a personal blow to his ego, as if I had done it while I was with him. He actually asked me if I had ever performed…*ahem* a certain sexual act and I said yes and he got upset and judged me! Even tho he asked me! But yea…must be a leo thing. They have too much pride to think that they're significant others have ever been intimate with anyone besides them. Lol smh leos
Lol! This is pretty much spot on. I'm glad it's not just me. My moon is in Scorpio so I agree with you lol.
But same! It's more I wanna to figure some
Things out. Like what kinda person they are. How
Genuine they are with you.
exactly you want to create problems in your relationship and passive aggressively deflect your insecurities on her.
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Don't think you read my question properly sensetive Blues.
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LOL my leo boyfriend is like this. I'm a scorpio so I wanted to know EVERYTHING, just out of curiosity and maybe to learn something interesting about him. He shared things with me, on his own and when I asked, and it didn't bother me it was interesting. But he NEVER asked me anything. And I noticed every time I mentioned things about my sexual past and he got full-on butt hurt. He took it as if it were a personal blow to his ego, as if I had done it while I was with him. He actually asked me if I had ever performed…*ahem* a certain sexual act and I said yes and he got upset and judged me! Even tho he asked me! But yea…must be a leo thing. They have too much pride to think that they're significant others have ever been intimate with anyone besides them. Lol smh leos
I wouldn't empathize with this Leo on being full-on butthurt- I would just get maybe a tad annoyed and jealous for a few minutes at most, but then I would just let it go since I know it's such a small thing to get worked up about. I also wouldn't judge as he did... so I disagree with your last sentence.
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I would have preferred that reaction to the one I got :-/
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Posted by PancakeFace
Also I would just like to add. I think my problem is I hold her in such high regard. I think the world of her. I know we all have a past. Some things happened in hers when she wasn't very confident and I understand that. It's not so much I'm judging her. It's just I see her as such a wonderful person and it makes me mad she would let some truly worthless people do things to her in the past. Eh. Call me crazy but I wouldn't care if it was someone she was in a loving relationship with. It just frustrates me. And I frustrate myself because I have no right to judge her.
Sounds controlling and judgmental.
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LOL my leo boyfriend is like this. I'm a scorpio so I wanted to know EVERYTHING, just out of curiosity and maybe to learn something interesting about him. He shared things with me, on his own and when I asked, and it didn't bother me it was interesting. But he NEVER asked me anything. And I noticed every time I mentioned things about my sexual past and he got full-on butt hurt. He took it as if it were a personal blow to his ego, as if I had done it while I was with him. He actually asked me if I had ever performed…*ahem* a certain sexual act and I said yes and he got upset and judged me! Even tho he asked me! But yea…must be a leo thing. They have too much pride to think that they're significant others have ever been intimate with anyone besides them. Lol smh leos
I wouldn't empathize with this Leo on being full-on butthurt- I would just get maybe a tad annoyed and jealous for a few minutes at most, but then I would just let it go since I know it's such a small thing to get worked up about. I also wouldn't judge as he did... so I disagree with your last sentence.
I would have preferred that reaction to the one I got :-/
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Also I would just like to add. I think my problem is I hold her in such high regard. I think the world of her. I know we all have a past. Some things happened in hers when she wasn't very confident and I understand that. It's not so much I'm judging her. It's just I see her as such a wonderful person and it makes me mad she would let some truly worthless people do things to her in the past. Eh. Call me crazy but I wouldn't care if it was someone she was in a loving relationship with. It just frustrates me. And I frustrate myself because I have no right to judge her.
Sounds controlling and judgmental.
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Lol been waiting for someone to say that. What's your placentas?
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Posted by SensitiveBlues
You're a scorpio moon. Scorpio moons are extremely judgmental. i wouldn't tell you if i was her. You guys use any data to attack your mates. Also you're mistrustful of people. Nobody wants that.

i learned that the hard way....
That was my first thought. He wants ammo to use against her in the future. I don't see why he needs to know about her past at all, if it doesn't effect him.
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Also I would just like to add. I think my problem is I hold her in such high regard. I think the world of her. I know we all have a past. Some things happened in hers when she wasn't very confident and I understand that. It's not so much I'm judging her. It's just I see her as such a wonderful person and it makes me mad she would let some truly worthless people do things to her in the past. Eh. Call me crazy but I wouldn't care if it was someone she was in a loving relationship with. It just frustrates me. And I frustrate myself because I have no right to judge her.
Sounds controlling and judgmental.
Lol been waiting for someone to say that. What's your placentas?
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Placements not placenta LMAO
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Also I would just like to add. I think my problem is I hold her in such high regard. I think the world of her. I know we all have a past. Some things happened in hers when she wasn't very confident and I understand that. It's not so much I'm judging her. It's just I see her as such a wonderful person and it makes me mad she would let some truly worthless people do things to her in the past. Eh. Call me crazy but I wouldn't care if it was someone she was in a loving relationship with. It just frustrates me. And I frustrate myself because I have no right to judge her.
Sounds controlling and judgmental.
Lol been waiting for someone to say that. What's your placentas?
Placements not placenta LMAO
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Lol!!
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You're a scorpio moon. Scorpio moons are extremely judgmental. i wouldn't tell you if i was her. You guys use any data to attack your mates. Also you're mistrustful of people. Nobody wants that.

i learned that the hard way....
That was my first thought. He wants ammo to use against her in the future. I don't see why he needs to know about her past at all, if it doesn't effect him.
scorpio moons want to know everything and divulge nothing.
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That type of shit makes me nervous as hell lol.
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You're a scorpio moon. Scorpio moons are extremely judgmental. i wouldn't tell you if i was her. You guys use any data to attack your mates. Also you're mistrustful of people. Nobody wants that.

i learned that the hard way....
That was my first thought. He wants ammo to use against her in the future. I don't see why he needs to know about her past at all, if it doesn't effect him.
scorpio moons want to know everything and divulge nothing.
That type of shit makes me nervous as hell lol.
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Placements lol? Damn. You sound like a Scorpio yourself lol. Or a Taurus.
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LOL my leo boyfriend is like this. I'm a scorpio so I wanted to know EVERYTHING, just out of curiosity and maybe to learn something interesting about him. He shared things with me, on his own and when I asked, and it didn't bother me it was interesting. But he NEVER asked me anything. And I noticed every time I mentioned things about my sexual past and he got full-on butt hurt. He took it as if it were a personal blow to his ego, as if I had done it while I was with him. He actually asked me if I had ever performed…*ahem* a certain sexual act and I said yes and he got upset and judged me! Even tho he asked me! But yea…must be a leo thing. They have too much pride to think that they're significant others have ever been intimate with anyone besides them. Lol smh leos
I wouldn't empathize with this Leo on being full-on butthurt- I would just get maybe a tad annoyed and jealous for a few minutes at most, but then I would just let it go since I know it's such a small thing to get worked up about. I also wouldn't judge as he did... so I disagree with your last sentence.
I would have preferred that reaction to the one I got :-/
Well what moons and be used
Are we talking about?
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Aries sun Pisces moon Pisces Merc Venus in Taurus and cap Mars. Those are the major ones.
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LOL my leo boyfriend is like this. I'm a scorpio so I wanted to know EVERYTHING, just out of curiosity and maybe to learn something interesting about him. He shared things with me, on his own and when I asked, and it didn't bother me it was interesting. But he NEVER asked me anything. And I noticed every time I mentioned things about my sexual past and he got full-on butt hurt. He took it as if it were a personal blow to his ego, as if I had done it while I was with him. He actually asked me if I had ever performed…*ahem* a certain sexual act and I said yes and he got upset and judged me! Even tho he asked me! But yea…must be a leo thing. They have too much pride to think that they're significant others have ever been intimate with anyone besides them. Lol smh leos
I wouldn't empathize with this Leo on being full-on butthurt- I would just get maybe a tad annoyed and jealous for a few minutes at most, but then I would just let it go since I know it's such a small thing to get worked up about. I also wouldn't judge as he did... so I disagree with your last sentence.
I would have preferred that reaction to the one I got :-/
Well what moons and be used
Are we talking about?
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My moon is Scorpio
His moon is Virgo
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You're a scorpio moon. Scorpio moons are extremely judgmental. i wouldn't tell you if i was her. You guys use any data to attack your mates. Also you're mistrustful of people. Nobody wants that.

i learned that the hard way....
That was my first thought. He wants ammo to use against her in the future. I don't see why he needs to know about her past at all, if it doesn't effect him.
scorpio moons want to know everything and divulge nothing.
That type of shit makes me nervous as hell lol.
it should, im wary of that moon placement
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Two of my really good girlfriends have their moons in Scorpio. One Leo one Virgo.
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LOL my leo boyfriend is like this. I'm a scorpio so I wanted to know EVERYTHING, just out of curiosity and maybe to learn something interesting about him. He shared things with me, on his own and when I asked, and it didn't bother me it was interesting. But he NEVER asked me anything. And I noticed every time I mentioned things about my sexual past and he got full-on butt hurt. He took it as if it were a personal blow to his ego, as if I had done it while I was with him. He actually asked me if I had ever performed…*ahem* a certain sexual act and I said yes and he got upset and judged me! Even tho he asked me! But yea…must be a leo thing. They have too much pride to think that they're significant others have ever been intimate with anyone besides them. Lol smh leos
I wouldn't empathize with this Leo on being full-on butthurt- I would just get maybe a tad annoyed and jealous for a few minutes at most, but then I would just let it go since I know it's such a small thing to get worked up about. I also wouldn't judge as he did... so I disagree with your last sentence.
I would have preferred that reaction to the one I got :-/
Well what moons and be used
Are we talking about?
My moon is Scorpio
His moon is Virgo
he probably just doesn't want to know his girl was a ho.
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Well thats good, cuz she's not…bitch.
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LOL my leo boyfriend is like this. I'm a scorpio so I wanted to know EVERYTHING, just out of curiosity and maybe to learn something interesting about him. He shared things with me, on his own and when I asked, and it didn't bother me it was interesting. But he NEVER asked me anything. And I noticed every time I mentioned things about my sexual past and he got full-on butt hurt. He took it as if it were a personal blow to his ego, as if I had done it while I was with him. He actually asked me if I had ever performed…*ahem* a certain sexual act and I said yes and he got upset and judged me! Even tho he asked me! But yea…must be a leo thing. They have too much pride to think that they're significant others have ever been intimate with anyone besides them. Lol smh leos
I wouldn't empathize with this Leo on being full-on butthurt- I would just get maybe a tad annoyed and jealous for a few minutes at most, but then I would just let it go since I know it's such a small thing to get worked up about. I also wouldn't judge as he did... so I disagree with your last sentence.
I would have preferred that reaction to the one I got :-/
Well what moons and be used
Are we talking about?
My moon is Scorpio
His moon is Virgo
he probably just doesn't want to know his girl was a ho.
Well thats good, cuz she's not…bitch.
good then tell him


we hate used goods.
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yea, he knows already. and having experiences before dating a leo doesn't correlate to being used goods. lol smh thats just being too sensitive
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people can learn from their mistakes and change. well decent people do lol. she did some stupid butter years ago? well, you respect and love the person standing in front of you today, not the one in the past

btw, i think many people share too much. if some stupid butter you did when you were someone else back then and you no longer associate with that, why bring it up today and have it influence your future? of course, if you had a criminal record or 200 credit score, then yes you'd have to disclose as early as possible lol
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Yeah I'm nosy I always wanna know. But I wanna know at the start of a relationship.

If she casually mentions something months in it feels like taking a bullet.

How do you feel about this kinda thing leos? Do you rather not mention your past. Does it bother you if your partner just brings something up?

I've dated two leos and neither of them wanted to know about my past. It didn't bother them at all. And call me
Judgmental if you like but that makes me worry. Like what the hell did they do? If they aren't checking their previous partners history's they could be doing anyone with anything.
Unless there's a criminal record involved, or something that could seriously mess with my material well-being, or there's an STD issue, it's none of my business, it isn't relevant, and it only distracts from the present. One will find out anyway, if one's the least bit alert.

If they had 2 partners or 200. Whatever. What will happen will happen anyway. I don't care about anyone's past or personal life story. Yesterday is done. I'm not interested in being anyone's parent or judge and jury. What needs to be known will come to light anyway.

When we spend time digging for problems, guess what we'll always find: problems and things to moan about.

With all the good food waiting to be eaten, all the fun waiting to be had, and one's own personal efforts toward freedom... there's no time to waste on other-centric bullshit.
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Thanks for being constructive with your opinion. I like your input on this a lot. This is what I'm tryna learn.
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LOL my leo boyfriend is like this. I'm a scorpio so I wanted to know EVERYTHING, just out of curiosity and maybe to learn something interesting about him. He shared things with me, on his own and when I asked, and it didn't bother me it was interesting. But he NEVER asked me anything. And I noticed every time I mentioned things about my sexual past and he got full-on butt hurt. He took it as if it were a personal blow to his ego, as if I had done it while I was with him. He actually asked me if I had ever performed…*ahem* a certain sexual act and I said yes and he got upset and judged me! Even tho he asked me! But yea…must be a leo thing. They have too much pride to think that they're significant others have ever been intimate with anyone besides them. Lol smh leos
I wouldn't empathize with this Leo on being full-on butthurt- I would just get maybe a tad annoyed and jealous for a few minutes at most, but then I would just let it go since I know it's such a small thing to get worked up about. I also wouldn't judge as he did... so I disagree with your last sentence.
I would have preferred that reaction to the one I got :-/
Well what moons and be used
Are we talking about?
My moon is Scorpio
His moon is Virgo
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My ex and I had that combination. We were an amazing team
Actually.
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I think it only matters when things are getting serious because things that happen in the past can define how you see things. I don't want to hear about someones ex in the beginning, that just makes me wonder if they still have feelings for their ex if they are bringing them up. I have trust issues from my previous relo so I would bring that up if something got serious cause I want them to be aware that I might have issues that really don't have anything to do with them. I wouldn't care about or bring up one night stands ect cause they have nothing to do with who I am today.