Any Sun Leos with Venus in Cancer? Help me understand this dynamic!

Any Sun Leos with Venus in Cancer? Help me understand this dynamic!

I'm one, what's up?

Well, the gorgeous Leo man I am in love with was the one who approached me in the beginning (December 2015). He appeared confident and outgoing and I knew he was a Leo because he had the sun in his eyes and they lit up when he saw me (they still do!)
So we got to know each other and we've got so much in common it's actually ridiculous at times. He says we are mirror souls. I really wanted more than friendship even back then and after Christmas I started asking him out more and we would go for drinks. My long term relationship was coming to an end anyway, not because of the Leo, but meeting Leo kind of made my mind up.
I expressed to him one evening that I wanted to be more than friends and he replied by saying that he had the same feelings, but they were bringing up old wounds from the past and making him feel shit scared and vulnerable. He admitted being painfully shy about sex and intimacy.
I was surprised, him being (or appearing) so confident and 'together'. Since then, a few months, we have grown closer and he has told me more about his ex. I decided to step back and give him time even though I am really in love with him. I want him to be happy and have not pushed him at all, just been here for him like the friend I promised I'd be. He really appreciates it and tells me constantly how important I am to him. A couple days ago I got a bit giddy around him at work and flirted with him. He flirted back in a very coy way and I got the feeling he was actually enjoying it. He's so sweet and cooks for me and looks out for me at work, always there when I have a problem, like a Knight in shining armour protecting and kind.
I just wondered, as I found out he had Venus in Cancer, whether I am doing right to carry on telling him how much I care and letting him get to know me and trust me, or whether that's it, he told me no, like a Leo being honest and I just need to accept it and move on. Thing is, if I do move on, might that prove to himself that I couldn't be trusted? Is he testing me? He always asks, every day, what I am doing in the evenings as if he's fishing around for signs of a new boyfriend or something. He never did this before. Sorry if I'm ranting, but the devil may be in the detail...or I may be kidding myself! Thanks for all your replies, I appreciate all of them 🙂

Firstly, what're your Sun and Venus signs?

Secondly, the liklihood of him telling you the truth is high. Leos are loyal and honest. Having Venus in Cancer will make him additionally sensitive and vulnerable in love. Past hurt will be difficult for him to surmount.

However, if you show patience and kindness, you'll probably be able to help him move on.

P..S. Yes. If you move on too quickly, you'll prove him right.

Also, when he's asking what you're doing in the evening he's either making small talk or hoping for an offer to get together.

Hi SpiceNSugar, thanks for responding!
I am a Libra sun and Virgo venus. I am also Leo rising.
He has told me the main reason for his not making a move, but I feel that there's more going on under the surface as time has past and we're closer.
He asks me even when he's working and can't meet up. Maybe I am reading too much into that, he's just being friendly at work as we can't talk like we do when we're on our own.
When I told him I would move on, it was because he sounded so upset and started panicking that he'd messed up and would lose me as a friend, so I said I'd get over it so that he'd feel less pressured. It has gotten harder as the months have gone by though, even though I can't imagine walking away from this.
I am older than him as well, by 10 years. I don't know if that makes a difference.

He has also told me that I am a lot like his ex. Maybe that's freaking him out. She was definitely a massive love of his life.

I am a Leo sun and my venus is in Cancer. I can only speak for myself.....and honestly, I think I am very sensitive. I really dislike that about myself LOL. I feel everything intensely and my mood can fluctuate. My surroundings and people around me affect my mood. You know how some people change their surroundings vibe? I am not like that....I wish I was lol. Also, my cancer Venus needs lots of security...I don't jump into anything with ease. My leo side reflects my creative style, but always a bit feminine and traditional (there's my cancer). I require a lot of attention...but more than the attention...the quality of it. I need someone who I can have a great convo with and will compliment me every once in a while. I do notice that if a guy is trying to flatter me with too much compliments...it turns me off (maybe thats the cancer). Superficial convos don't do anything for me either.

Thanks Leolady. My Leo also says he doesn't like how sensitive he is to everything, especially people in his environment and he gets very paranoid thinking that people are out to get at him. He's very insecure! I know for a fact that he's very liked at work, but he can't see that at all. He doesn't like displays of machoism or sexism and can't relate to men like this, hence why he prefers female company mostly.
He is going abroad to work for some months, he's always talking about travel (his Leo side) but on the other hand is worrying and stressing that he won't make friends etc. That, I guess, is his Cancer side coming out, he's so complex!
I will continue to show that he can trust me, but I'l flirt subtly as well, just so he knows I still like him in 'that' way.
I initiate affection and touching playfully. Anything else he would respond to?

Leolady, being sensitive is a good thing! You just need to protect yourself from negative vibes and emotional vampires. You are a beautiful combination! 🙂

i have this placement....its draining...

My beautiful baby has this, my daughter🙂 And my sister in law and best friend.

I feel bad for these Leo's. Because usually people don't understand them. They assume that if they are beautiful AND Leo, that they are stuck up or always require attention. But with the Cancer Venus, it actually makes them extremely humble. So they have to carry the Leo persona, without the bad Leo traits. They are truly the most beautiful people.

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My beautiful baby has this, my daughter🙂 And my sister in law and best friend.

I feel bad for these Leo's. Because usually people don't understand them. They assume that if they are beautiful AND Leo, that they are stuck up or always require attention. But with the Cancer Venus, it actually makes them extremely humble. So they have to carry the Leo persona, without the bad Leo traits. They are truly the most beautiful people.

Yes, I really understand that about him. His outward persona when with people he doesn't know is confident like a Leo, but I have seen the Cancer side of him and he doesn't allow many people to see that. I just don't really know how to edge him closer out of the 'friend' situation that we are in, without scaring him. All my friends are saying forget it, he's had plenty of time to come forward with his feelings. Normally I would agree, but with all his complexities and insecurities, I just don't know! They don't know him like I do, so I'm kind of on my own in this.
My goodness, yes, he's really the most beautiful person I've ever met, inside and out. He's very handsome as well, but I doubt whether he believes me when I compliment him about this. It's hard to flirt with him cos i don't think he realises I actually am!

How are you in romantic relationships? Do you like to build a strong friendship first?