bleeding heart for cancer man

I am living with a Cancer guy of which I used to date. I fell for him pretty hard. Has a oustanding personality and so much potential to be greater than his negative ways in his life. We broke up under the pretense that we were both trying to get our lives together. ( Him way more than me, hes got a mess when it comes to responsibility and mending whats been broken for a long time). He's currently dating a girl of which he denies. He's with her a lot cause he keeps bringing her car home to my home. Hes still very flirtatious and there is a lot of chemistry between us. We are great friends and we laugh a lot. I can't stop being jealous of this chick whom I don't ask about and he says nothing about. Plus he's living in my house and dating some other girl. How disrespectful. But for some reason I don't want to kick him out under that pretense. Him moving in with me was his last chance so to speak. He has really screwed up in his life and Im afraid I'm just comtributing to it. Ive let him in my heart and I really feel for him. I don't want to get taken advantage of even though I am and I have a hand in this too. Is there anything I can do to get the upper hand to encourage him to lite the fire under his ass to help himself? What do I do about this girl? I don't want to kick him out so please thats all Ive heard. Something different please!!!

iluvbass,

Either tell him how you feel or ask him to leave. I know you didn't want to hear that but it seems like the only solution. I hope your situation changes, I really do. I notice alot of women don't speak up to their men/crushes about how they feel because if they do, their man/crush will leave. But at least you'll know you got it out there and won't blame yourself in the end. That's the worst feeling in the world. Knowing you could change things but won't. You could also try asking the cancer board as well. There may be some good insights from cancer men over there. Good luck hun.

As usual, I agree with Purrfect's advice. Be honest and then you'll be in a better place to evaluate any upcoming decisions.