Hi Leo's can you help a Taurus lady out

Ok here is my story.

I apologize in advance for run on sentences, punctuation, and misspellings and the length of my story.

I am a Taurus was dating a Leo man for 5 months. I am 46 he is 45 going to be 46 in August. We run into a few problems but mostly it's him. Maybe being hurt from past relationships and how his mother treated him as a child. Example, one day he cut his hair (it was long) and he said he did it because he was getting tired of it and he wanted it short. Then one day out of the blue he gets mad and yells at me telling me he cut his hair because of me. I was surprised cause I said why! I never told you to cut your hair. I thought you said you cut it because you were getting tired of it being long? He would just stay quiet. Another time he was telling me about how his cousin met Ron Jeremy (the porn guy) and he was telling me how while she met him some girl was giving him a BG. So as we were talking about Ron Jeremy I said oh ya, I met him too . First thing he says oh did you suck his d... too? That did make me upset because I said it's funny why do you assume I did that and not your cousin. Like seriously that's the first thing you ask me. We have mutual friends and everyone has told him they never see me with guys and that I'm a good kind of girl. So anyhow it's mostly stupid things that come out of his mouth.

So one night we went out back in March. He drank a lot got wasted. Some guy pissed him off at the party and well he took it out on me. Yelled at me and called me names, told me to walk home, I started walking but then he drove around and picked me up. Then he yelled at me all the way home.. then he yelled, because of you I don't talk to my daughter. That one hit me hard and I said you should never stop talking to your daughter for anyone. I got out of the car and I didn't talk to him. He kept calling and calling and telling me we need to talk. I just kept ignoring him. Probably for a week and a half. Our mutual friend had a talk with me and so I decided ok we can talk. Leo says he has no idea what happened but that at one point he saw my face just get really sad and look down and that's all he remembers. He says he thinks he treated me like that because he thought he was talking to his ex and it was the alcohol. He did say he would cut down on the drinking and he did.

Anyway we ended up together dating then comes May.. we went on a hike we were talking and I said how come you don't buy me flowers anymore. He says because your ex bought you flowers. I said well that's stupid. Do I tell you you can't come and spend the night because you spend the night with your ex? Anyhow the argument just escalated and I blurted out. I Hate You for What You Did!! Yep it was back to the time he got drunk in March. I walked into my house and he said. You had this planned all along. I gave him his stuff and closed the door. I didn't hear from him and I felt bad for saying that to him. I know that should have ended back in March and I apologized profusely for even bringing that up. I guess what I wanted for the march incident was an apology like I would apologize but I realized we are different people and the way I apologize isn't gonna be the same way he apologized. Back then he did say he was sorry for a week.

Anyhow, we talked and I apologized. I said I'm sorry that I hurt your feelings last Sunday from the bottom of my heart. He says, Don't be sorry. You are a good and wonderful human being maybe it takes that to open my eyes. You are right. I have certain issues I got to work on admitting it is my first step to a better person and I got to thank you for that. So we talked but at the same time he was being a bit cold and distant. He cried and said why did I tell him that. ( when I said I Hate You for what you did) . I said because I feel like you didn't apologize correctly. Then I said please let's just fix this. I sent him a text to please come home and not give up on us. He ignored me. At first I didn't believe it but I ended up calling from a different number and he picked up. I said are you seriously ignoring me? Anyhow I said look I'm sorry let's just fix this issue and he said I wish you would have told me this before I'm leaving town. I'm taking off for Indio (3 1/2 hours away) I said so we can talk I can come visit or you can come down for memorial weekend. I said May 27 - 29. He said I will know for sure tomorrow. But then of course tomorrow came and he started the ignoring thing again.. so I just said ok we'll have a safe trip driving out there cause I know you can't talk on the phone. I then sent him another long apology through text. He ignored my text as well. Three days later he sent me a text. Wishing you a happy Mother's Day. So I left it alone. I didn't say anything to him until memorial weekend and I called and asked if he would come to the show. He said he would try. So then a day passed and I text him. Can't wait to see you for the show and his reply was --. Unfortunately I am working on Sunday. I'm so sorry I don't know how to say this but I need this time for me. I'm glad what we had was real it hurts but I have to be strong and so do you. I truly care about you but I need time to heal. I'm sorry please don't hate me I'm saying this with a sad feeling. I'm just not ready, please understand.

I replied. Ok, thank you for your honesty. I understand and will respect your feelings and I haven't heard from him since. This was three weeks ago.

Now for the record we did make a great couple. His mom even thanked me for making him happy. We have mutual friends that love us as a couple. He tells me I'm like his mom a very strong independent women and I'm like his sons girlfriend free spirit and just lives life. lots of good stuff. We have lots in common. Then this happened and it just all stopped and that's where I'm confused. Right now he is in Indio till the end of June or the middle of July. He won't be back to his home till then but then I'll be leaving to Germany for three weeks. So is this done? I mean is my relationship done and over.? I'm confused because he took his ex back that he caught cheating on him. Another one he went back to did tons of crazy things to him. And he still forgave her. He even went back to a girl his brother slept with. So I feel like I'm the worse thing saying what I did.. is this a game he is playing or the drama I hear about.. Anyhow at this point I'm not gonna lie. It hurts and I feel sad but at the same time. I'm confused. Usually I'm the one that just leaves the relationship but I'm trying to handle this one differently. Any advice would be appreciated .

Thank you in advance

Time for some tough love. This was an emotionaly controlling and verbally abusive relationship from the start. At no point did this sound like a relationship that you should've tried to sustain in any way. So much so that it not only seems painfully obvious why this relationship didn't work, but that you should immediately burn this bridge and find a more functional human being. Let's break down what you wrote:

"I am a Taurus was dating a Leo man for 5 months. I am 46 he is 45 going to be 46 in August. We run into a few problems but mostly it's him. Maybe being hurt from past relationships and how his mother treated him as a child...

First, this all happened in 5 months, which is a red flag. People take 3 months to show their true charactera. There is NO reason to think that this relationship would get any better when there were this many issues from the start.

Second, you're both in your 40s, so it should be obvious that there needs to be emotional maturity if you expect to have a functioning relationship. You've stated at that the issues in the relationship were primarily his fault, but you clearly enabled his behavior by allowing him to continuously berate and disrespect you too. This is yet another huge red flag.

Example, one day he cut his hair (it was long) and he said he did it because he was getting tired of it and he wanted it short. Then one day out of the blue he gets mad and yells at me telling me he cut his hair because of me. I was surprised cause I said why! I never told you to cut your hair. I thought you said you cut it because you were getting tired of it being long? He would just stay quiet..."

Him blaming you for HIS own decisions is beyond crazy and borderline bi-polar. That's when you should have walked away. He clearly snapped at you for no reason and had no explanation for it. Why would you want to maintain a relationship with a person like this? You were dealing with an incredibly insecure and antagonistic individual.

"We have mutual friends and everyone has told him they never see me with guys and that I'm a good kind of girl. So anyhow it's mostly stupid things that come out of his mouth."'

The fact that your friends think you are too good for this guy (which is what they are saying by the way) should be a clue. This guy clearly sounds like he has the "rough around the edges bad boy" vibe going and you bought into it. Your friends are basically saying that you can do better than a 45 year old guy who has the emotional range of a teenager.

"So one night we went out back in March. He drank a lot got wasted. Some guy pissed him off at the party and well he took it out on me. Yelled at me and called me names, told me to walk home, I started walking but then he drove around and picked me up. Then he yelled at me all the way home.. then he yelled, because of you I don't talk to my daughter...

This behavior is unhealthy and entirely unnacceptable. At this point you should have ended things because he was treating you like garbage. The self respecting thing for you to do would have been to drop all communication. Sure he may have been drunk, but that is no excuse.

Also if he is SO drunk that he couldn't tell the difference between you and his ex (which by the way means he was wasted) HE SHOULDN'T HAVE BEEN DRIVING. Did you stop to think what could have happened if he lost control while driving in his intoxicated state? The fact that he has such a big problem with alcohol mixed anger issues is way too many red flags.

It's pretty clear that this guy has some serious insecurities and emotional problems. It is also clear that you have self esteem issues to work through too because you literally apologized to a guy who antagonized you on multiple occasions in a 5 month period. Additionally he was not willing to "fix" the situation. Instead he ignored you and let everything drop. His antagonism and inability to mend things with you proves this guy was not quality.

"Now for the record we did make a great couple. His mom even thanked me for making him happy. We have mutual friends that love us as a couple. He tells me I'm like his mom a very strong independent women and I'm like his sons girlfriend free spirit and just lives life. lots of good stuff. We have lots in common. Then this happened and it just all stopped and that's where I'm confused. "

Based on what you've stated, it doesn't sound like you two were on the same page. There was way too much drama for a 5 month relationship. This really should have been the honeymoon phase, but instead you two stopped talking to each other at least twice. It doesn't really sound like you two were a great couple. Furthemore the opinions of those who were on the outside of the relationship don't matter either. They either A) don't know the full details or B) are trying to be nice by telling you pleasant things that you'd want to hear. Don't take their opinions as any form of validation for your relationship.

"So is this done? I mean is my relationship done and over.? I'm confused because he took his ex back that he caught cheating on him. Another one he went back to did tons of crazy things to him. And he still forgave her. He even went back to a girl his brother slept with. So I feel like I'm the worse thing saying what I did.. is this a game he is playing or the drama I hear about.. Anyhow at this point I'm not gonna lie. It hurts and I feel sad but at the same time. I'm confused. Usually I'm the one that just leaves the relationship but I'm trying to handle this one differently. Any advice would be appreciated . "

For your sake, I hope this is done. This guy sounds like an awful judge of character and due to his mommy issues apparently seeks out unhealthy relationships. This is also the reason why he didn't "fix" things with you. For him damaged relationships make more sense than a loving one due to the affection (or lack thereof) he received from his own mother. Relationships going wrong feels right to him. It feeds into his own personal narrative regarding how he views the world and himself.

It's less of a game and more of a no-win situation. This guy has issues that you simply can't help him fix. The best thing you can do is be honest with yourself by accepting that this relationship is beyond broken and, by the looks of it, not worth salvaging. In this scenario your normal habit of leaving the relationship is both incredibly appropriate and highly recommended.

Posted by Rapidjump6464
I am a Taurus was dating a Leo man for 5 months. I am 46 he is 45 going to be 46 in August.

I stopped reading here. If you're 46 and looking for astrology to solve your relationship problems you should probably settle for a cat.

Everyone knows astrology is just a place where we go to bully and get bullied.

Hi. Sad to hear about the fighting you guys have. I think you both are very headstrong or whatever you call it, forgot the word lol... but

I'm gonna tell you my long story SHORT. I am leo and I was with a taurus woman,

We both had the same goals, the click between us was very good and all that stuff okay, the problem in our relationship was the fighting.. I had issues swallowing my pride and she didnt either wanna bow down and the way the reacted in these situations were different and that was killing it,

Me as Leo, when I fight with someone, at that point live, i would be like fuck you, fuck off leave me alone etc.

But as soon as my angry feelings goes off (which will go off quite fast), I start to miss the person and I dont wanna wait, I just wanna be with the person and hug her, talk out etc. BUT the pride... my friend thats the problem! we leo would be able to say all kind of things that we dont want to see you etc but deeeeeep inside, we just want that confirmation from someone that the person REALLY brags and wanna be with you.. thats when we take the weapon down and love eachother.

My ex taurus girl, when we fought she would be like ok, lets not just talk for the whole day or even 2-3 days. That would fuckin kill me and the sad thing is that I would be sitting outside her place like crying or at some sea or whatever.. she would never know it, because the pride was my problem and I acted tough, played hard, didnt wanna pick up call or answer etc..



And its qutie normal leo satisfie themself quite easy with women, becacuse many of leos just want someone to be with, therefor they would get back to their ex or whatever.

I also really recognize your fighting situations, he screams and all that and afterwards he is sorry. also when leos are wrong, most of leos will just be quiet and inside their head they realize they are wrong, but its not easy for a leo to say, ya imwrong sorry. we just become quiet.

Anyway, I would just send him a deep long text about good and bad things between you two, if he wants to pursue a goodlife with you or not, he has to decide .. but dont be too cocky in the text then the pride will come in again