How do I get back my Leo ex.

I am a Virgo woman, was in my first relationship with a Leo man, and also it was a long distanced relationship of 8.5mths.

Recently, he broke things off with me a week ago. From what I understand about him, once he decided on something and it will be final.

However, on my end, I was trying to get everything in place and start anew again - whereby we stop going fights after fights because our egos and starts to respect each other again.

At the same time, because he has been facing work issues for a period of time, and our r/s werent at its best shape, and he just wants to have his own space to do his things which i went along with him.

But i did not expect that giving him space, he shut himself out for a week, and starts to think through things about us and thus the decision for a break up.

I still check in with him once in a while, but he just wasnt interested. And i texted him that says, "As much as i want us to get back tgt again, i know once you decided on something and that is it. That's why i came to accept that this is it.

As silly as it may sound, or as no backbone as it is, i still want to talk to you because you were a great boyfriend, and a great friend.

Thus, i still want us to remain as friends and be able to hang out sometimes."

He replied, "If u really want this to happen then i can tell you that I do not wish to talk about anything of the past or us.

Whenever you start something of such topic i really dont wanna talk about it.

And I do not want your last message to come again."

How do i talk to him to get things to spark again? What can i do to get him back? Please help!

@Sunflowers, thanks for your advice.

I tried telling him that but he just wouldnt accept it. Like his replies, he does not want to accept when i want to work things out with him, he does not want to hear anything about us at all.

There would times that he will only accept what his mind has decided, no words from me can change his mind. And at the end of the day, i will do whatever that is cater to his wants and needs.

I have been very open to him as much as I can. So i told him about everything, including happiness and the unhappy ones, so we could work thkngs out together. But when it comes about the issues on him, he just wont accept it. When the issues comes to me, i will explain myself to him when he said he couldnt understand, i got a "why are you telling me these?" from him.

As times go on, i could only do our daily text routines as he does not want to be disturbed when he is closing himself up.

Imo, there are communication misunderstanding due to us just texting in our last couple of weeks tgt. And also, we care too much about ourselves that we forgot to care about each other. And we do not know how to as time goes by.

Use the butterfly net and bebe oil

@LibWman heh, i wish he'd get to the bait! Hahhaa.

@tiziani, Getting him back is a bonus to me, tbh.

As time goes on, i accept the fact that this is it. But i still genuinely care for him, which explains the once in a while check in to see how things for him.

It just too painful to see how our conversation just die after a call, and i was the one that called to actually asked about the issues. To me, he was trying to get me to initiate it instead of him. They say, "act blur, live longer." So he ended up being the one initiating it.

I just want to have a normal converstion as friends like how we used to.

@tiziani I did actually asked him if he wants spaces before, like i will just not text him as often, and let him clear his mind.

He said no. He wanted us as it is as usual.

Moreover, our schedules were pretty conflicting as he is a Financial Consultant and I am a Chef, and we are three hours apart in terms of timezones.

It doesn't sound like the Leo is interested in a romantic relationship with you anymore. It's probably because long distance relationships are tough as is, but fights make them so much worse. A Leo must know there is a point to whatever situation we're in, which also includes relationships. It sounds like your relationship stopped being enjoyable and the Leo no longer wants to be involved. It's also possible there's another woman in the mix who is close to him.

Seems like it would be best to move on to someone new.

@chuckcem, im pretty confident that no other third-party involved during our relationship.

But youre right on LDR has been tough on him as he mentioned. Thus, i planned to move back with him in the same country but havent had a chance to tell him as things are not finalised so i didnt want to give him a false hope.

Also, he didnt want us to talk on the phone or vid call as he is feeling unsettled because of his work.

We did watch a movie over skype a week before we broke up. And i was hesistant at first because during one of our fights two weeks earlier, he said if he can dont vid call me, he wont.

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Posted by penelope_
@tiziani I did actually asked him if he wants spaces before, like i will just not text him as often, and let him clear his mind.

He said no. He wanted us as it is as usual.

Moreover, our schedules were pretty conflicting as he is a Financial Consultant and I am a Chef, and we are three hours apart in terms of timezones.

Ok well on his side it sounds like he's not really taken the time to explain properly what he wants, considering the mixed messages according to your story.

But that is something totally out of your control. I'm just saying it to say I understand it's a two way street.

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Yes, he said he is lost and unsure what to do. As i am working abroad, and he is having troubles at work.

Part reason of him ending is because he wants to go emotionless about everything, and doesnt want to hold me back from my career and a possible PR status at where i am right now.

I had reassured him many times that i am trying to build our future tgt with him as I build my networks with other Chefs as I am getting acknowledged and recognised for my work. And by any chance, anything bad happens at our home country, i at least have a safety net for us in other countries.

However, part of me wanted to lengthen my stay abroad when i feel that he didnt give me as much attention and doesnt put me as his priority anymore. I can hold it for a couple of weeks to months, but dragging through more than 3-4mths is really getting out of hands.

Whereby, i can wait for him for his weekends to come so we can spend some time tgt. But he chose his friends and game over me. At that point of time, i had only three days of being a chef a week, and others being a web programmer.

As of recent, i worked as a Chef 5-6 days a week, i get drained. He couldnt feel the love in our r/s anymore. as much i was trying to keep up with him, if he cant feel it, he will never feel it.

Posted by clownloyal
as a virgo woman myself my ex is also a leo and he broke up with me last year and he wanted to remain in contact I said no

so I went months without talking to him and he would always break no contact rule and I would always shut him out until recently where I felt okay with communicating with him and now we talk almost everyday he's a gemini moon virgo venus maybe look into your leos

my best bet is give him the space he so desires if he wants to be in touch he will reach out to make it happen

wound is still fresh it's better for both to not contact until you're sure feelings won't get confused and end up hurting one of you, which in this case could be you

Thank you for your advice. I will keep that in mind.

The funny thing is that, im going back my hometown for a visit in a few weeks time. My friends asked me to hang out with them at the pub that my ex and i met, where we both are regulars there as well.

They will always Come back! When they broke up with someone they will go back to their ex!

Posted by penelope_
@chuckcem, im pretty confident that no other third-party involved during our relationship.

But youre right on LDR has been tough on him as he mentioned. Thus, i planned to move back with him in the same country but havent had a chance to tell him as things are not finalised so i didnt want to give him a false hope.

Also, he didnt want us to talk on the phone or vid call as he is feeling unsettled because of his work.

We did watch a movie over skype a week before we broke up. And i was hesistant at first because during one of our fights two weeks earlier, he said if he can dont vid call me, he wont.

Well whatever the reasons, it appears that the Leo is pulling back. If I were you I wouldn't get too caught up in the past details and instead look at his present actions. Yes Leos can get irritable if we are stressed with work, but that doesn't mean we will drop a romantic relationship as a result. We will however stop entertaining relationships we feel are a burden or have a low benefit.