How do Leos respond sexually...

If they were betrayed by their lover, but still in-love with them? She isn't being cold to me or anything like that. She's very affectionate when we're together ( hugs, cuddles, kisses (not long deep ones though) and seems content when she's with me, but she's definitely giving me the stop sign when I try to take it *there*.

Considering how we were sexually before the break, and that we were apart over a yr before getting back together, I'm wondering how concern should I be.

Do leos punish their partner by with holding sex if they are not over the betrayal? Or is this their way of protecting themselves? or what?

Posted by Ssupes
100% protection.

Ssupes, thx!
If I periodically test the waters, will she retreat further or continue at the pace she's going?

I feel like there's nothing I can do, just wait for her to give me the signal? Just don't want to push - or appear impatient - tho it's killing me 😉

It's not punishment. It's about hurt and protection.

Posted by SpiceNSugar
It's not punishment. It's about hurt and protection.

The thing is, she's not showing much hurt, but I think she's privately hurting tho and working it out (without me) 😢 So, not sure where she's at b/c she's not sharing much or wanting to discuss anything. And like I said, she's not being cold, acting angry or anything like that. A bit abnormal from my past relationships.

Told ya, you're on probation. Keep it cool, be affectionate but not pushy. You'll have no doubt if and when she's ready. She's probably waiting to see how you handle your jealousy/emotions before she gives you any more of herself.

Like a cat, she'll approach you when she believes she can trust that your actions consistently match your words.

You're playing for keeps now...make it count. :-)

Posted by sultrykitty
Told ya, you're on probation. Keep it cool, be affectionate but not pushy. You'll have no doubt if and when she's ready. She's probably waiting to see how you handle your jealousy/emotions before she gives you any more of herself.

Like a cat, she'll approach you when she believes she can trust that your actions consistently match your words.

You're playing for keeps now...make it count. :-)

Probations? Feels more like jail! lol.

As a man, it's hard tho - lioness oozing sexuality all over the place- and it just feels like - na-nana-na-na - you can't get any! That's coming from me of course.

On a more serious note, I'm well aware of how serious of a mistake I made - and know it will take her time to start trusting me again. I guess I was hoping the forgive and make-up period would be short like in the past. But this mistake is nothing like the past - so the punishment fits the crime, I guess.

She's definitely letting me know who's calling the shots in her own passive-aggressive way - but still doing it in a respectful way tho.. How do yall do that anyway?! lol

Posted by sultrykitty
She's probably waiting to see how you handle your jealousy/emotions before she gives you any more of herself.

That's EXACTLY what I sense - I'm being watched very closely. Un-nerving the way she looks at me piercing eyes. Never felt so naked - feels like she's judging my character. :o Like the verdict is still out.

You're playing for keeps now...make it count. :-)
I need to remember this ^^^when my emotions are getting the best of me - which unfortunately is most of the time. Thx!

Friend zoned.


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Posted by Montgomery
Friend zoned.


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Montgomery, are you saying she has friend zoned me—?

I was cheated on once. After I chose to give her another chance I wouldn't let her out of my site for a few months. She wasn't aloud to do anything unless I was right there. I started to feel bad because we were in our early 20's so I let her enjoy life and freedom. That very day she went out and cheated again. That was 6 years ago and I'm still single till this day. Fuck that shit lol

Posted by Soul
I was cheated on once. After I chose to give her another chance I wouldn't let her out of my site for a few months. She wasn't aloud to do anything unless I was right there. I started to feel bad because we were in our early 20's so I let her enjoy life and freedom. That very day she went out and cheated again. That was 6 years ago and I'm still single till this day. Fuck that shit lol

And she definitely, chewed my ass out upon finding out and all that. I have no desire to ever see her hurt again, so no repeating that shit for me.

We did talk some and her attitude in general is that she told me how she felt, we talked it out, it's in the past and my actions will tell her the rest. But at the same time, It's like she's still working it out in her head tho. So I give her to space and privacy to do that.

If you don't cheat again it might work. If you do though she may actually kill you then preserve your corpse so you quit making the same mistake.

Then again I have Scorpio Moon and Cancer venus so my opinion is.irrelevant lol.

Posted by Soul
If you don't cheat again it might work. If you do though she may actually kill you then preserve your corpse so you quit making the same mistake.

Then again I have Scorpio Moon and Cancer venus so my opinion is.irrelevant lol.

Funny as hell!

But naw, she'll first chew my ass out, break every fucking thing in my house before she burns it down, slash ALL of my tires (including the spare), send me back every fucking thing I ever gave her, then fuck somebody right in front of me to be sure I got the message that the shit was over! Lioness is as sweet as a kitten, but she got claws! NOBODY wants to see her mad. NO-BO-DY. She goes for the jugular (which is probably why she avoids getting mad in the first place). NOT a pretty sight. Atleast that's my experience.

So, if you see a cancer walking down the street with no ass because it was chewed out and he's looking like he loss everything. He did. ...that'll be me.

And don't bother calling the cops, b/c they will just advise you it's better to just let her calm down herself. You'll be wise to listen.

Ummmm...no thank you! I'll rather keep this kitten purring 😉

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Posted by SpiceNSugar
It's not punishment. It's about hurt and protection.

The thing is, she's not showing much hurt, but I think she's privately hurting tho and working it out (without me) 😢 So, not sure where she's at b/c she's not sharing much or wanting to discuss anything. And like I said, she's not being cold, acting angry or anything like that. A bit abnormal from my past relationships.

Dude, we dont hold the hurt in. We express it. If shes not showing you emotions then shes not feeling it. Shes protecting herself by backing way off. Cool your jets, be cool, and earn her trust and feelings back. We can't handle betrayal very well. You should be grateful shes even talking to you.

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Ssupes, she expressed and told me how she felt in the beginning, but she's not wanting to keep talking about it I think because it does hurt her so much still. I think her emotions are divided. She wants to give me more of a piece of her mind about it AND she's wants to forgive it. I've been thinking about this more since posting this. When she has conflicting emotions like this, this is exactly how she acts.

Believe me, I know I'm lucky she's even trying with me. I'm amazed that she is being this loving towards me while she's still struggles with her feelings about it. Takes a lot of strength I think.

So, yes, I'll take what I can get. The point was not to push her, but I wanted to be sure I wasn't mis-reading her. Now that I see what pace she's chosen to move us at, I'll go the same speed. Not a problem to do it..

I appreciate the reality check tho.

Posted by Ssupes
And she dont wanna fuck you because in her mind your dick is dirty from some other chicks vjay.

I know. 😢

Posted by capricornmoon
What Decan of Leo is she, Leo women vary a lot depending on the Decan.

Don't know what that is or how to find out..

Posted by dontgetmewrong
Let me tell you how protective some Leos are. My Leo ex was the one that cheated on me while I was preggers. Scorp moon, cancer venus...but.once I found out, he was soooooo scared I'd go out on him bc of his mistake (he expressed this)...he literally followed me everywhere I went, any guy that talked to me, he was right there behind me to make sure the guy wasn't trying anything..so even if they are the one to do wrong, they protect due to insecurity.

Lioness was totally opposite - when it all went down, she told ex-virgo *she could have my ass* and then iced me for over a year.

But....tbh, I thought she would be all checking my phone, wanting passwords to shit once we got back together. She's never asked. I even offered to do so inorder to show her I intended to be on the up and up. She just said, I don't have time for all that shit. If you're gonna be on the up and up - BE on the up and up and I'll see it.

She's always said, that if she was gonna love me, it would be as if she's never been hurt. She always say things like that and I would think - yeah, right, easy to say that now cause shit is going good. But now, I see, she meant every word of it!. B/c here we are - and look how she's walking the talk. She just amazes me. Maybe this is how a mature leo handle things? idk.

It doesn't matter now, we're moving forward and I just need to not be so eager to get us back to where we use to be.

Posted by capricornmoon
When's her birthday? That's how you find out., also google Leo Decans, it will give you more insight on why she behaves the way she does.

Ok, I'll look. Thx!

Posted by crabbycrab76

Posted by capricornmoon
When's her birthday? That's how you find out., also google Leo Decans, it will give you more insight on why she behaves the way she does.

Ok, I'll look. Thx!

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Ok, we're both 3rd Decan. I'm guessing that's bad based on Ssupes post of 3rd 😢

Posted by dontgetmewrong
Either way, you did the crime, you gotta do the time, however long it takes, and be on your best behavior.. That's just the way it is. Time heals definitely. I have a Leo mars, so yes I went into protection mode when that happened to me. I acted as if I didn't need him, aloof, even if it hurt inside...too proud.

Hmmm...forgot about that pride thing. I hear all what yall saying - will chill more.

Posted by dontgetmewrong
That's good, she's handling it that way. She's had time during the year to heal a bit...probably also noticed if you woukd go back to the ex too since yiu slept together. If she's going to start over now, she has to trust, so she's probably trying real hard to start over.

In my situation, I didn't find out until after I had my baby (2 mos after).. it was not easy, I left him for a while bc I needed to figure out what I wanted to do for me and now our child. If we didn't have a baby, I think i would've iced him out as well and gone back to the east coast. Everything changes when a child is involved. But over time, and consistency, trust was rebuilt. So just keep doing what you're doing. She has to know your heart belongs to her.

I'm sorry that happened to you. Yeah, a child changes the dynamics for sure.

Posted by dontgetmewrong
That was many moons ago. Time heals everything, and makes you stronger too. This will make her even stronger, so don't do it again.

Good luck to you both 🙂

Thx! 🙂

Posted by capricornmoon
you're third Decan cancer? Which means Pisces tendencies and she's 3rd Decan Leo which means she has Aries tendencies? If the Decans are correct and she has Aries tendencies, good luck...lol...it means she's ruled by MARS and there's a high possibility that she's out for revenge.

Naw, she doesn't do revenge unless she's burning a bridge. And even then, you see her coming because there's a blaze of fire that follows. lol!

Posted by crabbycrab76
*she could have my ass*

Sounds like the thrill of the kill is gone daddy gone.




But maybe she likes crazy.

Where's her moon?

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Posted by SpiceNSugar
It's not punishment. It's about hurt and protection.

The thing is, she's not showing much hurt, but I think she's privately hurting tho and working it out (without me) 😢 So, not sure where she's at b/c she's not sharing much or wanting to discuss anything. And like I said, she's not being cold, acting angry or anything like that. A bit abnormal from my past relationships.

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Why on earth should she show you her hurt? Her pride wouldn't allow it. Beware tho', as she works through things she may decide that you're not worth the effort after all.

As another dxper said above: You did the crime now you do the time.

Posted by Montgomery

Posted by crabbycrab76
*she could have my ass*

Sounds like the thrill of the kill is gone daddy gone.




But maybe she likes crazy.

Where's her moon?

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ME:
Sun: Cancer
Moon: Leo
Mercury: Leo
Venus: Gemini
Mars: Cancer

HER:
Sun: Leo
Moon: Leo
Mercury: Leo
Venus: Leo
Mars: Cancer

She said that to ex-virgo a yr ago

Why on earth should she show you her hurt? Her pride wouldn't allow it.

Yeah, I guess that makes sense. 😢

Beware tho', as she works through things she may decide that you're not worth the effort after all.

She didn't speak to me for a yr, and then decided to give it another go, so why would she get back with me only to end us?

tell her you need space, you need a break, etc.
What— No way in hell can I do that!! I just got this woman back after being iced for over a yr, no way I'm gonna give her room to second guess us. Uh-huh, no fucking way! That piece of shit scorpio will take full advantage of it!

You're right tho, I'm now seeing it's gonna take a lonnnnnng time to get back to where we were. 😢

She's working through her feelings, but she does spend time with me. I don't feel like she's not happy when she's with me. She's holding back a part of herself out of protection like the other posts said, so I get that - but I don't see her just leaving me. Whenever she not working, she comes over to spend time with me, so I don't get what you're saying.

I'm so depressed now.

Hey! Don't be depressed. If she's spending time with you and you are both enjoying eachother's company then the odds are high that she's only holding back from sex to protect herself as a result of previous hurt.

I agree with Sugar. I think if you stick to the advice you're getting from Leos or those who know us well, you'll be better off. No need to think she's playing any games. We don't do that (not us girls, anyway).

Just take what she's giving you at face value, and be genuine with her. If she is expressing love for you, then that's how she feels.

I'll also add that I am also a 3rd decan Leo, with Leo mars. I have a temper but never look to take revenge on someone I love, especially by making them think one thing while I plot another. To me, that kind of behavior is beneath me.

If I have a problem with someone, I do nothing and let them hang on their own rope.That's more satisfying to me tha.n doing something directly to hurt someone.

She will come around if you are patient and understanding and respectful 😄

Yeah! I'm just gonna be cool, back off and let her lead the way. Thx everyone!

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Posted by sultrykitty
I agree with Sugar. I think if you stick to the advice you're getting from Leos or those who know us well, you'll be better off. No need to think she's playing any games. We don't do that (not us girls, anyway).

Just take what she's giving you at face value, and be genuine with her. If she is expressing love for you, then that's how she feels.

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You disagree? :-)