How to get rid of this Leo?

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Oknoti1234
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My Leo ex lives next door. We've been broken up for almost 8-9 (or sth) months now. He still comes over to my house since my mom is a very good friend of his mom so she just lets him in. I had absolutely no contact with him for almost 3 months, I wouldn't even see him (before that, I would see him on my way to work or at a family get-together—we didn't talk, sometimes he'd tease me in front of people). Then a week ago, he just suddenly comes back into my life and I didn't have any idea I'd be seeing his face everyday at my house or outside. Well, now he's even started bringing one of his friends(different ones, every time) to my house. The thing is I'm okay with him coming to my house (my mom loves him), but he just tries to make things normal between us, try flirting with me, teases me a lot with his friend. It's just unbearable but well, my mom has taught me enough manners that I know, not to treat my "guests" badly. It's summer break, he comes over everyday. I've talked to people about this, to which everyone told me to just ignore him and pretend he's not there. I'm a libra, I don't know if this is a trait of a libra, I just melt away with someone saying anything nice. I would do anything for you if you just said something nice to me. I could be friends with my ex but I do not want to fall for him, took me quite a lot of time to get over him. I don't want to go back to square one. How do I get rid of him? I know he wants nothing serious, just playing around.
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Posted by Oknoti1234
My Leo ex lives next door. We've been broken up for almost 8-9 (or sth) months now. He still comes over to my house since my mom is a very good friend of his mom so she just lets him in. I had absolutely no contact with him for almost 3 months, I wouldn't even see him (before that, I would see him on my way to work or at a family get-together—we didn't talk, sometimes he'd tease me in front of people). Then a week ago, he just suddenly comes back into my life and I didn't have any idea I'd be seeing his face everyday at my house or outside. Well, now he's even started bringing one of his friends(different ones, every time) to my house. The thing is I'm okay with him coming to my house (my mom loves him), but he just tries to make things normal between us, try flirting with me, teases me a lot with his friend. It's just unbearable but well, my mom has taught me enough manners that I know, not to treat my "guests" badly. It's summer break, he comes over everyday. I've talked to people about this, to which everyone told me to just ignore him and pretend he's not there. I'm a libra, I don't know if this is a trait of a libra, I just melt away with someone saying anything nice. I would do anything for you if you just said something nice to me. I could be friends with my ex but I do not want to fall for him, took me quite a lot of time to get over him. I don't want to go back to square one. How do I get rid of him? I know he wants nothing serious, just playing around.

Time to be an adult and speak up for yourself. Also change your locks so people can't just walk into your house. It's YOUR house after all. Who care's if it's "rude" or not "mannerly". You know what else is bad manners? Bringing unannounced/uninvited guests into your home, especially an ex. Be firm about this with your family and let them know that this behavior is unacceptable.

Some Libras do have the tendency of being passive and avoidant when it comes to confrontation. Libras generally like to keep things peaceful and tend to gravitate towards "pleasant" situations. Sounds like you are trying to maintain the "peace" to keep things balanced. The Leo man is taking advantage of this fact because he knows you're a pushover. He sees you as too weak to stick up for yourself. Is that how you want people to see you, as the timid "people pleaser"?

Also sounds like your self esteem could use some work. From what you've said, you're prone to ignoring a potential issue, as long as someone is flattering you ("saying anything nice"). This means you are easily manipulated by faux kindness. You need to start seeing the reality of these situations for what they are and not melt whenever someone is nice to you.

I'm questioning your resolve because if you really wanted this Leo out of your life, you would not be stalking his social media and questioning yourself. You'll need to decide what it is your truly want and then stick to it. Unfortunately there's no room for indecision here, unless you want this all to continue.