knobhead reloaded, hmmmm what to do?

well, the magic 8 wish works even if you don't do the rituals it would seem. i had a message from the KH on facebook tonight..well, sent 8 hours ago.

Hello Roxi.. Hows life treating you... Hope things are all good... You still work for ******... maybe catch up soon ay!!!XX

he blocked me!! but anyway his new message pulled up all the old ones...the few there were cos i was added and blocked within a nanosecond, lol..the last one before todays was 18th august 2011..2 days before his bday.

sooooooo...feeling good enough not to be in a hurry to respond but when i do (which of course i will omg YES!!)...wtf do i say?

haha!! he's 'in a relationship'. gutless shit could never spit that out!

tending towards ignore.

OMG YOU MADE A WISH??!!—!!!— what fabulous news elle.

i dunno what i'm gonna do. the block's been lifted but it just pisses me off why he could never just say to me that he was back with his ex...and what does he want now cos he knows what i feel about him. i don't know if he's sneaky enough but i wonder if he's got work at our building and is sussing out whether he should take the job depending of whether i'm likely to be there or not.

i dunnooooooooooooooooooooo what to do 😢 best doing nothing methinks.

Hi Knobhead.....life has been treating me just fabulous!! Yes things are very good! Yes I still work at ******.

Send 24 - 48 hours after you got the message.

That's it. LOL.

yeah, i was thinking of something like that, even though life is actually pretty poo right now, lol! a longer delay though i think. make him sweat a little.

i dunnoooooooooooooooooooooooo 😢

i really think i could love him given time, that's the touble cos i think it was the same for him but the return of the ex presented a dilemma he had no option on. bastard though! all the opportunities he had just to say, i'm back with my ex or whatever, whoever...cos i'm just conjecturing still on that. instead he just kept leading me on. sooooooo i dunnoooo what to do. i so want that man and no-one's come close but he hurt me so badly, i can't forget cos i'm still hurting now 😢

i can see the logic of that elle but unfortunately, i know me and i know i won't block him. nothing he can say or do now can be as bad as what's already gone on. even my 13 year old aries daughter was telling me not to start getting childish and ignoring him, lol. i just don't want to any way. but i know that i don't engage my brain before making decisions like this and so i need to survey the options........virgo style , as it rises within me, lol.

I like Elle's suggestion....I have ignored text messages from the Leo. But it's easier said than done. I would want to know FOR SURE if he is still with his ex though. And if so, delete. It would just be more of the same butter.

omg...i swear my nose isn't that big in real life!! looks like the sizing on the thingymajig has squashed my nose!

the thing with the facebook blocking is that his ex had moved back to the uk before i met him and only returned briefly afterwards...she still lived in the uk and so it was long distance. me and the knobhead have alot of mutual friends on fb and i think it pissed her off seeing me cropping up on her newsfeed, as she would've done. he told me when he was seeing me that she as coming out for his birthday and that he would have to tell her about me as it was only fair but he also said that she had wanted to talk to him and then when i got the cowardly dumping text, he preceded everything with 'my ex has been giving me grief all week'.

he opened a fb account to track me down and when we were together, he thought it was hilarious how all his ex's were fighting over the fact that an 'unknown' was his first friend on there.

i bloody hate facebook sometimes.

Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
well, the magic 8 wish works even if you don't do the rituals it would seem. i had a message from the KH on facebook tonight..well, sent 8 hours ago.

Hello Roxi.. Hows life treating you... Hope things are all good... You still work for ******... maybe catch up soon ay!!!XX

he blocked me!! but anyway his new message pulled up all the old ones...the few there were cos i was added and blocked within a nanosecond, lol..the last one before todays was 18th august 2011..2 days before his bday.

sooooooo...feeling good enough not to be in a hurry to respond but when i do (which of course i will omg YES!!)...wtf do i say?

O. M. G.

Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
i really think i could love him given time, that's the touble cos i think it was the same for him but the return of the ex presented a dilemma he had no option on. bastard though! all the opportunities he had just to say, i'm back with my ex or whatever, whoever...cos i'm just conjecturing still on that. instead he just kept leading me on. sooooooo i dunnoooo what to do. i so want that man and no-one's come close but he hurt me so badly, i can't forget cos i'm still hurting now 😢

Rig, don't know what to say, and now i feel responsible.... but I really don't know what I would do in your situation, our wishes are the same and yours has come true, fuck! If the Aries contacted me now I hope I wouldn't cave but like you he's there inside my heart and I just can't shake him out no matter how hard i've tried over the last few months. Just be cool for now, don't reply until you have thought about it for a while - and run it by us 🙂. Here we are pretending we are strong women of the world and then the Knobheads who we are trying to get over come back and reduce us to jellyfish 😢

Posted by ellessque
LOL @ the magic wish.

i made mine lastnight (shut up)

now i want to make another one, and then another one after that. I'm on fire. WATCH OUT! 😄

whatcha gonna do, Roxy?

Can't wait for next week to see if they all come true 🙂 I've no faith in mine, but what are we like!

elle. i think you're being a bit harsh. i would have no intention of hooking him back just to dump him in revenge. i'm way too old for games and cba with them!! at the end of the day, only the two people involved know what went on and i think the timing was off for both of us. i don't know if he's really a knobhead or how deep he is either as i didn't have the chance to get to know him. i don't have feelings for him but i was at the brink of developing them and up until the return of the ex, he was feeling it too and i know it without doubt.

of course i CALLED him a knobhead and i've been trying to hate him but the honest truth is that we don't really know eachother very well.....so who knows?

i don't think he would've got in touch this time unless he's in a position to do something about it. it's occurred to me that his ex may have been over or maybe not recently as english schools have been on vacation. perhaps it wasn't working out...cos he had told me it was over cos he didn't think long distance could ever work with them.

or perhaps i am just disappearing up my scorpio behind? LOL!! i dunno and i don't really care tbh cos i was beginning to think i would never hear from him again anyway.

CL....yeah! i know!!! perhaps i have you to thank!

Hmmmm...the first thing that pops into my pea sized head is something that has been said to me many times before when I get all freaky, fearful, nervous..and in search of the *perfect* form of reaction...

Do what you would do if you WEREN'T freaky, fearful, nervous..and in search of the *perfect* form of reaction...

In other words...if it were *me* or another pal you had not heard from but was not really attached to emotionally, what would say?

"Im doing great, thanks for asking. Hope all is well with you"


Period. Of course, you were still be freaky, fearful, nervous. That wont change either way. We'll just have to chain you up after and hold you down every time he contacts you again. Sigh...I think I see a trip overseas in my future ;P

ok. you're not being harsh but you are judging the situation wrongly. i'm not talking about getting back together with him and living happily ever after. my agenda would be to resume the whole 'getting to know' you part. good grief woman! i have been married for long enough to know that the next time around, i'm gonna make damn sure i know what i'm getting into.

ultimately, he had no choice...it was either hurt his ex or hurt me and i was the easy option. yeah, it wasn't very nice but is there a nicer way he could've done it? i doubt it!

he struck me as very sensitive and loyal and he was open about how much it hurt when she left him. i think he was genuinely trying to rebuild after that cos it was a few months after she'd left that we got together and he'd been 'busy' in the interim.

bgp...omg pack your panties gf and get your ass to marbella!!!

yeah, i'll do the short response i reckon...in a while anyway.

i don't actually feel fearful or nervous though i have to say. i feel vindicated in some way...can't explain. but i'm not in a hurry to reopen this wound, that's for sure.

make that wish elle........you know you want to 😛

I agree you should wait a few days before replying. That lion needs to shiver a bit. Cant wait for news on how this turns out. Given our similarity with your leo dude and my scorpio ex, its quite intriguing to say the least.

🙂

Posted by BigGirlPanties
I agree you should wait a few days before replying. That lion needs to shiver a bit. Cant wait for news on how this turns out. Given our similarity with your leo dude and my scorpio ex, its quite intriguing to say the least.

🙂

Yeah - the Leo will make a second move if you let him sweat it. Or, just wait a bit and answer with bare minimum BUT if you still want to keep him 'on the hook' give an open ended polite question inquiring how he is doing or whatever.

He didn't mention he was dating but it's not like he had much reason to - it'd seem out of left field if he did. And the situation isn't known yet.. so you never know. Just keep your distance but you seem to like him a bit, so don't ice him out unless he gives you solid reason to.

It's all your court, and pursue this with what YOU feel is right.

Yes girly, dont make excuses for his behavior. You both hurt each other, tis true, however he left you hanging some time ago, so he is responsible.

nice advice seraph.

I would have done same 5 years ago.

Today, I like to live up to my Scorpioness. I'd create an account on FB with similar to your name he blocked. I'd send him an email by writing whatever I would like to say`-- go crazy! This will be a one-of-a-chance dumping. Empty it all and dump the shit onto him, then BLOCK!

Done.

Dust of your hands.

If you wait for the right moment, you will always remember this dumbshit thinking what you could have said.

seraph: you're kind of right but kind of very wrong too. my issue with the leo was that he was the first man i trusted to be intimate with in FOUR YEARS since my marriage broke up. he presented himself as being trustworthy and SINGLE and so, i was ready to rock.

fact of the matter was that he wasn't prepared for his ex to want him back. what's wrong with that? why does that make him a bad person? yeah, it was insensitively dealt with from my point of view but even the blocking i understood cos if i was his ex, i wouldn't let him alone for five minutes if he'd been seeing someone like me.

even men i don't know very well are told to remove or block me on fb. it's ridiculous but i put it down to being in my 40s and people of my age are mostly holding on to their relationships for all they're worth cos it's the decade where they seem to mostly fall apart.

fum. remember i am a mutant scorpio and i don't really have the revenge gene. things happen, people get hurt. i've hurt people myself but i would never have the guts to contact them at some point in the future as i would asssume i was hated and reviled. i think the leo, being a man, is obviously obvlivious to having done anything wrong or perhaps assumes instant forgiveness which is another male trait.

i'm going to hear him out at some point. like i said before, it wasn't like we were married for years or anything! we had just started seeing eachother and so i don't think there's anything wrong with resuming that if he does happen to be single again cos that's the only basis i'm prepared to proceed on.

i have seen other men and they've been nice guys (apart from the psycho sag) but my heart wasn't in it. i'm a slow burning persn when it comes to love and i had only slightly defrosted for the leo before it went tits up. it's not about guys throwing themselves at me and thinking i'm all that either cos guys pretty much say anything to get you in the sack.

i saw an aqua at the weekend and he was saying what a great body i have. i said i worked hard to get it and he said i was being really boastful. i said it was confidence and he should know the difference cos i really believe...as i tell my daughter to....that there is absolutely nothing wrong in acknowledging and celebrating that you have great hair or great skin as long as you don't walk around deluding yourself that you're completely perfect!!

men expect you to feel validated by their compliments. it's called CONTROL!

woundedleo: perhaps what seraph said is true in some cases but i have not once thought along the lines of is it me? what did i do?? i'm not a teenager and i know myself and all my strengths and weaknesses and I DIDN'T DO ANYTHING WRONG and i NEVER took on board that i did! i was upset cos he broke my trust before we'd even started and yeah, that's a HUGE red flag but like i said, we weren't married and hadn't been dating that long. i'm not one to sit at home festering over what i could have done differently cos i know that i would have done everything the same all over again. him going back to his ex was nothing to do with me doing or saying something wrong. like i said in another thread, it takes longer for feelings for an ex to die than it does to develop feelings for someone new.

fum...he has obviously stopped the block as i can see his profile now. i'm not into playing blocking/unfriending games on fb either...i leave that to the adolescents, lol.

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Posted by ianthepisces
whatcha lookin worried about this motherfucker for? dont you have enough guys chasing you...

In a nutshell:

- He's the one that *didn't* fall for her and lose his head, and he eventually dropped her, and *then* erased her. Charm + A.s.s.hole. It's a wickedly effective combination.

- This sends her into doubt/fear/confusion mode: "omg is it ME?? What's wrong with ME?? I can get any man I want! So wha'happen??"

- Her interest level skyrockets because a) he's not like all the others - he's a challenge - and b) she now needs *his* validation of her charm/sexiness/beauty/self-worth over all others.


Best thing to do is WALK, and not get sucked into the above (often sadly inevitable) scenario any further.

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wow seraph...you have absolutely no clue what i'm like at all. doubt/fear/confusion— i think not. pissed offness/hurt/humiliation...yeah, that's more like it but you will notice that those are not directed towards myself. i know my worth to the centimo and i don't need validation from any other person on the planet. that may sound arrogant but to be honest, if i didn't feel this way at my age, all the bad experiences that got me to here would've been a waste of time.

as far as i was concerned, it was always his loss.

i've still not responded. not even sure i'm gonna yet.

ok. i've decided to ignore and que sera, sera. sorted 🙂

No reply? Damn... 😢

My scorp moon would never be able to do that. But I respect your strength to do it. It prob is very much the right thing to do to take care of yourself. Bravo to you. The question is....will you hear from him again?

hmmmm...

omg woman! absolutely no offence was take!! i'm like teflon...nothing sticks 😉

bgp. well, i thought about it and there's still too much assumption going on in my mind. he's never actually told me ANYTHING about his relationship status and so as far as i am concerned, until he sent his message yesterday, i STILL had no clue what really happened cos he didn't have the balls to tell me.

so, now i see his status on facebook, i'm kinda taking offence by the whole thing now. what is he thinking of contacting me when he's officially with someone else?!?!?

i dunno if i'll hear from him aqain but i figure that if he is serious, he'll make it known by trying harder. i want to prevent myself hanging around for his response to whatever i would've decided to reply with and i can't be ARSED to get myself in that ridiculous headspin all over again. got too much going on in other aspects of my life.

your scorpio moon will also be shocked to hear that i haven't gone through his wall and his friends list to see if his ex is still on the scene or to check what kind of comments he's been making recently and i guess if the block is off, that would all be available to me. i'm not strong enough to snoop. the only time in my life i snooped on someone...my ex husband...the one time i checked his phone...i found at text from his lover.

so on that basis, i'm only going to delve as deep as the FACTS that are presented to me.

and the one fact i know about the knobhead is that to the world of facebook and presumably everyone in real, his status is in a relationship and so i'm not prepared to let him re-open the wound and i am certainly NOT prepared to just pick up where we left off with no mention of the knobbish behaviour that earned him his nickhame.

i never make the same mistake twice.

besides, i only want him back if i am the centre of his universe cos i won't put any man in the centre of mine without it being a two way exchange.

i am woman, hear me ROOOOOOOOAR!! (lol)

well, my initial thought was that he had some building work to do at our offices which is how i met him and that he was checking to see if he might run in to me. but there's no work going on and he's also good friends with my boss and so would have asked him directly.

however, loads of people at my company know him and there's some new staff too and most of the guys there have no clue what i do for the company as i work mostly from home. right now, i've been without a car for over a week and so some will have presumed i've left. the office is near the knobhead's home and most of the people live in his neighbourhood...so maybe he overheard something or whatever, i dunno and i don't care COS i don't know, lol.

although irritatingly, i can't stop thinking about it 😢

He may have made that comment simply because its how you guys met and a common denominator....we can obsess and break down every word someone says, but rarely do we know the real intent.

Get busy, Roxi...put your head somewhere else lest this take over your mind. Focus focus focus on anything but this situation!

(says the obsessive scorp moon girl 😢 )

you are a little weird wounded, but i like ya, lol!!!

yeah bgp, i reckon it's the common denominator thing too. whatever, it's completely lame. i just went out for a run with my dog and now i'm having a cold beer. i am going to indulge my senses and forget about the knobhead altogether for now 🙂

no intruiged...it doesn't make any sense but then to be honest, none of it did so i shouldn't be surprised 🙂

there's alot of truth in that although i think much of the initial attraction is the leo having to fight for attention from the scorp in the first place. just seems that once they've got it, they're off on another quest. nothing seems to hook a leo man more than ignoring him, lol.

does my face look bothered seraph? LOL.

i'm done with the leonine beating about the bush, sweep it under the carpet routine. i like directness and honesty cos it's what i try and give others. if he's sussing out the lay of the land as far as i'm concerned, he's gonna find that i'm not quite as amenable as i was previously. so he can jog on! muahahahahahha!!

Haha... So you wished for something and it came true and now ur in a pickle about it?? Haha
Careful what you wish for?? Hahaha

it was only a half-hearted wish too cos i didn't follow all the rituals!! i'm not in a pickle about it any more anyway lotuslily. i'm ignoring him cos it's no more than he deserves. good news is that now he's checking out my fb page and so i'm making sure i'm busy on there so that he knows i'm ignoring him too. that'll upset his scorpio rising LOL.

mr 'in a relationshp' can go swivel for all i care.

you are right though...you must always be careful what you wish for!

Posted by BigGirlPanties
He may have made that comment simply because its how you guys met and a common denominator....we can obsess and break down every word someone says, but rarely do we know the real intent.

Get busy, Roxi...put your head somewhere else lest this take over your mind. Focus focus focus on anything but this situation!

(says the obsessive scorp moon girl 😢 )

thanks bgp....i put my head up my ass for a while and it brought me great wisdom, lol.

Posted by ellessque

Posted by lotuslily
Haha... So you wished for something and it came true and now ur in a pickle about it?? Haha
Careful what you wish for?? Hahaha

I KNOW, RIGHT—————?

told ya!!!!!!!!! 😛

*kicks rocks*

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Your gonna have to tell us what you wished for Elle 🙂

Lovely new pic Rig, was that taken at the Leo party?

thanks!! nah....the leo party is on 5th may. very much looking forward to that 😛

the pic was from last christmas. not a leo male in sight....hence the happy face 😄

yeah elle....spill the beans!

be careful with your wishes people. i don't think i've been this depressed since the knobhead first started fucking me about. still not gonna respond and i kind of hope he goes away now. why did i wish for him to speak to me when i knew it would probably end up hurting me all over again. bastard men. am officially a lesbian now. you can expect threads by me despairing over leo chicks next 😢

I'm sorry 😢 Start threads about me - i'll take the bashing - but beware, when my wish doesn't come true I'll be crying all over you.

CL: oh, it's not your fault sweetie (although you did start the whole wishing business)...what happens, happens anyway regardless imo. are you gonna keep up with the rituals and suchlike? you sure you want to re-open that wound?

Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
am officially a lesbian now. you can expect threads by me despairing over leo chicks next 😢

If you let me rock your world, sugar britches, you'll never despair over me 😉

that's it! i have turned completely now! 😛

Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
CL: oh, it's not your fault sweetie (although you did start the whole wishing business)...what happens, happens anyway regardless imo. are you gonna keep up with the rituals and suchlike? you sure you want to re-open that wound?

It won't happen anyway Rig, but if it does then i'll deal with it as I am much much stronger now - and it might actually get him to say he doesn't want anything 🙂 He wouldn't ever say it before.

Posted by WoundedLeo
CL, I'm not familiar with your story. Can you just fill me in on the sign of your former knobhead? (Just curious as to who does us wrong 😉)

He's an Aries 😢

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Posted by WoundedLeo
CL, I'm not familiar with your story. Can you just fill me in on the sign of your former knobhead? (Just curious as to who does us wrong 😉)

He's an Aries 😢

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no CL...he's a KNOBHEAD!!

you're right though...for him to just say SOMETHING would be helpful wouldn't it! sometimes, i suspect they don't say anything cos they've not decided yet. you know how pigheaded and selfish men are, no matter what the sign. i told you already that i had to wait almost 2 years before my aries ex got his arse in gear...he was back and forth between me and his ex like a yo-yo, emotionally at least.

what finally worked with him was me telling him i was going back to israel days before leaving. nothing gets them thinking harder than the threat of their shiney new toy being taken away from them forever. when i decided to come back, he was putty in my hand.