Leo confused and angry

So I’ve been broken up with my ex aqua guy for 3 months. His fault. During this time we’ve tried to work on it and I’ll give him another chance and he’ll do something to fuck it up again. We argued off and on all this time. For the past month was bad and he said he really wanted to work it out. Long story short. Whenever we break up he always got on dating sites one of the reasons why we broke up in the first place.

So we got back together a few days ago and we had a convo about what we did when we were single. He’s told me he has talked to females and I told him I went on a date with a friend of mine. We went to dinner and that was it. He gotten extremely mad and said I need to own my shit and said he could have being doing him had he known I was trying to move on too. Now I’ve said we weren’t together nor did I do anything and I called him a hypocrite. We argued and he said fuck it he’s done.

Like wtf!!! He wants me to apologize but I feel this is bs and I don’t plan to do shit. I’m a Leo and I get it we’re prideful and have attitudes but this dude is trying to make me feel bad about something I don’t understand.

Let him go if he wants to be free so badly.

Posted by Leo188881
If you were ready to move on and date again, then he probably feels like your feelings for him don't go very deep. Maybe it's made him feel replaceable and insecure. If you love someone, you want to feel like you're the only one for that person and that they would never want anyone else. While technically you didn't cheat or do anything wrong, he's hurt by it so if this guy is important to you, you'll swollow your pride to save your relationship. If he's not, then you'll choose pride over him.

Dude was on a dating site/talking to other girls when they were together. Stands to reason that his feelings for her are fairly shallow as well.

This is an ego issue. He’s mad she wasn’t crying her eyes out and waiting by the phone for him.

Stop contacting him. Do it relentlessly in every forum of communication. Don't like pictures, don't watch SC stories. He's ultimately never existed at this time.

Let him contact you first, and ask him simply; "are you ready to get your shit together?".

If he beats around the question, makes you sound silly or says anything other than "yes, I'm ready" or something along those lines... Then hang up. Tell him to call you when he gets over himself.

You gotta make him realize that you aren't waiting and that you definitely don't need him.

He will try and contact you for casual conversation, and you don't have to engage. With that being said, don't EVER sink into some weird friendship with your ex.

You gotta put your foot down.

People tend to want what they can't have.

1st mistake: broken up but still in contact

2nd mistake: talked about what you did while you were apart

Plus a little of what Lady Neptune and Emhendo said.

Posted by sultrykitty
1st mistake: broken up but still in contact

2nd mistake: talked about what you did while you were apart

Plus a little of what Lady Neptune and Emhendo said.

Trust if I could turn back the hands of time I would have no engaged any of this. But he’s always open to talk about what he did or was going to do I had zero thought he would have reacted in such a way. I feel he’s a hypocrite but I do somewhat feel like his insecurities is the entires issue here

I never seen him like this before maybe because I never put myself in a situation for him to feel I would do anything. He plays the victim a lot and see what you’ve done but not understanding we wouldn’t have been in this situation had he not done what he’s done. 🤷🏽‍♀️

Posted by Leogirl27
So I’ve been broken up with my ex aqua guy for 3 months. His fault. During this time we’ve tried to work on it and I’ll give him another chance and he’ll do something to fuck it up again. We argued off and on all this time. For the past month was bad and he said he really wanted to work it out. Long story short. Whenever we break up he always got on dating sites one of the reasons why we broke up in the first place.

So we got back together a few days ago and we had a convo about what we did when we were single. He’s told me he has talked to females and I told him I went on a date with a friend of mine. We went to dinner and that was it. He gotten extremely mad and said I need to own my shit and said he could have being doing him had he known I was trying to move on too. Now I’ve said we weren’t together nor did I do anything and I called him a hypocrite. We argued and he said fuck it he’s done.

Like wtf!!! He wants me to apologize but I feel this is bs and I don’t plan to do shit. I’m a Leo and I get it we’re prideful and have attitudes but this dude is trying to make me feel bad about something I don’t understand.

A tale as old as time. To explain it simply, the Aqua had not actually let you go, but made it seem like he had. So when you went out with your friend, it hit him too close to home. To him you two were "technically" still talking and he "technically" only entertained the attention of random strangers. (Be aware that Aquas work via technicalities a lot).

You talking to a friend while he was talking to strangers became all too real for him. Aquas tend to blur the lines when it comes to "friends" vs. friends. So for him you going out with a "friend" was below the belt.

The Aqua expected you to wait for him/come back to him, but what he didn't count on was being replaced. This struck his ego/pride which, contrary to popular belief, Aquas also have. Aqua is Leo's opposite after all, which means at our core we're the same, but we act out in different ways.

The difference here is Aquas are usually uncomfortable with their egos. So a strike to the ego can come as even more of a shock to an Aqua. In your mind the relationship was done and it was time to move forward, but for him this wasn't the case. As a result his ego rose to the surface and he exploded.

Another thing to note is that Aquas can be so detached from their emotions, that their romantic feelings only become clear once the other person leaves (if they truly cared). Since Aquas generally don't confront their feelings often though, their emotions can bubble out and explode unchecked. In this case once you were off limits, the Aqua suddenly decided to react.

Aquas also desire their freedom, often pushing people away in order to maintain it. This simply isn't how Leos operate. While we do also want our freedom, we don't need the same amount of space Aquas do. However just because an Aqua wants their space, doesn't mean they don't want you around. The problem is Aquas have a terrible time expressing this, which means they usually come off cold and aloof. It's only when things hit the fan that you see an Aqua's true feelings.

That being said, this is his problem not yours. Aquas don't like to leave things on a bad note with the people they truly care about, so there's a good chance he'll eventually return. He'll probably take his sweet time doing this though as his pride will make it difficult for him, so don't wait for him. By then you'll probably be over him entirely anyway.

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Posted by Leo188881
If you were ready to move on and date again, then he probably feels like your feelings for him don't go very deep. Maybe it's made him feel replaceable and insecure. If you love someone, you want to feel like you're the only one for that person and that they would never want anyone else. While technically you didn't cheat or do anything wrong, he's hurt by it so if this guy is important to you, you'll swollow your pride to save your relationship. If he's not, then you'll choose pride over him.

Dude was on a dating site/talking to other girls when they were together. Stands to reason that his feelings for her are fairly shallow as well.

This is an ego issue. He’s mad she wasn’t crying her eyes out and waiting by the phone for him.

I must have misunderstood. I thought he got on dating sites whenever they broke up. I didn't realise it was while they were together... if that's the case, then there is no trust and I'd be out of that relationship. Otherwise, If it's worth working out, each person owns their mistakes and apologises in order to move forward.

Or at least I read this as that...

Posted by Leogirl27
Whenever we break up he always got on dating sites one of the reasons why we broke up in the first place.

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This is early in your relationship. This stuff is what happened between me and my Aqua too. Time, learning how to understand each other, learning how to set boundaries without alienating, all that takes a long time and Leo/Aqua often don't have the patience and open-mindedness to get past all these misunderstandings.

My advice is to just lay kow, don't accept the blame, let him deal with his insecurities on his own. I'm with Chuckem; I think he'll be back after some cooling off time. If you want that, move forward without revisiting this issue (just learn from your mistakes). If not, then let him know with no room for interpretation.

As Emhendo said, don't accept anything other than him either saying that he's ready to change or showing you he's turned a corner. Otherwise the push/pull drama will just start all over again.

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by Leo188881

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Posted by Leo188881
If you were ready to move on and date again, then he probably feels like your feelings for him don't go very deep. Maybe it's made him feel replaceable and insecure. If you love someone, you want to feel like you're the only one for that person and that they would never want anyone else. While technically you didn't cheat or do anything wrong, he's hurt by it so if this guy is important to you, you'll swollow your pride to save your relationship. If he's not, then you'll choose pride over him.

Dude was on a dating site/talking to other girls when they were together. Stands to reason that his feelings for her are fairly shallow as well.

This is an ego issue. He’s mad she wasn’t crying her eyes out and waiting by the phone for him.

I must have misunderstood. I thought he got on dating sites whenever they broke up. I didn't realise it was while they were together... if that's the case, then there is no trust and I'd be out of that relationship. Otherwise, If it's worth working out, each person owns their mistakes and apologises in order to move forward.

Or at least I read this as that...

Posted by Leogirl27
Whenever we break up he always got on dating sites one of the reasons why we broke up in the first place.

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No you read correctly. That’s what caused the break up. A LOT of arguing going on for something he needed to change and he was dragging his feet so he decided going on a dating site was the answer and caused the break up

It sucks with all his shit he has with him and all the pain he’s put me through I know I need to move on

Flip the coin I still love him... fucked up situation but I’m not conceeding.... oh yea he’s BACK on a dating site today. So I will let him do him.

This relationship seems toxic at this point.

Give him a lot of space. At least a month.

Then try again.

No you read correctly. That’s what caused the break up. A LOT of arguing going on for something he needed to change and he was dragging his feet so he decided going on a dating site was the answer and caused the break up

It sucks with all his shit he has with him and all the pain he’s put me through I know I need to move on

Flip the coin I still love him... fucked up situation but I’m not conceeding.... oh yea he’s BACK on a dating site today. So I will let him do him.



Ok I'm confused... just to clarify...

Do you go on a dating sites to check up on him because you don't trust him and does he think you're on them too because you know he's on them?

Did you agree on being exclusive and deleting your online profiles or was it just assumed?



I don’t have a dating profile. I always snoped and found him on there. I