LEO's what would you do?

So i posted in the virgo section but no one cares so maybe my fellow leo's could give me your opinion and input. Long story short on two separate occasions i've caught my boyfriend trying to message a girl on snapchat, it wasn't super inappropriate but
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  • So i posted in the virgo section but no one cares so maybe my fellow leo's could give me your opinion and input.
    Long story short on two separate occasions i've caught my boyfriend trying to message a girl on snapchat, it wasn't super inappropriate but the fact that he was messaging 1 girl made me really uncomfortable. We talked about it the day it happened and then I thought about it some more and we were texting back and forth. As a leo are you also this forgiving?

    So i texted my boyfriend,
    I said,"I’ve been thinking about some things and in order for us to move on in this relationship I need complete honesty from you.
    I don’t want to be that gf that’s looks through your things because you are your own person, and I wouldn’t want anyone to not trust me and do that to me.
    Remember how I told you the first time that it took me a minute to get over it, well I felt like I did, and this incident it’s like ripping off the bandaid again.
    I know it’s still fresh, and I forgive you but this, tied along with everything else is making me sad
    And the attention excuse isn’t really a good enough excuse for me. I give you plenty of attention, what am I doing wrong"

    He said,
    "The last I want you to think is that you are doing something wrong because you are not. You sacrifice and do so much for me when you really don’t have to. The problem is me being secure with myself and with what I have. I often feel like I’m not good enough for you. I’m not in school and I feel like I’m running in place and it’s gonna take me so long to graduate. I feel like you deserve so much more than what I can provide for you at the time.
    I am wrong for entertaining other females. I also know I wouldn’t like it if you were doing the samething.
    I’m not lookin to start anything with anybody else.
    I’m not going to find what we have with anybody else. If I really didn’t want to be with you. I would let you know."

    I said,
    Okay, I’m understanding what you’re saying. Baby, we are only 22 and 23, you don’t have to have everything together for me at this moment and time. I don’t even have it all together. Plus there is no rush on school, we both know that you’re taking a break this semester and you will, if not by next semester, be back in school in Fall 2018. I love you so much and since the beginning of our relationship you have become a big emotional support for me. You are more than good enough for me, just because you don’t have all the physical materialistic thing doesn’t mean that, that brings down your worth. So, that being said, pick ya head up, your worth is priceless. I’ma be here with you no matter what, AND I MEAN THIS. I want to be your ride or die, thru thick and thin. I want a partner that I can share everything with, who i started from the bottom with, I want us to be able to grow, learn, and share with each other, and I’ma be here for us.

    I do forgive you, I’m not going to throw this incident in your face, because we all deserve forgiveness. But please bear with me and my insecurities as well. I love you dearly, I look at your like my family, and I don’t ever want to lose you."

    He said,
    "Thank you baby. I know that this doesn’t gain your trust back but I’ll work on getting it back and not puttin it in jeopardy"
  • Posted by Miaou
    Who's the girl?

    What was the message about?


    He messaged this girl on a app called blitter, (it’s like Twitter) I felt betrayed because he went out of his way to give her his Snapchat so that I wouldn’t be able to see there messages but the messages end up saving. So I read them they were just talking but he was calling her beautiful, basically he was entertaining her (if you know what that means)
    The first incident (when we first got together) i caught him trying to message a girl on POF. But she never responded.
  • Posted by nightowl
    Dont see the problem, he seems understanding


    What do you mean by he seems understanding? I’m the one that’s understanding, he messed up. Did I confuse you?
  • MoonshineLeo
    24 years old female from Texas
    I would let it go and not look at his stuff anymore. At this point he knows what he should be doing and not doing.
  • MiZLeo
    ♌☀️/❤/Merc/Jup♓🌜♋Mars♐Rising ♍Sat
    female
    Dump him
  • LadyNeptune
    🌵🍋🌿
    He admitted to entertaining other women. He's young and wants to explore his options maybe.

    Either way forgiving him for the same thing twice is setting a precedent for him to continue to cheat.

    Your only way forward is to respect yourself enough to end it with him and walk away.
  • LadyNeptune
    🌵🍋🌿
    He's trolling for kitty on a dating app and you reaffirm your dedication and love to him?? I don't get that.

    Don't be scared of losing him. He's not scared of losing you. If he was he wouldn't be trying to treetrunk you over like this.
  • i feel like i have forgiven him easily, I really have a big heart and I do love this man. I don't want to throw away 3 years of friendship even though we've been only together for a small amount of time (5 months). If he does this again I most likely will have to walk away.
  • Posted by MoonshineLeo
    I would let it go and not look at his stuff anymore. At this point he knows what he should be doing and not doing.


    right girl so you would forgive him. I don't technically call this cheating, but my feelings are hurt.
  • Beginning of the end. Save yourself some time... it maybe a good lesson for you though... this is why a lot of girls then go for an older guy... however you need to learn to judge the individual over a period time.

    Piscesmoon
  • Age has nothing to do with it... girls these days are just as guilty. They are the ones that seek attention... it is always more becoming of a woman to have grace and not think she is all that just because she is attractive. There are many other qualities that are important.

    Piscesmoon
  • Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
    you're a treetruking idiot, he just texted another girl that she's beautiful, and you're telling him you're his ride or die

    no wonder virgo/leo relationships fail.


    urfffffffffffffff in my case leo moon and all other leo placements

    look dude.

    with virgos ..never mind

    i won't share my secrets with Thirsty ASS leos


    peace


    I've heard that virgo can be pretty secretive.
  • Posted by piscesmoon2
    Beginning of the end. Save yourself some time... it maybe a good lesson for you though... this is why a lot of girls then go for an older guy... however you need to learn to judge the individual over a period time.

    Piscesmoon


    I sure do hope its not the end. I have more faith in my relationship than that so on behalf of knowing he's a decent person, I hope that he step's up. I will definitely take your advice and keep my eyes open.
  • Posted by nightowl
    Posted by sugarwitted
    Posted by Miaou
    Who's the girl?

    What was the message about?


    He messaged this girl on a app called blitter, (it’s like Twitter) I felt betrayed because he went out of his way to give her his Snapchat so that I wouldn’t be able to see there messages but the messages end up saving. So I read them they were just talking but he was calling her beautiful, basically he was entertaining her (if you know what that means)
    The first incident (when we first got together) i caught him trying to message a girl on POF. But she never responded.


    then he's playing field and not ready to commit or be your ride or die

    click to expand


    True, he says that he's insecure too, so maybe his ass was trynna make himself feel better by the attention of another cookiemonster, idk it doesn't make since to me, cause why would your risk the thing that you say you don't feel good enough for, i should make him feel great. but idk i'll see if he's serious.
  • Posted by MiZLeo
    Dump him


    you would put no thought into it, just go for the dump?
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