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Posted by Eyes84
Hmm that's not true for all Leos. I don't know exactly what you do to come off as "mean" but I have a thing about respect. Respect is mutual, you cannot do that I cannot be around you.


Posted by lotus
When I say I am mean to them I meant I tell them to stop the bs. I recently told one guy that he is a jerk and that I am not interested in being part of his harem. Another Leo was told off for not keeping his promises about a Skype date.
I guess that means I won't tolerate disrespect from them rather than me being mean. I basically call them out on their bs.


Posted by AlexanderSupertramp
I respect people that are honest and straightforward with me. I think Leos in general tend to respect that. That is probably why they respond to you. It's not that they are coming back for more "punishment", so to speak, they are just gravitating toward someone they respect.
Posted by Eyes84
Hmm that's not true for all Leos. I don't know exactly what you do to come off as "mean" but I have a thing about respect. Respect is mutual, you cannot do that I cannot be around you.


Posted by seraphPosted by lotus
When I say I am mean to them I meant I tell them to stop the bs. I recently told one guy that he is a jerk and that I am not interested in being part of his harem. Another Leo was told off for not keeping his promises about a Skype date.
I guess that means I won't tolerate disrespect from them rather than me being mean. I basically call them out on their bs.
Whatever you're interpretation is of what's going on, let's assume that it really is what's happening.
This isn't a novel phenomenon. He sees you've got some fight in you and you become more interesting. It's a tacit declaration on your part that you aren't an "easy" catch.
Confident folk often have an easier time with the opposite sex, and they'll likely be accustomed to getting what they want in this area without a lot of work. When you challenge their expectations they'll take notice.
And just in general, strength appreciates strength, even in the form of a competitor (in which case the appreciation may be secretly held, even by someone loathe to admit it.)
In terms of your own example, they might still pursue the more convenient, less challenging option (i.e., not you), if all they're looking for is sexual gratification (even if it's a psychologically less thrilling prize.) Because some folks really are in it *for* the ease. Ahab might love fishing, but when all he wants to do is eat he'll take a pass on that whale and get in on the annual salmon run.
But overall and for the future, you'll capture their interest for far longer, regardless of whether it leads to a relationship.click to expand

Posted by seraphPosted by Montgomery
We aren't masochists.
😛
True, Monte.
Maybe except for...
those Leos with Pisces Moons?
Maybe.
Do we even have any of those here??click to expand

Posted by lisabethur8
"who's that!!" the wittle Kitty says behind the big Kitty
"shh be careful! big humans coming! food!!"




Posted by SsupesPosted by JROI
I don't think they enjoy being told off to be honest. They might secretly respect it deep down, but at the time I don't think so. I once called a Leo an idiot in front of quite a few people (he was being an idiot) and he went very quiet for the rest of the day, I actually felt really bad and was going to apologize but he disappeared. We talk to this day, and we get along but I wonder if he ever got over it haha.
If you being mean is just some playful banter, pretty sure they enjoy it. My Leo friend and I are so mean to each other, we bully each other so much and I'm pretty sure he loves it. As long as they trust you not to go to far, I think you're safe to give them a bit of rough treatment.
Nothing wrong with playful back and forth banter! It's a good way to de-stress a little and have some fun!click to expand
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Has anyone else noticed this with Leo men? Do they need to be constantly told off?