Unstable Leo? Wtf...sudden change of heart. (Page 2)

Trying to be more open and date different men isn't the issue. The issue was being way too lenient and forgiving, being soft and rushing. I need to go slow and be hella picky. I haven't dated all men like this, it's 2 out of the bunch. I've dated some wonderful and stable men, including my longest relationship. I just need to find someone that has similar guidelines and really just observe someone before rushing. I'm in no rush, and I learned something especially in this last.

Not to mention changing my hormones has helped immensely with the critical and rational thinking

Posted by Damnata
You are the common denominator.

Scorpio renaissance guy, Leo vikings guy...doesn't matter.

Not going to go through 6 pages, people already posted good advice for you in all the topics on men you ever had. Same shit, different guy.

i agree with Damnie and MissFisk.

If you're so concerned with your "CAREER"....why are you so hell-bent in having a relationship with anyone right now?

It's as if you're so lonely but can't be alone kind of thing, also you sound so desperate about having to be IN a relationship, yet complaining about it because of your "career"......

I feel there's relationship neediness in there in your chart.

never mind....i saw your chart.

libra moon - needs to be in relationship...

your need to nurture in a relationship (Mars/Venus cancer)

Sigh...

Your Aqua rising and Gem sun, and i don't recall your jupiter and saturn....

but, none of these guys are going to be fulfilling for you right now.

Take care of your career first.

I guarantee you, once you are established in your career, you will have the PICK of the men in whoever you choose. And you have your career and money to back you up if they ever are "fickle" for you and not fulfilling/and or hurt you.

Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by Damnata
You are the common denominator.

Scorpio renaissance guy, Leo vikings guy...doesn't matter.

Not going to go through 6 pages, people already posted good advice for you in all the topics on men you ever had. Same shit, different guy.

i agree with Damnie and MissFisk.

If you're so concerned with your "CAREER"....why are you so hell-bent in having a relationship with anyone right now?

It's as if you're so lonely but can't be alone kind of thing, also you sound so desperate about having to be IN a relationship, yet complaining about it because of your "career"......

I feel there's relationship neediness in there in your chart.

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Cancer Venus probably. I have it as well.

Still, it's the same script. Time and time again she comes on dxp saying she'll take a break from dating men and figuring herself out. And then one more fucked up story each time. Her friends rule her life for her because she's incapable of making a judgment call by herself.

There were a lot of people with good advice (albeit harsh) in all the topics she posted. She usually snaps at them and keeps going in the lalala fantasy she's running in her mind. Always blaming the moodiness and desperation on hormones. No one has the duty to save you from yourself or appease you for your emotional neediness. I'd run a mile because I see it as emotional high maintenance. It's not even the maintenance that's the problem, it's acting blissfuly unaware that it exists and fucks up your relationships. Like standing in the rain crying about raining, having an umbrella in your hand and never figuring out you have to open it to shelter yourself from the rain. Ain't nobody got time to point that out to you.

A lot of moaning, angst as a way of living life.

At some point you have to call a spade a spade and face the mirror. Maybe glance at it from the side the first few times...but still you are the common denominator. All of us make bad choices on one level or another but manage to keep a positive outlook and figure things out and accept them as best as we can. She just seems to be searching for a different guy to play the same script. Patterns.

Posted by lisabethur8
I guarantee you, once you are established in your career, you will have the PICK of the men in whoever you choose. And you have your career and money to back you up if they ever are "fickle" for you and not fulfilling/and or hurt you.

My Jupiter is Gemini, Saturn Capricorn. I know I have a "hard Saturn aspect" whatever that means.

But I agree with you, I'm done with just relationship for the sake of it. Stressing myself out because these men don't have what I want, then trying to mold them. I should be with someone for who they are, I'm done with potential.

I'm finally making more money and have so much less stress in life. I don't NEED someone. I'll work on being more content just being me, I do have a multitude of great friends. I just have to dust off my shoulders and focus, be selfish and keep busy. I am 25...I'm sure the right person will come along eventually. I'll take my time observing prospects vs jumping in after the 2nd date too. There's no way you could know someone. I want to see who someone really is vs just their best behavior facade

I know I've said this countless times before, but right now I really am meaning it. Hmm I guess it just took falling in love again after years and getting my heart broken to realize it? Well if that's not a harsh ass reality check, I don't know what is!

I'll be overly hesitant with any prospects. I'll always go on my first gut

I also need to move away from that whole group of friends that are messed up. Some are good characters, but my messed up old roommates? The middle aged couple who tried to be my parents, change me, and block me over a screen shot they thought was about them? Drama, I didnt even have them on Facebook so someone screenshot it.

The husband always had things to explain about me...guess who's friends with my ex? A husband that cheated on his wife multiple times with year long affairs? Also a friend of mine and his..and all Vikings. A jobless for over 2 years man who used to be a skin head and do bad things, hit on me after the break up...also his roommate and LEADER of Vikings

I also need to move away from that whole group of friends that are messed up. Some are good characters, but my messed up old roommates? The middle aged couple who tried to be my parents, change me, and block me over a screen shot they thought was about them? Drama, I didnt even have them on Facebook so someone screenshot it.

The husband always had things to explain about me...guess who's friends with my ex? A husband that cheated on his wife multiple times with year long affairs? Also a friend of mine and his..and all Vikings. A jobless for over 2 years man who used to be a skin head and do bad things, hit on me after the break up...also his roommate and LEADER of Vikings

Sorry for the double post.

Scorpio was weird...but you know what, he was honest. He didnt hide who he was, he didnt sugar coat anything, he said he wasn't interested in longterm or serious and was upfront the whole time. Even he offered some good advice on Leo. He and I aren't as close, but he remains a distant friend. I do like his silly antics and personality, just not for a romantic partner

I've been doing more things like plays, theater shows, movies, expanding my horizon with activities. Working out extra hard, paddle boarding etc. I think I may even join up a meet up group for my writing to get back into it

Posted by Agentgem24

Posted by lisabethur8
I guarantee you, once you are established in your career, you will have the PICK of the men in whoever you choose. And you have your career and money to back you up if they ever are "fickle" for you and not fulfilling/and or hurt you.

My Jupiter is Gemini, Saturn Capricorn. I know I have a "hard Saturn aspect" whatever that means.

But I agree with you, I'm done with just relationship for the sake of it. Stressing myself out because these men don't have what I want, then trying to mold them. I should be with someone for who they are, I'm done with potential.

I'm finally making more money and have so much less stress in life. I don't NEED someone. I'll work on being more content just being me, I do have a multitude of great friends. I just have to dust off my shoulders and focus, be selfish and keep busy. I am 25...I'm sure the right person will come along eventually. I'll take my time observing prospects vs jumping in after the 2nd date too. There's no way you could know someone. I want to see who someone really is vs just their best behavior facade

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ohhh detriment in Jupiter (not so lucky) in comparison to Jupiter in sagittarius. I've read some Jupiter in sagittarius people on here and they are just happy-go lucky in relationships, going about their ways.

And, i haven't really researched much into jupiter gemini celebs/famous people. Capricon Saturn, it's definitely a hard aspect...and in it's sign ruler. You can come off "cold" with your Libra moon, Capricorn saturn and Jupiter gemini. Not so much that Aquarius rising, because i know a few people with this rising, and they are dominant fire, and they just come off....odd and "different", but not cold. So it depends on the rest of the chart.

You have that nice cancer venus, and mars in cancer and that's a good indication of being a nice, warm relationship with you, so maybe someone with Aries in them to help you balance out your libra moon. An aries venus, moon and/mars is great. Cancer/Aries is square but with enough good aspects, you can make it feel good, and not tooo boring and not too "stressful" either.

Just think about this for your future, AFTER you get your career going. (since you know a bit about astrology)

but well, you can't help who you are at

attracted to, or who you attract. *shrug* it might be that you can't get an aries dominant man.

but since you're going to be in LAW enforcement....that's where Aries Venus men usually LOVE those ladies...the modern warrior types. 🙂

good luck out there.

Are those good positions for me to be with you think? I always thought with cancer Venus and mars I needed other earth and water placements as air and fire could be too aloof.

Leo was Gemini Venus and Aries mars. First Leo lasted 4 years and was great, Virgo Venus and Leo mars. My best friend and I get along so well and she's cancer sun and Gemini Venus.

I guess I just want to know if I should fear air and fire Venus placements, not so worried about fire mars

The worst was a frenemy. Pisces sun, Aries rising, Aries moon, Pisces Venus and mars.

My mom and grandpa are cancers
My grandma libra
My stepmom, brothers dad(divorced but still my main dad) and biological dad (not close) are Sag

Brother Virgo

I'm very close to mom, brother, brothers dad, stepmom, and grandpa

Posted by Agentgem24
Are those good positions for me to be with you think? I always thought with cancer Venus and mars I needed other earth and water placements as air and fire could be too aloof.

Leo was Gemini Venus and Aries mars. First Leo lasted 4 years and was great, Virgo Venus and Leo mars. My best friend and I get along so well and she's cancer sun and Gemini Venus.

I guess I just want to know if I should fear air and fire Venus placements, not so worried about fire mars

well dominant air needs dominant air. Something i've noticed with dominant air people, from researching ect... So.....even though you have key water placements. you are dominant air alone just by those triple air signs, and including that jupiter gemini thrown in.

and i do notice that if you don't have some fire, even a little, you can easily PUT OUT the fire with so much /dominant air you have. Too much water can put out fire too. Just as much as too much air.

Astrology is also very "chemistry" based.

Oh wow I never knew that. And all this time I was avoiding signs with air/fire in their love sector etc because I thought they couldn't understand me.

Is it also possible for sign positions to not mesh, but the people get along very well?

The one Scorpio I got along with well was very libra dominant as far as rising, moon, mercury, etc