Update regarding that Leo doctor....

Well, I've been basically pretty quiet around him since he was in a way forced to admit he has a girlfriend. I'm so glad I found this out sooner than later, that's for sure. However, my goal is to at least have him as a friend. Whether I'll ever achieve that goal, I don't know as only time will tell. I know you can't be friends with everyone but with some people it should be possible.

As for Leo, I'm just being myself. He doesn't seem to know what to do around me. At times he looks longer at me than usual and other times he doesn't. Oh well, I can't be bothered by it all. I did send him a text last Monday (Nov 20th) saying I was sorry if I acted strange towards him but that I had found my dog dead in the morning. I also continued with telling him I hope he and I can still be friends when I'm done at the hospital on Dec.15. If he was going to plan anything to do to let me know. He never responded back to me. So I don't know if no response means he agrees or he doesn't agree. He hasn't said anything to me at the hospital about the text. I can be friends with guys even if they have a girlfriend. I'll never be interested in a guy who is already taken. However, guys and gals can be friends in my opinion. Well, he asked me last Monday what I did for the weekend which is something he's never asked before. When he was going to talk to patient, he had trouble getting the patient out of the chair and I saw Leo was struggling. I asked Leo if he wanted help and he said yes. I followed with the patient and Leo. Then later on I saw him and he was really confused as he has so much work. He's very much scatterbrained. When he was going to help the same patient from before, he asked me if I could help him. I told him sweetly: "Well, since you are asking so nicely, I guess I could" and then I laughed. Then I went out of the department as I had to deliver a lab paper and he followed me halfway since the department had to be locked up. He felt he could go out with me and I said he sure could. We walked down the hallway and talked (nothing serious) and then he said he'll see me later. I just said yeah. I know for sure he and I don't fit together. Since I took a step back to look at the situation, he's too immature for me. I'm glad I found this out sooner rather than later. However, it would be great to have him as a friend. Now whether he's mature enough for that remains to be seen.

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He sees me almost every day now so that can be a reason why he doesn't let me know if he's going to be doing anything or shop up at the food store where I work. I honestly think I scare the heck out of him because I haven't changed towards him. I still act the same as I did before I found out he has a girlfriend. This more than likely confuses him but I want him to see I'm not after him and that I can handle being friends with him. I will be honest though, if I didn't find out he has a girlfriend, I would have gone full force with him as I truly do like him but not like I use to. In fact some of the respect I had for him went out the window because he wasn't honest with me in the beginning. I'm going to find someone who is much better suited that's for sure.

This past Friday there was a luncheon in the department. This is where the doctors, personell and patients eat together. Since I know he has a girlfriend, I've backed off and he isn't as obvious as he once was. He still does at times give me longer looks than usual. However, on Friday he and another female doctor went into the room where the luncheon was going to be held. There were two tables. He and the female doctor sat at one of the tables. He sat the ending of the table so there would be a chair on each side of him. The female doctor sat on one side of him and the other side of him was vacant. I was so surprised that he had placed himself there when I came in. Now you would think I would have gone over to him and sit next to him. I felt his eyes on me when I came in the room. Nope, I did my typical Aquarian move and went to the other table and did not sit next to him. God, did I want to sit next to him but I felt he should have asked me too. I don't want it to look like I'm chasing a man who has a girlfriend. When I was talking at the other table, I could hear he would stop talking to listen to what I was talking about with the other people. It's probably like he thought for sure I would sit next to him since he placed himself the way he did. I do my typical Aquarian trait with just when you think you know me, you don't. I don't do this with people I care about though. I was so pleased with myself because I was showing him, I'm not chasing him because I think that is what he would like me to do.

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I did on Saturday send him a text message. On Dec. 8th he's going to Paris and he has said to me he'll be having a long weekend. On Dec. 11th, I'll be having a big cake with me as I'll be having my final evaluating that day in the Psychiatrics ward. Therefore I wanted to know if he'll be at work on Dec. 11th since he was going to be in Paris that weekend. It took him a half an hour before he responded. Can you believe he responded to me? He wrote back he'll be going to Paris on Thursday and wouldn't be home until Monday night. I wrote back I thought that was a shame and asked if he'll be at work on Thursday then. He responded back by text saying yes he would and wanted to know what was up. I sent a text back saying that I was going to be having a big cake with on Dec. 11th and was hoping he'd be there. I continued saying that I know he's allergic (he has allerges) so that I had bought something for him that I know he likes as I've been observering him. I told him not to laugh at what I got when I give it to him on Thursday then since he won't be around on Monday, Dec. 11th. He's allergic to chocolate and nuts. The cake I got is chocolate. So what he's going to get on Thursday is pancakes (he absolutely adores those) and a 1 1/2 liter of Coke Cola Zero. On most mornings he comes in with Coke Cola Zero and inside I laugh because I've never seen a doctor drink soda so early in the morning. It's hysterical. The first time I saw him do this, I thought it was so funny. I'm very much of an observer of people, and if I like you, I'll find something I know you like. I don't know how he'll react on Thursday, but my goal is to have him at least as a friend. Whether he's capable of seeing me as a friend, I don't know. I think it all comes down to how mature he is.

It is good that you know it is a good thing it didn't work out. That always makes it better.

I love the pancake/coke zero idea! That is cute. I think he will love it.

LS,

So do I. I'm sure he's going to laugh though. Basically, I don't think he's met anyone like me before. I just want to end things with him on a high note. Although inside I'm still a little annoyed with him because things just seemed so right. Well, it wasn't afterall. Thank God I found out as early as I did. Hopefully, he'll be mature enough to stay in contact with me. If not, then, that it's a shame, but not the end of the world.

*** But we look inside 1st to determine that....

Oooh! This makes SENSE!

I always find a lot of Leos mistrust me in the beginning but if I poke away at them, they suddenly seem to realize I am a harmless, affectionate, playful little person that just likes them and wants the best for them. It can be a hard battle though.

** When we see how a relationship might end of we back off, we try to determine will this person or myself be able to handle what can happen here.

This is interesting as well. I find I do that to an extent. I gernerally do it if I know the other person is into me more than I am into them though.

Chocolate,

I totally agree with you. It wouldn't have been healthy for either of us. I have to admit though it was him who saw that first then. Well, I was forced to see it when suddenly said he has a girlfriend.

No, I haven't seen his office to know he's scatterbrain, but he's forgetful. He doesn't get half the things done that he should and he wants to do everything himself. It's like us nurses and nursing students don't exist. He wants to do EVERYTHING. Also, he's too nice. Everyone says he's so kind and doesn't make much of a fuss. He never says no to anything. If something has to get done, he'll do it even it he's at work for 12 hours.

I do hope he sees me as a genuine friend because that is what I am. I've noticed whenever there are pancakes or waffles around, he becomes like a kid. He eats so many of them at a time as he's so hungry. Some of the nurses kid him about how much he eats. This is why I know he loves pancakes. The Coke thing is actually a joke on my part. I couldn't believe he was drinking Coke at 8.30 in the morning. This is my way of showing him I've been watching him. Also I hope he can realize that I could value him as a geniune friend.

I'd send you pancakes, Chocolate, but it's a little difficult through the net. 🙂

*** I'm sure he's going to laugh though.

I am sure he will too! But it will be a good laugh. Laughing at himself.

I don't think he meant to hurt you Mystic. He was just attracted to you. He dealt with it as soon and as best he could. But I understand why you were/are disappointed.

LS,

Well, it will be great to see if he does laugh because it's all done in fun. I'm not making fun of him but I just have to show it to him.

No, I don't think he meant to hurt me, that's for sure. You see, I'm so good at hiding my emotions, I don't think he realized how much I liked him until I suddenly, in a way, said it at the luncheon almost a month ago. It was then he realized it was him. Before that, I don't think he thought I saw him anything more than a friend. Now I do because 1). I'm forced to and 2). I'd rather have him as a friend than nothing at all.

Yeah, I'm still a little disappointed but I've moved on. No reason to cry over spilt milk. That Virgo guy is still around. Now he calls me at least once a month. I don't get it. One day, my day will come. I just wonder when though. Well, it will probably happen when I'm the least prepared for it. Just like it happened with Leo. However, I've learnt a valuable lesson. Never, never let the guy know you like them after only 2 1/2 weeks. I never did it before so it was a new experience for me. Well, since it failed, I won't do that again. The next guy, I'll keep things cool and ride it out and see what happens.

TEASE!

😛

Not fair. Hurry up with that lunch, Chocolate. 🙂

what did you have for lunch?

I had 2 Vietnamese spring rolls and Vietnamese chicken soup heavy on the hot sauce. YUMMM!

Of course, I ate too much and now feel sick ... but I digress.

Sounds nice. Don't rush things. Virgos usually start off with friendships with potential mates. Be his friend to begin with and you'll be fine. That's what I've done with the Virgo in my case. He's calling me now once a month. Well, I don't get him and I don't think I ever will. Tomorrow is a sad day for him. I'm thinking of giving him a call as it's a year ago he broke up with his ex. Friends are there for each other. Whether he'll be surprised or not, I don't know. I'm just showing my support.

*** Virgo guy is 41, bald,blue-eyes, self-employed, sexy, intelligent,affectionate,good-hearted, very family-oriented

Nice!

*** Virgos usually start off with friendships with potential mates.

Actually, this can be untrue. Generally if they are into you, they are into you and will wine and dine you from the start. It is actually part of the reason I like and have dated so many Virgos ... just no mystery. Plus, they tend to have good manners and are kind. They just look after you.

good for you chocolate, you need someone to keep you warm during those cold northern nights.

I didn't know that you were from Ohio. I have a few friends here from Columbus. Great guys, except for the alcoholism.

I had to concentrate on work and life for awhile, feeling guilty that I was wasting too much company time on an astrology message board. Or that someone would find out.

Dublin eh? Be leery that he might have the Irish disease, aka the Wee Willy. Leprechauns are the only Irish that are anatomically proportional.

(j/k, i know you mean Dublin,OH)

COOOKKKIEEE!!!

(hops happily up and down on one foot!)

I didn't even read the post I was so excited. Welcome back!

*** Thats exactly how he was, very attentive to whatever i wanted...his manners is and was beyond what i expected.

This has been my experience. And it doesn't stop. If they love you, even if it doesn't work out, they will still be there for you. Good people those virgos.

Same with me too, Chocolate, about the first time a Virgo male to enter my domain. I didn't have a clue of what was to come. To be honest, I'm still a little confused about him but hey, he's still around so I guess that's good. I'm calling the Virgo guy in my case. At first, I was thinking of doing it. Now, I know I'm going to do it tomorrow. He just doesn't know it yet. I usually let him do the calling. Well, now I'll call him.

At the risk of Roni yelling at me, as he always does when I go off topic ... 🙂

Virgo guys tend to be very old fashioned. Reliable, dependable, well mannered. They do have a hard time with commitment later on down the road but because he is 41 ... I suspect he is past that.

They tend to say I love you by doing your taxes, fixing your plumbing, and otherwise just encouraging you to be happy.

They NEED your happiness. Not being happy with them "tawks", "swaks", and other complaints kill them on the inside. They are very sensitive to criticisms but they can become maudlin and very tender if you just leave them alone, don't nag them, and just let them do their thing.

good people.

Oh ... you will fall in love with his weaknesses and his vulnerablities. It is very bizzare how they do that to us ladies.

As long as you remain chocolate without becoming codependent, you will be fine. Virgo guys need a woman who doesn't give herself away and make him her whole life.

How sweet. Yeah, having a bit of distance between you two will make the heart grow fonder. He'll miss you and vice versa.

Thanks for the encouragement about calling Virgo guy. I haven't tried to call him since the beginning of August. He's been the one calling me at least once a month since. I'm a little nervous calling him, but I will do it. Now whether I get him on the phone I don't know. The last time he called me was on November 24th in the afternoon, but I was at work so I couldn't pick up. The few times I've called him, he's always pleasantly surprised, but he's said he likes to do the calling. I've gone along with this. However, now I'm going to call him tomorrow as I know he'll be in a little bit of sad mood. He had only told me once before he and his ex broke up on December 5th 2005. For some reason I remembered this date and have been waiting for the opportunity and courage to call him since he and I are friends.

Yeah, meaning?

Meaning have a full life outside him. Keep up your own interests, hobbies, friends.

Cool. Maybe that's why I hear from Virgo guy at least once a month since he knows I have a full life without him. Oh, I don't know anymore. Sometimes I get confused by him.

Mystic

Don't worry about it. Seriously. If he liked you *in that way*, you would know without question. They court girls. You would know.

Well, then that's good he doesn't like me *in that way* because I wouldn't know how to handle that then.

What I am trying to say, ineloquently, is don't get yourself twisted up in a does "he like me that way/doesn't he like me" game.

It doesn't matter because he isn't courting you.

You will find the right guy for you. Just like I will find the right guy for me. In the meantime, we can keep each other company.

Trust me. I am very frustrated the last Leo didn't work out so I know how it goes.

chin up!
tits out!

I'm for that with keeping each other company. 🙂

Well, I'm glad he isn't courting me because he's all over the place. It always seems when he's dating a girl, it only lasts for about 2-3 months and he suddenly wants to be free again. I don't understand that. Also when he's single he wants more sex than when he's with someone. I thought he was joking when he said that but he was dead serious. I would have thought you want more sex when you're with someone than the other way around. Well, he's told me he's not the typical Virgo, but I don't know. All I do know is I hope he and I will always be friends as he's a fascinating person.

Yeah, we'll find somebody someday. More than likely when we're least prepared for it.