what is up with his texting?

Posted by estelita
Hello everyone!

I met this really sweet Leo in June and we went on two dates. He said really nice things like 'it's so easy with you, you're so good to me, you're beautiful' and was touching my face... it was really sweet. I had to go to my home country for 2 months and his texting was not that good, would take days to answer.

I came back last week to where we both live and he set up a date, and said he was super excited to see me. He came with his best friend and his girlfriend, so it was a double date. I was slightly nervous at first as i hadn't seen him in two months and it was only our third date. I kissed him though and we were very affectionate. Then we went to his house and hung out with his other best friends, so we didn't have much alone time together. When we had sex it was soo intense, he said it was the best sex he has ever had. We didn't talk much after sex in bed though which is what I love to do, he seemed very tired, but he did say I'm pretty and made plans for Saturday when he comes back from holiday and that I am so good to him.

I asked him if I could watch the boxing game with him and he said he couldn't cuz it was going to be just guys but he would see me the following Saturday when he comes back (maybe he forgot about this plan though).

He asked me to text him while he is gone on holiday, so I did send him a nice selfie of me, and he took 24 hours to respond but sent me some nice pics. Today this morning I asked if he was free on Saturday (he gets back tonight),and he has been online on whatsapp but not answered me... it has been 12 hours and he has been online posting photos and stuff since I wrote to him. I am overthinking or is this a bad sign? I am scared to get hurt :/

He is Leo with moon in aquarius, venus in cancer, mercury virgo and mars taurus.

I am taurus with moon in aries, venus in cancer, mercury aries and mars cancer!!

It's simple, you need to be calm down because you're overthinking everything. You've been on three dates and he's openly expressed wanting to see/hear from you, even when he was away. You obviously want more of his time, but he may not be ready to speed things up just yet. He's still getting to know you after all.

Leos tend not to be great texters, espcially if we don't have an end goal. We prefer face to face interactions the most. 9 times out of 10 if you're going to get a text from a Leo, it will be an invitation to get together. So when you two weren't together for those two months, he probably didn't see a reason to text you much because he didn't know what was going to happen between you. However notice how he set up a date as soon as you returned.

You've also met his best friend and the best friend's girlfriend, which is a good sign. If a Leo likes you, we'll "show you off" to our friends and family. If he didn't like you, it's unlikely you would have met those people.

Also know that Leos can be cautious when dealing with new love and we know how to play, "the game". Our greatest strength and weakness is our heart, which we will be cautious to give up. Additionally know that we are also busy people and enjoy our freedom, so it can take us a while to respond to texts. 12-24 hours is longer than expected, but also you two aren't in a relationship either. Just go with the flow on this one.

Looking at his placements you are dealing with a guy who has a somewhat old fashioned idea of love, even if his approach in unconventional. As a Leo Sun he will be passionate and direct, but with an Aqua Moon he will also seem emotionally detached. He may seem ot disappear at times, but as long as you remain consistent, he will return.

Understand that Aqua energy can be smothered by too much emotion. It's an energy that enjoys having its space. As an Aqua Moon he will not wish to be reigned in, wanting to do things his own way on his own time. Leo energy however will be looking for a passionate lover capable to taming his heart. Since Leo and Aqua are opposites, he may have an internal conflict concerning when he wants to conform vs. when he wants to rebel (against anything).

His Venus in Cancer and Mars in Taurus screams that he needs emotional security. His Taurus Mars also suggests that he will take things slowly at his own pace. He can't be forced to do anything he doesn't want to do, but will have an amazing persistence/drive if he's interested.

As a Taurus Sun you can understand this. Your Moon in Aries though will make you a bit impatient though, so you'll need to slow down a bit. Likewise your Mars in Cancer will be uncomfortable when your pursuit is unclear. Don't resort to anything passive agressive or overly emotional. If you want something from your Leo, just ask. More so, if something is troubling you, state it in the most logical way possible. Don't try to force anything.

For example instead of saying, "Why don't you text me more? Are you ok? This is so annoying when you don't respiond" say something along the lines of, "Hey hope everything is going well. Just reaching out to see how you are. Get back to me whenever you're free." Then let him get back to you at his own pace.

Also know your communication style s and thought processes will be very different. As a Virgo Mercury he will be more practical, logical, and analytical. He won't be extremely emotional when he speaks and may appear to react slowly. You however may be the exact opposite. Knowing that, try to remain calm so you don't wind up exploding whenever he doesn't move as fast as you'd expect.'

One last thing. Since both of you have Venus in Cancer, you will both be looking for emotionally secure relationships. You'll both be very intuitive, but prone to overthinking and paranoia as well. You're both going to be afraid of rejection. Just know he'll be taking things as a steady pace as a result.

Hello everyone,

I just went on a date with him. We had lunch, then cinema and then drinks. He said he doesn't want a relationship... but then kissed me on the lips after we had a really intense and deep talk. He said he's used to having friends with benefits but feels he can't do that to me because he doesn't want to hurt me. He wants to hang out as friends and invited me to a vegan place next week (I'm vegetarian).

Obviously I'm really upset, having my Venus in cancer I crave affection and get very hurt easily. Especially as today I looked so pretty and he couldn't take his eyes off of me and I was confident. So I'm just gonna to assume he doesn't like me... I am blaming his aqua moon which is just too detached, but any advice is welcome! Xxx

Posted by JustALeo
Hey estelita,

He said he's not looking for a relationship, so please remember that! Don't let him use you or lie to you because if he has fwbs, he might try to. And he probably knows you want him, so don't give in.

Remember, he DOESN'T want a relationship, never chase after someone who doesn't want you the same way. Do yourself a favor and move on.

This.

Posted by estelita
But I am correct in saying that if the right girl were to come along he would be ready for a relationship, no? He said it to me when I just met him, cuz he wants to date other girls, but I do feel if he likes someone enough he would commit.

Sure. But he already met you, so your not the one to make him change. Don't give your body and heart to him thinking that will change if you do.