When the fire burns out

Fellow Leos,
How do you get it back.
Years of failed dreams, hard life, heartbreak have turned me into a blank burned out person. Not the ravenous brave soul I once was.
How do you get your fire back? Calling on all my lions. Help me out here. I miss myself.

Got nothing here, sadly. I will say that even lions get softer as they age. I still get fire in my belly in fits and starts, and it's fun when it happens. But I don't think I could maintain that intensity even if I wanted to.

Try to brush off the dust of past disappointment and look to the future. It's all open and available for positive things to fill it.

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As a woman, I feel I've put myself too much into failed relationships. I should have been building myself.
But you know how it is, when we love, we give our all.

You don't have to be the same person, you can be a different person..
Deeper, wiser, a little cooler and maybe the fires are banked low, but the coals still smolder 🙂
Think about what you can build on and maybe not necessarily rebuilding what you Had.

My brain's FIIIRST thought at reading "How do you get it back?": "Look in the mirror." xDDDDDD LMFAO!! -cough-funnystereotype-cough
ANYWAY!!

Just chill.
Find things to appreciate about yourself little by little. 🙂
Every person is worth it no matter what their sun sign is.

Posted by underwaterthing
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As a woman, I feel I've put myself too much into failed relationships. I should have been building myself.
But you know how it is, when we love, we give our all.

I hear ya sister. If you're still in one, focus on strengthening yourself. I'm sure doing that now and our relationship is healing. If you're on your own, do the same. Make yourself go out into the world...wiser and more in tune with your needs in a relationship.

I know what I would've done if I ended up single after this relationship, and while my needs are not really being met, I'm working on focusing on what needs are, and how I can try to meet those needs myself. It's a little uncomfortable for him (he's used to me "giving my all") but he's adjusting. And starting to see that he needs to participate.

You'll find yourself again. You will.

Posted by wagtail
You don't have to be the same person, you can be a different person..
Deeper, wiser, a little cooler and maybe the fires are banked low, but the coals still smolder 🙂
Think about what you can build on and maybe not necessarily rebuilding what you Had.

^^^^ THIS.

Posted by sultrykitty

Posted by underwaterthing
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As a woman, I feel I've put myself too much into failed relationships. I should have been building myself.
But you know how it is, when we love, we give our all.

I hear ya sister. If you're still in one, focus on strengthening yourself. I'm sure doing that now and our relationship is healing. If you're on your own, do the same. Make yourself go out into the world...wiser and more in tune with your needs in a relationship.

I know what I would've done if I ended up single after this relationship, and while my needs are not really being met, I'm working on focusing on what needs are, and how I can try to meet those needs myself. It's a little uncomfortable for him (he's used to me "giving my all") but he's adjusting. And starting to see that he needs to participate.

You'll find yourself again. You will.

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Oh my gosh I am digging your astrological placements ! 🙂 It's like we match and the moons are partners.

There is fire in and passion in calmness too, just wiser and looking from a distance, knowing everything there is to know
Thats what we learn from failed relationships, no failure, just a lesson learned right...sometimes it just simmers down to a smoldering fire, but you're a leo, you will ALWAYS have fire 😉
Believe in yourself

Love ya'll. Thank you

Yup. Same situation here. I feel empty, like all my fire is gone away. I get bored of everything, even from myself. Though still trying to do things to get over this: doing sports, attending activities, going out, dance class, writing, drawing, music, etc. Every littles help.
You got to give yourself time. Take it slowly and don't push yourself too hard. It will come back. On another level. On a different way. Wiser, more steady and brighter. But you got to keep believing in yourself and give yourself a chance to be happy.. You know what they say : time heals. Some people need only 3 months, whilst others need 2 years.. Don't give up. You're a lion! Lions don't give up..
Love..

Posted by underwaterthing
Fellow Leos,
How do you get it back.
Years of failed dreams, hard life, heartbreak have turned me into a blank burned out person. Not the ravenous brave soul I once was.
How do you get your fire back? Calling on all my lions. Help me out here. I miss myself.

Do what? 😕

When you finish a chapter in a book... what do you do?

You probably read the next chapter.

You do not go back and re-read Chapter 1-- armed with all the information

you learned about the story, you run on to Chapter 2.

As a "ravenous, brave soul".... you got your heart stomped on, and you learned

that Life is not Fair, and that you're going to have to find another "dream" or something.


I feel like you're wandering dangerously close to self-pity, which is nothing but

a useless, fucking vortex of despair.

So to answer your question... having been refined by the fire-- you get rid of what

no longer serves you, and you Keep Moving.


You will be fine... you're a LEO. 🙂

Just wanted to add, you Leo men are so sexy and smart. Explore and discover an outlet that utilizes your strong points and watch that mane puffs up.

Self-pity and doubt is Leo kryptonite. You have to remember it takes strength to go through adversity and come out the other side, regardless of the bruises and who is at fault. Learn the lessons you need to learn and find the silver lining, then change up your routine. Find the people who support you most and support them back. Rebuild your friendships or create better ones. While we Leos can function solo, we are better with a support group. Help others, even it it's just a little bit. Be sure to put yourself in a place where you can create and/or advance through perseverance and focus. Find a hobby, project or passion and turn it into a job. Be willing to immerse yourself into that job and build yourself up piece by piece. Count the days until you get to a week. Then count the weeks until you get to a month. Make the goal to be in a better place in literally 12 months, then stop counting. Set multiple goals while you're at it and knock each one down. Others will naturally gravitate toward you, you just need to hit the grindstone and don't look back until you've moved that mountain. Each new achievement will make you feel that much better. Do the seemingly impossible because you're a Leo and that's what you do.