will someone help me out? : (

This topic was created in the Leo forum by wheelhomies on Friday, August 31, 2007 and has 27 replies.

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i am having a bit of trouble with this scorpio dude. i'm trying not to be stupid about it but i don't know what to think anymore. my friends don't know i've been talking to him cause we have some kind of not good history together so i haven't told anyone and i don't want to until i know what to make of him. anyone in a problem solving mood—

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well, a couple years ago i met this guy from spain. he lives in the US because he goes to school here but he's going back to spain at the end of this school year, and he now lives in another state. i really liked him, but he's 24 (then 23) and he used to treat me pretty badly. i think it was partly because he saw me as a little girl. it was pretty much the typical scorpio runaround, but i did it for a while because he was so damn hot, and when he wasn't being an asshole we connected really well, and on top of that he taught me some spanish too (which i've unfortunately gotten a lot worse at since i've been at college). anyway i can't really remember exactly when it was that i got tired of him. he neglected me a lot and that is difficult to deal with. it dawned on me that i could be "on the side" while there was someone else he was more concerned with so i just stopped bothering to try and talk to him. so we didn't even talk for, let me think...it must have been about a year. then a couple weeks ago, i decided to sign on to msn (which i don't use regularly and hadn't used for a really long time) and as soon as i sign on, lo and behold the first person to message me is him.

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and he was like, i tried to get a hold of you so many times and you never responded, i thought you hated me. and i'm thinking to myself, oh really, because i don't recall. and i said that, and he said that he did and i could believe what i wanted. so anyway i started talking to him, basically airing out all the issues i had with him (because he wouldn't stop asking me to tell him why i just stopped talking to him). and he told me he really liked me and BLAH BLAH BLAH and he didn't understand and all i can say is wtf? he lives a long way away now, and i don't understand why he would want to start this w/me. and he keeps playing innocent, like he did nothing to warrant my reaction (which is pretty close to hatred, i'd say). and he just makes comments that are romantic, i would post them here but i'd have to change the names and stuff and don't feel like it. i guess it's hard to understand but i asked him why he changed his attitude toward me so much and he insists he hasn't. but it's obvious, and i think he's playing w/me. 😢

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yeah girl that's game *giggling*

now some people are going to over analyze this but when it comes down to it, he's playing with you.

play with him right back or cut him off again...

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i don't wanna play though lol i still have feelings somewhere. i can't do that. maybe i should just cut him off, but being irrational, i don't want to. it's so stupid because i KNOW i can, i mean i already did, but what the heck keeps me from saying goodbye?? it's so pointless.

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"but, when they don't come around, we kitties just move on. it does sound like he wants to play now, but the question is: do you want to play with him? is he worth it to give him a chance, or is he just going to dick you around?"

exactly.

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alright, the next time that number comes up, if i notice it, i'll answer.

and antibling, i didn't initiate contact with him. i was expecting not to be on his contact list anymore, i mean it was a year since we talked last and i didn't seem very important so...

it really took me by surprise, and continues to...maybe once i get my bearings it won't seem so confusing, but that's the thing, i don't KNOW if i should play back. i have been, but what can ever come of it? it would be smarter to find someone completely new, esp because hey i'm back at school and i'm going to some parties this weekend...😛...but there's something i can't define that makes me think of him.

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actually that is a good idea though, cause they'd be pissed, and they'd be rude, and then he would probably leave me alone, and i wouldn't have to worry about what to do anymore...*ponders*

but that's also kind of childish and would leave it with as little closure as before. if i cut him off, i want it to be on my own terms and leaving no doubt of the intent.

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NOT you bling. i knew what you meant prring. hmm...as usual, dxp has gotten the wheels turning.

prring - it's not worth it. you're right.
chocolate - that would be really mean. sure it would give me some kind of sadistic satisfaction, but i wouldn't do that to anyone intentionally. 😉
and nyx...yeah. i know.