Am I being friend-zoned by her?

I’ve been friends with this libra girl for almost a year, we used to work together too. She left in October and I left at the start of this month for a new job. In the past I asked her out a few times, and even had a surprise gift for her birthday, which she would end up flaking out on in mine and mutual friend’s opinion. Because she had flaked out on me 3 times, I went cold on her. Didn’t speak to her and pretty much ignored her for a month. Looking back it was wrong and I should have talked to her about it. But at least she told our mutual friend that what she was doing to me was wrong too. So after, we talked and apologized before she went to her new job. When I got my new job and she congratulated me, I jokingly said we should celebrate to our new jobs at ______. She said she agreed completely. Thinking that she was just going to flake out me again, I didn’t take it seriously this time. However before we went out the first time, she asked me to be her “plus one” at her work Christmas party. I was shocked that she asked, but I told her I would be honored.

So when we went out the first time. It was cold outside even though there were heaters. It was a very short....date! is want I what to say because it was the first time we had been alone not just with friends. You don’t take someone to the place we went to as friends. The night ended with a nice big hug, I wasn’t going to kiss her so soon.

During this time whole time by the way, she had been texting me a lot more than she had in the past. And her texts were more lovey dovey/flirty. So her work party, I had to dress up and wear a suit. I was nervous, and didn’t talk much during the night because I wanted to make sure I didn’t embarrass her in front of her co-workers and leave a good impression. We did have a few drinks. Unlike the other night, she was very reserved, not touchy. She even introduced me to her co-workers as her “friend”. I was disappointed but kept my cool and acted normal. I tried asking her to dance, she didn’t want to. I asked her let’s take a picture, she agreed to. But other than that, it didn’t feel like a very romantic night. At the end, I gave her the look that I wanted to kiss her, but instead I got an awkward very forward-leaning half hug like she was trying to hug my stomach and not come up higher. There was no one around us too. I asked her to text me when she got home, she never did. And hasn’t said anything to me since then. So what is everyone’s opinion here. What should I do? I haven’t said anything to her and feel like I should. She’s been active on social media and it’s upsetting that she hasn’t said anything to me. A lot of our mutual friends believe she is using me as a backup and friend zoning me. I sadly believe that’s true.

It's a big guess on my part here but it sounds like you did something to really turn her off.

She was probably going through that regular libra nonsense of I like him today, I don't much fancy him tomorrow, I like him again the day after that.



She might have been feeling it but something happened and it turned her the other way.