Asked Out A Libra Man-Now He's Ignoring Me!!!

Libra woman here

Asked out this Libra guy at work via a short email after I felt that there was something between us. He used to say hi a lot, had snippets of conversations. We don't work in the same team.

In the email, I did leave an escape clause ("don't worry if you can't make it") to make it less awkward in case he said no. I addressed him by his first name in the email.

Got a response in 15mins along the lines of he's busy the coming week (did not respond to me by my name, just a simple "Hello"). I can see him from where I sit and he looked annoyed and I could sense these annoyed vibes from him. I thought I would see a smile from him. In the email, he did say however the week after might be quiet so I am left hanging.

I am super confused now not to mention sooo embarrassed (yes I am looking at you lot who said it was ok to ask out a Libra guy :p).

Libra man- any clue as to what might be going on in his head? He used to smile at me and say hi all the time. Now I feel like a super idiot.

Thanks for your responses in advance!

I admire your courage. I can never ask a guy out. Oh the rejection.. I just can't..

Anyway you're a Libra too, aren't you? You should know that the dude is not interested. He seemed flirty to you but to him he was just being friendly.

Well I am dying inside now, so don't follow my example :p

I did advance on the presumption that he was not interested, but boy does rejection hurt! And now I will be all awkward and turned off around him (urrggghhhhh)

But there is a slight sliver of hope I cling on to :p

Libra's dont go well together. Get a Leo or Sag.

he definitely just likes you as a friend. oh and he also probably has a girlfriend.

i would wait until the week after. he might just be genuinely busy.

thinking he was annoyed could be a misinterpretation.

just go about your business. if he wants to go out when he is less busy he knows where to find you.

don't worry about being rejected. guys are rejected all the time. be confident that you have a lot to offer someone and on this occasion, it wasn't to be.

it's only embarrassing if you feel embarrassed.

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And bring food.

Yasssss

Tacos

And pizza

And chicken wings

And enchiladas

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And bring food.

Yasssss

Tacos

And pizza

And chicken wings

And enchiladas

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How do you know his taste in food? Lol

To make situation less awkward - call him and ask to come over to your cubical. And flash boobs at him!

Watch his reaction. Post here. 🤣🤣🤣

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he definitely just likes you as a friend. oh and he also probably has a girlfriend.

damn!

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To make situation less awkward - call him and ask to come over to your cubical. And flash boobs at him!

Watch his reaction. Post here. 🤣🤣🤣

lol Gemitati, your comments made me really laugh out loud at work :p

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i would wait until the week after. he might just be genuinely busy.

thinking he was annoyed could be a misinterpretation.

just go about your business. if he wants to go out when he is less busy he knows where to find you.

don't worry about being rejected. guys are rejected all the time. be confident that you have a lot to offer someone and on this occasion, it wasn't to be.

it's only embarrassing if you feel embarrassed.

Jeane-thanks for your wise words! I have been feeling so turbulent this past week-it's driving me nuts! Well, I shall see if he comes back to me this week!

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i would wait until the week after. he might just be genuinely busy.

thinking he was annoyed could be a misinterpretation.

just go about your business. if he wants to go out when he is less busy he knows where to find you.

don't worry about being rejected. guys are rejected all the time. be confident that you have a lot to offer someone and on this occasion, it wasn't to be.

it's only embarrassing if you feel embarrassed.

Jeane-thanks for your wise words! I have been feeling so turbulent this past week-it's driving me nuts! Well, I shall see if he comes back to me this week!

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happy to help and if he doesn't come back to you, then who wants an easily annoyed arsehole around? his loss.

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i would wait until the week after. he might just be genuinely busy.

thinking he was annoyed could be a misinterpretation.

just go about your business. if he wants to go out when he is less busy he knows where to find you.

don't worry about being rejected. guys are rejected all the time. be confident that you have a lot to offer someone and on this occasion, it wasn't to be.

it's only embarrassing if you feel embarrassed.

Jeane-thanks for your wise words! I have been feeling so turbulent this past week-it's driving me nuts! Well, I shall see if he comes back to me this week!

happy to help and if he doesn't come back to you, then who wants an easily annoyed arsehole around? his loss.

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awwiee-thanks Jeane! The problem is, he's really lovely and friendly though-making it harder to hate him *sigh* If he doesn't come back to me this week, I think I will have a quick word to dispel the awkwardness I can sense is building up between us. Plus I don't want him to see me as a weak, love sick puppy (which I feel I am). Did I say I am married btw? :p

Did you think to find out if he'd got a gf or not before you dived in?

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i would wait until the week after. he might just be genuinely busy.

thinking he was annoyed could be a misinterpretation.

just go about your business. if he wants to go out when he is less busy he knows where to find you.

don't worry about being rejected. guys are rejected all the time. be confident that you have a lot to offer someone and on this occasion, it wasn't to be.

it's only embarrassing if you feel embarrassed.

Jeane-thanks for your wise words! I have been feeling so turbulent this past week-it's driving me nuts! Well, I shall see if he comes back to me this week!

happy to help and if he doesn't come back to you, then who wants an easily annoyed arsehole around? his loss.

awwiee-thanks Jeane! The problem is, he's really lovely and friendly though-making it harder to hate him *sigh* If he doesn't come back to me this week, I think I will have a quick word to dispel the awkwardness I can sense is building up between us. Plus I don't want him to see me as a weak, love sick puppy (which I feel I am). Did I say I am married btw? :p

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Are you in the process of a separation or a divorce?

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Did you think to find out if he'd got a gf or not before you dived in?

I did, but there was no way I was going to ask around his team mates and make my crush become an open secret. I figured the best way to find out in a discreet manner would be to email (leaving him room to squirm if need be) but I am overthinking things anyways like I usually do 😄

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i would wait until the week after. he might just be genuinely busy.

thinking he was annoyed could be a misinterpretation.

just go about your business. if he wants to go out when he is less busy he knows where to find you.

don't worry about being rejected. guys are rejected all the time. be confident that you have a lot to offer someone and on this occasion, it wasn't to be.

it's only embarrassing if you feel embarrassed.

Jeane-thanks for your wise words! I have been feeling so turbulent this past week-it's driving me nuts! Well, I shall see if he comes back to me this week!

happy to help and if he doesn't come back to you, then who wants an easily annoyed arsehole around? his loss.

awwiee-thanks Jeane! The problem is, he's really lovely and friendly though-making it harder to hate him *sigh* If he doesn't come back to me this week, I think I will have a quick word to dispel the awkwardness I can sense is building up between us. Plus I don't want him to see me as a weak, love sick puppy (which I feel I am). Did I say I am married btw? :p

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Does he know you're married?

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i would wait until the week after. he might just be genuinely busy.

thinking he was annoyed could be a misinterpretation.

just go about your business. if he wants to go out when he is less busy he knows where to find you.

don't worry about being rejected. guys are rejected all the time. be confident that you have a lot to offer someone and on this occasion, it wasn't to be.

it's only embarrassing if you feel embarrassed.

Jeane-thanks for your wise words! I have been feeling so turbulent this past week-it's driving me nuts! Well, I shall see if he comes back to me this week!

happy to help and if he doesn't come back to you, then who wants an easily annoyed arsehole around? his loss.

awwiee-thanks Jeane! The problem is, he's really lovely and friendly though-making it harder to hate him *sigh* If he doesn't come back to me this week, I think I will have a quick word to dispel the awkwardness I can sense is building up between us. Plus I don't want him to see me as a weak, love sick puppy (which I feel I am). Did I say I am married btw? :p

Are you in the process of a separation or a divorce?

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nope :S though I have mentioned to my husband several times that I will leave him eventually, but don't know when I will muster up the willpower to do so

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i would wait until the week after. he might just be genuinely busy.

thinking he was annoyed could be a misinterpretation.

just go about your business. if he wants to go out when he is less busy he knows where to find you.

don't worry about being rejected. guys are rejected all the time. be confident that you have a lot to offer someone and on this occasion, it wasn't to be.

it's only embarrassing if you feel embarrassed.

Jeane-thanks for your wise words! I have been feeling so turbulent this past week-it's driving me nuts! Well, I shall see if he comes back to me this week!

happy to help and if he doesn't come back to you, then who wants an easily annoyed arsehole around? his loss.

awwiee-thanks Jeane! The problem is, he's really lovely and friendly though-making it harder to hate him *sigh* If he doesn't come back to me this week, I think I will have a quick word to dispel the awkwardness I can sense is building up between us. Plus I don't want him to see me as a weak, love sick puppy (which I feel I am). Did I say I am married btw? :p

Does he know you're married?

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Now he probably does as I think he overheard a colleague of mine very loudly mention that I am married *super cringe* I have not mentioned it to him explicitly.

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i would wait until the week after. he might just be genuinely busy.

thinking he was annoyed could be a misinterpretation.

just go about your business. if he wants to go out when he is less busy he knows where to find you.

don't worry about being rejected. guys are rejected all the time. be confident that you have a lot to offer someone and on this occasion, it wasn't to be.

it's only embarrassing if you feel embarrassed.

Jeane-thanks for your wise words! I have been feeling so turbulent this past week-it's driving me nuts! Well, I shall see if he comes back to me this week!

happy to help and if he doesn't come back to you, then who wants an easily annoyed arsehole around? his loss.

awwiee-thanks Jeane! The problem is, he's really lovely and friendly though-making it harder to hate him *sigh* If he doesn't come back to me this week, I think I will have a quick word to dispel the awkwardness I can sense is building up between us. Plus I don't want him to see me as a weak, love sick puppy (which I feel I am). Did I say I am married btw? :p

Are you in the process of a separation or a divorce?

nope :S though I have mentioned to my husband several times that I will leave him eventually, but don't know when I will muster up the willpower to do so

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Oh ok. I'm confused.

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i would wait until the week after. he might just be genuinely busy.

thinking he was annoyed could be a misinterpretation.

just go about your business. if he wants to go out when he is less busy he knows where to find you.

don't worry about being rejected. guys are rejected all the time. be confident that you have a lot to offer someone and on this occasion, it wasn't to be.

it's only embarrassing if you feel embarrassed.

Jeane-thanks for your wise words! I have been feeling so turbulent this past week-it's driving me nuts! Well, I shall see if he comes back to me this week!

happy to help and if he doesn't come back to you, then who wants an easily annoyed arsehole around? his loss.

awwiee-thanks Jeane! The problem is, he's really lovely and friendly though-making it harder to hate him *sigh* If he doesn't come back to me this week, I think I will have a quick word to dispel the awkwardness I can sense is building up between us. Plus I don't want him to see me as a weak, love sick puppy (which I feel I am). Did I say I am married btw? :p

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you're married? do you have an open relationship? man, what are you doing—

Maybe you decide before jumping in with others

Could get messy

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i would wait until the week after. he might just be genuinely busy.

thinking he was annoyed could be a misinterpretation.

just go about your business. if he wants to go out when he is less busy he knows where to find you.

don't worry about being rejected. guys are rejected all the time. be confident that you have a lot to offer someone and on this occasion, it wasn't to be.

it's only embarrassing if you feel embarrassed.

Jeane-thanks for your wise words! I have been feeling so turbulent this past week-it's driving me nuts! Well, I shall see if he comes back to me this week!

happy to help and if he doesn't come back to you, then who wants an easily annoyed arsehole around? his loss.

awwiee-thanks Jeane! The problem is, he's really lovely and friendly though-making it harder to hate him *sigh* If he doesn't come back to me this week, I think I will have a quick word to dispel the awkwardness I can sense is building up between us. Plus I don't want him to see me as a weak, love sick puppy (which I feel I am). Did I say I am married btw? :p

you're married? do you have an open relationship? man, what are you doing—

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Exactly what I thought

Libra and partners hey ?

So your husband knows you're pursuing another guy?

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i would wait until the week after. he might just be genuinely busy.

thinking he was annoyed could be a misinterpretation.

just go about your business. if he wants to go out when he is less busy he knows where to find you.

don't worry about being rejected. guys are rejected all the time. be confident that you have a lot to offer someone and on this occasion, it wasn't to be.

it's only embarrassing if you feel embarrassed.

Jeane-thanks for your wise words! I have been feeling so turbulent this past week-it's driving me nuts! Well, I shall see if he comes back to me this week!

happy to help and if he doesn't come back to you, then who wants an easily annoyed arsehole around? his loss.

awwiee-thanks Jeane! The problem is, he's really lovely and friendly though-making it harder to hate him *sigh* If he doesn't come back to me this week, I think I will have a quick word to dispel the awkwardness I can sense is building up between us. Plus I don't want him to see me as a weak, love sick puppy (which I feel I am). Did I say I am married btw? :p

Does he know you're married?

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Now he probably does as I think he overheard a colleague of mine very loudly mention that I am married *super cringe* I have not mentioned it to him explicitly.

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I think he made the right call.

Dating married people is a recipe for disaster.

Things get messy



Can't blame him for wanting to stay drama.free.

Plus he probably like why is this married lady asking me out??

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i would wait until the week after. he might just be genuinely busy.

thinking he was annoyed could be a misinterpretation.

just go about your business. if he wants to go out when he is less busy he knows where to find you.

don't worry about being rejected. guys are rejected all the time. be confident that you have a lot to offer someone and on this occasion, it wasn't to be.

it's only embarrassing if you feel embarrassed.

Jeane-thanks for your wise words! I have been feeling so turbulent this past week-it's driving me nuts! Well, I shall see if he comes back to me this week!

happy to help and if he doesn't come back to you, then who wants an easily annoyed arsehole around? his loss.

awwiee-thanks Jeane! The problem is, he's really lovely and friendly though-making it harder to hate him *sigh* If he doesn't come back to me this week, I think I will have a quick word to dispel the awkwardness I can sense is building up between us. Plus I don't want him to see me as a weak, love sick puppy (which I feel I am). Did I say I am married btw? :p

you're married? do you have an open relationship? man, what are you doing—

Exactly what I thought

Libra and partners hey ?

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i think we can be terrible with that. shit gets too hard, we put our head in the sand and hope we can just pretend it's not there.

this can be with anything - difficult conversations, people that are pissing us off, unhappy situations. it's a real flaw i can see.

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i would wait until the week after. he might just be genuinely busy.

thinking he was annoyed could be a misinterpretation.

just go about your business. if he wants to go out when he is less busy he knows where to find you.

don't worry about being rejected. guys are rejected all the time. be confident that you have a lot to offer someone and on this occasion, it wasn't to be.

it's only embarrassing if you feel embarrassed.

Jeane-thanks for your wise words! I have been feeling so turbulent this past week-it's driving me nuts! Well, I shall see if he comes back to me this week!

happy to help and if he doesn't come back to you, then who wants an easily annoyed arsehole around? his loss.

awwiee-thanks Jeane! The problem is, he's really lovely and friendly though-making it harder to hate him *sigh* If he doesn't come back to me this week, I think I will have a quick word to dispel the awkwardness I can sense is building up between us. Plus I don't want him to see me as a weak, love sick puppy (which I feel I am). Did I say I am married btw? :p

Are you in the process of a separation or a divorce?

nope :S though I have mentioned to my husband several times that I will leave him eventually, but don't know when I will muster up the willpower to do so

Oh ok. I'm confused.

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So am I STILL, so am I...

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i would wait until the week after. he might just be genuinely busy.

thinking he was annoyed could be a misinterpretation.

just go about your business. if he wants to go out when he is less busy he knows where to find you.

don't worry about being rejected. guys are rejected all the time. be confident that you have a lot to offer someone and on this occasion, it wasn't to be.

it's only embarrassing if you feel embarrassed.

Jeane-thanks for your wise words! I have been feeling so turbulent this past week-it's driving me nuts! Well, I shall see if he comes back to me this week!

happy to help and if he doesn't come back to you, then who wants an easily annoyed arsehole around? his loss.

awwiee-thanks Jeane! The problem is, he's really lovely and friendly though-making it harder to hate him *sigh* If he doesn't come back to me this week, I think I will have a quick word to dispel the awkwardness I can sense is building up between us. Plus I don't want him to see me as a weak, love sick puppy (which I feel I am). Did I say I am married btw? :p

Are you in the process of a separation or a divorce?

nope :S though I have mentioned to my husband several times that I will leave him eventually, but don't know when I will muster up the willpower to do so

Oh ok. I'm confused.

So am I STILL, so am I...

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Lol

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Posted by jeane
i would wait until the week after. he might just be genuinely busy.

thinking he was annoyed could be a misinterpretation.

just go about your business. if he wants to go out when he is less busy he knows where to find you.

don't worry about being rejected. guys are rejected all the time. be confident that you have a lot to offer someone and on this occasion, it wasn't to be.

it's only embarrassing if you feel embarrassed.

Jeane-thanks for your wise words! I have been feeling so turbulent this past week-it's driving me nuts! Well, I shall see if he comes back to me this week!

happy to help and if he doesn't come back to you, then who wants an easily annoyed arsehole around? his loss.

awwiee-thanks Jeane! The problem is, he's really lovely and friendly though-making it harder to hate him *sigh* If he doesn't come back to me this week, I think I will have a quick word to dispel the awkwardness I can sense is building up between us. Plus I don't want him to see me as a weak, love sick puppy (which I feel I am). Did I say I am married btw? :p

you're married? do you have an open relationship? man, what are you doing—

Exactly what I thought

Libra and partners hey ?

i thnk we can be terrible with that. shit gets too hard, we put our head in the sand and hope we can just pretend it's not there.

this can be with anything difficult conversations, people that are pissing us off, unhappy situations. it's a real flaw i can see.

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Hey both, I know I am probably coming across as this really immoral person two timing and what not. My marriage has been hard and unhappy, but I never wanted to break it off. But now I realise the longer I continue, the more I will be wasting my husband's time. Due to several reasons, I cannot end my marriage immediately-though I would like to. In the meantime, I couldn't help falling for this person! I was hoping that I could explain to him what is going on. And to be fair to my husband, I do not want to lead him on thinking I am happy-I am not happy with him. He knows I will leave him, I have made that clear. It's just the timing of when that will happen.

Put yourself in his shoes.

What if a married guy asks you out at work. You'd probably run to HR and think he was nuts.

You'd think of yourself very highly and say that you can do better than some married man whose looking for an outlet from an "unhappy" marriage.

Or do you give into temptation and have months of your life wasted in pursuit of someone who has obligations elsewhere.

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i would wait until the week after. he might just be genuinely busy.

thinking he was annoyed could be a misinterpretation.

just go about your business. if he wants to go out when he is less busy he knows where to find you.

don't worry about being rejected. guys are rejected all the time. be confident that you have a lot to offer someone and on this occasion, it wasn't to be.

it's only embarrassing if you feel embarrassed.

Jeane-thanks for your wise words! I have been feeling so turbulent this past week-it's driving me nuts! Well, I shall see if he comes back to me this week!

happy to help and if he doesn't come back to you, then who wants an easily annoyed arsehole around? his loss.

awwiee-thanks Jeane! The problem is, he's really lovely and friendly though-making it harder to hate him *sigh* If he doesn't come back to me this week, I think I will have a quick word to dispel the awkwardness I can sense is building up between us. Plus I don't want him to see me as a weak, love sick puppy (which I feel I am). Did I say I am married btw? :p

Are you in the process of a separation or a divorce?

nope :S though I have mentioned to my husband several times that I will leave him eventually, but don't know when I will muster up the willpower to do so

Whats your husbands sun and moon sign?

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Leo

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i would wait until the week after. he might just be genuinely busy.

thinking he was annoyed could be a misinterpretation.

just go about your business. if he wants to go out when he is less busy he knows where to find you.

don't worry about being rejected. guys are rejected all the time. be confident that you have a lot to offer someone and on this occasion, it wasn't to be.

it's only embarrassing if you feel embarrassed.

Jeane-thanks for your wise words! I have been feeling so turbulent this past week-it's driving me nuts! Well, I shall see if he comes back to me this week!

happy to help and if he doesn't come back to you, then who wants an easily annoyed arsehole around? his loss.

awwiee-thanks Jeane! The problem is, he's really lovely and friendly though-making it harder to hate him *sigh* If he doesn't come back to me this week, I think I will have a quick word to dispel the awkwardness I can sense is building up between us. Plus I don't want him to see me as a weak, love sick puppy (which I feel I am). Did I say I am married btw? :p

you're married? do you have an open relationship? man, what are you doing—

Exactly what I thought

Libra and partners hey ?

i thnk we can be terrible with that. shit gets too hard, we put our head in the sand and hope we can just pretend it's not there.

this can be with anything difficult conversations, people that are pissing us off, unhappy situations. it's a real flaw i can see.

Hey both, I know I am probably coming across as this really immoral person two timing and what not. My marriage has been hard and unhappy, but I never wanted to break it off. But now I realise the longer I continue, the more I will be wasting my husband's time. Due to several reasons, I cannot end my marriage immediately-though I would like to. In the meantime, I couldn't help falling for this person! I was hoping that I could explain to him what is going on. And to be fair to my husband, I do not want to lead him on thinking I am happy-I am not happy with him. He knows I will leave him, I have made that clear. It's just the timing of when that will happen.

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i'm not judging you as immoral. there is no judgement from me.

but, come on. you haven't "fallen" for this person. you're not in love with him. you like the idea of what he could represent ie a life happy with someone not your husband.

tidy up your life first. you're concerned about wasting husband's time. be concerned about wasting a third party's time and emotion too. work on making yourself truly available to a new prospective partner. it's unfair to ask anyone to settle for anything less. you're going to have baggage (emotional, financial, situational) from a failed marriage. don't put that on some unsuspecting schmuck just because you have fanny flutter.

if you can't end your marriage, at least separate.

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Put yourself in his shoes.

What if a married guy asks you out at work. You'd probably run to HR and think he was nuts.

You'd think of yourself very highly and say that you can do better than some married man whose looking for an outlet from an "unhappy" marriage.

Or do you give into temptation and have months of your life wasted in pursuit of someone who has obligations elsewhere.

:S He hasn't said no *yet* I am still to hear from him-but I know you are right. Again, my married situation is complicated and I was hoping I could explain it to him and let him decide if he wants to be friends or more. We are both adults, but I would hate to be judged by him or anyone without knowing the full details of my situation.

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Put yourself in his shoes.

What if a married guy asks you out at work. You'd probably run to HR and think he was nuts.

You'd think of yourself very highly and say that you can do better than some married man whose looking for an outlet from an "unhappy" marriage.

Or do you give into temptation and have months of your life wasted in pursuit of someone who has obligations elsewhere.

:S He hasn't said no *yet* I am still to hear from him-but I know you are right. Again, my married situation is complicated and I was hoping I could explain it to him and let him decide if he wants to be friends or more. We are both adults, but I would hate to be judged by him or anyone without knowing the full details of my situation.

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Plus this is at work gurl.

He gonna be known as the guy who dates married women.

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i would wait until the week after. he might just be genuinely busy.

thinking he was annoyed could be a misinterpretation.

just go about your business. if he wants to go out when he is less busy he knows where to find you.

don't worry about being rejected. guys are rejected all the time. be confident that you have a lot to offer someone and on this occasion, it wasn't to be.

it's only embarrassing if you feel embarrassed.

Jeane-thanks for your wise words! I have been feeling so turbulent this past week-it's driving me nuts! Well, I shall see if he comes back to me this week!

happy to help and if he doesn't come back to you, then who wants an easily annoyed arsehole around? his loss.

awwiee-thanks Jeane! The problem is, he's really lovely and friendly though-making it harder to hate him *sigh* If he doesn't come back to me this week, I think I will have a quick word to dispel the awkwardness I can sense is building up between us. Plus I don't want him to see me as a weak, love sick puppy (which I feel I am). Did I say I am married btw? :p

you're married? do you have an open relationship? man, what are you doing—

Exactly what I thought

Libra and partners hey ?

i thnk we can be terrible with that. shit gets too hard, we put our head in the sand and hope we can just pretend it's not there.

this can be with anything difficult conversations, people that are pissing us off, unhappy situations. it's a real flaw i can see.

Hey both, I know I am probably coming across as this really immoral person two timing and what not. My marriage has been hard and unhappy, but I never wanted to break it off. But now I realise the longer I continue, the more I will be wasting my husband's time. Due to several reasons, I cannot end my marriage immediately-though I would like to. In the meantime, I couldn't help falling for this person! I was hoping that I could explain to him what is going on. And to be fair to my husband, I do not want to lead him on thinking I am happy-I am not happy with him. He knows I will leave him, I have made that clear. It's just the timing of when that will happen.

i'm not judging you as immoral. there is no judgement from me.

but, come on. you haven't "fallen" for this person. you're not in love with him. you like the idea of what he could represent ie a life happy with someone not your husband.

tidy up your life first. you're concerned about wasting husband's time. be concerned about wasting a third party's time and emotion too. work on making yourself truly available to a new prospective partner. it's unfair to ask anyone to settle for anything less. you're going to have baggage (emotional, financial, situational) from a failed marriage. don't put that on some unsuspecting schmuck just because you have fanny flutter.

if you can't end your marriage, at least separate.

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Thank you Jeane. I feel properly chastised though. I am conscious of not wronging him too-and I will not knowingly put my burden on someone. He won't be "unsuspecting" as I do plan on telling him everything and then he can decide. Yup I am not in love with him, but I would like to get to know him, even as a friend. And yup, I am looking for an escape that is my hellish married life. Anyways, I am really jumping ahead of myself as there is a 99.5% chance he will not come back to my email at all and will ignore me. I really appreciate you coming back to me 🙂

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I am super confused now not to mention sooo embarrassed (yes I am looking at you lot who said it was ok to ask out a Libra guy :p).

I'm guessing the people who encouraged this were also unaware that you are married.

I kept wondering why the guy would act so peeved after such a harmless act on your end, and now, it all makes sense. I'd be totally weirded out too.

Romantic relationships in the workplace are complicated enough as is, let alone, one with a married woman. I wouldn't hold my breath waiting for this Libra to change his mind any time soon.

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i would wait until the week after. he might just be genuinely busy.

thinking he was annoyed could be a misinterpretation.

just go about your business. if he wants to go out when he is less busy he knows where to find you.

don't worry about being rejected. guys are rejected all the time. be confident that you have a lot to offer someone and on this occasion, it wasn't to be.

it's only embarrassing if you feel embarrassed.

Jeane-thanks for your wise words! I have been feeling so turbulent this past week-it's driving me nuts! Well, I shall see if he comes back to me this week!

happy to help and if he doesn't come back to you, then who wants an easily annoyed arsehole around? his loss.

awwiee-thanks Jeane! The problem is, he's really lovely and friendly though-making it harder to hate him *sigh* If he doesn't come back to me this week, I think I will have a quick word to dispel the awkwardness I can sense is building up between us. Plus I don't want him to see me as a weak, love sick puppy (which I feel I am). Did I say I am married btw? :p

you're married? do you have an open relationship? man, what are you doing—

Exactly what I thought

Libra and partners hey ?

i thnk we can be terrible with that. shit gets too hard, we put our head in the sand and hope we can just pretend it's not there.

this can be with anything difficult conversations, people that are pissing us off, unhappy situations. it's a real flaw i can see.

Hey both, I know I am probably coming across as this really immoral person two timing and what not. My marriage has been hard and unhappy, but I never wanted to break it off. But now I realise the longer I continue, the more I will be wasting my husband's time. Due to several reasons, I cannot end my marriage immediately-though I would like to. In the meantime, I couldn't help falling for this person! I was hoping that I could explain to him what is going on. And to be fair to my husband, I do not want to lead him on thinking I am happy-I am not happy with him. He knows I will leave him, I have made that clear. It's just the timing of when that will happen.

i'm not judging you as immoral. there is no judgement from me.

but, come on. you haven't "fallen" for this person. you're not in love with him. you like the idea of what he could represent ie a life happy with someone not your husband.

tidy up your life first. you're concerned about wasting husband's time. be concerned about wasting a third party's time and emotion too. work on making yourself truly available to a new prospective partner. it's unfair to ask anyone to settle for anything less. you're going to have baggage (emotional, financial, situational) from a failed marriage. don't put that on some unsuspecting schmuck just because you have fanny flutter.

if you can't end your marriage, at least separate.

Thank you Jeane. I feel properly chastised though. I am conscious of not wronging him too-and I will not knowingly put my burden on someone. He won't be "unsuspecting" as I do plan on telling him everything and then he can decide. Yup I am not in love with him, but I would like to get to know him, even as a friend. And yup, I am looking for an escape that is my hellish married life. Anyways, I am really jumping ahead of myself as there is a 99.5% chance he will not come back to my email at all and will ignore me. I really appreciate you coming back to me 🙂

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i think it is one thing to tell him and another to just save him (or anyone else) from a preventable situation to begin with.

you're a smart woman. what, you're about 30? you know what to do. yes, your marriage is pants and you're unhappy. let this guy (or anyone else) motivate you to start making plans to move on but you cannot jump the difficult steps to a new life. you can't leapfrog the work you have to do to get out of your marriage.

it's not about this guy (he may or may not come back to you, you may or may not have a connection). it's about you and what you have to do to progress in your life. you even said, you don't have the willpower to leave your husband. you got so much work to do on that first without looking to involve someone else.

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Put yourself in his shoes.

What if a married guy asks you out at work. You'd probably run to HR and think he was nuts.

You'd think of yourself very highly and say that you can do better than some married man whose looking for an outlet from an "unhappy" marriage.

Or do you give into temptation and have months of your life wasted in pursuit of someone who has obligations elsewhere.

:S He hasn't said no *yet* I am still to hear from him-but I know you are right. Again, my married situation is complicated and I was hoping I could explain it to him and let him decide if he wants to be friends or more. We are both adults, but I would hate to be judged by him or anyone without knowing the full details of my situation.

Plus this is at work gurl.

He gonna be known as the guy who dates married women.

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This is not how you set people up for success.

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Put yourself in his shoes.

What if a married guy asks you out at work. You'd probably run to HR and think he was nuts.

You'd think of yourself very highly and say that you can do better than some married man whose looking for an outlet from an "unhappy" marriage.

Or do you give into temptation and have months of your life wasted in pursuit of someone who has obligations elsewhere.

:S He hasn't said no *yet* I am still to hear from him-but I know you are right. Again, my married situation is complicated and I was hoping I could explain it to him and let him decide if he wants to be friends or more. We are both adults, but I would hate to be judged by him or anyone without knowing the full details of my situation.

Plus this is at work gurl.

He gonna be known as the guy who dates married women.

This is not how you set people up for success.

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i would wait until the week after. he might just be genuinely busy.

thinking he was annoyed could be a misinterpretation.

just go about your business. if he wants to go out when he is less busy he knows where to find you.

don't worry about being rejected. guys are rejected all the time. be confident that you have a lot to offer someone and on this occasion, it wasn't to be.

it's only embarrassing if you feel embarrassed.

Jeane-thanks for your wise words! I have been feeling so turbulent this past week-it's driving me nuts! Well, I shall see if he comes back to me this week!

happy to help and if he doesn't come back to you, then who wants an easily annoyed arsehole around? his loss.

awwiee-thanks Jeane! The problem is, he's really lovely and friendly though-making it harder to hate him *sigh* If he doesn't come back to me this week, I think I will have a quick word to dispel the awkwardness I can sense is building up between us. Plus I don't want him to see me as a weak, love sick puppy (which I feel I am). Did I say I am married btw? :p

you're married? do you have an open relationship? man, what are you doing—

Exactly what I thought

Libra and partners hey ?

i thnk we can be terrible with that. shit gets too hard, we put our head in the sand and hope we can just pretend it's not there.

this can be with anything difficult conversations, people that are pissing us off, unhappy situations. it's a real flaw i can see.

Hey both, I know I am probably coming across as this really immoral person two timing and what not. My marriage has been hard and unhappy, but I never wanted to break it off. But now I realise the longer I continue, the more I will be wasting my husband's time. Due to several reasons, I cannot end my marriage immediately-though I would like to. In the meantime, I couldn't help falling for this person! I was hoping that I could explain to him what is going on. And to be fair to my husband, I do not want to lead him on thinking I am happy-I am not happy with him. He knows I will leave him, I have made that clear. It's just the timing of when that will happen.

i'm not judging you as immoral. there is no judgement from me.

but, come on. you haven't "fallen" for this person. you're not in love with him. you like the idea of what he could represent ie a life happy with someone not your husband.

tidy up your life first. you're concerned about wasting husband's time. be concerned about wasting a third party's time and emotion too. work on making yourself truly available to a new prospective partner. it's unfair to ask anyone to settle for anything less. you're going to have baggage (emotional, financial, situational) from a failed marriage. don't put that on some unsuspecting schmuck just because you have fanny flutter.

if you can't end your marriage, at least separate.

Thank you Jeane. I feel properly chastised though. I am conscious of not wronging him too-and I will not knowingly put my burden on someone. He won't be "unsuspecting" as I do plan on telling him everything and then he can decide. Yup I am not in love with him, but I would like to get to know him, even as a friend. And yup, I am looking for an escape that is my hellish married life. Anyways, I am really jumping ahead of myself as there is a 99.5% chance he will not come back to my email at all and will ignore me. I really appreciate you coming back to me 🙂

i think it is one thing to tell him and another to just save him (or anyone else) from a preventable situation to begin with.

you're a smart woman. what, you're about 30? you know what to do. yes, your marriage is pants and you're unhappy. let this guy (or anyone else) motivate you to start making plans to move on but you cannot jump the difficult steps to a new life. you can't leapfrog the work you have to do to get out of your marriage.

it's not about this guy (he may or may not come back to you, you may or may not have a connection). it's about you and what you have to do to progress in your life. you even said, you don't have the willpower to leave your husband. you got so much work to do on that first without looking to involve someone else.

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You are right Jeane (I really like how you put the message across so succinctly). I have been working on building up my willpower to leave, with as much dignity I can muster to do so. I have been married for over 5 years, and there is so much to untangle. I saw him, I liked him, and really felt we could have something together. But me being stupid (so really I am not very smart), I think I really oversimplified things.

NOW-I have to speak to him at some point and clear the air (God help me). I also confided in another colleague that I like him and she knows I am married so she was very disapproving of it too (no surprise there). I have got a LOT of cleaning up to do :S

I would never go promiscuous.

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i would wait until the week after. he might just be genuinely busy.

thinking he was annoyed could be a misinterpretation.

just go about your business. if he wants to go out when he is less busy he knows where to find you.

don't worry about being rejected. guys are rejected all the time. be confident that you have a lot to offer someone and on this occasion, it wasn't to be.

it's only embarrassing if you feel embarrassed.

Jeane-thanks for your wise words! I have been feeling so turbulent this past week-it's driving me nuts! Well, I shall see if he comes back to me this week!

happy to help and if he doesn't come back to you, then who wants an easily annoyed arsehole around? his loss.

awwiee-thanks Jeane! The problem is, he's really lovely and friendly though-making it harder to hate him *sigh* If he doesn't come back to me this week, I think I will have a quick word to dispel the awkwardness I can sense is building up between us. Plus I don't want him to see me as a weak, love sick puppy (which I feel I am). Did I say I am married btw? :p

you're married? do you have an open relationship? man, what are you doing—

Exactly what I thought

Libra and partners hey ?

i thnk we can be terrible with that. shit gets too hard, we put our head in the sand and hope we can just pretend it's not there.

this can be with anything difficult conversations, people that are pissing us off, unhappy situations. it's a real flaw i can see.

Hey both, I know I am probably coming across as this really immoral person two timing and what not. My marriage has been hard and unhappy, but I never wanted to break it off. But now I realise the longer I continue, the more I will be wasting my husband's time. Due to several reasons, I cannot end my marriage immediately-though I would like to. In the meantime, I couldn't help falling for this person! I was hoping that I could explain to him what is going on. And to be fair to my husband, I do not want to lead him on thinking I am happy-I am not happy with him. He knows I will leave him, I have made that clear. It's just the timing of when that will happen.

i'm not judging you as immoral. there is no judgement from me.

but, come on. you haven't "fallen" for this person. you're not in love with him. you like the idea of what he could represent ie a life happy with someone not your husband.

tidy up your life first. you're concerned about wasting husband's time. be concerned about wasting a third party's time and emotion too. work on making yourself truly available to a new prospective partner. it's unfair to ask anyone to settle for anything less. you're going to have baggage (emotional, financial, situational) from a failed marriage. don't put that on some unsuspecting schmuck just because you have fanny flutter.

if you can't end your marriage, at least separate.

Thank you Jeane. I feel properly chastised though. I am conscious of not wronging him too-and I will not knowingly put my burden on someone. He won't be "unsuspecting" as I do plan on telling him everything and then he can decide. Yup I am not in love with him, but I would like to get to know him, even as a friend. And yup, I am looking for an escape that is my hellish married life. Anyways, I am really jumping ahead of myself as there is a 99.5% chance he will not come back to my email at all and will ignore me. I really appreciate you coming back to me 🙂

i think it is one thing to tell him and another to just save him (or anyone else) from a preventable situation to begin with.

you're a smart woman. what, you're about 30? you know what to do. yes, your marriage is pants and you're unhappy. let this guy (or anyone else) motivate you to start making plans to move on but you cannot jump the difficult steps to a new life. you can't leapfrog the work you have to do to get out of your marriage.

it's not about this guy (he may or may not come back to you, you may or may not have a connection). it's about you and what you have to do to progress in your life. you even said, you don't have the willpower to leave your husband. you got so much work to do on that first without looking to involve someone else.

You are right Jeane (I really like how you put the message across so succinctly). I have been working on building up my willpower to leave, with as much dignity I can muster to do so. I have been married for over 5 years, and there is so much to untangle. I saw him, I liked him, and really felt we could have something together. But me being stupid (so really I am not very smart), I think I really oversimplified things.

NOW-I have to speak to him at some point and clear the air (God help me). I also confided in another colleague that I like him and she knows I am married so she was very disapproving of it too (no surprise there). I have got a LOT of cleaning up to do :S

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shit, we're only human. we'd all go straight to dessert first if we had a choice.

marriage is an entwining of lives. it's messy when you want to "consciously uncouple". it takes time and the need to deal with a whole range of emotions. if you give yourself that now, you will reap the rewards later when you find yourself emotionally ready and stable to go into another relationship.

you know those kids that get married and pregnant at 15? then a few years later they realise holy fuck, this is my life? if only they had spent a bit of time, growing, learning, getting some life experience then what they are able bring to a relationship is so much more positive and conducive to making things a success.

fail to put yourself right and you risk entering into a series of relationships that will continue to fail. get your shit together now and your going to set yourself up for success going forward. it's all about giving yourself a good foundation to reach your goal.

and try not to shit in your own nest if you can. it's bad enough to do that when you are single but when you are married it adds a whole other level of difficulty.

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I would never go promiscuous.

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i would wait until the week after. he might just be genuinely busy.

thinking he was annoyed could be a misinterpretation.

just go about your business. if he wants to go out when he is less busy he knows where to find you.

don't worry about being rejected. guys are rejected all the time. be confident that you have a lot to offer someone and on this occasion, it wasn't to be.

it's only embarrassing if you feel embarrassed.

Jeane-thanks for your wise words! I have been feeling so turbulent this past week-it's driving me nuts! Well, I shall see if he comes back to me this week!

happy to help and if he doesn't come back to you, then who wants an easily annoyed arsehole around? his loss.

awwiee-thanks Jeane! The problem is, he's really lovely and friendly though-making it harder to hate him *sigh* If he doesn't come back to me this week, I think I will have a quick word to dispel the awkwardness I can sense is building up between us. Plus I don't want him to see me as a weak, love sick puppy (which I feel I am). Did I say I am married btw? :p

you're married? do you have an open relationship? man, what are you doing—

Exactly what I thought

Libra and partners hey ?

i thnk we can be terrible with that. shit gets too hard, we put our head in the sand and hope we can just pretend it's not there.

this can be with anything difficult conversations, people that are pissing us off, unhappy situations. it's a real flaw i can see.

Hey both, I know I am probably coming across as this really immoral person two timing and what not. My marriage has been hard and unhappy, but I never wanted to break it off. But now I realise the longer I continue, the more I will be wasting my husband's time. Due to several reasons, I cannot end my marriage immediately-though I would like to. In the meantime, I couldn't help falling for this person! I was hoping that I could explain to him what is going on. And to be fair to my husband, I do not want to lead him on thinking I am happy-I am not happy with him. He knows I will leave him, I have made that clear. It's just the timing of when that will happen.

i'm not judging you as immoral. there is no judgement from me.

but, come on. you haven't "fallen" for this person. you're not in love with him. you like the idea of what he could represent ie a life happy with someone not your husband.

tidy up your life first. you're concerned about wasting husband's time. be concerned about wasting a third party's time and emotion too. work on making yourself truly available to a new prospective partner. it's unfair to ask anyone to settle for anything less. you're going to have baggage (emotional, financial, situational) from a failed marriage. don't put that on some unsuspecting schmuck just because you have fanny flutter.

if you can't end your marriage, at least separate.

Thank you Jeane. I feel properly chastised though. I am conscious of not wronging him too-and I will not knowingly put my burden on someone. He won't be "unsuspecting" as I do plan on telling him everything and then he can decide. Yup I am not in love with him, but I would like to get to know him, even as a friend. And yup, I am looking for an escape that is my hellish married life. Anyways, I am really jumping ahead of myself as there is a 99.5% chance he will not come back to my email at all and will ignore me. I really appreciate you coming back to me 🙂

i think it is one thing to tell him and another to just save him (or anyone else) from a preventable situation to begin with.

you're a smart woman. what, you're about 30? you know what to do. yes, your marriage is pants and you're unhappy. let this guy (or anyone else) motivate you to start making plans to move on but you cannot jump the difficult steps to a new life. you can't leapfrog the work you have to do to get out of your marriage.

it's not about this guy (he may or may not come back to you, you may or may not have a connection). it's about you and what you have to do to progress in your life. you even said, you don't have the willpower to leave your husband. you got so much work to do on that first without looking to involve someone else.

You are right Jeane (I really like how you put the message across so succinctly). I have been working on building up my willpower to leave, with as much dignity I can muster to do so. I have been married for over 5 years, and there is so much to untangle. I saw him, I liked him, and really felt we could have something together. But me being stupid (so really I am not very smart), I think I really oversimplified things.

NOW-I have to speak to him at some point and clear the air (God help me). I also confided in another colleague that I like him and she knows I am married so she was very disapproving of it too (no surprise there). I have got a LOT of cleaning up to do :S

shit, we're only human. we'd all go straight to dessert first if we had a choice.

marriage is an entwining of lives. it's messy when you want to "consciously uncouple". it takes time and the need to deal with a whole range of emotions. if you give yourself that now, you will reap the rewards later when you find yourself emotionally ready and stable to go into another relationship.

you know those kids that get married and pregnant at 15? then a few years later they realise holy fuck, this is my life? if only they had spent a bit of time, growing, learning, getting some life experience then what they are able bring to a relationship is so much more positive and conducive to making things a success.

fail to put yourself right and you risk entering into a series of relationships that will continue to fail. get your shit together now and your going to set yourself up for success going forward. it's all about giving yourself a good foundation to reach your goal.

and try not to shit in your own nest if you can. it's bad enough to do that when you are single but when you are married it adds a whole other level of difficulty.

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lol I just realised that every time you said "shit" the website has changed it to butter. And all this time I was thinking, "Gosh Jeane really likes butter doesn't she" :p

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i would wait until the week after. he might just be genuinely busy.

thinking he was annoyed could be a misinterpretation.

just go about your business. if he wants to go out when he is less busy he knows where to find you.

don't worry about being rejected. guys are rejected all the time. be confident that you have a lot to offer someone and on this occasion, it wasn't to be.

it's only embarrassing if you feel embarrassed.

Jeane-thanks for your wise words! I have been feeling so turbulent this past week-it's driving me nuts! Well, I shall see if he comes back to me this week!

happy to help and if he doesn't come back to you, then who wants an easily annoyed arsehole around? his loss.

awwiee-thanks Jeane! The problem is, he's really lovely and friendly though-making it harder to hate him *sigh* If he doesn't come back to me this week, I think I will have a quick word to dispel the awkwardness I can sense is building up between us. Plus I don't want him to see me as a weak, love sick puppy (which I feel I am). Did I say I am married btw? :p

you're married? do you have an open relationship? man, what are you doing—

Exactly what I thought

Libra and partners hey ?

i think we can be terrible with that. shit gets too hard, we put our head in the sand and hope we can just pretend it's not there.

this can be with anything - difficult conversations, people that are pissing us off, unhappy situations. it's a real flaw i can see.

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I admire your honesty Jeane

Have you seen how insecure some people become when seeing their sign criticised?

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i would wait until the week after. he might just be genuinely busy.

thinking he was annoyed could be a misinterpretation.

just go about your business. if he wants to go out when he is less busy he knows where to find you.

don't worry about being rejected. guys are rejected all the time. be confident that you have a lot to offer someone and on this occasion, it wasn't to be.

it's only embarrassing if you feel embarrassed.

Jeane-thanks for your wise words! I have been feeling so turbulent this past week-it's driving me nuts! Well, I shall see if he comes back to me this week!

happy to help and if he doesn't come back to you, then who wants an easily annoyed arsehole around? his loss.

awwiee-thanks Jeane! The problem is, he's really lovely and friendly though-making it harder to hate him *sigh* If he doesn't come back to me this week, I think I will have a quick word to dispel the awkwardness I can sense is building up between us. Plus I don't want him to see me as a weak, love sick puppy (which I feel I am). Did I say I am married btw? :p

you're married? do you have an open relationship? man, what are you doing—

Exactly what I thought

Libra and partners hey ?

i think we can be terrible with that. shit gets too hard, we put our head in the sand and hope we can just pretend it's not there.

this can be with anything - difficult conversations, people that are pissing us off, unhappy situations. it's a real flaw i can see.

I admire your honesty Jeane

Have you seen how insecure some people become when seeing their sign criticised?

Silly

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i'm very familiar with my character defects. i see that overwhelming desire to flee the scene of the crime in myself.

yes, we say that we are avoidant because we don't want to hurt others and to a certain degree that is true. but it's also true that we (and i'm speaking about myself here) absolutely hate having those hard conversations. i will do anything to avoid doing it.

what we say: yes, i'll come to your party.

reality: something mysteriously comes up.

what we say: sure, i'll be in a relationship with you.

reality: realise that you don't actually like them. ghost them

what we say: no, you being late all those times really doesn't bother me at all

reality: become passive aggressive and then start forging new friendships with someone else instead.

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i would wait until the week after. he might just be genuinely busy.

thinking he was annoyed could be a misinterpretation.

just go about your business. if he wants to go out when he is less busy he knows where to find you.

don't worry about being rejected. guys are rejected all the time. be confident that you have a lot to offer someone and on this occasion, it wasn't to be.

it's only embarrassing if you feel embarrassed.

Jeane-thanks for your wise words! I have been feeling so turbulent this past week-it's driving me nuts! Well, I shall see if he comes back to me this week!

happy to help and if he doesn't come back to you, then who wants an easily annoyed arsehole around? his loss.

awwiee-thanks Jeane! The problem is, he's really lovely and friendly though-making it harder to hate him *sigh* If he doesn't come back to me this week, I think I will have a quick word to dispel the awkwardness I can sense is building up between us. Plus I don't want him to see me as a weak, love sick puppy (which I feel I am). Did I say I am married btw? :p

you're married? do you have an open relationship? man, what are you doing—

Exactly what I thought

Libra and partners hey ?

i think we can be terrible with that. shit gets too hard, we put our head in the sand and hope we can just pretend it's not there.

this can be with anything - difficult conversations, people that are pissing us off, unhappy situations. it's a real flaw i can see.

I admire your honesty Jeane

Have you seen how insecure some people become when seeing their sign criticised?

Silly

i'm very familiar with my character defects. i see that overwhelming desire to flee the scene of the crime in myself.

yes, we say that we are avoidant because we don't want to hurt others and to a certain degree that is true. but it's also true that we (and i'm speaking about myself here) absolutely hate having those hard conversations. i will do anything to avoid doing it.

what we say: yes, i'll come to your party.

reality: something mysteriously comes up.

what we say: sure, i'll be in a relationship with you.

reality: realise that you don't actually like them. ghost them

what we say: no, you being late all those times really doesn't bother me at all

reality: become passive aggressive and then start forging new friendships with someone else instead.

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Not to mention:

Prolonging a conversation out of niceness cause you're too polite to end it first

Staying in an unhappy relationship for years even after anyone else would've thrown in the towel

Analysis paralysis

Avoiding confrontation, coming across as a doormat

Closing your eyes and ears to avoid the difficult realities

Procastinating till the problem becomes way too bit than it would've been if it was solved

Having repressed emotions

Suffering from some kind of "hero" or "victim" syndrome

Being really fair and really unfair at the same time

Being quick to judge

Afraid of being alone (that's me)

I can go on and on...

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i would wait until the week after. he might just be genuinely busy.

thinking he was annoyed could be a misinterpretation.

just go about your business. if he wants to go out when he is less busy he knows where to find you.

don't worry about being rejected. guys are rejected all the time. be confident that you have a lot to offer someone and on this occasion, it wasn't to be.

it's only embarrassing if you feel embarrassed.

Jeane-thanks for your wise words! I have been feeling so turbulent this past week-it's driving me nuts! Well, I shall see if he comes back to me this week!

happy to help and if he doesn't come back to you, then who wants an easily annoyed arsehole around? his loss.

awwiee-thanks Jeane! The problem is, he's really lovely and friendly though-making it harder to hate him *sigh* If he doesn't come back to me this week, I think I will have a quick word to dispel the awkwardness I can sense is building up between us. Plus I don't want him to see me as a weak, love sick puppy (which I feel I am). Did I say I am married btw? :p

you're married? do you have an open relationship? man, what are you doing—

Exactly what I thought

Libra and partners hey ?

i think we can be terrible with that. shit gets too hard, we put our head in the sand and hope we can just pretend it's not there.

this can be with anything - difficult conversations, people that are pissing us off, unhappy situations. it's a real flaw i can see.

I admire your honesty Jeane

Have you seen how insecure some people become when seeing their sign criticised?

Silly

i'm very familiar with my character defects. i see that overwhelming desire to flee the scene of the crime in myself.

yes, we say that we are avoidant because we don't want to hurt others and to a certain degree that is true. but it's also true that we (and i'm speaking about myself here) absolutely hate having those hard conversations. i will do anything to avoid doing it.

what we say: yes, i'll come to your party.

reality: something mysteriously comes up.

what we say: sure, i'll be in a relationship with you.

reality: realise that you don't actually like them. ghost them

what we say: no, you being late all those times really doesn't bother me at all

reality: become passive aggressive and then start forging new friendships with someone else instead.

Not to mention:

Prolonging a conversation out of niceness cause you're too polite to end it first

Staying in an unhappy relationship for years even after anyone else would've thrown in the towel

Analysis paralysis

Avoiding confrontation, coming across as a doormat

Closing your eyes and ears to avoid the difficult realities

Procastinating till the problem becomes way too bit than it would've been if it was solved

Having repressed emotions

Suffering from some kind of "hero" or "victim" syndrome

Being really fair and really unfair at the same time

Being quick to judge

Afraid of being alone (that's me)

I can go on and on...

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yes, to all of the above. i'm not so afraid to be alone. years of practice. life certainly is better with a cuddle buddy though.

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he definitely just likes you as a friend. oh and he also probably has a girlfriend.

damn!

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