Balance

Since it's our season, I think this would be a decent topic to ask. Are you balanced? Do you think you are? What is your idea of balance? And do you think balance should be our theme?



I'm extremely unbalanced in nature but that's what keeps me balanced. I, sadly, can only operate in extremes. I exhaust myself and really need to find an even keel.

What is balance to you?

my libra friend said she found balance by letting go of control. she said ever since she stopped getting anxious or angry over things she can’t control and focused only on things she CAN control, she has felt more balanced and peaceful. she also said she stopped having expectations. because most of our heartaches in life come from having expectations. meaning, our hearts break whenever our expectations are unfulfilled.

i’m not a calm libra or Gandhi or anything remotely close to that so i haven’t exactly mastered this art of having no expectations 😂 in life but i’m just relaying what she said for the sake of this thread.

“I, sadly, can only operate in extremes. I exhaust myself and really need to find an even keel. ”

operating in extremes means you’re most likely an all-or-nothing type of person which isn’t a bad thing in and of itself. but you could be thrown off balance when things don’t go the way you had hoped.

i remember reading an article on a mental health website about polarized thinking (also known as “black and white thinking” or “all or nothing thinking“) and how it could cause a lot of stress on someone’s mental well-being in general.

when you’re thinking in extremes or absolutes (example: that person is bad!/ that person is good!, this “always” happens to me!, i “never” catch a break! etc) you become rigid and feel limited. everything seems like an emergency when you’re in that all or nothing mentality. it contributes to anxiety and at times even depressive disorders. we may even overreact to events due to not seeing things objectively.

black and white thinking throws us off balance and prevents us from seeing things for how they usually are (which is nuanced, complex, and always changing)

it’s just healthier for our minds to make room for gray areas and middle grounds too.

sorry if this proves to be of no help 😅lol