Confused....

I met a great Libra sun cap rising Aries moon (I'm a sag sun cancer rising Taurus moon)... after months of volleying about getting together, we finally did and it was amazing. Great conversation, great everything. We talked about so much and the connection was just there... we chatted on and off through text for the last few weeks and ran into each other at a local bar which was awkward at first but he seemed to give me a lot of his attention, enough to make the girl who works there who's his friend (he made it a point twice to tell me they are just friends and explained they had a thing of sorts a while back) jealous.

That night we talked and he said he was a loner and that if I didn't have expectations of him, he was sure not to disappoint and followed up with saying he hadn't given it an honest shot with anyone in a long while and didn't see it changing. I told him I respected that and didn't mind being friends and just hanging out as such.

However, I've been trying to get us together for conversation and a fire or whatever for weeks now and he is always turning me down. I had enough Thursday when he bailed on tentative plans we made to "hang out with the guys" and told him that. I sent a message essentially saying I wasn't expecting a relationship or anything more than conversation and good tunes (we share some less popular music interest) and that I wasn't going to beg for his attention or time because I had more self respect than that and if he wanted to contact me, he knew how to reach me...

For three days, radio silence and I won't lie, it killed me a little but then this morning he sent me a message about a picture I posted yesterday and we had a little exchange about it and then he disappeared again (I'm assuming he is busy today) but... he messaged me when he could have just bailed.

Is that a good thing?

The connection as intense for me and I know it wasn't in my head. So, I can't figure out why he can't get together with me. I mean, when we see each other in public he's happy to see me and we talk and joke... I'm just so at a loss.

I'm obviously not going to get my hopes up but I'm so confused. He could have walked.

Mmm. I was with a Gemini for 10 years!

I tried the just calling and asking him out but I'm constantly rejected, lol. That was the part that got me. I don't mind being just friends, as I told him the first night, I just like to know where I stand.

It is the constant evasiveness that gets me... he turned me on to this particular artist and I've been dying to get together with whiskey and a fire and to listen to these tunes and he says he wants to do the same but then gets super flaky. That was my issue.

Idk. Do I just back off for awhile?

So, Libra sent me a message yesterday morning and we had a small exchange and then a tiny exchange last night and then nothing... he just reads my messages and doesn't respond.... what the actual fuck is this?