Does NC ever work with a Libra Man?

This topic was created in the Libra forum by daisey1507 on Tuesday, February 5, 2013 and has 7 replies.

Does No Contact Work with a Libra Man in Breakup Situations

No Contact can be effective with a Libra man to allow emotional space and encourage reflection. Libra men value balance and clarity, so giving them time often helps them reconsider their feelings. However, patience is key as Libra men may need time to process their emotions before reconnecting or making decisions about the relationship.

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@daisey1507
13 Years

Just wondered if anyone could help me, does No Contact ever work with a Libra guy, my ex dumped me a few days ago saying he wasn't ready for a relationship and didn't want to be with anyone. I am now doing the NC thing, and wondered if it actually works if you want them back. He has done it once before but he changed his mind in a few days, but this time I feel like it is definitely over. Am I doing the right thing with NC or should I tell him how I feel, I'm just worried he is going to think by the NC thing that I am moving on and am no longer interested, or will he view it that I am trying to give him space, or anything else. Any help would be insightful. Thanks

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@sweethearts
20 Years5,000+ Posts

In general with men, leave them alone. Woman tend to want all the answers and will push for them...which only appears to be a constant nag. If a guy wants space, let him have it. If he comes back then you can then talk it out...if he doesn't, it's what he really wants.

You can't control how someone else feels and by throwing yourself at them is an emotional blackmail...not saying you are doing this but oct do when they don't get the answers they are looking for!

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@rockyroadicecream
14 Years10,000+ Posts

Yep. Keep on that NC. Especially if he's pulled this shit before. If you contact him, then he knows he can continue to play you like a fiddle.

And if he contacts you, ignore his ass. ...he's trying to have his cake and eat it too. Either you're broken up or you're not.

Also, don't make yourself look desperate. He broke up with you. Drop it for now and revisit the idea of contact later on, when you're not as emotional as you are now.

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@daisey1507
13 Years

Thanks for all your comments, yeah I know I am just going to have to keep it up, as hard as it is. I just feel that while he's not contacting me it just makes him easier to forget me, but I know I have to do this for my own sanity or else it is going to take even longer to get over him. Another question do you still keep an ex on fb as a friend, or should you delete it?

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@daisey1507
13 Years

Oh, I do want to get back with him but also know know that I can't pin my hopes up on it. I need to try and get on with my life.

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@rockyroadicecream
14 Years10,000+ Posts

So get on with your life and do you.

Hate to break it to you, but chances are that if he's going to do the break up and make up cycle, you two aren't likely to work out well in the long run. It's not guaranteed to happen, but it sure as hell isn't promising for a successful and healthy relationship.

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@steponscorpionsCRUNCH
13 Years500+ Posts

Why are you even wanting him back if he dumped you? That means he sees you as garbage. Wouldn't you rather be with someone who actually valued you?

(hope this didn't sound harsh, but again, it's late; I've put all my natal Libras to bed)

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@pinklibra
16 Years1,000+ Posts

I agree completely with the other comments.

I dont agree with him viewing you as garbage, but i definitely think that if a Libra dumps you, then they most likely are not attracted anymore, or the relationship became too negative or just plain stuffy for them. Libra's need air, lots of space. If a relationship is too up in their face, they will eventually pull away, become distant, or plain dump you if the attraction is no longer there.

Dont let it dis-encourage your confidence though, because Libra's change their mind like they change their drawers. Especially the men. Ugh. He may not like you right now, but a couple months or weeks he may like you again. Give him space.

I think it's normal to still like someone that broke up with you, i mean it's natural if you were liking the relationship and them and they just ended it. I would be frustrated but certainly not trying to win him back. I'd be trying to show him just what he's missing out on, and just how valuable i can be.

One more thing, yes delete him on Facebook. It's part of breaking up. One of my ex's i refuse to follow on Twitter, Instagram, and on Facebook simply because i still have unresolved feelings, and i hate to see him flirt with others, so i dont set myself up to see it. Truth is, he's single now and if you see him writing on other girls walls, commenting under their pictures, or his status's are all chipper and not sad about the break up, it will only make the break-up harder on you. Treat your self, and do yourself a favor and delete him.