Doomed?

Hello all,

I came across this forum, and I tend to agree a lot of what was said about Libra guys. I'm actually undergoing a painful period, coz 'he' dropped the bomb SUDDENLY that he thinks our relationship is not going to work out...it's like a lightning bolt out of the blue. He said I should have read the "signs", there were the tiffs, but doesn't all couples have them? We were even planning for a trip later in the year.

And once he's made up his mind, he just couldn't listen or accept any other options. Every nice thing that I do/concern shown only makes him "feel bad".

Hence, I decided to move out since it had been painful for him to face me, while he's adamant about his decision.

Now for Libra guys out there...
(1) Is it possible during the period of absence, he would think of the 'good' times, and does the re-balacing of scales again?
(2) He did texted once, but just saying very general stuff, "hope you are ok, and take care"... what does that mean? The next time he texted was to borrow something.
(3) I know it's typical for them to "disappear" and they want their freedom, and not calling back is coz they aren't sure.

Maybe I should just let it be... I hope I can be appreciated by other people instead.

WTH.... I'm going shopping now...

Well, wow, for once I am a little unsure about this. Never been dumpd by a Libra and that sounded kind of harsh. It sounds like he tried and was not been able to take the relationship any longer and just had to painfully end it. He still cares for you I am sure but something has convinced him that you aren't the one for him in the long run. Librans (in my experience) don't like to waste time on a relationship if they don't see a future in it.

"I came across this forum, and I tend to agree a lot of what was said about Libra guys. I'm actually undergoing a painful period, coz 'he' dropped the bomb SUDDENLY that he thinks our relationship is not going to work out...it's like a lightning bolt out of the blue. He said I should have read the "signs", there were the tiffs, but doesn't all couples have them? We were even planning for a trip later in the year."

HE MEANS IT AND AT THE POINT OF TALKING TO YOU KNOWS WHAT HE WANTS. HE'S THOUGHT ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP AND HAS DECIDED THAT HE WANTS OUT. YOU'VE NOT PICKED UP THE HINTS THAT HE CLAIMS HE'S DROPPED AND HATES HAVING THE BREAK-UP CHAT. BECAUSE HE KNOWS HE IS HURTING YOU. HE DOES NOT SEEM TO WANT TO GIVE REASONS FOR THE BREAK UP.

"And once he's made up his mind, he just couldn't listen or accept any other options. Every nice thing that I do/concern shown only makes him "feel bad"."

HE THINKS (OR KNOWS) THAT YOU FEEL DIFFERENTLY AND DOES NOT WANT TO FEEL YOU'RE HURTING WHEN THE CONVERSATIONS ARE GOING ON. HENCE DOES NOT WANT TO TALK AT ALL, JUST RELAYING THE FACT THAT IT'S OVER. PERHAPS ALSO HE DOES NOT WANT TO TALK BECAUSE HE MAY GET EMOTIONAL HIMSELF OR NOT SURE OF HIS DECISION.

Hence, I decided to move out since it had been painful for him to face me, while he's adamant about his decision.

Now for Libra guys out there...
(1) Is it possible during the period of absence, he would think of the 'good' times, and does the re-balacing of scales again?
(2) He did texted once, but just saying very general stuff, "hope you are ok, and take care"... what does that mean? The next time he texted was to borrow something.
(3) I know it's typical for them to "disappear" and they want their freedom, and not calling back is coz they aren't sure.

NUMBER (2) IS PLAYING NICE GUY TO SEE IF YOU'VE FORGIVEN HIM AND TO CHECK WHETHER YOU'RE ANGRY. TO CHECK THAT HE'S ON YOUR GOOD SIDE.

IS IT POSSIBLE THAT THERE IS SOMEONE ELSE?

h20, yes, he is probably in love or see someone else as a more potential partner.

Thanks for the replies..

So far I don't think there's someone else. At least he told someone he has been faithful. But he did said there were girls asking if he's available.

The sad part is we have been on-off before. The last time we broke off, he had the same reasons (about incompatibility), then he came back, saying he still missed me and he felt we could connect and he still cared etc. etc.. and he felt a sense of harmony with me.

The sadder thing is now we are married. And with marriage came alot of adjustments and all the differences in horoscope 'characteristics' came out again.. This time it could be for real...
I don't know....

Do Libras ever regret their decision?

What is your sign? They sometimes regret their decisions, and sometimes don't it all depends on how sure they are when they make the decision.

I knew someone will ask eventually.. it's Cancer.. that's why I said "doomed".

On the fridge door was a card he gave me before saying that he was glad he found me and I was his "soulmate". That was in February..now he said he thinks I'm not the "type" he can imagine spending the rest of his life with. Even brought in issues like he cannot get along with my parents, and I'm too homely and he gets mad when I drive.

It's going to be hard to move things out of the house, but I know I have to do it gradually. He didn't touched any of my things, like my nightie was still hanging there, he even used my dolphin polar fleece blanket. All the lovey dovey cards r still their usual place. I would have thought if he wanted a clean break, he would have put these things out of sight. Maybe it's just my imagination.. guys being guys are just too lazy to do housecleaning. Or he just didn't want to touch "my" things out of politeness. (Damn, I'm even begining to think both sides just like a Libra).

I do go back occassionally to take my things (that's when he's not around), it's tempting to help out with the chores, but I don't know what signals that will send. Maybe I should just leave it, else he would think I'm prying on him/his things. Again, it would also be quite irresponsible of me, since we aren't legally separated and we are both paying for the house & car. I do leave a note when I visit the house, nothing very touchy feely, just saying how the day was and to take care.

Actually gradually I missed the dog tremendously. (Cancer humor)

Anyway, what is done cannot be undone. I should try to enjoy the people around me more now.

I don't know why I'm constantly surrounded by Libras and Leos (the 2 signs that potentially hurt us).
They all seem to like to pry open the shell to poke at the soft flesh. Then leave it to the flies to take over... Ok... too graphic..

Thanks anyway, I know there are no real "solutions" or "miracles". Just leave it to Fate. But it's good to talk it out.

h20,

I think it is a true possibility that there is someone else or that he's got a project (read: desire) going on in his head. Sorry, but don't rule it out.

h20, I figured you were a water sign, just wondered which. Why are you moving out anyway? Why isn't he since he wants to end it. Are there children involved? Also, I truly think he has found someone else, or the relationship just became too unbearable for him. It must have been rough between the two of you recently.

I hope all works out.

Hey Libra, how have you been?

Hi all,

I saw him yesterday to get back something. And we talked a little. He seems still uneasy, avoiding the eye-contact etc. I asked him at some point if there is someone else, and he said firmly NO.

No kids, but we have a little puppy and she's like a daughter to us. I went back to bathe,clean and play with her abit.

I asked if he will change his mind, and his scales started swinging again, and he said he still cares, but he doesn't think he can pretend nothing happened, and he doesn't know how he'll react or things will be the same and it may not be fair to me etc...and it may be better for me to end it now.

I just told him not to be too hard on himself, and don't think too much. I left him a CD to listen. I don't know what else to do.

BTW, when he said the above, he seems unsure, .. it wasn't like a closing the door.

h20 he seems to not want to hurt your feelings with this, but he seems pretty sure it is over. I guess you just have to go with it. Why are you moving?

if you are cancer, then you shouldn't have hoped for anything. It wont work out. Period.

Did you read somewhere in amongst all this LIbran stuff that Librans can be VERY blunt??

LOL

h2o, he is not telling you something. The looking away, the wishy/washy, and the not wanting to hurt you - definitely not telling you something.

"but he doesn't think he can pretend nothing happened, and he doesn't know how he'll react or things will be the same and it may not be fair to me etc...and it may be better for me to end it now."

I am not sure what this is referring to and you obviously don't have to explain yourself but leaving this aside - he is not explaining himself at all, hoping you'll take the big, fat hint and will do your bit by agreeing to end it. Easy way out for him and fairly fuss free throwing in some emotive reasoning e.g. 'pretend nothing happened', 'not fair to me'. On top of that you're moving out.

I don't want to stirr things up for you but I would be slightly more suspicious...

(but again I don't know exactly what transpired between the two of you)

"I just told him not to be too hard on himself, and don't think too much. I left him a CD to listen."

"Hence, I decided to move out since it had been painful for him to face me, while he's adamant about his decision."

Why are you being the one to bend over backwards? He's the one that is up to something. Men are indecisive to a degree, but once their mind is made up, they know the reasons. The fact he can't look you in the eye when the two of you talk is suspicious. Why are YOU moving out of the house? That's not really show a fight to stay together.

I'm with Libra on this one; his behavior is suspicious.

"that's not really showing a fight to stay together....

sorry for the typo.

You're making this way too easy for him.

I am not sure why everyone is convinced there is someone else. There is a good chance there isn't someone else, but he is done with the marriage/relationship.

When I have decided I no longer want the relationship, it is pretty much done. When I am over someone, I really have very little memory of why I liked them as much as I did.

I also don't want to look into the eyes of someone I disappointed and hurt. I would try to avoid them.

The thing is ... life is hard. For me, I don't want a partner that I have to carry or fight with. I want them to be there own person and get along with me. I hate fighting! I have so many guys in my life who want to date me but I refuse to date because we argue and fight. They think it is *hot* and exciting, I think we are grossly incompatible and would never work out because of the power struggle. They don't this. Utimately, I want my partner on my side because if they aren't ... why bother?

If you were fighting a lot, I can understand why he ended the marriage/relationship.

And it has nothing to do with you being a bad person or anything like that. It has to do with values.

I really believe Libras in particular want someone who walks beside them. There are so many people who want to dominate or be dominated. Finding someone who walks beside you is amazing.