I need help deciphering a libra

I have a libra male who has been trying to get at me since I was fourteen years old. im twenty four now. this is off and on, of course. anyway, we use to be really close and cool but then he started behaving strangely with drugs and being a bad boy. But he cleaned himself up and then tried to get at me again. Oh yeah, while he was being a bad boy, he was mean to me. anyways we got to be cool again but by then i had figured out that he was a player so i didnt give him much play. then i went off to college and he went into the marines. i saw him again when he came from iraq and he wanted us to hook up but i said no because i had a boyfriend. two months later, my mom informed me that he had gotten married.

Now, he is calling me again and begging me to come and be with him and that he'd do anything for us to be together because he feels that im the woman that he always wanted and that he was in love with me back when we were teenagers and that he loves me now. oh yeah, did i mention he has two kids. and he's like he would leave his wife for me, which i would never get with him because he is married and has two kids, but i just want to know if he is running game on me because he's curious or if he is being genuine. what do you all think?

what goes around comes around. don't even bother getting tangled up in that mess. if he's willing to cheat on his current wife, he'll cheat on you when the going gets tough.

i say ignore him; he's bad news.

Very, very bad news. A cheating Libra (man for that matter) is always bad news.

oh i wouldnt do anything with him because i have a good man who loves me and i love him. its just that the libra won't take no for an answer and im curious as to whether he's genuine or he thinks im a damn fool.

He'll take "No" for an answer eventually.

Yeap , ignore him !

its been ten years. you'd think ten years of no would be enough. but alas, i think i will ignore him. i just get a little tired of the declarations of love and we'd be perfect and blah blah blah, and im like you dont even mean what you're saying. you're just curious because we never had sex and you wonder what it would be like. thats what i think and he was like if you really felt it in your heart and it felt right, you wouldnt do it? im like hell no. and he just goes on and on spouting but ari i love you

***oh i wouldnt do anything with him because i have a good man who loves me and i love him. its just that the libra won't take no for an answer and im curious as to whether he's genuine or he thinks im a damn fool.***

If you aren't interested why would you care either way?

Wow all that begging really doesn't sound like a Libra at all. They normally keep it at a minimal. Although they may confess it here and there through action and deed. They normally don't beg that much. They keep you alive and with them in their mind and sometimes you don't even know it. So yeah, that is weird.

10 years of this is too long. tell him to go away and stop bothering you.

nothing like a threat of a restraining order to scare a man off.

lol im a pisces, we analyze and wonder about everything. its not that i necessarily care, i just like to know what a person's mental stability is and what they actually believe when they are speaking to me... if that makes sense.

my brother is a libra and he certainly doesnt beg. he's kinda indecisive and nonchalant about things. but this libra is the same way except he is rather persistent in the matter i mentioned. im not worried about him because i know my answer either way. i just found it rather intriguing.

i think i told him, back when he was being mean to me, that i would be getting a restraining order on him. thats why we didnt talk for a while until he came back from iraq

and i know that you all can't tell me a person's mental stability or what they are thinking about, i just wanted to know if you all, based on knowing or being a libra, could tell if his actions are characteristic of being genuine OR if he's running game. I mean i generally like to know who thinks im a fool and who doesnt, seeing how if he's running game, he must think im a damn fool.

That is just it. It is a strange reaction for a libra.

so if you threatened him already with a restraining order and he contacted you after the Middle East, then you can only blame yourself for this.

If you don't want anything to do with him, then you ignore him. Simple as that.

You have a boyfriend who loves you, focus on him and not this guy who obviously has security and social issues.

Libra here.....Me no beg. After reading this thread, I swear you must have a Libra wanna be. hehehe... Married? with children? Cheater? What we have here ladies and gentlemen is a rogue Libra out to smite thy name. Cut him loose completely dear mermaid or he will mentally damage you.

Libra is very capable of this though. Because it is in the mind not in the heart. Nothing like a Libra that's made up his/her mind. He means it but only as far as his head goes, because he feels with his head - as we all do.

It needs to fade or get replaced by something stronger. If he truly was talked to and asked what his heart said he'd probably wake up...

Houston, you're missing the point. it's not a "you can only blame yourself" situation. I dont really care if he leaves his wife or doesnt. he's her problem. I ask because i wanted to know if this is something characteristic of a libra when he is being genuine or if its a game. thats it. theres no desire in me to find out physically. theres no tempting or persuasion here at all. its not a crisis that keeps me up at night, its a mere interest for the sake of being intrigued by the inner workings of the libra male mind. more like a psychological analysis of which im asking your opinion, feel me?

please take what i say at face value without reading more into it. because i generally mean what i say and have all analytical in depth questions as to how i feel and what im thinking on the surface.

Libra, thats interesting and was exactly the kind of answer i was looking for. Whether it was something he truly thinks he feels or if it's just a curiosity that he has made up in his mind that he wants but that the thought isn't truly connecting with the feeling in his heart. that, to me, is a game. It gives me insight on how to say a stronger, much firmer, blunt "NO!" I dont really have to spare his feelings because he doesnt have any real feelings there for me to spare when it comes to me, at least i dont think so

Perhaps I'm missing your point, but you seem to be missing ours.

It's ok. I am done with this thread. 🙂

Take away the reason why he can still hope, after all these years. Tell him you're in love with your husband. (Not "love" but "in love".)

In his mind he's used to perpetuating this. He calls it when he needs it. It's his happy place. Takes him away from reality. Nothing wrong with the concept - just annoying for you.

true. it is rather annoying. i like to open my email and see worth while stuff, not love sonnets lol especially when they arent from my man. well thank you very kindly. im indeed going to take him from his "happy place."

Be "not nice" - give him reason to dislike you.

Good luck!

***Libra here.....Me no beg. After reading this thread, I swear you must have a Libra wanna be. hehehe... Married? with children? Cheater? What we have here ladies and gentlemen is a rogue Libra out to smite thy name. Cut him loose completely dear mermaid or he will mentally damage you.***

LOL!!! LP, yeah this guy seems a little out of charactor to be a Libra. If they want you, they let you know when they are sure. They might remind you once or twice, to make sure they have your attention, but after that. They leave it up to you. A libra begging? First I have heard yet.

***true. it is rather annoying. i like to open my email and see worth while stuff, not love sonnets lol especially when they arent from my man. well thank you very kindly. im indeed going to take him from his "happy place."***

Uhhh, he probably shouldn't have your email address or number...

Libras don't beg. They don't need to.

Ever seen an unbalanced Libra?

They do exist and it is not a pretty sight...

Somethings up here.....she's f'ing with him. I can just feel it. It is like a hidden message in the way you write....your instigating this out of pleasure.

But Nic, you would be missing the point.....

Oh wait I said I was done with this topic....bah, why can't I just keep my mouth shut? Oh it's because I'm an opinionated Bull.

Nic, I didn't want to hurt her feelings, but as I stated earlier.

*** If you aren't interested, why do you care?****

He is emailing you? If he calls, you don't have to answer you know. Why does he have your email address? Pisces also love attention, so I feel this might be a little flattering although weird to lilmermaid...

But, maybe that is just me. If I don't want to be bothered with someone. I don't in any form or fashion. If I do, I do, they will have access to me simple. I really don't see the confusion here.

Not to be funny, but you seem way too interested if he is sincere or not, not to care. But then again, that could just be me.

LOL!!! HP, I don't think you should go anywhere I think you are on to something.

Lilmermaid, focus on your man who loves you and cut all ties with the Libra, (if that is what you really want) That is the only point I see. Simple. Black and white - no grey areas here.

Look at her other posts

How would you Pisces ladies handle this..
Message posted by: LilMermaid on 3/15/2007 2:23:41 PM
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Well the thing with us piscean women is that usually, when we're done with you, we're really done with you because we're usually so patient in the relationship.

Message posted by: LilMermaid on 3/15/2007 2:36:04 PM
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maybe telling him along with an email... i mean sometimes it helps things seem clearer when you are reading them. you can't really read much into clearly written words of "I DONT WANT YOU, LETS BE FRIENDS" I mean of course im sure you wouldnt say it like that but you know what i mean.

of course... if you are seeing someone else, it would help if he knew that.

Message posted by: LilMermaid on 3/19/2007 1:09:33 PM
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When pursuing a Libra is it better to be persistent and dedicated or to give up if the Libra is not responsive?

Practice what you preach, LM.

I smell a rat.

C'mon guys...

***When pursuing a Libra is it better to be persistent and dedicated or to give up if the Libra is not responsive?***

WTF— I thought she said he was chasing her and she wasn't interested. Then why this question?

Lilmermaid you really should just be honest about it all or don't waste our precious time...

Damn HP, Nic we are good.

Libra, what? We really don't appreciate being misled and wasting advice on insincere requests. Atleast I don't. Not fair, as the rest of us really keep it real around here. Sorry, but that is rude.

The one that sealed it for me was

"maybe telling him along with an email... i mean sometimes it helps things seem clearer when you are reading them. you can't really read much into clearly written words of "I DONT WANT YOU, LETS BE FRIENDS" I mean of course im sure you wouldnt say it like that but you know what i mean.

of course... if you are seeing someone else, it would help if he knew that."

There's her advice. She should do just what she told this other person to do.

But you're all jumping to conclusions. Maybe this person is confused. People are not always consistent. Nothing if not human....

Libra will find balance when s/he is truly free of judgment. And I'm going for it...!

DXP really should reconsider keeping track of our prior posts. Can really stub your toe on your words if you're not careful.

"I smell a rat."

Did I call it or what? Damn I'm good.

"But you're all jumping to conclusions."

No I'm reading between the lines, which is where pisces like to keep the valuable information.

Nic, I was first! I was first!

I'm sorry, maybe I'm jumping to conclusions, but go look at all the recent threads she's started on the Libra board. Look at "Jealousy" and "Do Libra"...to coincidental that she is doing this for a "friend"

Libra, huh she is a Pisces. Okay I'm exhausted. Moving on.

Hp we should open a PI company together. Between my hunches and your evidence finding ability we'd make a killing lol.

HP, Nic, you both are great. I was thinking it, but didn't say it until you guys did, it was wearing me out.

She is allowed to do this for a "friend". If she has not written before it is a bit daunting to join a group that is so very close.

Why call her on it? Her reasons for coming here may still be to find answers.

Also look at

"Libra and Sag"
"Do Libras like Piscean Women"

You might have seen it first but this was the first thread I saw when I woke up this morning, I read through her posts once and was like "I call bullshit". I didn't even read anyone elses posts besides hers before I posted.

Also look at

"Libra and Sag"
"Do Libras like Piscean Women"

i'll give this one to you....

i just don't care for the tactics being played.

Libra, sorry dear, not for a friend, not for a friend - I really doubt it.

"Her reasons for coming here may still be to find answers."

The answers are between the lines, she knows exactly what she is doing, there is no need to get into it. No one wants to get into it or shed the light on it because it's not pretty, thats why were being so general about it.