New Libra

I'm not sure why it seems Libra men are attracted to me, but I'm liking it. 🙂 The latest one is the same age of me, an engineer. He is SO MUCH different than the original Mr. Libra. In the last 5 days, we've hung out 3 times...and it's HIM that initiates the invitation. We went to a college baseball game tonight and while he was driving us back from the stadium, he asked me if I had plans for Tuesday. I told him that I didn't and he asked if I wanted to go have dinner and I told him sure.

He's so personable and really nice. I got home about an hour ago and I just logged into email and he sent me an email saying that he enjoyed the game. Quite a few times tonight and in the email again, he thanked me for going to the game with him. I think there's a general interest and attraction there on his part, and actually I must say I'm attracted to him, too. But I'm scared that it's all the Libra charm. But I also realize that the original Mr. Libra may have given me a jaded look on men these days.

What do you guys think?

HP he's a LIbran IMPOSTER!!!! lol

That's really good news for you - enjoy!!!! 🙂

don't say that 😛

I hav a saggi friend whom I have named "Lion Hunter"... she keeps chasing Leo men. Now looks like HP can be called "Balance Hunter" or something like that... lol...

Libra men likes Taurus women...Its just a question of how long...

i just find it amusing. I'm not looking, but their bdays have been Oct. 10th, Oct. 18th, and now Oct. 9th.

I'm convinced there are more Libras in this world than any other sign.

That, or I have a big sign on my ass that draws these men to me.

Better take that sign off HP lol.

That's strange - perhaps they are all over your way!!! I have never known a Libran man (in this way of course) ever!!! Most have been Gemini - now that opens another can of worms lol....we won't go there!!

I do like thelibrans post though - very funny!!!

I don't think he is an imposter. There will still be a little Libra indecisiveness in him but it just sounds to me like he is a little more life experienced than the other Libra's you have come across. I relate more to him than the other two guys you talked about. When I have a genuine interrest in them I do initiate things, or at least make my intentions/desires transparent so they aren't guessing all of the time, not to mention refrain from playing games like waiting x amount of time before I call/see someone again to keep them guessing. So, he just seems a little more self aware.

Is that what it is?? a guessing game— I thought it was just plain aloofness!!!

Games, games, games *sigh*

so Nic what you're say is:...you actually know when you are keeping somebody from moving ahead? you know when you're making them wait/guess while you make up your own mind— Its not something you do unaware??

Cruel men!!! LOL

"There will still be a little Libra indecisiveness in him but it just sounds to me like he is a little more life experienced than the other Libra's you have come across."

Funny you mention this. Last night we were talking on the phone and he admitted that he sometimes has a hard time making decisions in his personal life. He doesn't have a hard time in his professional career, but when it comes to women, he is guilty of taking a while to make a decision.

His divorced was finalized last August and he admitted that it's taken him a while to feel like himself again. I can tell he's scared of getting involved with someone, but it's nice that he is actually initiating the calling and inviting me out to do things. Oh and yes, it's a Libra thing to text message. LOL

Why you gotta be like that?

It means at a cirtain point I became aware that I do like all Libra guys so now I make sure I can follow through with what I get myself into with girls. I do my best not to string someone along (not always sucessfuly....sorry mrs. Capricorn of ten night standness), or just flirt with someone with the intention of getting them interrested in me.

Im glad HP....I do hope things continue to go well 🙂.....text message— yeah boy do I know that!!!.....last count on Thursday/Friday = 30....it would be much cheaper to call for Godsake *laffs*

chatting and texts - sheesh!! Whatever happened to that personal touch?? Ooops, sorry that's when he actually comes over LOL 😛

OK Im being a bit silly today - its Monday afternoon - almost home time......oh yeah, you are still to experience Monday aren't you?? LOL. Enjoy 🙂

LOL@Mrs Capricorn of ten night standness!!!

"I can tell he's scared of getting involved with someone, but it's nice that he is actually initiating the calling and inviting me out to do things."

You see Libra guys aren't so flighty because they are genuine players. They get flighty because when they let themselves they can fall pretty fast and pretty hard, moreso than many other signs I know. Our charm and flirtatiousness is natural, but we use it to our advantage subconciously to keep someone at arms length until we can tell that they are falling for us, then, if were not screwed up by some recent past expereince we will let ourselves fall too.

Our aloofness is a defense mechanism. If we click with you, you'll be stuck in our heads weather were being aloof or trying to get close, we just want a little love.

LOL Chatz....Yes we here in the States haven't started our Mondays yet.

He's a nice guy. I'll just continue to hang out with him.
Have you ever hung out with a guy and feel comfortable around yet attracted to him too - so much that you it really didn't matter if you kissed him or not because you were having fun with him?

That's how I can describe this guy. It's like we've known each other for a while and are comfortable around each other - almost like we're buddies.

awwww that is so sweet nic.

I like it, too, Nic.

HP.....you can never have too many friends and hey, who knows eh?? 😉

"so much that you it really didn't matter if you kissed him or not because you were having fun with him?"

I wouldn't say this around him just FYI. It is just a few notches down the shitty things to hear meter from "I don't think of you that way", or "your like a best friend".

" It's like we've known each other for a while and are comfortable around each other - almost like we're buddies."

I can relate to this, but note there is still a considerable difference in that I can be completely comfortable with someone, like buddies....and still want to throw them on the bed and tear their clothes off. I think that last part is important in keeping a guy from getting the impression you just think of him as a friend.

OH I wouldn't say that around him. I mentioned to him that I wasn't sure what I was looking for, if anything. I met him while riding my bike in one of the parks here. He's training for one of the marathons coming up in April and I was just riding the trail because I bought a new bike. 🙂 So we have that in common - bike riding. He lives about 5 minutes away from me - a rare thing in a big city like Houston.

Right now, I want to keep it light and friendly. I think he's doing just that, but since he's been out of pocket for a while, he's enjoying female company. He admitted that he has a ton of male friends and would like to have more female friends. So I guess I'm just the beginning of his female friendship quest.

Did everyone go to bed— Or in Chatz's case, home?

At this point, should I tell original Mr. Libra to go away or should I still allow him to contact me via text and phone on his terms?

He texted me a lot yesterday once I texted him that i was out at the baseball game with this other man. It's getting old. How should I tell him this? I have a hard time being mean.

If you don't care about Mr. Libra, don't care about Mr. Libra.

You don't have to tell him anything, like where you are, who you are with, etc. If he doesn't give you anything worth your time to respond too, don't respond. Know what I mean?

I agree with LS. He had his chance, didn't he? He told you he wasn't ready for relationship, so you tell him that you are - with someone else...

I agree too....he's not making you happy but you're going out having fun with this new guy!! You have your answer right there.....the old Libra is playing mind games...like ammorocks said "he had his chance, didn't he?", but now that you're out with another? he's interested again?? pfffttt

works that way....

i will not be returning his calls or text messages because he did not make me happy - it was a game for him for sure in the end....I don't like games. and this other guy is so sweet, but I don't think we'll have anything serious. 😢

HP...its early days and sometimes its not reaching the destination, but the journey that makes every day worthwhile 🙂

What makes you think you won't have anything serious? Did Mr. Libra leave you jaded? If so, remember that we are all individuals, not soldiers of our zodiac sign.

Go with your gut, on both of them.

HP, you know I know exactly what you are talking about, that is exactly how me and my Libra friend started... Just try not to fall too hard yet...

HP, enjoy it as long as you can, I just hope you can continue to enjoy it without any breaks!!!

me too.

HP, maybe you found a rare one!!! Fingers crossed...

i really don't know, QS

i have been pretty casual with him and so the email i got from him today is causing me to over analyze things.

oh no don't do that!!!

it will drive you C.R.A.Z.Y!!!!!

does this mean he's contemplating something more or is he just scoping out my advice on how to date women?

This is part of his email:



how are my skills? keep a few things in mind:

1. I haven't really turned on the 'date' stuff. I have considered our meetings thus far more of a frienship. Not really as 'dates.' I have been totally relaxed, and acting and talking 100% me.

2. I know i should have opened the door to the car, I know that's good manners. I like doing that, but you women make that difficult by haulin ass over to the door.



decipher people.

HP, he is being pretty direct to me, in other words, he enjoys you and is comfortable around you, however, he is currently taking it slow - friendship, not rushing - dating.

My prospective. See if any Libras agree...

***I haven't really turned on the 'date' stuff. I have considered our meetings thus far more of a frienship. Not really as 'dates.' I have been totally relaxed, and acting and talking 100% me. ***

Also, "I haven't yet tured on the dating stuff" meaning he may plan to in the future... When they do it is wonderful girl...

I suppose...

HP, take it easy / casual, kid around a lot, get to know him as he gets to know you. Too serious too soon will break it.

I'm casual about it all. I don't know if I want anything serious right now. Jaded over things right now and want to be fair to this man.

I just got a bit confused with his emailed last night about him saying "I haven't really turned on the date stuff"...not sure what he meant since he and I have been hanging out just enjoying each others' company.

Makes me wonder if he's contemplating something more from me when we discussed being friends. I just don't want to be blind sided and I suppose I wonder if he's hinting something by him asking how his skills are and saying he hasn't turned on the date stuff...

He might be doin' the old self-protective thing and saying he isn't sure what he wants either. It could also mean that he finds himself very at home with you and doesn't want to charm your pants off.

I would just playfully write back something like, "You haven't turned on the date stuff yet huh? Be sure to let me know when you do! 😉"

lol, ls. with my luck, he'd take that as an insult. 😛

I don't get his "how are my skills" question either.

I think he is trying to play cooler than he is. I wouldn't worry about him at all. He just doesn't want to seem eager. 'Cause ya know ... You don't want the girl to actually like you back!

Wankers!

Are you doing anything together tomorrow?

this is the night he invited me out to dinner. so we're meeting at 7 pm

tomorrow, no..that's valentine's day. not going to want or give that kind of pressure.....lol

Gottcha!

Yeah. Tomorrow is a pressure cooker, I don't want to think about, especially since Aquaman may or may not be mad at me and may or may not back out, add to it it being his birthday ... disaster all fronts.

Good times. Good times.

I wish men weren't so complicated. Wouldn't it be nice if you could just point to the one you want, tell him to shhhh ... sueduce him repeatedly, and just have him deal with it.