hey all i am new to the whole chat forum thing.

hey all i am new to the whole chat forum thing.

well, my boyfriend is really into the chat forums, i thought i would give it a try.. from the sounds of it you all know him pretty well< nicodemus. Yea, i know, he is pretty awesome, lol, he knows it too! I guess thats a libra thing, the whole being into yourself, in any case i am also a libra. So i just wanted to introduce myself: my name is erin, i like long walks in the park, sex is awesome, relationship drama and fights are over rated, i would rather get along with my partner than have a disagreement, but when we do, I WIN, lol. Any who, hi everyone!

Hi.

a bit strange, but ok.

Hi.

That was my exact reaction as well HP.

Erin,
Are you at Nic's house? Your log on shows the same IP address as Nic. Hopefully he knows you used his computer.

"Are you at Nic's house? Your log on shows the same IP address as Nic. Hopefully he knows you used his computer."



Actually Nics house is my house. We live together. and, yes he knows i used his computer, he was sitting here with me when i did it. Thanks for lookin out though, i appreciate it.

" Hi and Welcome!"

Thanks kenny!

Sorry about the strange post guys, nic gets me drunk and makes me do crazy things ;P.... Is this normal?

Getting drunk and doing crazy things isn't necessarily an abnormal thing. But getting online and telling a bunch of strangers your first name is odd as well as the fact that you like long walks....although I did chuckle at that part.

I thought it was more odd that he would invite her onto a board where his ex-gf is part of the community and has friends.

Yes, he met someone else but some sensitivity to the ex would be nice.

Plus, no one wants to feel in the middle.

I know. I am the only one who feels this way.

Okay, okay....

First, Hello Erin, heard a lot about you and welcome. This is a free for all thread... All can join and although I understand where LS is coming from as Alch is my girl... Nic is also my buddy... So, in a sense... KG is right. Welcom Erin. Nic and Alch seem to have dealt with the situation very maturely and I think whatever remains should be between them. Cheers!! Damn I need a drink.

Yeah, can we do something for Atom— I feel sorry for him too he is such a sweet guy.. 😢

"But getting online and telling a bunch of strangers your first name is odd"

I would have to agree, =). Computers alcohaul and i dont mix well.

I am really a very easy going, reserved, yet speak your mind when the need is felt kind of person. And when i am drunk the "need" is felt, lol. ;P. So about me, Really.:
I have a two year old daugter, whom I love spending time with, she is my world, I love taking her to the park, i.e. "long walks in the park" =D . Nic and I have an amazing realationship< I couldnt ask for a better person to be with. It seems when we are together we just "know" that this is how it is supposed to be. I know what he is thinking before he says a word and he reads me just as well. Its sometimes a silent understanding of what the other person is thinking/feeling, a connection i have never felt with anyone.It is spiritual, I know that sounds corny but really, we dont have sex we make love, it feels as if we are connecting with eachothers soul. Mabey connecting isnt the right word, Conjoining, yes thats a better term for it.
I recently (about 4mo ago) broke up with my ex, who was a leo... That relationship was interesting, i walked away with alot of knowlege in knowing what I didnt want in a partner.That whole relationship was selfish, controlling, minipulative, and insecure on both ends...He made me into a person I didnt want to be and that I really wasnt, I felt trapped, betrayed, controlled. Not a situation, or feelings that anyone wants to feel. At the same time i am not discounting the fact that he put up with me as well, I am sure I was a pill at times, like a cornered dog with rabies 😛, from about month 2 of our "relationship"... I guess you could say that we were not right for eachother, He needs to find someone that will buy into him and belive his lies and someone who will let him control and "dominate".
Enough about him... I am a typically happy person, I usually see both sides of a situation and weigh them equally, I tend to be "glass half full" until the situation has rubbed me the wrong way.

oops< i guess nic was logged in instead of me and I didnt realize it, lol 😛... the previous message was me!!!!

OMG

Hi Erin, welcome.....but whoah!!!! You just shot the Leo/Libra thing to hell LOL....thanks for that *giggles*

Anyway welcome 🙂

"But getting online and telling a bunch of strangers your first name is odd"

I dont think its odd. I think its one of the essential qualities which we hardly find in others after internet became a nightmare for many. I know so many stupid girls paranoid about telling their real names over the net to me.

After all its a libra forum.

almost forgot. welcome to dxp. hello.. 🙂

Okay nic and erin, you guys are clearly trying to confuse us using eachothers dxp names... LOL!!! I was like, since when does nic have a 2 year old? He has really been holding out!!!

Uhhh, thelibran, did you not hear about the girl whose decomposed body was just found, she was dating quite a few guys online and clearly revealed her name and self to the wrong one. So I don't think people are STUPID for being cautious about what they reveal about themselves especially online. BTW what is your real name?

hey thelibran, if that's how you feel, tell us your first name...

ah lol...hey qs. great minds think alike. 🙂

my name is majush. now dont ask me wat it means. even my parents dont know. you can google and find more. there are only 3 people with this name as far as i know.

My name is Binaca.

"So I don't think people are STUPID for being cautious about what they reveal about themselves especially online."

Fear and stupidity co-exists. If a girl is not smart enough to anticipate the problems, that makes her stupid. If she is smart enough to anticipate and take precautions bcoz of fear, she is a pessimist and probably paranoid. You wont know if there could be a problem until you open the door. Staying behind the door and saying "no i dont want to open the door ... there might be some psycho behind that door" is simply ridiculous. Such a person gotta see a doctor immediately.

Now whats wrong with telling someone your name? How can someone harm you using your name? If you are giving away your address and phone number its a totally different issue.

my motto is - "FUCK ME IF YOU CAN!!!". If someone is out there smart enough to screw me up bcoz they got my name, picture and phone number, let them. my whole life is all over the internet and if someone can nail me using that, I will challenge them to do so.

just seems odd the way she came on here all trusting of us just because we correspond with Nic. Her name is Erin, she lives in Arizona with Nic. She has a 2 year old daughter, and she dated Nic's former boss.

Trust me there is enough info for someone to make her think twice about being so free with giving out so much personal information in less than 24 hours time.

wats gonna happen to her bcoz of that? Someone gonna blackmail her? kidnap her?

You seems to think that whatever bad happens in this world, can happen to you also. Thats a really silly comparison. Most people get into troubles bcoz they are stupid.

One dxp member started messaging me a month ago. After few days I told her it will be easy for me if she can catch me on yahoo and we started chatting. I asked her name - no reply. Any questions asked goes unanswered and she expect me to listen to her issues with her libra and answer. Now thats the primary symptoms of paranoia. She want me to help her but she dont trust me even with her name.

i see your point, but open your mind and see ours.

I have seen all these points long time ago. And I was once paranoid like others reading too many stories from newspapers and magazines. So i know exactly where you all stand. Took me a while to get over those baseless fears.

And honestly i think its just plain stupid to be insecure and worried about your identity. The more insecure you become, the more fckdup your life gets. A part of your brainpower is needed to keep cross checking so many unwanted things which makes you remain negative and unable to see greater depths.

AFIAK she hasn't done much if any of the internet forum routine before so she isn't familiar with "internet etiquette" like not giving out name/location kind of thing.

As far as someone comming after us.....I feel sorry for the poor soul. Remember me telling one of our dates being in the middle of the desert doing draw and double tap drills on multiple targets? For the non gun savvy that is drawing a firearm, putting two shots into the killzone of the same target then aquiring a new target and doing the same thing. We also fancy malfunction drills (clearing a jam and bringing a firearm back into the fight) and unarmed versus armed (both firearm and knife) close quarters fighting and disarming.

She was brought up by a private security and personal protection specialist....I have been a martial artist for eleven years and have considerable experience in fugitive recovery. Were the kind of couple a mugger doesn't want to meet in a dark alley.

I know it's still not a good idea to give personal information out online, but considering the circumstances....I am not too worried about it. So if anyone reading this wants to come after us....were available until about 1pm tonight and the weekend is open. Proceed at your own risk. 😛

it's not just physical contact that i'm referring to. i'm sure you're a strong man and can stop a speeding bullet with your bare hand, but i think it's a bit naive to think you can take on anyone.

anyway, again, welcome angeleyes. i will not refer to you by your name but rather your screenname from here on out.

"just seems odd the way she came on here all trusting of us just because we correspond with Nic. Her name is Erin, she lives in Arizona with Nic. She has a 2 year old daughter, and she dated Nic's former boss."

Its my first name, not my address, not my ssn, not my last name....Anyone who wanted to find out my first name without me blatantly saying it probably could... HP you already knew all the information about me, aside from mabey my first name, if you really wanted to do you think that you could have found out my first name without me saying it—?? In either case thanks for your concern, im not saying that i dont appreciate it, but if I was worried about my identity or my saftey I wouldnt be talking to strangers on the internet, and neither would anyone here... Any peice of true info you give about yourself here can be used to "put you in danger" so to speak.
I think it is complete ignorance to say that giving someone your first name puts you in so much more danger, there are people on this forum revealing their whole life stories, but they wont give their first name.......
It is a false sense of security.

hey QS, we're ignorant for our valid concerns.

For the record, I didn't already "know all the information" about you. I hardly knew of the situation between you and Nic other than what his ex gf, Alcheme, posted. In fact, Nic hasn't really talked about you much from what I have read.

speakig of alcheme, i wonder how she's doing. hopefully she has settled in there in Phoenix. will have to wait to see if she gives us an update since her last post.
Sounds like she is going to really like her new job, which is definitely a good thing. it can be a tough thing to move out of state for a job you don't enjoy.

"speakig of alcheme, i wonder how she's doing. hopefully she has settled in there in Phoenix."

I dont know last time I talked to her she was doing great, but its been a couple of days.. Ive talked to her and she said everything is going well, both at work and finding a new place in phoenix, from what she has said she really enjoys her job. If you really want to know you could private message her or send her an email.

Thelibran, than I think according to your beliefs Majush should have been your DXP name, not thelibran and yes, people have had their identithy stolen, and stalked amongst other things revealing too much information to people they don't know. They probably thought it was STUPID they did reveal it all after the fact.

That is your opinion, but obviously none of this has happened to you.

***And honestly i think its just plain stupid to be insecure and worried about your identity. ***

Hmmm, this coming from someone who hasn't had their identity stolen. The people I know who have didn't think they would have before it happened. So no, they didn't think this oportunity up. There are crooks and crazy people in this world and it is your own responsibility to protect yourself. So it is smart to be concious about who you expose your personal info to not STUPID.

It is totally up to the person who gives as much information as they want to whom. Whatever happens is that person's responsibility. Period.

"Thelibran, than I think according to your beliefs Majush should have been your DXP name, not thelibran"

Why so? these are nicknames we use for ease of communication. my nick saves others time from chking my profile to know wats my zodiac. Thats the main purpose, not to hide my name. Also I dont want every last man on this forum to know my name for no particular reason. But in every forum i hv been posting, almost everyone know my real name. I got a blog under my real name and many more under my real name scattered all around the www. now how can that possibly trouble me? I am not a politician or a movie star or any kind of celebrity. And above all these, am a bloody libra. Our strength is not achieved by hiding our past but by revealing all the good and bad from our whole life in front of others to evaluate and criticize. thats what makes us what we are. Thats what balances us.

Identity theft happens only to stupid or rich people. If you have something however small from your past to be hidden from others, that makes you weak and vulnerable to identity theft.

wow

thelibran. Sorry we will have to agree to disagree. You don't want every man knowing your name on this board? Huh? But a woman that doesn't want to reveal her real name to you is stupid or insecure? Contridictig I tell ya. Anyway, we can drop it. You should be more open to other people's point of view. Yours isn't law you know.

using your name as your nickname in a forum is often complicated bcoz then everyone gets to know. But posting my name is so and so in a thread is harmless. only the few who read that thread get to know your name. purpose served. I hope you can see the difference.

thelibran, two of my friends that had their identities stolen were neither stupid nor rich.

ok, heres the thing...angeleyes...I think the best thing for you to is join another site where you can get the open, free, communication, and help you need. At this rate...you have started a soap oprah and it ain't gonna be good in the long run...take the high road...let you man have this special place for himself. Now that you are on here...he won't tell you, but his post are about to change...lol! SMILE!!

TU, this is a public site and since we are dealing with adults here. I doubt there is a reason for a soap operah. Nic and Alch, both have moved on. Now we should let them be. I don't think it is anyones business what either of them do at this point. I am friends and have spoken to them both and they are fine. Angeleyes can be on here and if Nic decides to continue to share or not it is up to him.

hey Erin! welcome to the board, don't let a few negatives scare you away, welcome, enjoy and post away. Being in a relationship with a libra male is beneficial to help other women decipher the libra code lol! Have fun!

There is no "code"...it's not the libra men, it's us women who complicate things.

Exactly, there is no code with them at all. They (in most cases) say what they mean and soemtimes we (women, who don't know how to decifer them) take their kindness and charm to mean more than it does sometimes and this is where the confusion comes in. So take them at what they say. When they feel different or change their minds they will verbalize that to you.

I was actually joking around with Erin but thanks for clearing that up 😄

If shes real or not (who cares), if she should reveal her identity or not, or even whether its good or not, who really cares, I think we should use this web to find help when we need some, or help others when we can, and thats what matters. And if you insist, my name is Marc, I am an elitist womanizer and consultant from Amsterdam, and drinking and mainly smoking weeds is legal here...and I like you all... Cheers!!!