How do you decide whether your relationship

is worth saving?

Do you weigh the good with the bad? Do you listen to your head or your heart or take it all into account?

I'm not talking unfaithfulness or anything over the top but more disagreements, differing outlooks and ways of handling things. My partner runs from any confrontation, he just wants to stick his head in the sand and have nothing to do with it and I find it very frustrating as I want to talk it through and resolve. I'm not sure I can keep sweeping things under the carpet to keep the peace, I know what will happen and that is I will become a volcano and then one day explode!

Now after he left the other day because he didn't want to know...I'm left with, does all his great points make up for this one weakness that I find unbearable?

I don't you and I don't know him so nothing personal here. Sit down and have a think about whether your own behaviour is contributing to the situation. Does the way you raise issues send him running. Is there another way of addressing it that he will respond better to? I'm only putting that in to help you consider all the options.

The things you mention don't seem like much now, but they became more difficult when you are raising a family, i.e. when it really matters. Then you won't be prepared to compromise so much. Maybe give it time to pan out but don't make major plans together until it's sorted out.

Common man vs. woman relationship issue. It most likely is your approach. Is he sensitive or blunt? Is he emotional or better with concrete logic? Try some different methods then come back if he's still unyielding.

I know the lack of communication is a bad sign, it's raised it's head a couple of times already but the good is great and we are still in honeymoon faze so at this stage in my life in particular I am selfishly indulging the good. I've been alone for a long time.

And yes Pech, it's him...Lately he has been all over the place. Only last week he was suggesting that we live together...when I told him that, maybe in the future, if we buy something together. But no not in my home because I explained that I know myself and this is my home and if he were to move into it he would not be on equal footing. I'm terrible with words so yes I probably bring things up in the wrong way. It didn't seem to be an issue or he didn't seem to make a deal over it. He also asked later on "What I thought we would be int he future?" And at the time I said, you always ask the tough questions and I can't answer straight off til I have thought a little more about it.


Then I hit him up for braking a promise and he runs!