I'm Driving Myself Crazy...Insight appreciated!!

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lisalisaredhead
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11 Years

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I'll try to give my whole story in a nutshell. Please help me. I've even consulted psychics and they've told me good things. Here goes...I'm a Leo. I met this amazing Libra guy 27 years ago and we had unbelievable chemistry right from the start. I was 16, he was 18. He disappeared out of my life. Here I am, divorced, 27 years later, I find him on Facebook and things heat up IMMEDIATELY. He came on so strong to me. Going as far as saying he thinks he's in love again. We're 4 states apart. 6 months ago, we had our first reconnection. He drove 6 hrs, I drove 6 hrs..HOT!! He said the most amazing things to me! Of course, I fall almost instantly. 4 years ago, he was destroyed after a 20 year marriage. Practically the same for me. From the start, he said, "No relationship any time soon". But otherwise, he charmed my pants off. Since then, I have made 5 trips back n forth. I also have family and close friends where he is. So, I want to make the trips. Each time I'm there, of course he wants to see me. In the beginning, in text messages, HE was the one saying "Move to FLorida". Now that I'm considering moving, it seems he's shying away. Example: "I hope you're not making this move because of me. My relationship days are long gone". I replied "Slow down...You always have the option of never seeing me again". He was quick to say "Come on now..." I would text him sexy pictures, always getting a great response. THIS time, I send him a sexy pic that was obviously not a selfie, (my best girlfriend took it) and after two full days of no response, I get "I'm still trying to figure out who took the pic". What does he care? HE doesn't want a relationship. Now, some of my messages get ignored. But guaranteed, when I go back down in 3 weeks, he'll want some lovin...PLEASE TELL ME IF THIS GUY IS PLAYING WITH MY HEAD?? He's SUPER sweet when we're together. We go out sometimes, he always pays...we talk ALOT when we're together. We get along FANTASTICALLY. But when I'm not there...virtually ignores me. HELP!!!!
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happykitsune
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He's not being straightforward so of course he's playing with your head. He's chickening out with the moving thing since he probably isn't 100% on wanting to keep you around. Well, I mean that is obvious considering he doesn't want another relationship. So don't expect one.

Not sure what you're wanting, but I made a move once where a guy said the same thing "don't move for me". I wasn't moving for him, but regardless the fact that he said that meant he wasn't fully invested in me. And we were dating and official. It didn't last.
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tiki33
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Infatuation is not love.

Slow down. Take a step back. You're moving way too fast. Stop sending selfies especially selfies of sexual content, hopefully your face isn't in those pictures because those pictures can be posted anywhere so be careful.

""No relationship any time soon"

"HE was the one saying "Move to FLorida". Now that I'm considering moving, it seems he's shying away. Example: "I hope you're not making this move because of me. My relationship days are long gone". "

"HE doesn't want a relationship. "

He may not be fucking with your head intentionally but there are some mixed messages such as blowing hot and then cold, telling you he's in love only to turn around and tell you his relationship days are long gone. Having you drive 5 hours back and forth--him paying for meals--basically doing relationship stuff when you're with him only for him to not want a relationship.

I would suggest you stop investing your time and money going back and forth 5 hours for a guy that's blowing hot and cold.

I would suggest you stop sending sexy selfies of yourself for a guy that feels his relationship days are over--because you're investing your energy in a man that does not want what you want. Keep it PG.

I would suggest you not turn your life upside down ie moving to Florida for a guy that is blowing hot and cold. You do not want to put yourself in an unstable position that could cost you a lot of your energy, time and money over a guy that ignores you and has verbally made it clear he does not want a relationship.

You fell in love with words--his words but that's just half of it--one of the most important parts is his actions and his actions have to be consistent and constant in order for you to take him seriously therefore if he's ignoring you when you're not around he's not interested in developing a REAL relationship with you. Accept that and stop trying so hard because no matter how much you do, how long you drive back and forth, how many sexy pics you send he has made up his mind that his relationship days are over so he's wasting your time and you're allowing him to waste your time.
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Posted by rockyroadicecream
Posted by lisalisaredhead
I'll try to give my whole story in a nutshell. Please help me. I've even consulted psychics and they've told me good things. Here goes...I'm a Leo.



I stopped here.

Giving advice is futile.
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That was my first thought too...but I read it anyway.


So you guys are taking it slow. You're still seeing each other or "together". If my gf sent me a pic she clearly didn't take I'd wonder who took it too. Sexy pics are generally taken right now, for you. Not something I sent to someone else before right? So...where'd that one come from? If it is stupid insecurity just laugh and tell him a gf took it.

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Posted by LibraSid
Posted by rockyroadicecream
Posted by lisalisaredhead
I'll try to give my whole story in a nutshell. Please help me. I've even consulted psychics and they've told me good things. Here goes...I'm a Leo.



I stopped here.

Giving advice is futile.



That was my first thought too...but I read it anyway.


So you guys are taking it slow. You're still seeing each other or "together". If my gf sent me a pic she clearly didn't take I'd wonder who took it too. Sexy pics are generally taken right now, for you. Not something I sent to someone else before right? So...where'd that one come from? If it is stupid insecurity just laugh and tell him a gf took it.

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I did too and I still stand by that previous comment.

Tiki's response seems a bit deja vu, as well. It's the same as the past responses that are given to almost all the Leo women that have come here with the same issues.

Advice givers- "Stop chasing someone who's not that into you/stop forcing this to happen because of your needy bs. His behavior is bad."

Leo responses- "I'll still force it to happen because my ego will not accept this. I choose to ignore the red flags because I'm desperate for drama and attention." Cue future posts about what a jerk the object of their affection is toward them.

Rinse and repeat with every new story. :/
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lisalisaredhead
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11 Years

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Hello everyone...Sorry it took me so long. Had trouble logging in. UPDATE ON MY LIBRA GUY IN FLORIDA: (keep in mind: I'm not going all the way from VA to FL JUST to see him..my best friend moved there, one hour south of him, last March, plus I have wonderful cousins there that I enjoy seeing, one of which is very young and ill in the ICU at the children's hospital in Tampa...so I accomplish seeing several friends/family while I'm there...and squeeze in a little lovin too)
I see all of your comments and I appreciate them. I just got back from seeing him again this past weekend. He was sweeter than ever, and just loves me up while we're together. He takes me out, always pays for everything, he checks on me as I travel home, etc. We just talk and talk...about all kinds of things..I've been used before, and he's definately sincere. His actions when we're together shows it. There are things a guy just won't do if he's using a girl for sex. It seemed this time, he held onto me a little longer and tighter when we cuddled...and he held me so snuggly when we were falling asleep. What a dream! It's obvious we'd be great together. Doesn't he see this? I've been told to give him his time to think...and I am.