In love with a libra man that seems all over place

First let me say, I am a Libra woman 32 daying a libra man 38. Two years into this relationship with what feels like the love of my life. We began casually seeing each other then began having feelings for each other. I was the first to reveal mine, his revealing was through actions... BUT, he would be long to respond to text messages and I'm fast so it seemed like an eternity. Things were still absolutely beautiful between us then I noticed I'd text and reply came a day or so later. The first time ignored him and when he came around he said "I know I took a while to reply, just be patient with me". Fast forward 8 months we made it official and things were great. About 3 months ago he agreed to do thanksgiving at my family's house this year during a visit to see him. The next day, he vanished, he didn't reply to texts or calls. After a week of this I visited his home where I asked did he not want to see me anymote. he told me "we would talk", (he was actually getting in the car for work). I got frustrated and just decided to end it. Two months later he contacted me due to a freaky occurrence and things picked right back up. Now, no titles are in place but I wanted to know where we stood. I first asked if he in fact loved me, he answered yes and then told me out right, "I love you". A week later I wanted clarification on our "situation", he is the type that hates talking within a relationship. So calmly and as sweet as possible I probed and he said he does not want me to move on, he wants me to wait on him and that he has something to deal with. May I divulge that prior to this conversation I saw text messages in his phone from his ex (whom he has a 10 yr old son) saying she loves him and requesting sex etc.... NOW, after speaking with him I felt the ex is what he's dealing with. She is married and left the guy I'm seeing for the guy she married. I asked a long time ago if he'd ever get back with her, he said NO, she'll never change. I asked had he had his heart broken, he stayed yes by her when she chose someone else over him. I am head over heels for this guy and everything between us is great. I also know how libra men can be, I'm trying to give him the time he needs. As I feel he's trying to work through this stuff with his ex and his love for me..... Help!!!!

Red flags ahoy!

Why the hell are guys so selfish that they expect women to wait on them while they sort through their options? I'd be offended if I were you. If he was so in love with you, he wouldn't want to wait or worry about sorting shit with the ex.

She cheated/left him/whatever. Libra guys tend to cling onto those situations emotionally because they were not the ones to end it. I'd be really wary of the situation, Libra guy or not.

Posted by Sugarfoot
I hate to say it but I think you should move on. Dude's not over his ex. Even though he has true feelings for you, he also is still hanging on to the ones he has for her.

The stuff with his ex should be way past over. She's remarried! And trifling... Smh. What is there to work out?!

Also he doesn't know how to communicate. Ain't nobody got time fa dat.

Agreed. He's a lot of talk, no action.

I am a Libra woman (very balanced) was in a 10 year relationship with a Libra man. They are one sided and selfish. Always looking outside the relationship for what he can't have.I was lied too and cheated on the entire time. They can't be trusted. Sorry.

This is nothing to do with his ex.
It is nothing to do with him being a Libra.
This is to do with the way you are letting him treat you which is clearly not even close to adequate.
I wasted years of my life with men treating me similarly. Trust what your instincts are telling you and move on. Once you have found a man who is man enough to have a reciprocal relationship the fog will clear and you'll look back and realise this man was wasting your life from the start.
You're still young, but the early 30's are critical years for finding a good partner which takes time and careful selection.
Good luck.