@LadyNeptune
10 Years25,000+ Posts
Insight on my libra hubby
Well guys are almost always on the lookout for the next best thing, so....but it's women's fault, or their cause, as in, they're always making themselves so unavailable...that we try and get the best deal always. It's the price you pay for being such divas.
Maybe we would t be so unavailable if most of y'all weren't such jerks. Doesn't make us want to put out or act lovey. After all we were raised on fairytales.
Guys are jerks? Since a young age? My earliest memories are of a bunch of girls whipping me in the face with their plastic jump rope...hurt like hell. So lm not one of the bad guys...altho l did chase girls when l was 5 or 6... Because l liked them.?...they probably thought l was a jerk. Time to get smarter, girls. And don't feed fairy tales to the next generation.
Posted by Brittthesag
It was perfect and then after we got married I found out a lot of unsettling qualities about him. Which some happened before we got married but they were little things. I also became pregnant within the first few months. So we have a child. I just wanted some insight so maybe we can be happy and I can understand him more and maybe understand why he is the way he is like maybe it's something I'm doing?
So you married him because you were pregnant. I think your gonna have an uphill battle here.
Fellow Sagi here, so I can say this, you are naive as hell ?
All these qualities you are suddenly noticing are things you should have investigated a little more before jumping into a marriage ...but since you have committed to this you need to see him for who he truly is and decide if it's worth it to you to work it out or not. If the answer is yes it's worth it to you, then you need to accept his past as his past and focus forward.
Idk why you are worrying about who he sexted before you ...and as far as his child's mother...she's not going anywhere.
Again, all things that should have been properly considered before marriage but it looks like you'll be doing this backwards
Best of luck
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The things that jump out at me are...
1. You've only known him for a year, meaning you don't really know the TRUE him.
2. He lies about big things.
3. He shames you for your past while hiding a past of his own. Hypocrite.
Why did you jump into marriage so quickly?