Is it possible to get my ex Libra man back?

Its been a month we broke up. I am capricorn woman and the guy was a libra. It was all going good in our relationship but one day suddenly he disappeared. I tried contacting him alot. Messaged him alot but he didn't reply. As I reached to the height of frustration , I called him and get mad at him about being ignored. He just broke up after the call saying he needs his own space he don't like disturbance. As we were best friends before our relationship ignorance matters alot to him. He just can't handle it. He blocked me from his facebook. Cut off all contacts with me.Should I give him some time to get him back? Because After all I am a capricorn and its matter of my ego so I capricorn and my ego is not allowing me to text him again.

Any more contact from your side would mean stalking. Leave him alone, he's done with your "ego".

Libra or not - thats no way to treat anyone! Communication is key in all relationships! This guy is behaving like a total jerk - as i told someone else when someone does this... Dont just walk away... RUN!!!

Even I apologized him for what I have said to him in my anger and he accepted that and apologized too for his rude behavior . But then again he disappeared and comes up telling me that he just don't want to talk to me.

I think you are right @secret. Though its really hard to move on but I will try my best. We were best friends and I have a firm believe that he will be back but once I am done I will be done forever. Just can't help him ever again then.

In a relationship not more than 3 months but we were best friends for past two years knew each and every thing about each other.

The most annoying thing is he came to me confront his feelings in front of me. Although I wasn't as much involved with him at first but then he just keep begging me to love him and when I was completely involved he just started his disappearing acts.

Sorry for asking so many questions but I am just 18 and he is 19. Do you guys think there is a factor of immaturity there?

Posted by tiziani


I believe you both, and I respect that - just saying it's meaningless to say it to another person. Most (if not all men) I've asked how no clue what it means or why it's relevant.

it helps women to feel better. ain't nothing like a bit of denial to fix a broken heart.

op, i can't help but think that you must have said some truly hurtful things if he has cut you off after a 2 year friendship. yes, sometimes it is apology accepted but like you said, once you are done, the same goes for librans. it can just be much more outwardly abrupt.

Posted by Carolz
Sorry for asking so many questions but I am just 18 and he is 19. Do you guys think there is a factor of immaturity there?

it never surprises me that women will put any faith in a 19 year old man. their (along with your own) brain hasn't even developed yet. everyone is stupid at that age.

Jeane but what about the first time he disappeared and had no valid reason instead of saying he was busy and he needs his space? I am not usually mad at things or rude at others but when it comes to ignorance or when I feel a person isn't sincere with me I usually become mad and say things which might hurt a bit . But then I apologized and he said me sorry back so that means he also realized his mistake.

We are both high school students. We will get busy in our finals after a month or two. But one thing I haven't mentioned is he is very moody. When he experiences long gaps between communications he text me back even in our friendship period as well. One thing I experienced with him was giving him so much importance wasn't worth it because when ignore him he just craves for my attention.

Posted by Carolz
Jeane but what about the first time he disappeared and had no valid reason instead of saying he was busy and he needs his space? I am not usually mad at things or rude at others but when it comes to ignorance or when I feel a person isn't sincere with me I usually become mad and say things which might hurt a bit . But then I apologized and he said me sorry back so that means he also realized his mistake.

the problem is (and you are not the first and won't be the last and i hold my hand up as guilty of this as well) that you have unrealistic expectations of a person who is still a child. he may be 19 but he is more child than man. it doesn't matter what he said, says or will say, he is still a child. don't rely on children.

that doesn't mean he realised his mistake. it means he said sorry to you. anything beyond that is you adding meaning where there is likely to be none.

Posted by jeane

Posted by Carolz
Jeane but what about the first time he disappeared and had no valid reason instead of saying he was busy and he needs his space? I am not usually mad at things or rude at others but when it comes to ignorance or when I feel a person isn't sincere with me I usually become mad and say things which might hurt a bit . But then I apologized and he said me sorry back so that means he also realized his mistake.

the problem is (and you are not the first and won't be the last and i hold my hand up as guilty of this as well) that you have unrealistic expectations of a person who is still a child. he may be 19 but he is more child than man. it doesn't matter what he said, says or will say, he is still a child. don't rely on children.

that doesn't mean he realised his mistake. it means he said sorry to you. anything beyond that is you adding meaning where there is likely to be none.

click to expand

Trying to explain to a child that she shouldn't expect another child to have some sort of respect is just a moot point. He's her peer. Your argument is just silly.

OP, what I want to know is how long he'd disappear for? Unfortunately, until your mid 20s, you're going to deal with a lot of stupid shit like this from guys. They have no idea what they want and ESPECIALLY young Libra dudes who act impulsively and stupidly in regard to matters of the heart. They move in fast, thinking they know what they want, but then realize this isn't it, and turn into trolls on you.

It's maddening and doesn't make sense, but just be prepared for this crap in dating for awhile. However, you also must check yourself as well seeing as how most girls your age and well into their 20s are just as maddening for guys, too. Has a lot to do with psychological maturity that neither gender will get to til mid 20s.

Posted by rockyroadicecream


Trying to explain to a child that she shouldn't expect another child to have some sort of respect is just a moot point. He's her peer. Your argument is just silly.

so do you suggest i let her stay in the dark? say nothing? that's not very kind.

and i managed to grasp this well before 18. i have faith that this simple point won't be lost on her. sometimes all we need is a little bit of wisdom from those who walked before us.

Posted by jeane

Posted by rockyroadicecream


Trying to explain to a child that she shouldn't expect another child to have some sort of respect is just a moot point. He's her peer. Your argument is just silly.

so do you suggest i let her stay in the dark? say nothing? that's not very kind.

and i managed to grasp this well before 18. i have faith that this simple point won't be lost on her. sometimes all we need is a little bit of wisdom from those who walked before us.

click to expand

"HOW DARE YOU EXPECT SOMEONE TO TREAT YOU WITH RESPECT AT 19. YOU SHOULD KNOW BETTER THAN NOT TO EXPECT YOUR PEERS TO TREAT YOU NOT LIKE A CHILD."

I get your point, but the way you said it just sounded ridiculous.

If 5 year old girl cries when another 5 year old boy pushes her to the ground, would you think it's perfectly appropriate to tell her to that she should just expect that type of treatment because boys her age do that type of thing?

I'm not suggesting leaving her in the dark, but speaking to her like she should know something like this at her age when someone else her own age is acting like this... because of age, is stupid, sorry.

Okay I know its childish but somewhere I am the one who gets rude. I am excepting it that I have said much to him. But every time he was coming to me saying sorry. And this time he doesn't said anything like this and that is what I never expected from him. Its just a confusion because we both know we cannot live apart with each other. It seems like something is still unresolved. That is the reason I cannot move on. Even I saw him sometimes posting on his Instagram sad quotes or things that can relate the pain what he is feeling.

Posted by Carolz
Okay I know its childish but somewhere I am the one who gets rude. I am excepting it that I have said much to him. But every time he was coming to me saying sorry. And this time he doesn't said anything like this and that is what I never expected from him. Its just a confusion because we both know we cannot live apart with each other. It seems like something is still unresolved. That is the reason I cannot move on. Even I saw him sometimes posting on his Instagram sad quotes or things that can relate the pain what he is feeling.

you can live apart. it just feels like you can't.

there will be so many more relationships you have in your future. take this for what it is, a relationship that you will learn from, gain experience with and hopefully gather a little bit more insight into yourself and others.

I have never seen any successful Libra and Capricorn couples, but just my experience and I'm kinda old 😉

I wouldn't take it personally for that reason of why he disappeared. You're not compatible. You're both still young and have plenty of time to meet lots of other wonderful and more compatible people.

He is being upfront with you in this way by not leading you on. That is a form of Libra love -- to be honest and fair and to allow the other person to move on.

I wouldn't stop being friends with him, but if you feel like you cannot stay friends because it is a sore spot for you, then do what you need to do. You have every right to do what you need to do. But so does he.

At your age, I thought it was the end of the world going through heartbreak. Trust me, you will have many more loves. Your adventure is just beginning. You may hear from him again later on. He is just checking to make sure you are ok because he does care and wants to stay friends. Libras dislike confrontations. If you love him, let him be free. He's giving you that kind of love.

Okay so As I have discussed my problem here and after so many suggestions. Its my responsibility to tell you guys that we both have made a mutual decision of being just friends.I don't know what he has decided to do so after this decision but what I have decided is I will give him his whole space will not try to contact him for months in between if he will feel like missing me or he needs me in any of his problem I will be more than happy to help him. But for now I just don't see it suitable for both of us to talk or being in contact much often. And to be honest now I just don't feel the way I felt for him before so I hope I have made a better decision. We both are happy living in that tag "Just Friends". Something is better than nothing 🙂

Wish you all the very best _??

Posted by tiziani

Posted by Carolz
I think you are right @secret. Though its really hard to move on but I will try my best. We were best friends and I have a firm believe that he will be back but once I am done I will be done forever. Just can't help him ever again then.

Just want to save you (and a lot of other people) time by pointing out that no man ever cared about this... ever.


I don't know why women bother saying this because it really means nothing to guys.


As for your situation, no idea what you said to him but if he just decided to ignore you for a month then it's best you take care of yourself, your own life. Evidently he doesn't feel he owes you an explanation so you can't waste away waiting for one either. Hope you feel better in due time.

click to expand

Tizani: what do you mean by this? So if a guy really loved a girl, and wanted her back, but she doesnt want him back, he wouldnt care? Ouch