Libra behaviour

Good day to all! Need to seek all the fellow libra community on some pointers.

I got to know this libra girl online, we exchange message and she was charming and friendly and will flirt time to time, she will like my messages and use kissing emojis those.

I know that libra tend to be one of the flirtious in the zodiac sign but is it a good sign that she's liking my messages?

I also tried to initiate getting her number and video call but she say she's shy and wants me to slow down the pace. She also say she takes time to know a person and shes afraid if guys ask her out when she just got to know them. I understand her vulnerability. I told her that and she's grateful too. She finds me matured as well. Can any libra advise me if whays I'm doing is correct? Giving her space and letting her take control of the situation?

She will reply to my messages typically within an hour, not sure about her daily life just know she's currenting staying with her friends, I believed there are other pursuers as well. I want to take it slow but I don't wish to lose the attraction as well. When I don't message her, she rarely approach me, is it a bad sign?

I'm a Leo, I want to take control of the situation of the chase but I'm insecure when dealing with her(libra). Please advise how should I approach her? Many thanks!!

Thanks for the heads up. As a Leo, our weakness is we wants to take control of the situation else we will feel uncomfortable. This is our weakness, when dealing with her I will watch this point. Thanks for the idea and effort taken, really appreciate it.

I should let nature take its own course, pursue but at her pace, believe its best for her.

it's about ebb and flow as well. we're the scales. we need the balance. if you go hard at some stage, you'll then need to step back to allow for equilibrium to return.

you don't need to chase her all the time, let her come to you at times too. go in too hard, too fast and she'll be put off.

we also like good banter. you're online so chat about interesting stuff. keep her engaged and enjoying your conversation. if she likes films, talk about films. send her funny memes, or endearing stories about puppies that are rescued or a band that you think she'll enjoy. keep it light while she makes up her mind about you.

Posted by thatlibralife

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I had a Leo guy from eons ago in my early twenties chasing me who although I liked him wouldn’t stop being so aggressive and let me make up my mind about him. Trying to force kisses on me, telling people he was in love with me etc. He was a nice guy but too pushy and wouldn’t just go with the flow letting us be friends then evolve into something more...

that sounds like my worst nightmare.

Thanks guys. I notice about the banter too. She like it when it comes naturally.

libra will take a long time to choose their partner? I don't mind about this. Is thee a way to check if I'm pursuing too much? Like slow reply? I don't wish to get ahead of myself again

If she's still talking and laughing means it's still OK?

Posted by Leo8712

Thanks guys. I notice about the banter too. She like it when it comes naturally.

libra will take a long time to choose their partner? I don't mind about this. Is thee a way to check if I'm pursuing too much? Like slow reply? I don't wish to get ahead of myself again

If she's still talking and laughing means it's still OK?

we take as long as we take to decide if you qualify for the next stage.

it's not so much about how quickly you reply, it's more about forcing her to make a decision or pressuring her to feel a certain way or behave a certain way.

just be yourself. it has worked so far. you sound understanding and aware of your own character. you're listening to her when she explains herself. keep doing that. respect her ways.

Around 3 week plus. I don't wish to screw things up so I follow her pace, just message only. No video call those..

I'm not sure her interest level but time to time I will compliment or write I miss you message and she will like the medsage. Is it just a friendly gesture, she don't say that to me? I take it as she is still uncomfortable yet?

Thee are some days which I don't text her and she also didn't initiate contact with me. Is there other meaning other than she's busy? 🤣 🤣

Posted by Leo8712

Around 3 week plus. I don't wish to screw things up so I follow her pace, just message only. No video call those..

I'm not sure her interest level but time to time I will compliment or write I miss you message and she will like the medsage. Is it just a friendly gesture, she don't say that to me? I take it as she is still uncomfortable yet?

Thee are some days which I don't text her and she also didn't initiate contact with me. Is there other meaning other than she's busy? 🤣 🤣

3 weeks and you want i miss you's and chat every day?

Posted by dillpickle

a lot of libras find leo energy smothering. be careful.

& honestly, that last bit “i wanna take control of the situation” doesnt sound good to me.

be thoughtful, mild, & kind. she will appreciate that.

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Women stay on dxp with story after story wanting the guy to take control and lead....

When a guy says he wants to do it...

You're turned off———

Make it make sense.

Once again, really thanks thatlibralife, Jeane and dillpickle for the insightful. Leo's are always overbearing from time to time. Born impatient and short temper.

But now it's about the other half so I have to change this point of mine. I believed she will be more pleased with a less raging lion

Ok, thanks.

Last thing, what if she gone cold suddenly? Normally I just stop texting her and wit for her reply. I do believe that space is important and she will reply if she wants to. This move is correct? In short, just no pressure at all

send her peen pics

I dont have issue with wanting to video chat, it is more the expectation that she miss him after knowing him for less than a month and that she should respond within a time he finds reasonable while also chatting everyday.

Shes already told him that it takes her a while to get to know someone. He wants to take charge on how this develops rather than actually just concentrating on getting to know each other first.

It's too much. It's not even been as long as a menstrual cycle.

Wow! Thanks for all the advise fellow libra, I have learn alot from all the comments.

After all the comments, yes I probably been too head on strong in pursuing her, it's probably uncomfortable for her. In order to keep the balance, I will tone down and talk lesser for now for her to reach the balance.

I supposed this is better for her and give her more stability. Let her lead the pace of the relationship will be optimal for now since it's just less than a month into the relationship. Thanks for the feedback once again!!

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Posted by jeane

I dont have issue with wanting to video chat, it is more the expectation that she miss him after knowing him for less than a month and that she should respond within a time he finds reasonable while also chatting everyday.

Shes already told him that it takes her a while to get to know someone. He wants to take charge on how this develops rather than actually just concentrating on getting to know each other first.

It's too much. It's not even been as long as a menstrual cycle.

but where does time come into that?

Getting to know one another as people in our own right is definitely important for me. in quarantine i get that that can’t happen in person (even though that’s really the only way, all the writing in the world cannot give any clue about how in person chemistry will play out)

but failing that, phone or video is at least human.

i’m not saying he’s entitled to that, it’s just straightforward to propose it. and if she says no then she’s either afraid like she says she is, not interested or both.

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I think we are taking at cross purposes here.

Leo tend be loud with their action and feelings. We don't like to hide these type of matters, but guess it's too much for libra.

Be her friend, enjoy the process of getting to know her.

Hi to all fellow libra, so I heed the advice and took it slow. Just today she send me a picture of her on the way back home. This is the first time she send. I want to genuinely compliment her but I'm afraid it might seems fake to her.

Not sure what is actually going thru her mind when she send. It's friendly again? She knows I'm into her and she send, does it have any meaning? I'm confused

Posted by thatlibralife

Posted by Leo8712

Hi to all fellow libra, so I heed the advice and took it slow. Just today she send me a picture of her on the way back home. This is the first time she send. I want to genuinely compliment her but I'm afraid it might seems fake to her.

Not sure what is actually going thru her mind when she send. It's friendly again? She knows I'm into her and she send, does it have any meaning? I'm confused

Lawwwwddd boy lol...Yes compliment her. We are the kings and queens of compliments. When I bother to compliment people I mean it. So I think she should take it well. She’s keeping communication open. You do the same. This is a good start. Keep it going...

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You are overthinking it sometimes. Just be yourself but don’t be obnoxious about it.

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Hi thatlibralife, thanks for support as always. She just told me that she have feelings for me but she's worried about commitment. That's why she goes hot and coldd on me. She wants more time. I only replied her that we will know when the time is right, didn't want to pressure her on this. I didn't ask anything from her since the last time we spoken. Why did she mentioned about getting into a relationship all of a sudden?

Posted by thatlibralife

Posted by Leo8712

Hi to all fellow libra, so I heed the advice and took it slow. Just today she send me a picture of her on the way back home. This is the first time she send. I want to genuinely compliment her but I'm afraid it might seems fake to her.

Not sure what is actually going thru her mind when she send. It's friendly again? She knows I'm into her and she send, does it have any meaning? I'm confused

Lawwwwddd boy lol...Yes compliment her. We are the kings and queens of compliments. When I bother to compliment people I mean it. So I think she should take it well. She’s keeping communication open. You do the same. This is a good start. Keep it going...

P.s.

You are overthinking it sometimes. Just be yourself but don’t be obnoxious about it.

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Hi thatlibralife, thanks for support as always. She just told me that she have feelings for me but she's worried about commitment. That's why she goes hot and coldd on me. She wants more time. I only replied her that we will know when the time is right, didn't want to pressure her on this. I didn't ask anything from her since the last time we spoken. Why did she mentioned about getting into a relationship all of a sudden?

Life is too short to put up with hot/cold games.

Think of all the fun you could be having in your life all this time, if you weren't wasting so much time & energy on a prissy oaf who probably spends 30 minutes debating herself trying to decide which color panties to wear today.

Libras....



And I'm in sort of the same boat as you, in which I'm not getting what I believe I deserve to get after all the time & energy I've put into someone. Now I'm exploring other options - with a clear no1 contender - and I'm far more at peace than I ever thought I'd be.

Hi, all of a sudden she gone cold and sound disinterested? What's going on? Anyone can advise? A few days ago, everything seems ok. What can I do now?

Posted by Leo8712

Hi, all of a sudden she gone cold and sound disinterested? What's going on? Anyone can advise? A few days ago, everything seems ok. What can I do now?

it's hard to know the answer to this. anything could have caused the change. maybe she just isn't feeling it anymore? or maybe a recent conversation has made her reconsider things? or maybe it's just your interpretation.

Youre pushing too hard Leo. Hmm where ru fruhm? Clearly not a westernzer try b4 you buy type.

Posted by Leo8712

Hi, all of a sudden she gone cold and sound disinterested? What's going on? Anyone can advise? A few days ago, everything seems ok. What can I do now?

Dance. Banter is verbal dancing. I imagine when dancing, the one who leads also creates opening for the other to make moves themselves. You need to create a space for her to move. Kinda like how asking a question causes the other to want to answer. In this context what your doing is asking a question and telling her what you want the answer to be. F that.

If your forceful and controlling, your not fun to dance with. Being needy is creates negative pressure to engage you. Therefore force.

Chill out and find away to be light hearted with her and serious about the relationship at the same time.

Maybe she's shy.

On the flip side maybe she's catfishing you and that's why she doesn't go on video chat with you. You've already invested over a month. If she still doesn't want to facetime or give her number to you there is literally video chat options on most sm platforms.

Hello all, thanks for the feedbacks. Just talk to her on phone and realised she's going thru a little of a depression with her family. That's why she chose not to communicate with others. Hence she chose to break contact with people for now. I told her I'll bring her out to unwind and she agreed. I did not set a date at the moment cos I feel it might be too pushy at that moment.

Just a few days ago I was busy at work for the last 2 days and didn't text her and she texted me at 3am, so I think her feelings are postive towards me

Ps: We are from Asia

Me neither. Are you a libra?

Posted by alexscaries

Am I the only one who won't use a kiss emoji unless I have kissed that person in real life, unless it is for a wind up.or a joke?

Hello guys, I'm really confused 😕.

Is it normal to libra to approach someone out of the blue but yet want to end the conversation. We haven been talking for a while recently and she initiate contact but seems like not willing to chat after. Is this the hot and cold part of them?

I'm confused.. Please advise

Posted by Leo8712

Hello guys, I'm really confused 😕.

Is it normal to libra to approach someone out of the blue but yet want to end the conversation. We haven been talking for a while recently and she initiate contact but seems like not willing to chat after. Is this the hot and cold part of them?

I'm confused.. Please advise

I definitely do this if I'm interested but not sold on what the objective is selling. I will move on to a more favorable person in the rotation. OP I don't think she was tempted enough to continue the conversation with you tbh. To easy.