@libralawyer
6 Years
Feel Trapped
How to Handle Feelings of Being Trapped in a Relationship
Feeling trapped in a relationship can stem from control issues or incompatibility. It is important to communicate your boundaries clearly and consider whether the relationship aligns with your needs for independence and respect. Seeking advice from a counselor or astrologer can provide insights into possible underlying dynamics based on your zodiac signs.
Push him out of the window....he sounds like a boring control freak
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What can you do? Make him another sandwich!
Lol
Yes, a knuckle one preferably 😅
Stand up for yourself and tell him no. You don't have to listen to him. He will keep pushing as long as you don't stand up for yourself. If you don't like something let him know.
But him telling you to take showers- lol Be stinky if you want to.
Stop showering and stink him out lol 😂
I am not going to shower every single day when I have been working from home and trapped in my apartment. If I was going into the office everyday, then I shower every night before bed.
I have mentioned to him to please do not correct me so much, as it can get a little too personal. He told me I was being too emotional and sensitive. I have asked him to help with the cooking and he says "he was on a longer call than expected." I get it, but six times and I just cook for myself. I do not like these petty games, especially if we end up married with kids.
Any Scorpio men out there agree/disagree with his behavior?
I thought showering every day despite circumstances was normal? 😐
I thought showering every day despite circumstances was normal? 😐
My mother is German. She taught me to only shower/run water when necessary. Anyways, my showering habits are a mute point. I put deodorant on everyday.
This quarantine is ruing my relationship!!! I am a Libra woman, he is a Scorpio male. We both live in a big city and work stressful jobs (I'm an attorney, he international policy). I liked him because he is charming and extremely smart, but I feel I am being manipulated and controlled.
He was living at home to save up money. A month and a half ago, he convinced me to let him move in with me before quarantine. Now, him and I have been stuck in my apartment for the past few weeks and I cannot stand it anymore! He almost demands me to cook dinner, make the coffee, shower everyday, and so on. I was in a zoom session and he had the audacity to "give me pointers." I like a man who knows what he wants, but I cannot handle the "helpful hints" and the expectation of perfection. I wonder if he did this to his mother...
What should I do?
Be more assertive instead of bitching and moaning about him to strangers.
He is a clean freak, super anal retentive.
I just want him to move out and for us to take a break. Him and I both regularly work 60-70 hrs a week in our respective jobs. I think moved too fast and are not used to being around one person 24/7. He begged to stay with me because he said he could not work at his parents place.
I feel bad and guilty about the entire scenario, like it is all my fault; like I am not good enough. I do not need to be in a relationship with someone that makes me feel this way though. i just do not know how to gently and kindly tell him all of this. I feel I am being extra dramatic.
Posted by libralawyer I feel I am being extra dramatic.
You are being extra dramatic. Look at you . . . you're here making a big deal out of a situation that could easily by handled by most people.
Communication is key. Sulkiness is not.
Posted by libralawyer I feel I am being extra dramatic.
You are being extra dramatic. Look at you . . . you're here making a big deal out of a situation that could easily by handled by most people.
Communication is key. Sulkiness is not.
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I just do not want this to turn into a big argument.
I thought showering every day despite circumstances was normal? 😐
My mother is German. She taught me to only shower/run water when necessary. Anyways, my showering habits are a mute point. I put deodorant on everyday.
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Mother doesn't always know best ....
Deodrant on an unshowered body 😬
a blessing in disguise this is. living with someone gives the other person the opportunity to reveal their true self
now what you have to do is try to talk through whatever rubs you the wrong way. see if he's willing to meet you halfway. communication is the key. if he doesn't cooperate... this is who he is. this is what he wants. a housewife. and you're not one so just pack his bags and send him off to his mother's house pam pam
Posted by libralawyer I feel I am being extra dramatic.
You are being extra dramatic. Look at you . . . you're here making a big deal out of a situation that could easily by handled by most people.
Communication is key. Sulkiness is not.
I just do not want this to turn into a big argument.
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It doesn't have to and it shouldn't have to. Stop getting carried away by imaginary worst case scenarios. Being assertive doesn't equal being a cunt.
And if it does turns into an argument then he's an asshole and should be out of your life anyway.
It seems to me like you're operating from a place of fear and desperation. Consider seeing a therapist in the near future to help you with self-esteem issues.
My advice is simple: fix him or fix yourself.
Find a roach motel, get a room, and drop him off.
Thank you for the humor. Any other suggestions? LOL
Stop acting like his mother. Tell him it's his turn to cook. I'm with him on the showering though but that's because I feel gross if I don't shower everyday. I once told a scorpio to take a shower. He thought I was rude asf and this was coming from a libra. I don't want no stinky man sleeping in my bed. 🤣
To each their own. Did you have the same issues with your Scorpio man?
Damn. I hated living with my leo ex. He was a abusive disaster.
I cant imagine being under quarantine with him.
I've seen people in moving trucks during quarantine.
Tell him it's time to go.
Is it a German thing to not wash every day, then?
A lawyer who doesn't know how to argue....? 😕
A lawyer who doesn't know how to argue....? 😕
Being a lawyer is not about arguing. Besides, this is in my home, not a business deal. Huge difference.
I am going to talk to him tonight.
Gosh I feel your pain.
Our close friend had his new gf move in literally a week before quarantine. She was having issues with roommates and he was thinking, well we are planning on getting a place together anyways... just move in and when my lease is up we will get a bigger place.
How could he have know that they would both loose their jobs (they are dancers) and be living on top of each other in 700sf not able to leave the house.
I think times rn are a little unique. You gotta ask yourself what about him is annoying you just cause your around each other 24x7 and what is annoying you truly.
What does making coffee just for yourself look like... you brew a pot, drink a cup, then pour the rest down the sink while he watches?
He expects me to make the coffee. He will not make it.
We talked long and hard a few minutes ago. He told me he thought I was going to be more like his mother in the domestic department. He also said I was too focused on my career and did not give me enough attention. The irony.
He is going to stay at his parents for a while.
He expects me to make the coffee. He will not make it.
We talked long and hard a few minutes ago. He told me he thought I was going to be more like his mother in the domestic department. He also said I was too focused on my career and did not give me enough attention. The irony.
He is going to stay at his parents for a while.
Oh don't let him back in.....he's a joke
Make sure you get your key from him
Comaparing you to his mother is so weird
"Mummmmmmyyyyy"
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He expects me to make the coffee. He will not make it.
We talked long and hard a few minutes ago. He told me he thought I was going to be more like his mother in the domestic department. He also said I was too focused on my career and did not give me enough attention. The irony.
He is going to stay at his parents for a while.
EW
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It's gross.
Is that you? 🙂
I’ll definitely be drinking wine tonight. Guys I’m single now if you want to DM me LOL.
I do not know if I should feel flattered or offended honestly.
He expects me to make the coffee. He will not make it.
We talked long and hard a few minutes ago. He told me he thought I was going to be more like his mother in the domestic department. He also said I was too focused on my career and did not give me enough attention. The irony.
He is going to stay at his parents for a while.
Did he at least give you money for the rent/utilities?
He expects me to make the coffee. He will not make it.
We talked long and hard a few minutes ago. He told me he thought I was going to be more like his mother in the domestic department. He also said I was too focused on my career and did not give me enough attention. The irony.
He is going to stay at his parents for a while.
You’re dating a lil boy who went from mommy’s home to yours. Obviously, he was spoiled by his mom because my brothers did their own chores. It’s time to make a chore schedule for him.
I’m curious about his placements. Does he by any chance have Virgo in him? The dictating and obsession with every day showering reminds me of my ex Libra who was Virgo dominant and showered three times a day and over-dried his skin resulting in back acne.
He paid for half of the utilities while living here. All bills were paid.
He listened and said he was under a lot of stress, but he is looking for a specific type of woman and I only met about 1/4 of his requirements. (Paraphrasing)
Posted by libralawyer I’ll definitely be drinking wine tonight. Guys I’m single now if you want to DM me LOL.
I do not know if I should feel flattered or offended honestly.
Sweet freedom.......enjoy! 😀
He paid for half of the utilities while living here. All bills were paid.
He listened and said he was under a lot of stress, but he is looking for a specific type of woman and I only met about 1/4 of his requirements. (Paraphrasing)
One of those robot dolls may suit him or a mail order bride 🙄
LOL. I am never dating a Scorpio man, that is for damn sure! Everything was so intense and over analyzed, I could not enjoy myself. IN MY OWN HOME.
I am sorry if I have given everyone way too much information. I am fairly new to my city and have had a difficult time making friends. Thanks for listening and giving advice!
I think my mother was right: Gustav Mahler is the only man I need. 😉
I thought showering every day despite circumstances was normal? 😐
My mother is German. She taught me to only shower/run water when necessary. Anyways, my showering habits are a mute point. I put deodorant on everyday.
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No one:
Absolutely no one:
A person who works in the legal field and is a virgo: It's moot point....kbye.
Posted by libralawyer I’ll definitely be drinking wine tonight. Guys I’m single now if you want to DM me LOL.
I do not know if I should feel flattered or offended honestly.
Congratulations! You stood your ground and saved your dignity.
Kill him and blame it on the 'rona.
Get him out of your house!!! I don't understand why people allow themselves to be disrespected in their own homes. He's a guest and can be tossed out like one. Stand up for yourself. If his name isn't on the lease, all of his talking can cease. $ $ $ $ $
Girl let his parents KEEP him. Change the locks and never let him back in. You don't need that. Tell him if he wants to rule the castle, get his own castle first.
My house, my rules. Live with me and you're pitching in while keeping your comments to yourself. I feel sorry for his mother but not really because she spoiled him and enabled him to be a self centered lazy jerk. Good riddance. Screw charming. The devil is charming too. Before you know it, you're going through hell.
Do you have his chart? Put it up and let's lambaste it.
I ran his birth chart:
Sun- Scorpio
Moon- Virgo
Mercury- Aries
Venus- Libra
Mars- Scorpio
Do you have his chart? Put it up and let's lambaste it.
I ran his birth chart:
Sun- Scorpio
Moon- Virgo
Mercury- Aries
Venus- Libra
Mars- Scorpio
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That chart is wrong. No one with Scorpio Sun has Mercury in Aries.
Do you have his chart? Put it up and let's lambaste it.
I ran his birth chart:
Sun- Scorpio
Moon- Virgo
Mercury- Aries
Venus- Libra
Mars- Scorpio
That chart is wrong. No one with Scorpio Sun has Mercury in Aries.
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You're right, I had a few different birth charts pulled up and got confused. Sorry!!
His birth chart is:
Sun- Scorpio
Moon- Gemini
Mercury- Scorpio
Venus- Scorpio
Mars- Gemini
My birth chart is:
Sun-Libra
Moon- Libra
Mercury- Libra
Venus- Virgo
Mars- Libra
I thought showering every day despite circumstances was normal? 😐
My mother is German. She taught me to only shower/run water when necessary. Anyways, my showering habits are a mute point. I put deodorant on everyday.
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You are not your mother tho....
Hygienics are a basic rule and deodorant isnt needed if you wash yourself daily.
I agreebwith Scorpio on this one.
The rest is a 50/50 task....
Talk to him tell him how you feel.
Communication is key to any relationship
Drama bait topic - made by a bored troll.
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This quarantine is ruing my relationship!!! I am a Libra woman, he is a Scorpio male. We both live in a big city and work stressful jobs (I'm an attorney, he international policy). I liked him because he is charming and extremely smart, but I feel I am being manipulated and controlled.
He was living at home to save up money. A month and a half ago, he convinced me to let him move in with me before quarantine. Now, him and I have been stuck in my apartment for the past few weeks and I cannot stand it anymore! He almost demands me to cook dinner, make the coffee, shower everyday, and so on. I was in a zoom session and he had the audacity to "give me pointers." I like a man who knows what he wants, but I cannot handle the "helpful hints" and the expectation of perfection. I wonder if he did this to his mother...
What should I do?