Libra guy ignoring me...is he mad?

I'm a Capricorn woman who just met this libra man on Halloween. We get along great and have been on two little dates. He really likes me, and I like him. He texts me everyday, says good morning, good night, all of that

Well just yesterday he texted me good morning beautiful are u awake? And I lost track of his text message because I got caught up with my busy hectic day. And I replied to him 12 hours later telling him not to hate me and that I was sorry for forgetting to respond. Well don't you know he hasn't responded yet? I feel so bad! It's been a day and he hasn't said anything to me. I don't even know why I care, I barely know him but I feel like I might have hurt him. Is this how libra guys usually act? Did I hurt his feelings?

Yea he's just trying to take back the control. They seem to be very sensitive to perceived hurts and it's a real problem in a relationship coz you never know what what you've done wrong to justify their passive-aggressive actions towards you. A lot of the times they do things to balance themselves not thinking about the other person at all. If you keep seeing this guy you will be in for a long boring ride of this type of sh*t. Not all Libra males are the same but my ex was like that and another guy I started seeing is like that also, I gave up.

You didn't respond to his message and I'm guessing this was the first time you forgot him. Not a nice feeling! He's now mirroring you and also second guessing what you are to him.

Posted by hopelesscapricorn
I'm a Capricorn woman who just met this libra man on Halloween. We get along great and have been on two little dates. He really likes me, and I like him. He texts me everyday, says good morning, good night, all of that

Well just yesterday he texted me good morning beautiful are u awake? And I lost track of his text message because I got caught up with my busy hectic day. And I replied to him 12 hours later telling him not to hate me and that I was sorry for forgetting to respond. Well don't you know he hasn't responded yet? I feel so bad! It's been a day and he hasn't said anything to me. I don't even know why I care, I barely know him but I feel like I might have hurt him. Is this how libra guys usually act? Did I hurt his feelings?

Nah..he's just being a butt wipe. We all get busy and may not be able to respond to a text right away, so if his feelings got caught up over something that simple, then you may not want to waste your time with him. Like "GemniSparkle" said, if you do decide to pursue this, you are in for a long roller coaster ride because that is no reason to get all bent out of shape because you didn't text him right back. He doesn't know what could have happen with you where you just couldn't reply right then. And then again, maybe he's busy and just haven't had time to reply back..I dunno

I agree with the ladies. I was gonna post something yesterday but didn't know how to word it, still don't. I'm curious though, it's been a couple days now. Did anyone make contact?

People often comment about libras mirroring behavior. While it's true, it struck me yesterday reading this that it is more than that. Part of me expects people to act like me also. Obviously everyone has free will, I'm not talking about actually controlling their actions, just my assumptions to what things mean.

For instance, when I like someone they are on my mind a lot, maybe too much. So the idea of being so busy I forgot to respond to my daily good morning...just wouldn't happen. Not for that long anyway. The only time I see a text and don't respond until twelve hours later is if I ain't that interested.

So...if i send a text (especially to someone i like) and it is night time when they say good morning back, I bring myself down a few pegs on where I think I stand in their eyes. That is my honest gut reaction to this.

However, I'm not that quick to judge. I realize shit happens. Phone batteries die. Cars break down. Family gets sick. Who knows.

If i was in the habit of texting someone good morning and one day they just didn't respond. By lunch I'd be worried if everything was okay. I'd have probably sent another text mid day. Well, you guys barely meet, I might not chase.

I guess I see where the hurt feelings could come from but like the other responses said, he ain't handling it well. I've never understood the disappearing thing libras are known for. If i don't like something I'm gonna tell you. By the time I "disappear" you definitely know why.

@LibraSid +1000. Usually when I get to the point where I'm not responding, you already know there's been a breakdown in communication before the disappearing act, and if I truly truly like someone and that happens, it's definitely because of something that was said or done and the person really knows the deal. I used to think the same way..like why is it so hard to extend common courtesy. I just always expected folks to treat me like I treated them, but I know differently now, so I learn how to treat people accordingly, which I guess some see as the mirror effect. My husband is always telling me that sometimes I need to be the bigger person, but I'm not sure if I will ever learn how to be the bigger person and over look rude behavior. I don't think any Libra can lol...I never have and don't see that I ever will. It took me a while to get to that point, but I realize early on that people will try to run all over you just because you are being courteous or what they may deem as being overly nice or fake, which again, I never understood. Just because I smile at you and say hello doesn't mean I want to be your friend or I'm trying to get to know you. It is what it is..just common courtesy.
@LibraSid, can I ask you a question? If you've ever experienced this, do you think that Libra males are more emotional than female Libra's?

LIb4Life, I've never dated a libra woman and the only one I known pretty good as an adult is my ex sister in law. What I can say, is that I am more emotional than most people seem to be. I've been accused of wearing my heart on my sleeve many times. I just see it as being real. If something upset me, I'll let the person know. I'm with you on the rude behavior too and no, I will never learn to tolerate it. I don't want to. I don't offend easily,but when the line is crossed it ain't pretty. From what I've seen over the years here with many regular posters is that there doesn't seem to be a lot of variation in libras in general. At least not the ones of us drawn to hang around this place.

Posted by tiziani
I think it's important to treat people how they ask to be treated, not how I want to be treated in turn. That was a valuable lesson for me this year. Helped me to listen more and cut out the mirroring stuff, but also helped me invaluably to cut out giving time to people who simply don't know what they want/what they're about.


I also don't really place that much value into text messaging (just me). It sounds like a very simple miscommunication. You could read into it all day or you could just call each other, meet up and sort it out.

That's the golden rule though, to treat others how you want to be treated. I understand the flip side of that means others tell you how to treat them but it still feels wrong to me. I am learning not to take so much crap from people, but just to cut bad influences off completely. In this case I won't fight fire with fire, I'll walk away and leave them sitting alone in the ashes.

I agree that I've given up my expectations of most people. I no longer assume people have similar (or even good) objectives. People have all kinds of agendas. Like I said I'm getting better at drawing lines. I won't keep being good to someone who doesn't return it, just saying rather than to begin treating them bad, I'll stop treating them like anything.

It is one of those topics I've thought a lot about lately. The problem with the golden rule is that not everyone uses it, and those who do apply it differently. It has been twisted and manipulated to support various ideologies. If everyone did it the same it would be great, but...yeah, good luck with that. At its core though, I like it. it's like Bill and Ted, be excellent to each other!

Posted by LibraSid
LIb4Life, I've never dated a libra woman and the only one I known pretty good as an adult is my ex sister in law. What I can say, is that I am more emotional than most people seem to be. I've been accused of wearing my heart on my sleeve many times. I just see it as being real. If something upset me, I'll let the person know. I'm with you on the rude behavior too and no, I will never learn to tolerate it. I don't want to. I don't offend easily,but when the line is crossed it ain't pretty. From what I've seen over the years here with many regular posters is that there doesn't seem to be a lot of variation in libras in general. At least not the ones of us drawn to hang around this place.

I've never dated a Libra male, but in the year I've been cruising this site, it seems Libra men are not the most popular/likeable of the male species. I have very few Male Libra associates, and they all seem pretty nice too me, but then again, I've never been romantically linked with any of them either. The ones that I do interact with seem to wear their heart on their sleeves, which I personally think is cool because most men are alpha males and see it as a sign of weakness. However, outside of the friend realm, I can't speak to their behavior where romance is concern. And yes, I agree with you 100% when someone crosses the line of rudeness. I also know that some folks don't see their behavior as being rude, they see it as being honest and blunt however tactless it maybe. The reason I usually bump heads with those types is because they are usually the first ones to get all in their feelings when someones is being blunt or rude to them. They are real good at dishing it, but usually can't take it when someone dishes it back to them. I've accepted that people are who they are, and I am who I am and that's where the term "treat people accordingly"comes from. If they're not offended, then I'm not offended, but If someone comes at me foul or with the side eye, then I'm 100% sure, I'll come back at them the same way. Thanks for responding
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Judging from my Libra boyfriend and my dad being one, he must feel slighted about being ignored, even though you didn't mean it intentionally. Libras seem to be romantic types, and seek a deep bond with someone that they like, and they hate being ignored. Being ignored to them feels like a slap in the face because they crave attention, especially in the very beginning of a relationship. They also love to test and observe people, especially someone they are interested in. He may be testing to see how you react to him ignoring you, or he may be feeling doubtful that you like him at all. If you really like him, text him again, with a Libra it seems there's no such thing as texting too much...they love to talk and relate with people, especially their romantic interests...yes they can even get clingy too but extremely romantic and they really know how to make a woman feel special and loved.

Lol - i agree with every reply here. I did realize one thing though. You keep saying that he writes and he writes while all you do is reply! We librans dont mind taking the initiative in most relationships however if you dont reciprocate we WILL step back a notch and cross analyze if we are being met mid-way. If you care, you will respond and we will resume. But if you do not - we will bring down our actions several notches. NO we are not ignoring you, its just that you have made us feel out of sorts and we feel that we are more invested in the relationship which does not appeal to our Libran sense of balance. Hope that helps in understanding him.
Starlight seems to have a great understanding of Librans _??

Tiziani - you are 100 % accurate. Analysis of a relationship will get one nowhere. If you want to be in any relationship you need to put yourself out there and face the consequences. And Librans are definitely all about giving it all. I have realized this year that despite me being open about my needs in any relationship, i am unable to comprehend what occurs in anyone else's mind. It hurt me initially but I figured that i had given it my best shot and i was not going to analyze what was going on in anyones head. The guess game was leaving me in an awful state. It was at that point i figured that it was upto the other party to lift a finger - if he does it, well and good. If not, well so be it - i had done my best and was not going to lose any more sleep over this _??

Posted by tiziani
I think it's important to treat people how they ask to be treated, not how I want to be treated in turn.

This is why I take nothing you say seriously.

Posted by LibraSid

Posted by tiziani
I think it's important to treat people how they ask to be treated, not how I want to be treated in turn. That was a valuable lesson for me this year. Helped me to listen more and cut out the mirroring stuff, but also helped me invaluably to cut out giving time to people who simply don't know what they want/what they're about.


I also don't really place that much value into text messaging (just me). It sounds like a very simple miscommunication. You could read into it all day or you could just call each other, meet up and sort it out.

That's the golden rule though, to treat others how you want to be treated. I understand the flip side of that means others tell you how to treat them but it still feels wrong to me. I am learning not to take so much crap from people, but just to cut bad influences off completely. In this case I won't fight fire with fire, I'll walk away and leave them sitting alone in the ashes.

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That's because it IS wrong. You go around treating others as how YOU perceive them wanting to be treated by you, then you're just going to look like some heartless asshole with zero common decency toward others. All this mindset is is a lot of blame shifting to avoid any sort of fault of their own.

However, if you treat others how you want to be treated, not only are you setting a standard of how things should be in a situation between two people, but if the other person chooses to be a dick, well you know you've done all the good on your part and they have nothing to hold against you for doing so. They're the ones will will bear the weight of their actions, not you.

I mean really, what mental midget goes by that mentality? You can come across someone who might be passive aggressive, not very sure of themselves and cannot stand up for what they dislike in your behaviors, and you walk all over that shit because "that's how they WANT to be treated?" People have too many differing personalities to go by such a whacked concept.

Like you said, you treat others how you want to be treated, and if they prove to you they aren't worth it, then yes you cut them off or walk away.

Precisely! But that would make relationships too simple - right? _—

We would all rather assume and make an ass of "u" and "me"

Posted by tiziani
I'm talking about people having wants and needs in a relationship, and letting their partner know. That has nothing to do with perception, interpretation and it doesn't need to be translated.

There's nothing complicated about a woman telling a man "hey I like my coffee made on Thursdays, can you do that for me?"

Him telling her "yeah sure, on Wednesdays I'd like you to be naked with a rubber doll because I'm into that, can you do that for me?"

Welcome to a world where people are different and communicate.

Obviously if you leave it up to only treating people how YOU want to be treated, you've left no room for the relationship to grow beyond your perception of what is or isn't right for what you want. Me, me, me.

People act like listening and having an actual conversation with their partner is the hardest thing in the world to do.