libra guys.. why oh why

ohh another post. nd u r a leo. libra loves everyone. sure there would be sexual tension. but then doesn't mean its gonna grow into a relationship which can work smoothly. its your call. he probably will never take initiative.

What do you do when he pulls back?

From my relations with air signs, you can never be completely sure of feelings (not just air signs - human nature's changeable eitherway).

Giving as much as you get works to keep feelings balanced. Libra has a lot of ego as well so maybe give a little as he has reached out a little?

But TheLibra's right - the libra guys I know would never take the initiative especially if he senses you won't meet him halfway.

I feel your pain. I've been in this dementiaship for about 3 months now.
In the beginning, the same thing. Tons of txts, beautiful emails... and then one day he just woke up and became a regular dude. He will call whenever, write a couple of lines and off he goes again.
From what I've been learning in this board (thanks guys 😉)... You gotta have a very good emotional balance to deal with them. Trust that his mood swings are not personal, just a part of who they are.
In the beginning I would go crazy ( I'm a Pisces, make the math) with his instability, but now... I've been way calmer about it.
I don't wanna push anything ( like you, I'm full of pride), but from what I noticed, once in a while, if you make the move, they're right there, waiting to say yes.
From a long time my Libra was the only one inviting me for things, calling. I just came out of an awful relationship, and I would just sit and do nothing.
Ever since he pulled back, I feel like I've been leading .
If I wanna do something, why not invite?? He never seems offended by it. On the other hand, it takes him a sec to say I'll be there.
The question is... Are you ready to deal with his personality??
I'm still questioning if I am. Till then, I'll keep on going. 🙂

when do they take the intiative again? after you contact them severals times or when you disappear on them and pull back (while doing fun things when not with him while they are waxing and waning in their minds)?

"when do they take the intiative again? after you contact them severals times or when you disappear on them and pull back"

when you dissapeared on them

and this can take many many months

just do your own thing till he comes around again, it might like others say take quite a bit of time

If there's one thing I've learned in my relationship with a Libra, it's be yourself. He told me that himself, so if you feel like sharing something with him via text message, do it, but do it expecting nothing in return. He'll do that when he's ready. Have faith!

i sent mine a loving txt, lastnight. i kept it short and sweet. i didn't expect anything from him back. then he seemed to want to talk and came online. i initiated chat with him, i made some small talk then he went silent on me. i got tired of waiting for him. don't know if he fell asleep (it was 2am), or pc froze up, or he was high or drunk, or intentionally trying to play it cool and keep me at arm's length for whatever reason. if i am being punished then i don't know what my crime was. he should fken have the blls to speak up bc i have been nothing but good to him. anyway, i wanted to go to bed so i txted him something sweet and he immediately responds with "o". it is like he is a completely different person.
i have dealt with a libra man before and i thought this other libra was far different from the lunatic libra i was with. with this guy, my patience is starting to wear thin. i don't even have the energy to tell him off or yell at him. all those libras in me just make me want to just shut down, lie in bed, watch movies and not bother with him anymore.

i don't become friends with people i was once romantically involved with. i think that is just phony and masochistic. there is always a little speck in your heart and in your mind that still has feelings for this person or remembers the feelings you shared with this person. when i am done with someone, i don't want to know about them. i don't want to know how they moved on, i don't want to know they are in love with someone else, i don't want to know they settled down or anything else like that.

i was with a guy who was friends with one of his ex's (his ex had a bf). i became friends with his ex. we would all meet for lunch and do stuff. it was just weird how the four of us sitting at a table and there were three of us having something in common (me, the person i was with, his ex, and her friendship with us). not for me. let someone else fake it.

and, there is nothing more masochistic with being friends with a guy you still have romantic feelings for. only reason you agreed to a friendship is because you still have hope he would wake up and want you again. why put yourself through that torture?

the best feeling in the world is to finally be over someone who broke your heart. i wish they could bottle this feeling so that you can just take a pill right away and be done with it.

But you keep contacting him and it is clear he is not interested in any more.....these guys do that - from what Ive witnessed anyway, they want YOU to hate them, YOU to do the breaking off coz they dont want to hurt you.

let him go, let him be by himself......in time perhaps he'll come back but you've summed it up.....why torture yourself? You seem to be doing that to yourself and its hard I know...been there, done that. Wanting to remain friends? BINGO, you got that right too....let him go girl, there are many more wonderful men ou there ready to give you what you want and deserve.

Dont cut yourself up over somebody who will ALWAYS be this way.

As you may have seen many times before on here....if they want you they will have NO problems in coming to get you.....this could be days, weeks, months and even years. YES they do tend to come back once they sort themselves out (although I wont guarantee this lol).

The good old saying....Let him go and set yourself free, if he loves you, he'll be back some day, if he doesnt? at least you're on the road to finding somebody who does.

Ive also noticed the more you ignore them, the more they actually want what they can no longer have.....sad really but hey, its their cross to bear.

i keep contacting him? where did i say that? this just happened lastnight bc i was told he wanted to hear from me and is feeling down in the dumps about himself, his looks, and doesn't feel goodlooking enough for me or good enough for me, has cold feet...etc. this is why i said "ok, just this once." i told him i still wanted him and told him he was perfect for me. i don't want him feeling bad about himself. i don't know why he thinks i will leave him for someone else. he has to resolve this on his own. if he needed to be sure about my feelings for him then he was told lastnight. nothing more i will do.

yes but it looks like he is playing games with you....be strong LOL

he is depressed and having a pity party. not even his friends can pull him out of it. i did my part. he'll come out of it when he feels like it.

thats it 🙂

"so if you feel like sharing something with him via text message, do it, but do it expecting nothing in return."

I like this! It's so true.

When we want to be around you and hear from you all the time..When we look you in the eyes with our heart and soul...etc...Libra men can be wishy washy..vice versa

Is it a real relationship? Are you going out on dates once or twice a week? Does he see you on weekends? How long does he disappear for? If it is a day or a couple of hours, I wouldn't worry about it at all.