Libra Man and Gemini Woman

I met this Libra man online, and as we talked more we really liked each other and then we decided that we wanted to be with each other in a relationship. All he would tell me is that he wanted to come be with me and he wished he was here. So after a week or two of talking on the phone, I sent for him to be here with me. Everything was going good until he cheated on me, one woman he slept with the other he was just talking to. So after days of going back and forth I cut off communication with the one woman he slept with, she was claiming to be my friend. So I ended up putting my libra out of my house. So I found out that him and her was still txt each other and when I would ask her what they talked about she would say nothing and ask me why, but I felt if you and him are just friends why the secret. So after that he moved out and told me to loose his number and that the woman that he slept with she don't want him, and they are friends. She claim to have someone that she's engaged to. So I love my libra so much after everything went down, I told him he can come back home if he wanted to, HE told me no he wasn't coming home, and to leave him alone. So when he moved out he still left some of his stuff here at my house. So yesterday on the phone, I ask him could we be friends, and before I ask him could we be friends, I ask him Do he love me? He say that he do care and he needed some time to think and we could be friends. So some of my friends at work was telling me that he will be back, that's why he left some of his stuff there. I do want him back and I would love to put this behind us and start over. So what are your thoughts on this please advice no crazy insults.

Leave him alone; he's a loser. You deserve better and you will get that if YOU think you deserve better. Never, never send for a man again. He had nothing to lose and you had everything to lose in this situation. Libra and Gemini can be wonderful together. I was involved with one over 20 years ago and we are still close today; although not romantically. Libra men respect women who respect themselves and I just think you were way too easy with your Libra. You were not a challenge to him at all because you sent for him. You must be established; you were able to send for him and you have a home for him to stay in--is there an age difference here? Are you much older than he? I've found that Libra men like older women (although my Libra is 9 years older than I). He may be immature and that's why I think he won't come back.

Wow! As I was typing this my Libra friend called! I told him your situation and he told me the Libra may come back out of loyalty. My Libra said he would feel obligated to you because you sent for him. However, since your Libra cheated he may not feel that way.

Anyway I know you love him but you should begin taking the steps to forget about this one. Occupy yourself in life so you won't be thinking about him. And please, please, never send for a man again. Wish you luck!

@GemStar05

You were asking about the age difference he is 42 and I am 39, and why would he come back to me for loyalty just because I sent for him, that was because I thought we were going to be in a relationship. And I do love him, but I don't understand him is that if he told me to loose his number, then when I txt him or call him he answers me back and When he moved that out that day I called him and talked but he wouldn't hang up the phone right away. I look at the fact if he said its over why would he want to be friends with me and then he told me that the first woman he cheated with didn't want him and that she had a man, but she told me that herself. So even when I asked him Do he love me? He said he do care but needed time to think? Its like one min when he's calm he do have feelings then when he's upset he say leave me alone. I mean I wish it could work out, and why did the woman that he sleep with become friends because he told her to leave him alone to but turn around and text her. And she told me the way that I was acting I was pushing him away so did he make some kind of reference to wanting me. He always told me he love me and he say he never loved her he just messed up. And he was sorry and at the time before he moved out he say he promised it wouldn't happen again. I mean I do love him with all my heart, and I will move on but its just so so hard right now because it is still fresh in my mind. But, I have forgave him. I feel he just gave up to soon on us. But some of my coworkers were saying that he was coming back because he still hasn't talken all his things with him. They told me that he just want to go and do what he want to do and when he is done he's coming home. So I don't know what to believe.

@sky1 and GemStar05

Yep he did come back last night, and I do notice a change in him immediately, like his cell phone he would always take it with him even when he is taking a bath. But yesterday when he came back home he left the phone in the bedroom with me, I was totally shocked. He told me u knew I was coming back I say no I didn't u told me u wasn't coming back and to leave u alone. He say but u didn't u kept texting me and calling me. I say cuz I still loved u and cared about u. Like I told him u can always come home u know that this is ur home an always will be, I told him I love u that was always true no matter what happens we got to stand by each other that is what make us stronger together an it makes our relationship an love tighter. But this time I am being careful not to open up my heart so soon again to him, and he has to earn my trust. So let me ask since he is back Will it work, will he mess up again?

@sky1
Yes, could you please send me your story send me a pm and thank you so so much for giving me advice.

@sky1
Your welcome

He will cheat again. I promise you that. You??ve laid it out plain and simple for him that he can cheat on you and your bed and your home will still be warm and safely waiting his return. You seem smart, and like the other woman said, very established, act like it. Not trying to sound negative, but I'm keeping it real. I guarantee you with a capital G he will cheat again, all it takes it for him to see someone he really wants or likes, or for the two of you to fall out about something and he will use it to his advantage. HE cheated on YOU and YOU acted like you were the one in the wrong—?? I don't care if the other woman did or does have a man, what about the fact that he DID in fact have sex with someone else??_I mean my goodness, that's the ultimate betrayal. Forget —Talking to someone??. Smh. Enjoy it while it last girl.

@pinklibra
Well if that is his intentions to cheat again why not stay gone, why come back here and knowing that he don't want me or love me. Why? use a person like that but if I did it to him he would fly off the handle. He claimed a ex cheated on him and he say that it hurt so if he know how it feels why do it to someone else.

Girl it doesn't matter WHY... The point i want you to get is as long as you allow it which you did he would do it again. Men cheat all the time and most cheat just because they can because they know their woman will always take them back. If you want to fall into that then that's your choice. But I'm telling you this won't be the last time this man crosses you because you made it so easy on him before. And how do you know his ex cheated on him? Because HE said it?? Do you know for sure. See u messing up taking his word for everything do your homework on him first. After all you only chatted on an Internet site for a week before you decided to make it official. How well do u really know this dude? And let me tell you a Lil secrete...when a man gets cheated on if he put his all into that woman he was really good to her and she cheated he will look at women different its a psychological thing. Some men can get passed it others can't and they dog every woman after the one that hurt them thinking all women can't be trusted. Just something for you to think about.

@pinklibra
Well thanks for your advice and I did talk to his ex. and she said yep she did cheat on him. I just have to make some changes that is all. Cuz I see he isn't going to change, but its wrong to use people.