Libra woman driving me crazy

Hi all
I am in the fortunate position of having an amazing libra woman in my life. The only problem is that I don't know what she's there as. I wonder if any of you can offer some insight.
We've known each other for 2 years now, and we're very similar in the way we think and do things. There is a substantial age gap between us but we seem to be on the same wave length, often times sitting and chatting for hours on end about everything and loving each others company. The one thing we can't seem to talk about is our "relationship". We have been intimate before and it was the most wonderful experience for both of us. About a year ago she retreated from me physically. In the last year or so, we have grown very close emotionally and mentally. She is also fiercely independent.
However, I don't know what she is feeling about us. She has told me before that we are more than just friends. As you all might know, it's not a good idea to ask a libra to make a decision about a relationship, I'll surely lose her for good. But what does it mean if she's always involving me in her life? She phones me up to ask me the smallest question or just to chat about a breaking news story or just see how my day is going. Other times she phones me when she needs serious help with something, I'm the first person she calls. The confusion comes in when, for example, I'll send her a text saying I missed waking up with her this morning and she doesn't comment at all. Instead she replies with arbitrary things about what she's going to be doing today. IT'S DRIVING ME CRAZY! Yet, when she's near me, she'll touch my leg or she'll walk past me and squeeze my shoulder. She's always saying that we should go away together but nothing comes to fruition. She treats me very different to everyone else.
I have no idea what she's thinking and I'm afraid that if I ask her, she'll retreat completely.
If you guys have any advice or ideas, I'd love to hear them, because I'm about to give up on this girl romantically and I really don't want to.
Thanks!

Actually we make decisions about relationships very well. It's just not on everyone else's time schedule.

Has she ever told you that she is afraid of being in a relationship or is not looking to be in one yet? I know she is not specifically telling you about you and her (other than you are more than just friends)...but in general, what does she say about relationships?

She sounds like she is really into you.

Is her Venus in Scorpio?

Thanks everyone for your replies. I'm a Virgo. She says she doesn't believe in relationships too much, she's divorced but she also says it takes long time to be in a relationship.
I think I'm the most attentive person to her needs, whatever she asks I do it with a smile on my face. Almost every day she asks me to help with something even if it's just to fix a leaking toilet. And she is always appreciative and tells me I'm very special to her.
I.just don't understand why she won't reciprocate being physical with me?
In saying that, I am always respectful of her and her space. Although she has hurt me quite a few times in the past with putting other people above me, I understand that she is a people pleaser.
Thanks again guys.

Posted by Marisar564
Thanks everyone for your replies. I'm a Virgo. She says she doesn't believe in relationships too much, she's divorced but she also says it takes long time to be in a relationship.
I think I'm the most attentive person to her needs, whatever she asks I do it with a smile on my face. Almost every day she asks me to help with something even if it's just to fix a leaking toilet. And she is always appreciative and tells me I'm very special to her.
I.just don't understand why she won't reciprocate being physical with me?
In saying that, I am always respectful of her and her space. Although she has hurt me quite a few times in the past with putting other people above me, I understand that she is a people pleaser.
Thanks again guys.

Bingo. Divorce. Some say Libras jump into other relationships after divorce. That wasn't true for me. I treated the Sag I'm with the same way. And I liked being around him but my stupid broken, cautious heart wouldn't let me commit or be physical with him. It took a while, but he was persistent and he definitely got me by being sweet, someone I could count on, and who WASN'T pushy with me. By the way... Some say Libras have to be in a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship. Like we just want a partner no matter what.. Again, not true. I will hold out for someone worth it.

My cousin is one, he waited 6 years to be in a really committed relationship after his divorce.

Thanks everyone. She's been divorced for 23 years now and has had a lot of relationships in terms of flings and one or two more serious ones. But she has this ideology that she cannot be with someone and be free and independent at the same time. I've tried everything to show her that she can have that with me.
I don't force any emotions onto her as far as I know. I sometimes just tell her that I miss her calling me a nice nickname or things like that. But I've never asked her straight out what she feels for me. I've always been very cautious in the things I ask her and how I ask them.
I don't know what you all think but this is my analogy: I think she does like me but she's not ready to be with me or she's holding back for some reason. I think she tests me a lot to see what I'll do and I must have passed most of her tests because I'm still there. She seems like she wants me around. I've tried the silent treatment thing where I try to leave her alone for a while but the day doesn't come to an end without her contacting me to see what I'm doing or to ask me a very random question or my opinion on whether she should wash her car or not!
So I don't know if you can understand my frustration. It's like she wants me there but doesn't want to be physical with me just yet. In saying that, I know she hasn't been with anyone else since we met.
Another thing I've noticed is that she treats me differently to everyone else. Like she'll give all the people around me a hug and when she comes to me, she'll put a hand on my shoulder and give it a squeeze. Or she'll compliment everyone else, but forgets to compliment me. Not sure if that's a good thing or what.
Thanks again everyone.

Well I can't speak for her, especially not knowing her Venus signs. I am a complete contraction in relationships. I absolutely need partnerships yet I need absolute freedom. It's an oxymoron! A walking contradiction. I think deep inside I don't want a relationship, but I really can't function too well without them. I have 4 planets in Libra.

I guess listening to the above from Libra perspective it just drives the earth sign crazy that Libra can be so indecisive - we are all so different !!!

Thanks again everyone.
Unfortunately I don't have her chart but if someone can tell me how to go about getting one, I'll give it a try.

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Posted by tcta
I guess listening to the above from Libra perspective it just drives the earth sign crazy that Libra can be so indecisive - we are all so different !!!

Lol odd you would say that. Although fire is our opposite element I feel like earth signs are truly our opposite. Logic vs. practical thinking. The highest boundary vs the lowest.

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hmmmm and that seems to be where we get along in that the stability provided by earth can help allow the air to settle in a more balanced direction - fire just burns through and then out - earth sees the goal and moves toward it - if it's the wrong move, we change direction no problem - logic AND practical thinking is involved in earth's decisive motion ... we tend to just go for just getting the job done well so we can move on to the next project instead of wearing ourselves out thinking about the possibilities

Don't feel bad, she probably doesn't know what she's there 'as' either. We can get stuck in relationships unable to move forward afraid to alone.