Libras and there disappearing acts

I had been in a relationship with Libra man. But I just never understand why he used to disappear for a particular period of time. We broke up just because of this reason. When he reappeared there wasn't any valid reason instead of saying he was busy with his work. What could I have done. I just felt ignored. Sometimes he showed up that caring attitude and the other moment they pretend that they don't care. Just tired of his two faces.

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Gotta love that "busy" excuse. It begs the question if it really was a relationship, tbh. Someone who is in a genuine relationship with you doesn't just up and disappear for longer periods of time. It's just totally disrespectful, tbh. Not that this means they owe you total accountability of ALL their whereabouts, but to disappear on an SO for days at a time with zero explanation or apology for being MIA is just weird and disrespectful.

Mine does this too... wont show up but will call though.. its just that lately we've gotten into an arguement and now we havent talked for 3 days.. im not that worried though bec i know ive nothing to regret wherever the rel leads us since i gave my best to the relationship, (he knows) and i only have his best interest at heart and i know that i didnt do anything wrong, guess he's still digesting that fact... so yeah maybe its not u or me afterall but him/them when they disappear on us.. just try to divert ur attention to something positive though its hard sometimes but u can sure do it..

I replied to a similar comment on another thread so reposting it here. It's just how Libras and air signs tend to be. Accept them or move on. I'm able to relate to Libras because I don't take it too personally. The fact that they keep coming back to you should tell you something.

My best friend of many years is a Libra, and I've done quite a lot of research about them. You need to ignore him back. Libras pull back because they are still weighing their decisions. It doesn't mean he doesn't love/like you. It just means he wants to be 200 percent sure of his decisions. The best way you can help him stick to his decision is to ignore him back. Don't be mean. Just give him space. Give him the time to sort it out in his head. He will realize he misses you and might even lose you. Then, he will go forward without a doubt... but only for so long until the next decision he has to make

When he reappears, act like it didn't bother you at all and that you were too busy to really notice (but only if he asks if you missed him). Otherwise, just treat him like a friend. It is really the best way to relate to a Libra -- treat them like a friend first. Space. Support. No jealousy. Positivity. But don't always be available to them or it becomes predictable and boring to them. They need to miss you.

It is ultimately up to you to decide if this kind of effort is what you can give. Don't try to make anyone fall in love with you because the superficiality of it wears off. Truly keep in mind if he is compatible with you or not without having to manipulate him or change yourself much.

Take care!

While we were best friends and then had that relationship which doesn't last so long. I know him Once I remember I haven't talked to him for a month when we were just friends and exactly after moth he was like where were you its been a long time we haven't talked. After making a decision that we will stay friends.So there is a 60% chance from his side that he will come back because now I have decided not to talk to him or having any kind of contact with him may be for months. I hope this will work 🙂

You're setting yourself up for disappointment. If a man (libra or not) disappears, he ain't that interested. when you're just friends, sure there can be gaps in contact and you just roll on, no big deal. When you see them, you catch up.

I romantic interest though...a man is territorial. Even a man who likes his space will be in contact with the woman he cares about. The amount of contact can vary greatly but the core should always be there. You should be comfortable and confident.

If a man disappears on you it shows he don't respect you. The "why" of the disappearance would only matter if it was some emergency and out of his control but he be trying to communicate. If he just pops back up and acts like nothing is wrong, he do.the take you seriously.

@Librasid and @sugarfoot Let me tell you guys that we both cannot change our standards for each other and because of this its better not being in a relationship. I have accepted the reality we weren't made for each other and due to which I have changed my behavior a lot towards him. No expectations less contact and more distances. However being just friends is just a denial for both of us that we both love into be . At least its nothing there to regret and every thing ended on a good note 🙂

EarthenFire Thanks alot I really liked your suggestion 🙂

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Posted by LibraSid
You're setting yourself up for disappointment. If a man (libra or not) disappears, he ain't that interested. when you're just friends, sure there can be gaps in contact and you just roll on, no big deal. When you see them, you catch up.

I romantic interest though...a man is territorial. Even a man who likes his space will be in contact with the woman he cares about. The amount of contact can vary greatly but the core should always be there. You should be comfortable and confident.

If a man disappears on you it shows he don't respect you. The "why" of the disappearance would only matter if it was some emergency and out of his control but he be trying to communicate. If he just pops back up and acts like nothing is wrong, he do.the take you seriously.

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No matter how much space I may need at times, I never just straight up disappear. The person will hear from me everyday. I want to know how they are and sometimes I may just tell them I'm tired or I'm in a bad mood so I'm gonna chill by myself today or whatever. They won't have to wonder because I care enough about their feelings to let them know what's up.

If him going away bothers you, you should just accept that about yourself and accept the fact that he is going to keep doing that. Make your decision from there. You can't change him. And, do you really want to change your standards for him?

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+1 @Sugarfoot & LibraSid...when a Libra really cares about someone, they won't go missing for days at a time. As moody as we can be and as much space as we may need, if you're in our inner circle as a friend or a lover, we will make time to stay in contact even if it's a quick text or e-mail to say "Hi..been real busy, but thinking about you" or as you (Sugarfoot) put it, "I'm not in the best of moods today" so I'll chat with you later. Very simple. This dude sounds like he's just not that interested, and if that's the case..tootaloo..keep it moving. Don't wait around for him to come around.

Posted by LibraSid
You're setting yourself up for disappointment. If a man (libra or not) disappears, he ain't that interested. when you're just friends, sure there can be gaps in contact and you just roll on, no big deal. When you see them, you catch up.

I romantic interest though...a man is territorial. Even a man who likes his space will be in contact with the woman he cares about. The amount of contact can vary greatly but the core should always be there. You should be comfortable and confident.

If a man disappears on you it shows he don't respect you. The "why" of the disappearance would only matter if it was some emergency and out of his control but he be trying to communicate. If he just pops back up and acts like nothing is wrong, he do.the take you seriously.

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@Carolz what is your sign? And with my experience, listen to EXACTLY what Earthenfire said, i have had many librans in my life. and trust me he/she is right. i am also a rising sign myself so i can relate to librans. sometimes we just want our space, not to avoid or hurt you, but to really miss you and understand the value that you hold in our lives. it is very important to us. if you are patient, we will be even better and grateful for that.

hope this helped.

@mysterious taurus I am a Capricorn

@mysterious Taurus and @earthenfire I am doing exactly what you guys have suggested me. As we have broke up now and we are just friends but I have decided not to contact him as long as I can. Do you really think this will affect him? Or he will contact me after a particular period of time??

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@mysterious Taurus and @earthenfire I am doing exactly what you guys have suggested me. As we have broke up now and we are just friends but I have decided not to contact him as long as I can. Do you really think this will affect him? Or he will contact me after a particular period of time??

as a libra woman, it wouldn't affect me in the slightest. once i am truly out, i am out.

i think you need to be honest with yourself. you keep saying that you've both agreed to be friends. it seems that he wants to be friends and you are agreeing because you think it will work in your favour in the long run. it's a risky game. i wouldn't play it with a libra. unfortunately i'm not one to pine for very long. once something is done it is onwards and upwards for me after a suitable time feeling the loss. and if someone had aggrieved me enough, that suitable time could be over in an instant.

@jean I am just not playing any game I was just wandering if this could be one possibility. No.1 Everyone is not the same it depends on their life experiences No.2 As he was my best friend I know him better than anyone else so I know that he just don't accordingly as he said. He will make a commitment and other day he will be like what I didn't remember. He don't have a hard time to forget or forgive so these are two things. Like you told me that libras are so rigid in there moving on decision well it don't seem likely for him because he forgive people easily, he forget things easily and ofcourse he is not going to tolerate the ignorance especially when he will receive it from me. So I hope its pretty clear to you 🙂Well I respect your opinion .

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@jean I am just not playing any game I was just wandering if this could be one possibility. No.1 Everyone is not the same it depends on their life experiences No.2 As he was my best friend I know him better than anyone else so I know that he just don't accordingly as he said. He will make a commitment and other day he will be like what I didn't remember. He don't have a hard time to forget or forgive so these are two things. Like you told me that libras are so rigid in there moving on decision well it don't seem likely for him because he forgive people easily, he forget things easily and ofcourse he is not going to tolerate the ignorance especially when he will receive it from me. So I hope its pretty clear to you 🙂Well I respect your opinion .

i just think you're clinging to something which so far has given you no sign that that is the right plan of action.

other librans in this thread have echoed this sentiment but you're holding on to the words of people who aren't librans because they are telling you what you want to hear. it's understandable. we all have selective hearing when it comes to matters of the heart.

Well I totally agree with you its just my defense mechanism my insight is using. I really don't believe on astrology but I posted this question because I felt he is showing up that typical libran trait. I am a psychology student tell me if a person is being your friend for two years and then suddenly change his or her attitude towards you after some ups and downs well nobody can deny it that it will affect you definitely. Well now I really feel there is no point of discussion I really don't care if he wants to stay or leave because what is over is over he cannot really win my trust back neither I am anymore interested in getting him back now.

Carolz, I am a libra rising. And they say, your rising sign is a little bit more powerful than your sun, depending on morals and life experiences, your rising sign takes over sometimes. And I have done this once, I completely randomly stopped talking to my BEST FRIEND for no reason. I just wanted my space, it was hard to explain. She didnt understand me though, she got really upset and didnt trust me anyone. Initially, i just wanted some space for about 3-4 months, (libras take their time with everything so to them, that is not really a long time). And when I was done being a little selfish b*tch, I tried to go back to her. but she DID NOT have it. Then 6-9 months went by and i REALLY TRULY missed her from the entire core of my heart. Eventually a couple years went by, and I experienced some very dark times because i realized I MADE a HUGE MISTAKE. it was all my fault. i should have never cut her out like, but sometimes libras just cant help it. honestly, to this day, if she were to ask my why i needed so much space, i would say idk, bc its true. i really dont know why i did that, but we (libras) just do it sometimes.

The thing is, sometimes we just want to really MISS our friends/loved ones. we cant miss you if you are around all the time and we constantly talk. also, space is good because we take time to miss you and understand how valuable you are in our lives, and we contemplate if we really need you or not. but if you are a good friend, positive influence, and very genuine. we will come back, full force. (actually that depends on each individual person, BUT libras ARE positive people and we want to be surrounded by positive people). to this day, i still think about my best friend who i broke her heart, and i will forever regret what i did. but it teaches us a lesson, its all about time. time without you, will tell us how important or unimportant you are to us.

honestly, i dont think he will just up and leave for NO reason. i know i did, but i was 17 years old at the time and into drugs, so thats my excuse, i was fucked up and a bad friends in general before i changed and went through a transition of rebirth. and if he stops talking to you for good, then its HIS lose. however, libras arent cold hearted people, he may come back, could be weeks, months, or years. and when he does, you will be strong and focused on what you want out of llife and he will miss you and regret what he did because he will realize that you are a good person and a good friend and he missed out. trust me.

just be there for him, and be genuine, dont yell or accuse him of anything, libras hate negative energy and vulgar language. so let him grow and reflect. if you stay 100% genuine throughout this process, then he REALLY WILL REGERET losing you.
- dont forgive too easily
- let him learn a lesson
- be a positive role model for him (they need and appreciate that)
- give him alot of time
- and most importantly in the mean time, focus on YOURSELF and thats it.
- show him your happy without him, and you dont need a man to make yourself feel complete
- whatevers meant to be will find its way 🙂

you'll be okay, God and angels will protect you from negative people.

just be there for him, and be genuine, dont yell or accuse him of anything, libras hate negative energy and vulgar language. so let him grow and reflect. if you stay 100% genuine throughout this process, then he REALLY WILL REGERET losing you.
- dont forgive too easily
- let him learn a lesson
- be a positive role model for him (they need and appreciate that)
- give him alot of time
- and most importantly in the mean time, focus on YOURSELF and thats it.
- show him your happy without him, and you dont need a man to make yourself feel complete
- whatevers meant to be will find its way 🙂

you'll be okay, God and angels will protect you from negative people.

just be there for him, and be genuine, dont yell or accuse him of anything, libras hate negative energy and vulgar language. so let him grow and reflect. if you stay 100% genuine throughout this process, then he REALLY WILL REGERET losing you.
- dont forgive too easily
- let him learn a lesson
- be a positive role model for him (they need and appreciate that)
- give him alot of time
- and most importantly in the mean time, focus on YOURSELF and thats it.
- show him your happy without him, and you dont need a man to make yourself feel complete
- whatevers meant to be will find its way 🙂

you'll be okay, God and angels will protect you from negative people.

Thankyou so much @mysterious taurus this was the best one! Well i really feel that he really don't know why he did it to me .. So its a reality that I have to accept. I know he will be back because I was his best friend and know him better. He is never upto what he says he so indecisive. He will make decisions and change his mind. I totally understand now. I have to give him his space and make him feel miss me because that what he wants even though from his unconscious. Well what I really appreciate is he is good at forgiving and forget and I am so worse in that! Once you hurt me then its over but I believe I do change my rigidity but it depends on the importance of that person. So yes if he will come back I will think of giving him another chance but this time more reserved and a bit constrained.Let him pay back what he has done !

Okay so i saw this dream not once but twice about him getting a horrible car accident. I just first ignored it but when that worry starts pondering over my mind and I would imagine every worst thing that can happen to him. I finally decided to send him a message. I said "Listen I saw this dream not once but twice about you. So be careful while driving. If you are receiving my message just reply me ok if you are ok and be safe". Well I was not expecting any reply because of his act of cutting off with me all his communication. While i thought he will block my number and all but he hasn't done so. He replied me "OK". I don't why he even replied if he just want to get over me ? He should have simply ignore it . But from that time I haven't contacted him or send him any message as my reason to care was pretty genuine. I want your opinion on it "Mysterious taurus".Will be happy hearing from you back

To your first comment, I agree with you. give him space, and let him come back, you must wait. but do you want a relationship with him, or you guys are just friends?
Also, I think you should be more guarded with him, because then he will realize the pain that he causes people when he just leaves. (reverting back to the plan of teaching him a lesson; after this lesson has been taught to him, he will not forget you).

to the second comment, WOW, dreams are VERY important. especially when they are very clear dreams. sometimes our conscious dreams about things we fear of, we envy, things we lust, or just simply very random things. but when you have a dream that is very clear, you will know, because that is a message from your guardian angels. since most people can not see angels, they will work in mysterious ways. by showing you things through dreams, whispering higher thoughts into your mind, and making you more aware and conscious of things.

it was nice of you to tell him about your dream and to make sure that he is okay. Him being distance and thankless in the text is apart of his whole "space" mystery.

dont text him anymore though, he doesnt deserve it.

it is a great thing to be intuitive. Your angels are tying to speak to you. I recommend writing down dreams that seem to be very clear, and looking up spiritual meanings behind them. When you are more connected in the spiritual world, you will live a happy life and attract the right people. also, I suggest opening your heart chakra, which represents love and compassion. just look up a video on youtube, its just a few different poses, should probably take around 45 min, and just by doing that one time, you will be a different person 🙂

I am going to start a new topic out of curiosity, asking anyone if they had libras leave their life only to come back..
I am actually going through the same thing you are going through. My libra left too, about a month and half ago, hes away at school but he acts like hes too good to text or call me. i think he will come back though, they usually do..

I don't know what the hell is happening with me. I saw a dream again but this time a bit different and more mysterious. I saw he crying, yelling and breaking things off. He seems like helpless.Then I saw that we both have met at someones funeral talking to each other what a co-incidence is this that we met here. And then whoever's funeral was that has passed 40 days. Now I am again at the same venue waiting for him to come.

I really don't know whats happening. What to believe and what not to. My dreams are getting mysterious day by day.I don't know much but what I know is he is not as such emotionally deep as I am. But mostly it has happened that we both have matching thinking patterns. We usually felt same for each other

And the answer to your question is I don't want any further relationship with him just friends is something I am okay with. But I can surely say he is not okay with just friends .

Questions that arise in my mind are: What are these dreams indicating? Are my dreams are just bases of my inner id impulses (instincts) or is there some indication? I totally understand that he is in his own zone of "Space" But has my message affected him? Is he pondering over my message? because What I know about him is he usually ponder over things for too long.

i'll answer your question in full detail tonight around midnight.

Yes sure thanks 🙂 Will be waiting