Are us Libras that bad?

Are we that self centered ppl?

Ummmmmm wanna elaborate? I think ALL starsigns and ALL people can be selfish at one point or another.

I met a very selfish Libra but he made himself that way due to a situation he couldnt (or didnt want to) change....that does not mean he's a selfish person per se.

AGain, EVERYBODY can be selfish

I agree with chatz

All people can be selfish at one or another in different situations and scenerios.

Yes, I have come across alot in my day and they are all very self-centered only leos rival them.


not to mention shallow.

They say we are the worst for it along with the shallowness, but I agree Virgo_libra. You know I was telling people Gemini's was bad to cheat, and I never knew until last night that my moon is a GEMINI LOL! God what a combo I have Libra plus Gemini!

lol!
yeah you guys are really horrible 😛

Nah, I think it's more of a shocker cos of the happy go-lucky dimpled peace making smile, so folks don't realise you're only looking out for number 1, when they do it's just 😕

LOL! Funny you should say that, cause I have dimples BAD when I smile!

Actually, Libra is generally seen as a giving sign second only to cancer. But we are a cardinal sign. The problem comes when people see how nice and giving and sweet we are, and try to get their way regardless of what we want and what is best for all involved and bully us into something. When we don't conceede and give'em what they want (which we should be cause we are so nice and giving, and sweet?!?!?) they get angry and call us self-centered. Meanwhile, we have probably looked at the situation from every conceivable vantage point and only see unhappiness on that particular path and going down it would only be unfair.

A sign who is represents justice can neither be self-centered or shallow. It may sometimes be blind to the suffering of other but only when it comes to serving a higher purpose.

I am your typical Libra, but I have a gemini moon which makes me crazy at times with things. BUT I am the most giving person I know, and I do for others and think about myself last, so I dont see why ppl call us the MOST selfish ones! lol I mean I know we have our faults, but I didnt think that would be one of them lol

* I have come across alot in my day and they are all very self-centered only leos rival them.

I found this to be quite humourous as I tend to have a lot of Leo friends and find them to be very warm-hearted and genuine not to mention fun-loving. I have yet to meet a leo I didn't like. And when they give you a compliment, it feels like they have seen into the depths of you and exposed it. At least that has been my experience, both male and female leos. Truly noble, honourable people.

Agreed libragal self-centeredness I tend to put more on water and especially earth signs. They tend to be interested in winning more than cooperating. *shrugs*

So how do you explain a Libra with a Gemini moon and rising Leo? I gave till I couldnt and still had no cooperation from the Libran end.

What do u mean how do u explain it?

Dr. Robert Rey is a true libra.

My ex's rising is in Leo and his moon is in Gemini. He comes off very prideful and ego driven and his moon in gemini makes him very restless and adds to his independent streak (trine Libra sun,venus and mercury). These placements almost overshadow his good-guy Libra ways. He becomes very selfish and could careless who gets hurt in the process. I don't think all Libras are self centered, I think it has everything to do with whats in your chart. Same goes for earth and water signs. I've met some extremely generous and selfless Taurus guys and gals and they're known to be one of the miserly and stubborn of the signs.

"(Gasps) looking out for #1 is a foreign concept to some people... It's common sense! People who don't usually end up being the ones that are screwed, taken advantage of, and used"

Virgo_Libra you hit that on the nail LOL I have fallen in the category of being taken advantage of but not b/c I wasn't looking out for me, but simply b/c I was trying to be a good person. Some ppl don't know how to appreciate b/c they're too caught up looking out for #1.

Well I am a libra/gemini...I know thats a hellish combo, but lol

libragal76 I'm a Pisces sun w/ a gemini moon. I feel your pain too LOL j/k I think it's a crazy placement b/c emotionally we get irritated easily and we tend to become restless with the emotions. So imagine me. I am already stamped with the most emotional sign as my sun and mercury plus i have mars in scorp! LOL However moon in Gem is very witty and intellectually gifted so we can talk for hours about anything. It's not all that bad but when you're angry, watch out for the twins!

So when do you know you're being taken advantage of? when its too late and you feel at a lost, or when you start realizing that your not getting anything back?

Robert Rey? I actually had to look him up 'cause I had no idea who he is.

So are Gandhi and John Lennon. They actually represent the Libran ideal and utophia that libra strives for.

Admittedly, some libras are more shallow than other. My roommate comes to mind. She spends at least an hour in the morning in front of the mirror. It takes me 5-7 minutes from bed to door. She, however, has a lot of Virgo making her very judgemental and critical AND passive aggressive.

But on a whole, Libra represents justice and an egalitarian utophia.

This is a great article on the symbology of the libra female.

http://halfpastmaria.blogspot.com/2007/02/libra-woman.html

Amen Starfish!!! LOL I hear THAT! it sucks b/c in the end, love is supposed to be selfless. I always say there is no such thing as being gullible, there is only knowing how to take advantage of situations and others. I plan to continue being selfless just more aware of who I'm that way around.

* still had no cooperation from the Libran end.

because you can't manipulate a libra into loving you. We may stick around out of guilt for awhile but you cannot win out hearts through sacrifice. We aren't like that.

They tend to be interested in winning more than cooperating lol --- yup yup...

Doubt that Libras are any worse than any others at self-centredness or selfishness - if you get taken for a ride once, okay, but twice - YOUR fault, not Libra's or anyone else 🙂

"Admittedly, some libras are more shallow than other. My roommate comes to mind. She spends at least an hour in the morning in front of the mirror. It takes me 5-7 minutes from bed to door. She, however, has a lot of Virgo making her very judgemental and critical AND passive aggressive."

its all about those placements! I'm telling you LOL I think Libras in generally have their heart in the right places, but they guard it so much that it seems like they're only looking out for number 1. I don't blame them but will they live like this for the rest of their lives? Seems exhausting...

"because you can't manipulate a libra into loving you. We may stick around out of guilt for awhile but you cannot win out hearts through sacrifice. We aren't like that."

Who said anything about manipulation? I'm talking about purely satisfying the needs of my ex. What he asked of me I did. What he needed from me I gave, so why couldn't he be there for me in his own way or a way at all? I'm not saying that I was looking to get something back but whats a relationship without being able to be there for one another?

* but they guard it so much that it seems like they're only looking out for number 1.

I disagree with this.

See people see that we are the marriage sign and think we are all about romance. We aren't. We are the sign of the LEGAL side of marriage. Seriously go read the article I posted. It will give you a much different side of libra. We are not about romantic love but at our ideal universal love.

* "in the end, love is supposed to be selfless."

I also disagree with this. Love is suppose to be equal.

See people see that we are the marriage sign and think we are all about romance. We aren't. We are the sign of the LEGAL side of marriage. Seriously go read the article I posted. It will give you a much different side of libra. We are not about romantic love but at our ideal universal love.

Ahhhh idealism, love's mirage no? See that is what happened to my ex and I. He only saw what he liked in me, not me as a whole. And when reality struck he ran for the hills. I've read too many posts about how disillusioned Libras get when it comes to love, I don't understand how its all about the legal side of marriage.

I don't blame them but will they live like this for the rest of their lives? Seems exhausting...

if it's exhausting or draining to you, it is not you that can help them let their guards down...if it is, it won't be what you describe...This is similar to most air sign relationships - if you feel drained, move on - QUICK!
They're signs of communication so you have to be on guard if you take words seriously...

I don't understand how its all about the legal side of marriage
Air signs are idealistic, they think of the world's civilization - love in the raw form that water signs and most people infact understand it is very uncivilised - Libra wants it civilised, hence idealistic to their terms...

A lot of libras talk about equality in relationships --- marriage applies --- equality every where, if you try to tip their equality scales, then gets messy...reality is one of the things that tips this scale...

To love a libra is to help them get away from their idealism and analysis of equality - without their knowledge 🙂 very very hard

Well my ex husband was a virgo and we stayed married for 14years, until I found out the truth. I didn't stick around for myself, but to prove ppl wrong that we could last b/c we got married at 17 and I THOUGHT I loved him, but if I had of after 12yrs I would not have strayed. When I did I realized that I stayed for ALL The wrong reasons and what those reasons was. I love him yes always will, but he isn't meant for me. So was I selfish in straying? Prob so, but that goes back to the libra's ways and them as a whole as well.

zenalchemy I only ask b/c it seems like guarding yourself through every single relationship can take a toll on you emotionally. I've been there. You're def. right though I guess you do have to be on guard if your taking words seriously.

A lot of libras talk about equality in relationships --- marriage applies --- equality every where, if you try to tip their equality scales, then gets messy...reality is one of the things that tips this scale...

To love a libra is to help them get away from their idealism and analysis of equality - without their knowledge very very hard.

Thanks for that explanation! So hard indeed. I feel like giving up on Libra ex.

I dont knwo where this whole "selfish" thing is coming from...I am a true people pleaser and try to always consider others' feelings and wants in situations. I do not veiw myself as a selfish person at all and have not met a selfish libra yet.

? seems like guarding yourself through every single relationship can take a toll on you emotionally.

Just because we are guarded WITH YOU, doesn't mean we are emotionally guarded with everyone. It means we are emotionally guarded with YOU.

? I don't understand how its all about the legal side of marriage

*sigh* Because when people hear that we are the sign of marriage they don't understand that it is coupled with justice. We are the sign of legal partnerships, legal obligations, and how to make these partnerships fair. People like we are poetry and chocolates but we are ?the iron fist in the velvet glove?. We truly are about the higher ideals for humanity.

? Who said anything about manipulation? I'm talking about purely satisfying the needs of my ex. What he asked of me I did. What he needed from me I gave,

But why did you give it?

Oh wait because

? why couldn't he be there for me in his own way or a way at all?

You wanted him to love you and give back. Which, who can blame you? Of course, you wanted him to love you and be there for you and be a partner to you or why would you even bother in the first place? There is no shame in that but it didn't work out.

Sacrifice doesn't win our hearts and sweetpea, and I say this with great love, there is nothing sexy about a martyr.

You tried and this one didn't come through and I am truly sorry. There is nothing more shitty than a broken heart. But you will get over this and another guy will come along and steal your heart and you will be happy.

This one won't make you happy.

Your welcome hun, and yes we are some hard ones to grab a hold of an keeps us balanced is damn near not going to happen. Reality kicked in with me your right and thats what I left.

? I don't understand how its all about the legal side of marriage

*sigh* Because when people hear that we are the sign of marriage they don't understand that it is coupled with justice. We are the sign of legal partnerships, legal obligations, and how to make these partnerships fair. People like we are poetry and chocolates but we are ?the iron fist in the velvet glove?. We truly are about the higher ideals for humanity.

no need for the sigh. alchemy explained it, but thanks

? Who said anything about manipulation? I'm talking about purely satisfying the needs of my ex. What he asked of me I did. What he needed from me I gave,

But why did you give it?

Oh wait because

Um b/c I loved him and it made him happy when I did things for him.

? why couldn't he be there for me in his own way or a way at all?

You wanted him to love you and give back. Which, who can blame you? Of course, you wanted him to love you and be there for you and be a partner to you or why would you even bother in the first place? There is no shame in that but it didn't work out.

Sacrifice doesn't win our hearts and sweetpea, and I say this with great love, there is nothing sexy about a martyr.

You tried and this one didn't come through and I am truly sorry. There is nothing more butterty than a broken heart. But you will get over this and another guy will come along and steal your heart and you will be happy.

This one won't make you happy.

Thanks I realize this now. I think what sucks the most is how he prides himself on being there for others but in the end he couldnt be there for me :/ oh well!

No ones says someone who is self-centered is un-honorable.

I find both signs to generally think only of themselves. If and only if your a true friend and or family of a leo will they give you their all and consider you.

Pisces, you gotta get over him and go on about your life. Its waste of time chasing down someone who dont need you. And pisces cannot teach libra any lessons than making him emotional and guilty. And he would hate you if you try to do that to him.

We are not self centered. Well, maybe a bit. But no less than the other signs.

I think its alright to be self centered and selfish.

"Self sufficient perhaps would be the word. Maintaning themselves with no outside influence. I dont think they realize when you cut some one of totally to do this how much it hurts people who care for them and want to support, it almost seems alittle proud."

Wow!This sums it up pretty well, I think. Seriously, I feel I am independent to a fault. I am currently fighting this instinct in an attempt not to drive away a very lovely scorp man...but I feel I'm failing. All he does is want to carry the heavy bag of dog food for me, or take out the trash and I have the hardest time letting him!!

A Muse - sit yo pretty ass down and let than man be THE MAN!!! An Independent Libra is very "don't worry i got it" kind of people and it's hard to sit back and watch.

I just met a Scorp 2.... let see how this unfolds. The Gem got out of hand and the Aries is still my closest friend.

Cloud9 - two-faced ..... uhmmmmmm... Talk to much yes but two-faced....uhmmm, okay maybe some, very little. I can admit changing a story or two because I was angry with someone but nothing to nasty or two-faced ....that's a bit unbalanced.

Libras are balanced when you do it OUR WAY .... 😛

That was the perfect word "considerate"! And even that is taken the wrong way. So are we Libras really that bad. Are we living in a catch 22 world and don't know how to get out?

OMG LMAO !!!! She's a Libra No Doubt about that ..... perhaps my twin ... too funny, different people same BS and we mean no harm whatsoever. Being so charming is hard but someone has to do it.

The world does revolve around us, that's why we're balanced when things are done OUR WAY! Now I'm gonna ask you kindly to join us here on OUR planet.....THE LIBRA HAS SPOKEN!!!

but everyone wants things their way or the way they think it's right - you're trying to get Libras to do it YOUR way - isn't everyone being self-involved? 🙂

Hi guys LOL so much insight I'm gaining as I've read here so far! I don't think all Libras are all self centered but they do require ego-stroking.

Pisces, you gotta get over him and go on about your life. Its waste of time chasing down someone who dont need you. And pisces cannot teach libra any lessons than making him emotional and guilty. And he would hate you if you try to do that to him.

The Libran, I've already let go, maybe not emotionally all the way, but I'm almost there and I let him know already. No hard feelings, I'm just walking away LOL I have to disagree though. My ex Libra says I've taught him about really standing up for what he believes in and I've inspired him to do things for himself, ironic isn't it?? LOL I think Pisces and Libras are way better as friends.