MY LIBRA MAN

Hi There,

Would love your honest feedback. To make a long story short there is a Libra man whom I now want in my life because I am READY. When we met I was not.

I noticed since we met back in 2009 he would disappear from time to time. We would touch base every now and then. I did tell my friends if there is anyone I would settle down with it would be this person I am writing to you about.

In 2011 while at Dinner I asked him what had happen to him. He did tell me that he and his ex were trying to work it out. It did not bother me because I still was not ready for him as I was still working on myself and making sure that he would be the one. He did tell me that he was done, I asked if was sure he said yes.

He said to me that same night that I should call him more often because he and I would work. I did not call him as much because I too wanted him to show me too. I was not going to do all the work. 7 months later in 2012 we met at the beaches. That day was significant to me. I NEVER felt so close to him till that day.

From that day we never really kept in contact even though he told me to call him. I lost time because of my busy schedule. But could he have not picked up the phone as well? Anyhow, in June I was reaching out to him more then ever and he was not responding. I would call it would go to voice mail, I would text no response. I wanted him to know that I like you and want to be in a relationship with him. I sent a text requesting to meet with him so when in front of him I could tell him how I felt. He NEVER responded.

I backed off because I thought he was mad at me, but did not understand why. It bothered me month after month. Now we are in Oct 2012. I wished him a happy b-day. He never got back to me. I sent another text asking him why is he avoiding me. I also went onto say that I am ready and if I was too late. I told him how I felt etc.

To speed this up he responded and told me that he was not avoiding me(yeah right) that I stopped calling( could he not have called when he saw I did not?) i responded, he said nothing. Got him on the phone, he said he is seeing someone nothing serious, only to tell me 4 days later he is back with his ex.He said we can be friends and hangout. Does he mean that? Can I get him back even though he is back with his ex...if I can how do I do it?

PS: This is the same ex he tried to work it out with the 1st time and it did not work. Please be my guide.

Hi Sheba,I'm sorry to hear of you're situation and there has been alot of these kinds of stories here lately. The fact is that he is NOT you're Libra man. He told you he just wants to be friends , apparently he is still trying to get things right with his ex. Unfortuanately you cannot make someone love you (I'm sure youve heard that one before) . Chasing/calling/texting him is not working , if he is not responding he is consumed by the other relationship. You've told im how you feel about him and he did not reciprocate , you should try and move on now. 😢

Why are you chasing someone who clearly has no interest in you? He's putting other women ahead of you (the ex and someone else) which shows he has no interest in you as a romantic partner. He's only suggested being friends.

Hell, even with THAT, he's shown what a flake he is. Why the eff would you want to continue to chase after this guy just to be a friend when he's showing that you don't really mean enough to him to return your texts? Either he wants to bother or he doesn't. Regardless of the type of relationship, it's always a 2 way street. If it's one sided, you gotta start wondering if this is even worth all your effort?

I had the same problem with my ex after we'd gotten back in touch. He claimed he wanted to hang out and be friends. Okay, cool. Very quickly it became one sided and he turned into super flake. I stopped bothering because at some point you get the hint and just stop because it's not worth the effort.

You should back off and just do you. Any more chasing is just going to make you look foolish. Unfortunately, this guy snagged you with his little Libran charm and you're now being strung along as a friend or a possible go to on the side at some point (no telling what he's really thinking) if his ex and dating prospects don't work out.

And also, hypothetically, even if he WAS interested, why are you chasing a man who clearly has ex baggage?? He magically disappears when the ex tempts him with her lady bits. Good lord, get some dignity woman. Go find an available man!

You sound great like you have yourself and career "together", he sounds like he's oddly overly attached to his ex/girlfriend (maybe he feels indebted to her idk, I'm guessing). Look to find someone better for you that will be devoted to YOU. He really sounds flaky... and to outright ignore you?! How dare he! He could have at least told you months ago he wasn't available.

Sorry, no part in your story have I seen that he may have been interested in you or think of you as anything but an acquaintance. He asked you to call...you didn't..he should have been the one calling if he was interested...he didn't...

This isn't even a second time around, he has clearly only been interested in hooking up with his ex. He may seem to you now to be the guy you would like to be with but not to him.

Sometimes we want what we can't have and the more we can't have it the more we want it and try and convince ourselves we are meant to be.

You are doing well with your life...keep focusing on that and move on from thoughts of this guy...someone will come around and it will be so much easier!