Plutonic friends of the opposite sex ...

Do you think Librans are more likely to have friends of the opposite sex than other signs? I read the posts on this forum, and so often there are people of other signs saying "I have a crush on him/her but he/she just wants to be friends".

Personally, I have a crush on a Libran who just wants to stay friends, and I've come to terms with it... now, as a result of me coming to terms with it, our friendship is closer than ever. He has a few female friends, too. I've always had guy friends, but from what I read here on this forum, it seems quite common for Librans to have plutonic friends of the opposite sex- friends that fall for them!

So are they biding time, trying to decide on a relationship?
Do they like to collect people who find them attractive?
Or do they truly just like having plutonic friends of the opposite sex?

Any thoughts?

hah , nice one! I'm doing Complex number and drinking water ...Not a Libra but all I can say is that we all have friends that we are attracted to and vice versa , sometimes it's one way , sometimes 2 ways ...That's life...fair and square...there will always be another 🙂

"Do they like to collect people who find them attractive?" Yes, that's partly true, the collecting part specially, but Librans are multi-faceted, with many interests and talents 😉 that a person would find "attractive" in different levels. And since we like to get along, what better way than through mutual admiration...I mean mutual. Never one-sided with Librans.

It may be rare, but most Librans do not consider sex the foundation of a relationship; frienship is.

I agree with LPJ, actually sex is not even the second most important thing in a relationship with librans. Compatibility is an ultimate one.

So are they biding time, trying to decide on a relationship?

No. We have decided.

Do they like to collect people who find them attractive?

No. I like collecting people but it has nothing to do with their attraction to me. They are attracted to me on some level and I to them on some level, otherwise friendship at all can't exist, but it isn't because they have romantic feelings for me which is what I think you are implying. People are people. If you are a good person with a genuine heart, you are a wonderful treasure.

Or do they truly just like having plutonic friends of the opposite sex?

People are people. Does gender really matter? I find my male friends fall in love with me hard which always led me to heartbreak in the past so I didn't have very many male friends. This year has been an experiment.

Just because we don't want to be your romantic partner doesn't mean we right you off. We see all the good in you. We love all the good in you. But that doesn't mean you are the romantic partner for us. We can love you and accept you completely yet know you aren't it for us. I think this confuses people. It seems the only love people value is romantic love not the type Libra friends offer.

Preach it sista!!! True and very true. Librans love all who they care for and it can be confusing to those who don't understand, which confuses them.

LOL!!! True again. I almost feel like a libra sometimes, but I am a scorp to my soul.

QS, my kind of scorpio.

ls - "Just because we don't want to be your romantic partner doesn't mean we right you off. We see all the good in you. We love all the good in you. But that doesn't mean you are the romantic partner for us. We can love you and accept you completely yet know you aren't it for us."

I couldn't have said it better.

Are we more likely than other signs to have friends of the opposite sex? We are the most likely sign. It provides balance. The thought process behind this is why would I spend most of my social time with other males? they are the same and thus are less likely to provide a different perspective on the world around us. Women are opposite, they are more likely to provide this perspective which can be bounced off of our male perspective and somewhere in the middle is usually where truth, reality, and simplicity of a situation lies.

That being said, once we find a mate we feel secure in wanting to be with for the rest of our lives we naturally start to distance ourselves from our plutonic female friends. If your really that good of a match with another person, it only makes sense to have those conversations and debates with that person. I think most libras defending their amount of interaction with plutonic friends while in a serious relationship are in some aspect or most on a different wavelength from their partner. That is the only reasonable explanation for desiring to leave the energy of one person and be around the energy of another.

Plutonic friends of the opposite sex ... no such thing

Kennyg

I didn't mean to say that no outside input is needed, rather much less. But I am with someone that I would rather talk to than most of the people outside, but I sitll utalize those friends for outside input or general conversation.

**Platonic
😛

I agree with what Nicodemus said..
I get very exhausted, if I focus on too many people.
Usually, my energy is focused mainly on the guy I'm seeing.

I don't usually get too many flirtations from others because I set a clear boundary; I dislike complications on so many levels and try to make my 'love life' as simple as possible for me to handle. As in, I have platonic friends but with those who respect my boundaries - as in, not too close.

***Plutonic friends of the opposite sex ... no such thing***

Oh yes.. There is, some of my closest friends have been and are male.

I have 2 male friends in my life who are my best friends. Neither one has met the other as they both live in different parts of the country. One I have known for 25 years and the other for nearly 10. We communicate often!! We have never crossed the line of friendship. One is married the other divorced. But even when one was getting a divorce and feeling vulnerable I was cautious to be supportive enough and close enough to be a great friend but yet distant enough and respectful enough to keep the boundaries of friendship clear.

In return, they too have been a true friend when times have been hard or things just weren't working out in general. Both have opened their homes, their hearts, and shared the love of their families with me. A gift I would not ruin, damage or exchange at any price. they honor those same sentiments with me as well.

I guess I share their belief that if someone gives you a gift of any kind you should cherish it. More so when they give you their heart. Since I was never intimate with either of these men the friendship has lasted longer then most marriages.

With other men in my life after the intimate relationships were over I have maintained friendships with most of my ex's. Casual friendship (no sex policy) with all but 2 of them. However, my recent heartbreak with a Libra didn't turn out so well.

We parted friends over 2 years ago and kept in touch on line and over the phone and recently met in person. Afterwards HE decided he wanted to get back together. I suggested dating and he said he no. He wanted to pick up where we left off and be in an exclusive/committed relationship. I told him I didn't want to risk losing the friendship but he insisted he was willing to risk it because he loved me.

Well that turned out to be a big fat lie after just a few weeks and sadly I can't be friends with someone who doesn't keep their word. Had we not been intimate again it wouldn't have bothered me so much when he didn't call or do what he said he would. For me it's too toxic to hang on to someone like that for any reason. So I have to just distance myself from him and the situation completely.

In that case....who needs that kind of a friend or lover anyway? Forgive, don't forget, Learn from it and move forward. Friends don't let friends down. Friends don't take advantage. And friends honor and respect you. Their most precious gift of all is to be supportive when you're down. Maybe it's harder for guys if there's sexua

True friends are always there no matter what and no matter what sex... I have male friends who came through for me when boyfriends didn't.

AS LONG AS both know it's platonic (mutual agreement) it works. 'Have to be up front about it. In many cases, reach that conclusion EARLY so neither one messes it up.

i say at some point someone wanted more but was too afraid to admit it so just moved on and kept everything as is... its difficult to get out of the friend zone...

you know maybe its just me...i'm just so darn attractive (inside and out) 😛 ...thats its just impossible to just be friends with a guy... hell i've had females that i tried to befriend (who are straight)fall in love with me ~*sighs*~ what's a girl like me to do—

yeah perhaps thats it

LL, what a problem for you! Ha!

LL, I never said some of my male friends never expressed an interest. I just made it clear what my position was with the ones who did and either they took or left it. Oh tell me about it. I have been hit on by a couple of females myself... Uggghhh.

* We have never been more than friends. He even walked me down the aisle when I married Mr. Scorp

That is BEAUTIFUL! YAY!

I have found a lot of my male friends disappearing now that I am in a relationship. It has changed the dynamic.

I just do what I do. Follow my hobbies, interests, and passions and hopefully meet people along the way that are doing the same thing.

* I have found a lot of my male friends disappearing now that I am in a relationship.

Which REALLY ticks me off because I was genuine in my friendship for them.

Perhaps ticked off is too strong. Perhaps dissappointed is more appropriate.

'Platonic.'