Same crap...different post! I want my Libra back (Page 2)

Posted by aquarius09
Rocky, Libra men have a lot of women in their past because they have a tendency to go through them like a pack of mentos. Lol. The shitty part is that they get bored of them -and or super critical that they no longer fit their "ideal woman" to dispose of them. The ultra shitty part is that after disposing/replacing the person with another person, they feel like they are the victim because the "evil bad witch of a woman" didn't match their ideal woman. How dare she not fit those ideals they had in their Disney lala land brain.

Yeah those standards (and lack thereof) are why the guys I know have a lot of issues with women. Which is sad, because they're not bad guys per se. They just need to make better choices and man up to their shortcomings when they're the ones who fucked up, you know?

The coworker jumped into a relationship/marriage with that chick when he shouldn't have. He knocked her up on the first date. Their dating/relationship was shit already and he decides to marry her. We're all going wtf are you doing?

Lo and behold, his marriage is a joke and all sorts of fucked. But woe is him and he's the victim.

The ex, I find out he gets all snarky and bitchy behind my back, which is so baffling because he's the one who fucked up our relationship. He admitted that when he broke up with me. But I've been hanging out with the group of friends a lot in the last year and he acts like it's the most awful thing ever and so inconvenient for him. It's weird.

The last Libra I dated, we didn't really get too into detail about his ex. But I did notice he had a tad bit of mommy issues and he hoarded female friends like whoa. I have a feeling he liked a few more than he lead on and I'm pretty sure he was in love with his last roommate before she moved out.

Libra sign aside, GUYS who act like this, freaking back off and leave. It's ridiculous. OP despite the astrology bit, this is all a bunch of shit you shouldn't have to put up with from a guy (or anyone, for that matter). Our society tells women to tolerate more of guys bullshit more than they are expected to of ours.

There are times I'm just like whoa when it comes to guys overall. We get pegged for all this crazy shit, but then there's the crap these guys pull and wow. Wtf is wrong with our society, haha.

Posted by georgiabull
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"keep it light and casual". And, when I met the exBF I made that 100% clear, many times. Just one problem...I liked him, really liked him, and he me. I hate to use and old clich?, but it just happened.

I think that's understandable after over a year.
Most women on here have some issues with libra men-myself included- and will tell you to steer clear-as I did- but there are some good ones. Other than the fact that he was having trouble with the divorce and his children, he seems like a good guy, so maybe it's worth it to try speaking to him again. I think playing the jealousy(bring another guy) and hard-to-get games are not great ways to go about it and any guy who falls for them is a guy you don't want IMO. If you do go to a game, go with a female friend, say hello, keep it casual and you'll likely see where to go from there based on his reaction to you. I'm sure you know this already but if I were you, if and when i did talk to him again, i'd make it very very clear that he CANNOT unload all of his problems on me and then be unwilling to listen to mine, especially since the worst of his divorce and custody issues are over and you're on level playing field now. I agree that he deserved some slack during the worst parts of his divorce but like an aquarian said here, libra(and most other) men need clear lines drawn and a little crack of the whip to really get it.
Or just find a nice fun gemini man to mess around with. lol!

So all I want to know is, is she going after him or is she going to leave him alone to come after her like she should? Since my comment was skimmed right over, I??d like to know. lol

Posted by pinklibra
So all I want to know is, is she going after him or is she going to leave him alone to come after her like she should? Since my comment was skimmed right over, I??d like to know. lol

I heard ya Pinklibra, I swear, lol

Posted by pinklibra
So all I want to know is, is she going after him or is she going to leave him alone to come after her like she should? Since my comment was skimmed right over, I??d like to know. lol

She's obviously going to chase him, I mean, "accidentally" bump into him at the soccer match. Gross. He doesn't even deserve a "hi". No acknowledgement at all. He is going to have field day with this one, he'll play her like a fiddle.

Posted by WaterCup

Posted by pinklibra
So all I want to know is, is she going after him or is she going to leave him alone to come after her like she should? Since my comment was skimmed right over, I??d like to know. lol

She's obviously going to chase him, I mean, "accidentally" bump into him at the soccer match. Gross. He doesn't even deserve a "hi". No acknowledgement at all. He is going to have field day with this one, he'll play her like a fiddle.

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I'm afraid your right, we Bulls can be stubborn when we refuse to see the obvious

That libra is gonna put her in that famous cycle, she will end up more hurt than she is now if she chases after him

Smh. Well it's her river to cry if she wants it, he's certainly going to give it.

Posted by pinklibra
So all I want to know is, is she going after him or is she going to leave him alone to come after her like she should? Since my comment was skimmed right over, I??d like to know. lol

Sorry Pinklibra! Didn't mean to exclude you. Just ran out of time.....had to work and got sick too. I appreciate everyone's input! Even if it's not what I want to hear 😉 I'll be posting tonight. Thnx

I posted this comment in the wrong thread but it was meant for u OP, in case you care to read it here it is...

'Why so many women have such a hard time accepting the fact that the man is not interested anymore, maybe its an ego thing?. This is such a clean cut case - it can't be more clear. Its sad you are going through this, but maybe this is what you need, some time to sulk, cry, overthing, etc. But do not, and I mean do not chase or 'accidentally' show up at the place where he is. If he figures out, he will completely lose respect for you, and I am sure you don't want that to happen'

Divorce is not easy at all. The fact that he has blocked you from everything could just be his way of getting a handle on his own feelings and emotions that he's dealing with. Libra's are great at helping others and giving advice, but when we feel overwhelmed--and it takes A LOT to get there, we will shut down. I spent the last year going through a divorce myself and during that time I blocked a ton of people from text, call, deactivated my Facebook, Twitter, etc. It really wasn't about anyone else but about me needing to get a handle on what was happening and making sure that my priority--my son--was taken care of. Give it time. I know it's hard, especially when you care about somebody so much. Planning any type of accidental "meet up" will only make things worse. If he is avoiding all other contact, face-to-face contact will not end well and may even push him further. He will know what you're doing and possibly lose respect for you and get further turned off by the game playing. Let him be, Libra's are good at forgiving and getting over things but it needs to come in their time.

Good luck and I hope you find the peace you need to in order to let everything happen the way it needs to. Take this time and do something for yourself

Dear... don't be desperate for him, let him find you if he loves you and now he is confuse.... He knows your phone number, he knows your messenger and other way to contact probably ! So why are you worried ? I know perfectly what you feel, I was in this stage many times, until I did what someone up said : after his last game, I cuted all the contacts with him and stoped talking with him in any way . The result ? In 2 weeks he came back and now we are married , but t tell you the truth, I don't know how my marriage will be ..... I love him so much, but I have moments when I am wonder if he loves me at least 50 $ from how much I love him. A Libra can makes you feel unuseful at any time, in any stage of the relationship. I have a friend married a Libra too, he left her with 2 kids ... He back after 1 year and 4 months ! * in this time, he always cut off and on contact with her and a lot of lies... So, just do not be desperate for someone who acting like this. If you love him, let him go ! If he loves you, he will be back ! good luck !

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Posted by Jessy801
Dear... don't be desperate for him, let him find you if he loves you and now he is confuse.... He knows your phone number, he knows your messenger and other way to contact probably ! So why are you worried ? I know perfectly what you feel, I was in this stage many times, until I did what someone up said : after his last game, I cuted all the contacts with him and stoped talking with him in any way . The result ? In 2 weeks he came back and now we are married , but t tell you the truth, I don't know how my marriage will be ..... I love him so much, but I have moments when I am wonder if he loves me at least 50 $ from how much I love him. A Libra can makes you feel unuseful at any time, in any stage of the relationship. I have a friend married a Libra too, he left her with 2 kids ... He back after 1 year and 4 months ! * in this time, he always cut off and on contact with her and a lot of lies... So, just do not be desperate for someone who acting like this. If you love him, let him go ! If he loves you, he will be back ! good luck !

He feels your love is worth 50 bucks?

fuck that

Posted by WaterCup
OP, I'm seeing your situation & what you wrote as an independent party without any emotional ties to either him or you. My reply to you is how I see your situation, but of course you won't agree because you like the guy. Your emotions are clouding your better judgment.

Read your posts again & see how the divorce is all about what she did & didn't do. He is the saint in this situation, the only one thinking about the kids, the only one suggesting that they meet with a professional, etc. How do you know if that's how it actually happened? Think about it.

You mentioned infidelity, do you think he was going to tell you if he cheated on her? I don't think so because he wanted something out of your association. It could have been an ego stroke, to prove that he still has an effect on the opposite sex after her so called rejection & no sex. It could also have been that he needed sex, he wasn't getting any at home so why not.

You're coming across as being very naive. How can you believe everything that A MAN says! He wanted a relationship with you & I'm sure he promised you love, a future together, etc. Big question to send my point home, WHERE IS HE NOW?

Whoa Watercup! Put away the claws. Ok, you may see me as na??ve, but let me tell you, you come across in your answer as having major trust issues. I'm not going to live the rest of my life paranoid and angry with men in general because my ex-H cheated on me...skeptical and cautious, yes. My emotions haven't candy-coated anything, except whether or not, I want to pursue clearing up some misunderstandings by speaking with the exBF.

I work with the public, have street smarts, and consider myself a pretty good judge of character. I don't see how giving someone a chance until proven otherwise is being na??ve. Never did I say that I believed everything my BF said. And, never did he say, he was not in any way at fault in his marriage failing. I realize there are 3 sides to every story....His, hers, and the truth! lol. I was merely describing the situation as told to me.

IMO, BF had no reason to lie to me r/t infidelity, as this was discussed in our 1st or 2nd conversation, before even determining if we would ever meet. I never caught him in any type of lie. He never made any false promises. By contrast, he was very open, communicative, and honest with me up until our break-up incident.

Posted by WaterCup
If he turned on you this quick, imagine what she must have gone through as his wife. Plus don't for one 2nd believe you were the only one, before or even after his marriage failed. What kind of good, HONEST man has a relationship with another before the ink on his divorce papers is even dry? Think about it. He didnt even take time off to find himself after her & she was his wife. And here you are believing that he is not seeing anyone else after you. Oh the naivety!

A person that moves on so quick after a divorce is either rebounding or is emotionally shallow...the connections he makes do not mean much to him. I wonder which one he is. Hmmm...

Divorce is painf

I truly believe that my exBF did not cheat within his marriage. While few and far between, there are still some faithful people left. Ok, so yes, we got involved before ink was dry on either JOD, but trust me both marriages were done. Waiting on paperwork was just a technicality. And, what kind of good, HONEST person does that...me! I was devoted and faithful to my exH for 7yrs of dating, and 20yrs of marriage. So to make that judgment about BF is not fair.

BF did take time to move on. He had known and planned for 2 yrs to divorce, distancing himself and mourning during that time. Which, ironically, is exactly what my exH said he did. Men just think differently than women.

The pain of divorce set in for the exBF when his children became affected, which then affected our relationship in various ways. So, do I think he broke up with me to date someone else. No. I think he needed the time, rest, and space to focus on him and the kids, minimal drama, and to recoup his energy and spirit. As far as, him seeing anyone now? He could be but I find it unlikely. I have a friend who passes his house on her way home, and he is always there on weekend nights, as well as, all the major holidays that just passed. And, he is still fighting custody.

It's my opinion that he is neither rebounding or shallow, but instead, struggling through the worst time of his life. I have no beef with why he broke things off, it's how he did it - cold turkey - IMO selfish, heartless, and cold. But from what I read in this board, his actions speak Libra loud and clear on various levels. So I'm trying to consider his Libra way of analyzing, planning, and dealing with stress as I sort this out.

Posted by TaurusNikki
Everybody got problems, deal with it, it's the way of life

Either fight with it or learn from it, simple, rebalance those damn scales and get a grip, to use the divorce as a means of letting him get away with being disrespectful and disappearing is a coward move on his part, face the truth, deal with it

So what that it's tuff on him, it takes two to tango and the man played his part in this, do the right thing and move on, don't punish others for your failed marriage, if he wasn't ready he shouldn't have started things like he did, no one is innocent, and he won't be getting no pity party from me, I'd turn him lose And get a fresh piece of meat


HAPPY NEW YEAR

TN...I get what you're saying, but this is exactly what I'm struggling with. Now that the initial hurt is easing some, I can't decide if I want to forgive him or ignore him forever. No matter what I'm dealt in life, I take care of others first, to a fault. I only wish I could be as callous as he and put myself first.

I think, if him and I didn't have so many of the same goals, likes, and interests I would walk away and never look back. Hell, in my younger days I'd have done that in an instant, but I've softened over the years. Maybe if things didn't end so vaguely I would be more at ease. But, I can't help but feel that he misinterpreted me. That in some way my words pushed him toward his decision. I want to clear the air, and then, if he still doesn't see my worth, walk away for good.

Now, that still doesn't excuse the exBF for not being there for me when I needed him. There is no doubt a selfish side of him that needs a swift kick in the pants! And, back to his disappearing...the Bull in me is starting to surface and my patience is waning. I want nothing but to tell him off, but I won't right now, since at this point I would still like to reconcile. I know he has done some really cold, heartless things, but, his good traits way exceed the bad. Sooo contradictory, I hate him, I love him, I hate him, I love him, grrrrrrr! My poor head :/

I am libra woman...so I guess I cant speak for the libra guys...and having a cancer moon and scorpio venus and leo rising seems to make me more emotional and more in need of a stable relationship...and I m in love with a Taurus...weird thing is in my situation I guess id be in your position and the Taurus in the other...I love her so much and yet im not sure how she feels for me...I was at a point where I wanted everything clear...but its not...im having a rough night tonight...so im sorry if my post isn't very helpful..i cant explain it but I ll always love her...and its sadly looking like Im the only one who did...maybe im being to sensitive..im hoping that's all it is...when you love someone its hard to let go...