The silent treatment from a Libra....... (Page 2)

scales, scales, scales, scales on and on

when?

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where?

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why is she not talking to me?

its a whole lot of cold and nasty business.

whoa Joe, I think you made your point! Geez...bad experience with a libra?

Sake,
Good for you Girl! Don't you feel better that you got things off your chest with him? 😉 Don't worry about how it will affect things! He obviously cares for you! Don't sweat it. Give him some time to think about what you said. They're intelligent men. They're "logical thinkers", they don't let their emotions rule them. That's why they make great attornies (as do Libras with their scales of justice and balance). That's one of the things I love about them. When they tell you something it's not some bullsh..t they pulled out of their a $ $ or some crazy over reaction to something you've said. It's what they think. When they finally do start relaxing and sharing some of their emotions and their romantic side it's so sweet and honest and worth the wait. Friendship is sooo important to them so don't take offense to him referring to your "friendship". He enjoys those talks as much as you do. My aqua and I can talk for hours and it makes us so close. It's the same with us as far as sex goes too. It never dominates the situation and when it does happen it's like a different form of "conversation"... and always interesting 🙂. Hopefully the other signs in your charts are compatible enough to compromise and compliment each other so you can work the other things out. Space and the feeling of freedom are very important to them. If they know they can be involved with someone that can give them that, someone they can be committed to but not feel trapped by then they'll be faithfull to the end. Aquas are definitely worth fighting for if you can just accept him for who he is. You'll definitely learn patience from being with him! lol I know I have!

Well... that's my two cents at the moment... 😉

As for you Joe! Libras are NOT indecisive. They have to weigh things out and make the best decision possible. By the time a Libra has weighed and measured and processed everything in their mind, trust me, they've come up with the perfect answer (for them) to their question/problem. Whether it's deciding if someone is right for them or deciding what they want to order from a menu. You think it's annoying for you? Try being in our shoes! It's torture sometimes!

LibraGirl..the aqua interest of mine finally responded that week, just wanted to give u an update...wondering what you can make of this..he called me that week Friday, told me he didn't want to hurt, that he did care about our friendship but that he couldn't dedicate more time to it than he is, he said he didn't feel "pressure", but I'm sure that's what he felt...he said he wanted to remain friends, but that bet. school/work, he only has time to hang out once in a while, and he apologized for taking our friendship for granted...he did also apologize abuot not calling me the weekend after Vday...I told him that he may have misinterpreted what I was trying to tell him, (I did open my mouth and prob scared him by saying too much that night)...I said that I liked our friendship the way it was...and I truly do, i like being able to hang, but am not in a place in my life where I'm ready for a relationship...I told him that I only really wanted him to be a more considerate friend, like not tell me he will call me, but then not call. We talked for a while, then our phone call disconnected bec. his battery died, and he was on his way to meet his friends..he called me later that night, but I was in a movie. So he called me the next morning, and at that point I didn't really feel like gettin back into a long, drawn out conversation about where things were going to go at that point. So we talked, and I just told him that I was cool with being friends, and that was that. I didnt want to overanalyze things..he also admitted to me that after my initial convresation with him, he probably over thought things and tends to overanalyze things sometimes. So the next day, (Sunday)I saw him at work. It was a little awkward at first, but he came over and made an effort to talk to me. At the end of my shift, I took off in a hurry, and didn't want to stick around and hang ou with him...I just felt a little weird about the way our conversation went on Friday...I said bye to him and the girls we work with at the restaurant, but he didn't hear me apparently. I had a feeling he would call, because I was pretty sure he was feeling guilty...I was right, (they're so predictable sometimes)...so he called me after he got out of work that Sunday, he said, "oh I didn't see you leave, and didn't get to say goodbye to you"...so I talked to him for a few minutes (still sensed weirdness)..and I finally said "are you just calling to check up on me because you think that I'm mad at you??

And he said, no...I was just calling because I didn't say goodbye to you! So, the next day, I felt a little bad about our conversation...and figured I had to set things straight, otherwise our friendship was going to be over just due to wierdness...so I sent him an email (which we NEVER communicate through)...I wrote an extremely witty email, and talked about the supposed "gift" he had for me, I told him that I was establishing a 3 week rule of gift giving ettiquite...and that he was still in the safe zone, but that it would soon start affecting our friendship if he didn't deliver my gift...then I made another joke about incorporating emailing into our friendship because the boy doesn't even know how to text! So I got a response the next morning, he was very funny and said he didn't think he wanted to wait too much longer to give me my gift...he asked about a court date I had...so I responded...and then the next day, he wrote me again telling me random stuff about his class that morning...So, I'm starting to get the feeling that he's gettin to know me on a different level, letting me in a little. But I was also feeling that maybe he was just keeping in touch because he felt guilty about basically "rejecting" our friendship. But he surprised me, because he called me on Thursday, just to chat. We talked for about 20 minutes, but I was very careful not to initiate ANY plans with him, I didnt' ask him abuot his weekend plans or anything..he told me he was going out that night, I think he was fishing to see if I wanted to go, but I didn't even go there. I just said, ok talk to you later then at the of the conversation. He then called me on Friday (last night)...this is a total surprise to me...shocking actually...last week Friday he was telling me he didn't have any more room to make for us, and now I've heard from him practically every day following our conversation. So, he told me he was watching a game with his friends, and invited me to join..of course I contemplated whether I should go or not, because I dont want him to feel I am available at his convenience, BUT, I really felt like having a drink. So, I went. I thought it was sweet that he asked me to hang out with him and all of his law school buddies, we talked all night...I barely talkd to his friends (they're not his closest friends, he only has 3 guys he actually considers to be his best friends from kindergarden, and Ive met them a couple of times, but they weren't there last night)...but

we had a great time, we just talked all night. He really is sweet, but just got freaked out I think. I really do like gettin to know him at this pace...I did notice slight jealousy going on from his side when I started talking to a few guys I was standing next to. But I actually thought these guys were friends with him, because they went to the same law school, only found out later that he didn't even know them!! He didn't say anything, of course, but I sensed he thought I was flirting and he expressed complete disgust with the guys later! Anyways, so at the en dof the night, i drove him to his car, and he gave me a peck on the lips goodnight. Now, I dont' know if I mentioned in my last post, but we started off hooking up, bad bad bad....we've hooked up quite a few times, but it's never the major focus, and i can tell that is totally secondary for him...I think he's trying to get to know me as a friend. But he never has kissed me good night, (except for 1 or 2 drunken nights)...but i really think that was his way of telling me he still likes me...I guess I should be happy witht he way things are going, and I am, but totally confused at his actions...he told me he wasn't ready, but now he's being a better friend...I don't want him to do this because he feels he has to! I jsut hope it's genuine...he truly is an interesting character, but I like him so much! So intellectual...love our conversations...I wonder how distant I should be from now on, because I dont' want him to get the impression I'm always going to be around at his convenience...do you suggest I ignore his call, or say no thanks to his plans, at least once? I hate games, but I'm starting to see that aquas are all about them. The other thing is, I have to avoid the hooking up thing altogether at this point. Come to think of it, I was usually the intiator with that!! Sorry for such a ridiculously long post...any thoughts though?

Well , he's just a guy , Libra or not.....Maybe he isn't ready now but you're a fine option so why should he completely cut you out? Apparently , he enjoys your company and you get along with his friends (VERY IMPORTANT 🙂 )

However, it seems ( no suprise) your feeling is deeper than his...so this whole friendship thing , well , up to you 🙂
One thing I noticed that some Libra guys have this thing : attention ! They love introducing to others and they are happy to see you enjoy yourself but don't forget him!
He likes your attention now and then...And don't forget , they love flirting , it's just a fine art , sometimes there is something more , but most of the time , it was just ..well fun ...no harm...maybe... 😛

Thanks Exam, but just a note...I am the libra, he is an aquarius!!! Curious to know if anyone understands these interesting men...

Yep, that's all straight from the heart🙂)))

Dear Libra,

I hope someone out there could help. I have a fight with my Libra gf on new year morning as I drop her "New Year" text but took her till next day to read and reply my message. We are in LDR and for this special occasion, I hope she can be the first person to wish me or at least reply me ASAP. I'm so regret with my action for losing control at myself and throw her temper mentioning "whenever you're going out with your ex you totally forgot about everything". She was upset that I'm finding fault over tiny little thing and on 1st day early morning of new year and throw spiteful words to me "that is the reason I don't fully commit to our relationship because I haven't seen the worst in you yet". She said I never change and keep repeating the same behaviour. It hurt me the worst till I speechless and drown in tears and she just hang up and give me the silent treatment for 4 days and coming to 5th days. I feel so regret with my action and I wrote her an apology letter and express my feeling to her yesterday and promise not to disturb her and give her some space to be alone. Her silent break my heart so deeply that I'm fear that I might lose her.

If you're in her position, what is in your mind? Is this silent treatment meaning she's done with our relationship? She never gone silent for this long.

Please advise what is the best way I can do to win back her heart again cause she mean the whole world to me.

Psst. Old thread. REALLY old. I gotta love it when newbs dig up old threads. Total mindfuck.