Virgo Man / Libra Woman - URGENT! PLEASE HELP!

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sikkario
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I am a Virgo Man with a Libra Woman.
We've had the most incredible love since we met. It's been 3 1/2 weeks uphill of the most intense and close love I've ever experienced in my life. She is a divorced 29 year old Kindergarten Teacher with a daughter, and I am a 25 year old grad student with ambitions of starting a business.
Anyways, she found someone she could trust in me and told me I am the greatest man she's ever known etc. It has been the most incredible feeling to be so dedicated to this girl so quickly. I am certain and was certain I loved her and would want to make my life with her.
The bad part has been that, she has been pushing and pushing to know more about me. As a Virgo man and I am also a victim of some trauma in childhood I'd rather not get into. Unfortunately, the more she tries to take off that mask of composure I wear the more insecure and fearful I become.
On the inverse, I don't want to hear about her ex-boyfriends and became short with her when she spoke of how her family didn't like her last boyfriend as if that were an issue of contention between her and them. She said my 'jealousy' is something that worries her alot.
This argument spun into something bigger over the next few days. She became angry at me and then didn't tell me she loved me over the phone when I said so to her. We made up but I was very depressed about the whole ordeal and became angry and when we were making love. I became angry because I wouldn't ever deny her my love, even if I were angry at her. I felt she had done so. I withdrew from love making furiously and then shortly afterwards regained myself and tried to hold her.
She was disturbed by my anger and withdrew from me quite a bit. I told her she needed space to breathe and time to think.

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sikkario
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Over the next two days, I talked to her once, and thought over the ordeal. I believe she is right about my jealousy and then realized, that I have alot of things I am capable of managing without being so close to a person but with the amount of intimacy which she wants from me, I am not prepared to deal with it. I have a great deal of pain and negativity inside of me that I??ve never had to deal with because I never let anyone close enough to me to make me feel vulnerable or afraid.

I sent her an email, telling her that in order for her to be with me, I would need to resolve these things from my past, if I am to be the man she deserves, and that I would not hold it against her if she can't be there for that.
She responded that she was incredibly sad and didn't know what to say or think, I sent her a text telling her not to be sad and that she was the greatest girl I've known and that regardless of what happens she has given me more happiness than I ever thought possible. After that she sent me two texts saying how sad she was an hour apart. Then 4 hours later I gave her, her nightly 10pm call and she didn't answer it, or respond to the texts I sent.
She seems to have fallen off the face of the earth and I am very worried about her. I think she thinks I??ve thrown her out of my life which isn't the case at all. It's actually that I love her so much that I realize I have problems I have to address before I can be intimate with her in the way she needs. I??d love for her to be with me while I finally confront it, but I cannot drag her down with me. It's up to her.

What should I do? Is she gone for good? Is she just mulling over everything? Is she not as strong as I thought she was?

Her
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Rising: Sag
Sun: Libra
Moon: Sag
Mercury: Libra
Venus: Virgo
Mars: Virgo

Me
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Rising: Aries
Sun: Virgo
Moon: Libra
Mercury: Virgo
Venus: Libra
Mars: Cap
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Good ole Kinky Libra and Kinky Virgo, at least that is what my experience has been. One thing you are going to learn my friend as a maturing man is the philosophy "fuck it". So what you got shit to deal with, so what she has a past, "fuck it." As the man, it is your job to be charming, witty and aloof. If ya can't dig that, then you will be struggling in this game for a while. Also, only one month is too fast to be revealing everything anyway. I usually just keep it vague but with a positive end like "yeah, I have seen a few things in my day, but that is life right?" You don't have to go deep into anything, but if you can't keep the balance, then you are in for a road of drama cuz Librans like to talk about it all and will totally feed into the drama until you stand firm. Air signs are philosophical like that. And of coarse she is hella pulling away, you told her you are not ready and want space because you are offended by an un alterable past, then send mixed signals at night with goodnight calls? Her mommy instinct first says that she can't find the strong, solid provider in you and woman instinct number one says that you can't be trusted since you are pulling away after she has already offered you the goods and now you are pulling away. You have intimacy issues bro, but she is moving way to fucking fast. If you guys start up again, be cool, flex your mysterious side, and properly tell her if something is none of her business like a polite adult, then stick it in her ass for a while and own that shit! She will get off on your presentation of manliness while you show a more stoic side, and she is a Libra which means she is a dirty hoe in the sack (God bless her)so give it to her. But seriously, man up, because handling and suppressing a little emotion is what us men are supposed to do while women deal with pms and birth. Don't be a little Bitch, be a Boss. This is how it has always been and it is how it will always be so deal with it. Your smart, ambitious and intelligent. You got this mang.
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AliKat
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I was married to a virgo for 20ys. we are now getting divorced. painful pasts can haunt us, but the one person who might be able to love you thru your discoveries is a libra woman. my man was never intimate with me with his emotions and fears and in the end it destroyed us. while it is not her job to heal you, you need to share so she can love ALL of you. those demons of yours will cause your natural tendancy as a virgo to be moody, broody and critical will destroy your lovely libra. i did not say destroy lightly. libra's are usually sunny positive half glass full kind of people. Virgo's are negative and half glass empty. She shines bright and your negativity will burn her out, and the woman you love today, will be gone tomorrow. go get some therapy to deal with your past, and open your heart to her, she can guide you into the light, rather than you guide her into the dark.
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lo again, douchbag. Still at it, I see..

Here are quotes from https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/pisces/intercultural-dispute-with-french-pisces-girl-3148585/>another thread:

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I was just pointing it out, I think he's as much as answered his own question really.



He? OP is a guy?



Yes, OP is a guy.. a Virgo male.

Posted by sikkario
For a Virgo, what's the better overall match Pisces with Venus in Aqua or Taurus with Venus in Taurus?
I am a Virgo man with Moon in Libra and a Venus in Sagittarius.
These two girls are sisters btw, I got obsessed with the Pisces girl and sent her some crazy messages when drunk and then a poem and got an accepting response but reciprocal pursuit.
Her sister became very jealous I suppsoe and asked me to hang out which ended in her giving herself to me, and me making love to her...
I never came on to her tho. So now I am wondering which one of these girls is a better choice.



Posted by sikkario
Whats funny is these are uptight Catholic girls from a good family.




Posted by sikkario
I wonder if it is typical for the Taurus to give it up to Virgo before the Pisces does. I always figured it'd be opposite, every Pisces date I've had ends up in consensual date rape basically. Going out for Ice Cream then ending up pounding her brains out in the nearest park, then not talking for three days, then getting a text from her, and having make me go emotional insane over a 3 months period. Then subsequently never talking again.
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Posted by sikkario
I forgot to say.
She is a Black (Guinean descent) French Parisenne and I am a White (Latin/Slav) American Southerner...so I guess conflict was bound to happen.

Ya she is ugly as sin, and seems to have no friends here in Bolivia other than this German girl who is about to leave.

She also informed she has never had a job (she's 23) in her life...so I think life experience wise she is on the short end.



Maybe she sensed your true character ...that all you can talk about is her looks and her race...like what does all that have to do with your conversation...?

Pisces can sense your true intentions and you can bet she knows what you think of her anyway...

The German girl probably knows whats up too...



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Read his posting history. OP isn't in love with this Libra woman, not even close -- less than a MONTH?!.. he just wants to fuck her and discard her like all the rest. He USES women, he DISRESPECTS women.. but can't figure out why his love life sucks.