When not in a relationship

and you arent looking for love, then exactly what re you doin? Are u just looking for friends, seeing what you can get, or just doing you

I wanted to say never really trust a libra who says he/she is not in love, but I must put a disclaimer: only my opinion.
Not in a relationship? Then working on career.

Posted by spica
I wanted to say never really trust a libra who says he/she is not in love, but I must put a disclaimer: only my opinion.
Not in a relationship? Then working on career.

lol disclaimer, you must have been catching some hell on here

Posted by Pride of 0ctober

Posted by spica
I wanted to say never really trust a libra who says he/she is not in love, but I must put a disclaimer: only my opinion.
Not in a relationship? Then working on career.

lol disclaimer, you must have been catching some hell on here

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Hmm nope but I know some single-non-dating libras so I presume there may be exceptions.

if i'm not in a relationship, i'm trying to get into one. or i'm nursing a broken heart. or i just don't have anyone i'm interested and i'm looking for somebody.

i still have no idea what "doing you" "doing me" etc means. i'm too white to understand that. lol.

to clarify, i technically know what it means to "do you". but "doing me" is being nice to people and getting along with people and wanting to be liked by people. being selfish and full of myself and treating other people like shit doesn't really make me feel very satisfied.

and sex without a connection is worthless. if i'm going to masturbate, i'll do it alone instead of using some dude's dick. it's way more efficient that way.

Not in a relationship but not looking for love, just open to the possibility.

When there is noone that is of interest what are you suppose to do? I concentrate on my friends and fill my life with them and also work a little more on myself. Everyone has issues and isnt completely happy with themselves for whatever reason...so with me I try and fine tune some of my issues.

And yes I do myself rather than pick up strays 😛

but what if you just got out one and NOT looking for love are you still open to it?

Do he situations depend on certan stipulations? Snf sweethearts I do the same, i try and fine tune myself. After this relationship im not getting into another one for years and years to come, too much bullshit lol

After just getting out of a relationship regardless of who broke with whom, there is a certain amount of healing to do.

There are several emotions that you have to go through before you can move on or you will be taking that baggage with you in to the next one. Depending on the person these things can take a little time or months to get through and of course depending on the circumstances of the split and how deeply into this relationship you were. Anger, Sadness, Fear & Sorrow.

It's been 5 years with more from a 20 year relationship and I have tried again but have mostly sabotaged anything myself...it's not that I haven't let go of the last partner now, as I have delt with all these emotions but more that I'm not sure that I'm completely ready to give myself up again...

I want to...perhaps I havent dealt fully with the Fear yet! It's not a fear of being alone, I'm comfortable with that but mor a fear that'll I'll give my all again and it wont last and either I will end up hurt or have to hurt others again...

I am not in love. For the first time in my life, I don't have feelings for someone. I'm spending my time getting my house in order i.e. figuring out what to do in my career, finishing my degree, maybe starting a new on the side business, thinking about moving to a different apartment, hanging out with my elderly cat.

I feel like I am in a different place than I have ever been. I feel quiet. So I am taking time to heal those old patterns and wounds. And really getting clear on what I want and what I don't want in my life.